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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Emycord: 6:00pm On Mar 19, 2017
Consult cossy she will wake it up for you
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by sevantex(m): 6:04pm On Mar 19, 2017
EternalBeing:
Tackle it medically first, and spiritually. Go for medicals and if they said it not a medical problem, the earlier you go to MFM Church for Deliverance to fire that arrow of impotence back to the sender the better for you.
Excesive mastubation caused this permanent damage. Sex is addictive and it has been scientifically proven that excesive sex make people duller and less productive. devil knows this and use this to waste so meny glorious Destinies. There are 2 bloods in Man; the red blood cell erythrocytes carries life-oxygen, the white blood cell lymphocytes carries your protection and defence (spiritually too). Spam is cells; white blood cell. The more you waste it unnecessarily, the more defenceless you (and your Glory) become to microbes and even spiritual scavengers.
I've not seen any one that genuinely totally submitted to GOD and regret it later, unless those self-deceiving Christians.
Like myself, most of my genuine Christian mates are doing fine now.
Unless you are married, abstainance makes you spitually Strong and invincible.
To run away from sin is not a favour to GOD but a sure protection for your Glory and Destiny.

Trash!

op, pls dont listen to any of the above writeup, its all false

Try to see a doctor and also stay off porn for rilli long time so ur mind can re-configure again

Eat well also and build ur self confidence wen it comes to women, u'll be fine eventually.
All the best bro
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by mark2sunny(m): 6:15pm On Mar 19, 2017
The first thing I would say is seek your God.
I am saying this because God knows you more than you know yourself. Again because you have not built your life around Him.

It may be a way God has planned to save your life and destiny. Who knows what you would have been doing to ladies and or how the devil would have drained your glory.

Well let me pause there. Through God you can start a journey and end it well. Yes it could be medical and when you grow closer to God You Will Get Better Leading. Also go for a medical checkup. Get all the facts. And if it is medical, keep serving your God while you face it medically.

Again keep positive. Be sure everything will be alright. But this suggestion wouldn't do much if you don't totally surrender your life to God and leave your pursuit for for sex and the momentary pleasure it gives.

May the God of Isreal bring you out of all affliction.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by JayJayGee: 6:20pm On Mar 19, 2017
ERCROSS:



I seriosly hope u get to see this... I'm sure u can get one or two things from what am about to write...
There was a time when I cum too early when having sex, it got worse and worse everyday to the extent that I often get scared whenever am about to have sex. An ex-girlfriend of mine claimed that she was told that my premature ejaculation is caused by her premature ejaculation. I almost believed that poo until I came across a particular book. I read the book and discover that my problem isn't spiritual. From the book, I got to know that my problem could be control with my mind, the book stresses on the power of the human mind, the mind is so powerful that sometimes when we are suffering from mild headache, and we are able to take our mind off it, we won't even know when the headache will be gone.
similar to my issue, I think your own problem is not spiritual, you just need to control your mind, it was able to erect itself on two different occasions according to your story, I would want you to critically analyze your state of mind for those two times, were you anxious, worried it wouldn't get up. if you were able to analyze it properly, you will be able to fish out the common thing in both events.
And when next you wanna try to have sex, let your mind picture how you gon' smash that pussay so hard, how u gon' make her scream, how you gon handle her boobz and suck her tipz as she screams in ecstasy, the way you watch it in porn. let only that thought occupy your mind.

#Peace
What book if i may ask?
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Lionofdjungle: 6:36pm On Mar 19, 2017
Jj222:
so sorry bro.don't worry is not a problem I kno some one who can help u solve it n you will bring more people with same problems to him. yours is not a problem. you will enjoy your life back. Am serious. be blessed
Give him your number then so that he can contact you.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by eipreel(f): 6:47pm On Mar 19, 2017
martinsfm:
Sex is a thing of the mind... youre prolly always scared to have sex... thats the main reason... in your mind youre thinking that you dont wanna commit sin... thats why you try and resist it...In my opinion... dont use any drug ooo....never do that... just try and and put your mind there... if you wanna have sex with a girl...u and the girl should talk dirty first either through chat or in person...it works...then fantasies too help


Coming from an expert...wehdon sir undecided
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Skateboard(m): 6:54pm On Mar 19, 2017
EternalBeing:
Tackle it medically first, and spiritually. Go for medicals and if they said it not a medical problem, the earlier you go to MFM Church for Deliverance to fire that arrow of impotence back to the sender the better for you.
Excesive mastubation caused this permanent damage. Sex is addictive and it has been scientifically proven that excesive sex make people duller and less productive. devil knows this and use this to waste so meny glorious Destinies. There are 2 bloods in Man; the red blood cell erythrocytes carries life-oxygen, the white blood cell lymphocytes carries your protection and defence (spiritually too). Spam is cells; white blood cell. The more you waste it unnecessarily, the more defenceless you (and your Glory) become to microbes and even spiritual scavengers.
I've not seen any one that genuinely totally submitted to GOD and regret it later, unless those self-deceiving Christians.
Like myself, most of my genuine Christian mates are doing fine now.
Unless you are married, abstainance makes you spitually Strong and invincible.
To run away from sin is not a favour to GOD but a sure protection for your Glory and Destiny.
I love this comment

