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|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 11:10am On Mar 19, 2017|
i really felt bad within me when i read the post of yesterday and yours i tot i was the only person having this problem but it turns out that am not...mine is premature ejaculation thou i never had sex with any girl...but am addicted to watching porn nd masturbation i hardly last for two mint doing that nd this hav traumatized my brain wen ever a girl touch me i tent to hav an erection...am now afraid of going into ny relationship cause i hav this perception that i cant do nytin am now afraid of starting to hv sex...am really frustrated i hate my self....am now almost 22yrs of age my frndz nd brothers ar tinkin of getin married but i just keep quiet...i dont want to frustrate ny girl by marrying her ....i hav ttried all my possible best to stop masturbating but after some week or at most a month i find my self fallin into dsame thin...pls we need ur prayer fellow naira..landers
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by teemy(m): 11:11am On Mar 19, 2017|
helpforever, somewhere in your mind you wish to hold the older prostitute responsible for your issue. like say maybe she hexed or jinxed you for not patronising her. what i feel you contacted was not an hex but shame and that has been eating you up.
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by DandyWalker(m): 11:11am On Mar 19, 2017|
EternalBeing:Just limit yourself to the spiritual angle and leave science out cos you know next to nothing about it...how could you say sperm cells are white blood cells? uggh!
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 11:12am On Mar 19, 2017|
Donjazzy12:I don't understand? How am I lucky?
That I cannot have sex is a bad thing for me o. I want children
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by kolaaderin: 11:13am On Mar 19, 2017|
You are not impotent OP, You are only having serious anxiety...... Let me share you my story
They call me marketer in my university days because i was a super bonner, at a time i had four girl friends and i satisfy them all to the brim and i could remember satisfying 3 of my girls sexually in just a day on several occassions just to let you know how potent and how came about that name from my guys.
I once felt like i was impotent as u have discribbed when i have my first encounter with a white Chick during my Msc study in UK, I have sweet talked her like am gonna take her to heaven on having sex with her and she was ready to blow me like she has never done to a man as i was her first black guy. On that faithful weekend i have got all my act ready for serious blowing, she came in the morning around 11 am and believe me she was battle ready and off we went to the day business only for me to discover i couldnt even keep my erection for a complete 1 minute. i was down as in completely down and couldnt even concentrate on the actions, i cant keep my eye straight cause I seeing white chick for the first time and my heart pounds like bomb, i could feel my heart skipping beats like never before, ANXIETY MY GUY ANXIETY HAS TAKEN OVER COMPLETELY. she tried all she could to get me aroused and all efforts was fruitless and then i was scared to the brim like i have encountered spiritual attack some where because i have never experienced such in my whole sexual life. she was with me till 4 pm that day EFFIAN i was a complete disappointment and big embarrassment and then she left not even 5 minute quickies she got not.
I could not even alter a word to her cause a lot was going through my head as i have started suspecting her to be white witch. I summoned courage to inform my flat mate on what has just happen and he could not believe she left without the black man anointing and advise me to book an appointment with my GP (Doctor) immediately cause any delay could be dangerous, I did see my doctor during the week and behold he was a good professional, after all stories of how i have been good and even had sex with my black Naija chick less than two weeks ago without any flurs full of actions, he said i should explain and and he said ANXIETY nothing more. He said i should have my black Naija girl again and see for myself, which i did and learnt my lesson.
It took a while for me to book a rematch with the my white convincing her of my ANXIETY and then i was able to control myself and gave her the anointing Gospel to go on to the world and spread the gospel of how a black feels after then it because a weekend routing of serious hauling with her.
Here is my solution as a form of advice to you, Get a girl friend a steady one not pay per minutes that will not let you get over your ANXIETY, get yourself used to her and be free with her privacy, romance her and be calm before u know it all the b--b and the Vernuna will not scare you again, try this for just 3 days and came back here to thank me how lovely and interest penetrating vernuna is . REGARDS
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Cutehector(m): 11:14am On Mar 19, 2017|
Medunah:hahahaha.. Make I pray for u join?
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by jomoh: 11:15am On Mar 19, 2017|
Now that is contradicting because first sign of week erection starts from watery sperm but then again try the garlic thing (it could be a body toxin issue) and please see a herbal mixture seller, those people are more helpful than modern medicine on these issues.
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 11:15am On Mar 19, 2017|
You are not alone my brother.
I hope more people will come out with their issues.
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Agbo2(m): 11:15am On Mar 19, 2017|
Your issue can be resolved in just 3 weeks.
Below are the steps you must take.
1) See a doctor.
If you are too shy to see a doctor, please do these:
1) stop masturbation and porn for 3 weeks.
2) Your cholesterol level is too high so you need a drug like Atorvastatin 10 to 20 mg daily for like 3 weeks.
3) Try having sex with your girlfriend not prostitute after 3 weeks.
4) Your confidence is back after step 3 above, now see a doctor.
5) Thank me later.
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|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by teemy(m): 11:15am On Mar 19, 2017|
in terms of spiritual help it would seem a reverse positive if you want a holy solution to achieve an 'unholy' act. i believe all religions preach chastity till marriage. your case is however phsycological and a therapist is the one to finally ...
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by gemini35(m): 11:16am On Mar 19, 2017|
[quote author=helpforever post=54729362]I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.
It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.
We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.
I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.
Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.
We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.
She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.
Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.
We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.
At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"
I got very scared and left for home immediately.
I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.
Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.
I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection
In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.
Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.
He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.
But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.
I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC
Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened
Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.
Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.
Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.
Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.
Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.
Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?
Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?
brother any man wey no dey pound woman until the punnani wey wet dry is missing alot,pm me email@example.com
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by awakeuche(m): 11:16am On Mar 