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 7:05pm On Mar 19, 2017
cocktopuss:


I honestly think its psychological... While i wont advise you to have sex indiscriminately id say you should get that spiritual aspect off ur mind.
Why not get lobido booster like Horney goat weed.
Where can I get Horney goat weed?
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 7:09pm On Mar 19, 2017
ERCROSS:



I seriosly hope u get to see this... I'm sure u can get one or two things from what am about to write...
There was a time when I cum too early when having sex, it got worse and worse everyday to the extent that I often get scared whenever am about to have sex. An ex-girlfriend of mine claimed that she was told that my premature ejaculation is caused by her premature ejaculation. I almost believed that poo until I came across a particular book. I read the book and discover that my problem isn't spiritual. From the book, I got to know that my problem could be control with my mind, the book stresses on the power of the human mind, the mind is so powerful that sometimes when we are suffering from mild headache, and we are able to take our mind off it, we won't even know when the headache will be gone.
similar to my issue, I think your own problem is not spiritual, you just need to control your mind, it was able to erect itself on two different occasions according to your story, I would want you to critically analyze your state of mind for those two times, were you anxious, worried it wouldn't get up. if you were able to analyze it properly, you will be able to fish out the common thing in both events.
And when next you wanna try to have sex, let your mind picture how you gon' smash that pussay so hard, how u gon' make her scream, how you gon handle her boobz and suck her tipz as she screams in ecstasy, the way you watch it in porn. let only that thought occupy your mind.

#Peace
Thanks sir. I will put it into use
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by cocktopuss: 7:10pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
Where can I get Horney goat weed?

Just check on konga. Its a supplement to boost libido . U can read reviews on amazon too to also get a better knowledge of the product.
I dont subscribe to unnecessary experimentation like cialis nd co.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by daillest: 7:14pm On Mar 19, 2017
Candybob:


Share it here..
So we can vet the story!

#WehDonSir! Oga vetter! If the poster is interested, fine. Otherwise I have nothing to prove and can't waste precious time if the poster is just asking a question to start a conversation.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 7:22pm On Mar 19, 2017
publicenemy:


you are very stupid to be going through all these and havent had yourself checked out. you had an STD when you were you and didnt treat it and that has affected your pen1s. check youself out and watch your diet. trust me you will get normal again.
I was foolish, so foolish my man. I thought I was under spiritual attacks. Please hope it's not too late to see a doctor as I want to go tomorrow?? cry
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nero2220: 7:33pm On Mar 19, 2017
OmaniPadmeHum:
Hahahaha

YOU ONLY HAVE WHAT IS CALLED

"PERFORMANCE ANXIETY"

You panic and have conditioned your mind with that first incident. Your mind now sees sex as something that you would fail at and that would be embarrassing.

IT IS NOT SPIRITUAL. Naaaaah. only in Nigeria do we make everything spiritual. Left alone we might still have thought small pox/chicken pox is caused by "Sopana" and that Thunder and Lightning by Sango. Look with all these spiritual bla bla we were taken as slaves for hundreds of years. Our Chief preists and juju could not protect our fore fathers. Some of the masks were even stolen and exhibited in Europe. The nonsense juju has not been able to burn down London. No mysterious plague has befallen them. We were colonized for years too in Africa. No spirit could help us or our fore fathers.

It is purely psychological. You have been psychologically scarred due to the experience at the brothel. You feel you are going to fail again and again. Now anything that has to do with sex practically scares you and your body has learnt a rather "silly" way to react to sex. Infact, subconsciously, your mind sees sex as a fight or flight thing. It is sexual anxiety and perhaps panic attacks. It is very normal and not spiritual. Nope.

Unfortunately, your WAFTS (worries, anxieties, fears, thoughts and sensations) are things you have tried to fight off over and over again. Compounding the issue. Your mind now sees sex as a battle and gets your body to fight/flee. instead of allowing you get on.

LISTEN, WE ALL GET ANXIOUS DURING SEX. ALL OF US. MEN AND WOMEN ALIKE. ALL. But our anxieties, anxiety levels and how we have trained our body to manage them, makes a difference. Take masturbation for instance. Some people do it and suffer premature ejaculation as a result of it. This is because when this habit was learnt (most times at teenage years) , they had to do it quickly and get done so they won't be caught. This usually starts at a young age and then is often made a habit which the body adopts. Their body gets addicted to quick ejaculation. Meanwhile some guys had time and were so comfortable with it. There learnt it without being in a hurry and ejaculation was not the thing but enjoying the time spent. They now suffer from prolonged erection and can only ejaculate when they masturbate. They are only senitve to matrubation and not the feel of a them in a woman.

For you, you probably immediately started avoiding the things that embarrassed you and found another quick fix. Masturbation, Porn etc. All these still communicated to your brain that you need to "RUN AWAY FROM SEX!!! IT WILL EMBARRASSING AND YOU WILL FAIL"!!! It is like having insomnia and instead of allowing sleep to come naturally, you decide to take pills or use other stuff like sleeping tea, alcohol etc. They will work for a while, but soon their effects will be useless to the point of not working at all.

It is a flight or flight thing. Your body sees sex as something you would fail at. Let me ask, Can you get an erection when in danger? When fighting with someone or fleeing from danger? Nope. (unless you have trained your body/psyche to remain calm). During fight or flight response, your body removes blood from places like the stomach, sex organs etc and send to the brain and muscles preparinging them for danger. How can you get an erection when due to that first traumatic experience, you feel that you might fail again and you worry about how embarrassing it would be.

That one experience made you worry little by little and you took actions (unknowingly) that made matters worse psychologically. You sound like a worrier by nature. Lol. Unfortunately our brain is very silly and does not know the difference between real and perceived danger. If we worry too much about something, our brain tries to protect us by throwing all manner of things (thoughts etc) that can go wrong for us to act on them. When we worry and worry our brain even sends sensations like fast heart beats, sweaty palms, feeling dizzy, butterflies in the stomach etc. But keeping calm, noticing these WAFTS, and mindfully letting them go/be while calmly doing what you are doing whenever this happens helps to reassure your brain that all is cool and calm.

YOU WILL HAVE TO UNLEARN YOUR CURRENT WAY YOUR BODY RESPONDS AND RELEARN THE RIGHT WAY TO RESPOND. YOU WILL HAVE TO TEACH YOUR BODY TO RESPOND MINDFULLY TO THE FEARS, WORRIES AND ANXIETIES.

What book on Acceptance and Commitment/Mindfulness can I suggest to you....

Let me see....
Really helpful contribution indeed. You really should have consulted a doctor right from the onset. Nevertheless, it is still not too late to do so

Will look for something.


Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Speedyconnect13: 7:36pm On Mar 19, 2017
Demigods666:



Condition your mind and you will be okay, hard as rock.

Just direct positive energy towards your joystick, and use the affirmation "i have hard Rock elections right now" 8 times always.

If you do this properly you will see the results okay.

Best time to do this

When the sun is in Leo, the new moon will be in Leo. The full moon will be in Leo when the sun is in Aquarius.

If you want maximum result, if you are ready I will post how to do healing working using sun mantra,
rubbish

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Ademolu2002(m): 7:53pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

Well! Whether the problem is medical, spiritual or what have you, all i know is that there's no problem that God cannot solve. Where exactly are you? If you happen to be close to PH, i would love to introduce you to the church i worship in PH. Countless of this type of problem have been solved there. This is a church where nobody collects any money from you. The man of God will just pray for you and the problem will be over by the grace of God. I can give you his contact if you love to have it. Reach me on my whatsapp no: 08155170658. My name is Augustine Adekunle Eegunjobi, verify me on fb and if i have anything hidden on this, let the wrath and calamity of God fall on me.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Kenontop: 7:55pm On Mar 19, 2017
It's well with you bro. Just follow ur mind and stop self service.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by martinsfm(m): 8:01pm On Mar 19, 2017
Lmaoooo... why evuls... cheesy ure still bae tho :*
eipreel:



Coming from an expert...wehdon sir undecided
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Speedyconnect13: 8:06pm On Mar 19, 2017
Agbo2:
Your issue can be resolved in just 3 weeks.
Below are the steps you must take.
1) See a doctor.
If you are too shy to see a doctor, please do these:
1) stop masturbation and porn for 3 weeks.
2) Your cholesterol level is too high so you need a drug like Atorvastatin 10 to 20 mg daily for like 3 weeks.
3) Try having sex with your girlfriend not prostitute after 3 weeks.
4) Your confidence is back after step 3 above, now see a doctor.
5) Thank me later.
Gee cholesterol us overhyped my guy. most sex hormones are got from cholesterol
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by charlsecy(m): 8:10pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard....
You should see a specialist doctor as some have suggested. Also, quit porn and masturbation.

I also want you to consider Kedi Revive. Take 2 capsules daily for 30 days. Each pack has 30 capsules, so you would need 2 packs. Price per pack is around N12,000, or thereabout.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Lilbvlgari733(m): 8:28pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.


You are not impotent bro since you can still feel some erection you are fine,this same thing happened to a friend of mine and we took some steps and he is living very fine now his sexual life is very normal now.you can send me a private message I might be of help to you too..
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Speedyconnect13: 8:30pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
For those wondering why I didn't go to a hospital, I didn't go to a hospital because I was ashamed and didn't have the boldness to narrate all these issues and story to someone in person. I agree, I was foolish. I will see a doctor first thing tomorrow. Thanks guys

While at it know that most doctors are clueless esp regarding stuffs like this.


I will advise you browse a lot and most importantly relax.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Virus777: 8:31pm On Mar 19, 2017
I have a strong feeling that the 40 year old ashii jazzed you for calling her an old woman. She's obviously the one that jinxed you, cos she was telling you 'ntooor' when you came outside.

If you can go back, locate her and plead with her to 'unjazz' you, then you'll be fine. Some of these Olosho dem use diabolical powers on some of their customers.

Never visit ashewo, but some people will not heed the advice.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Leesah(f): 8:36pm On Mar 19, 2017
i don't think u r impotent since u do have erection.. meet a doctor n explain n m sure they'll help u out n if u have a patient partner, she'll understand n be willing to help n u would come around with time. don't forget to also put yourself in prayers..
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by tpapi: 9:00pm On Mar 19, 2017
Nice one
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by gnykelly(m): 9:04pm On Mar 19, 2017
HateU2:
I.dont do guys undecided
you mean you are lez
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by CHARLOE(m): 9:12pm On Mar 19, 2017
cruchenuti:


Errrm Okay, so how did you solve the issue. I'm kinda having similar problems. Only that mine stays atleast upto 5 mins
Started with a lab test, moderate growth of staph was discovered, low sperm count, low testosterone level etc. Had to treat n work on these.
Then I noticed my erection improved, morning hard on was more regular but was still having problem when will a woman, my heart beat increases, panic set in n phew, my guy go shrink.
So my lab guy recommended a libido boosting drug, purely herbal (no side effects). It helped my confidence n that was it, fire down!
For those suggesting/using viagra, plz be careful, it has side effects n does not work naturally, that is, even if you're not with a woman, ur JT go stand @ attention, even after 1 round u may still have a hard on. U don't need a prophet to tell u its not healthy. Its meant for old men wit serious ED prob.
Also, plz cut off sugar totally: no sotfdrink/beer, no sugar in garri/tea. When d issue started reoccurring I later found out sugar was d cause, I was addicted to coke, replaced my addiction with water Mellon.
Bitters also help to detoxify n reduce sugar in d body

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Speedyconnect13: 9:14pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
For those wondering why I didn't go to a hospital, I didn't go to a hospital because I was ashamed and didn't have the boldness to narrate all these issues and story to someone in person. I agree, I was foolish. I will see a doctor first thing tomorrow. Thanks guys

While at it know that most doctors are clueless esp regarding stuffs like this.


I will advise you browse a lot and most importantly relax...
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by oshorstan(m): 9:15pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.


I read your story

pls go n do SFA test, Urine MCs, and Vdrl
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by tellmemore15: 9:24pm On Mar 19, 2017
Guy you are not impotent, atlest not yet.

i'll advice you see a doctor for a test and an std treatment, if that is done, for the fact that you get erection while masturbating, just look for one of the girls that had made you erect earlier or any girl you' would like to take down. just imagine youre going to use her ..... to masturbate. that should work. be free as possible

Please delete the fear,delete the fear, delete the fear, delete the fear.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by ERCROSS(m): 9:43pm On Mar 19, 2017
JayJayGee:
What book if i may ask?
ejaculation trainer by matt gorden

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 10:13pm On Mar 19, 2017
CHARLOE:

Started with a lab test, moderate growth of staph was discovered, low sperm count, low testosterone level etc. Had to treat n work on these.
Then I noticed my erection improved, morning hard on was more regular but was still having problem when will a woman, my heart beat increases, panic set in n phew, my guy go shrink.
So my lab guy recommended a libido boosting drug, purely herbal (no side effects). It helped my confidence n that was it, fire down!
For those suggesting/using viagra, plz be careful, it has side effects n does not work naturally, that is, even if you're not with a woman, ur JT go stand @ attention, even after 1 round u may still have a hard on. U don't need a prophet to tell u its not healthy. Its meant for old men wit serious ED prob.
Also, plz cut off sugar totally: no sotfdrink/beer, no sugar in garri/tea. When d issue started reoccurring I later found out sugar was d cause, I was addicted to coke, replaced my addiction with water Mellon.
Bitters also help to detoxify n reduce sugar in d body

Thanks for the info. Ofcourse Viagra is a NO NO.

You didn't state the name of the Lab test you did ?

Also the Libido boosting drug you took as well !!!

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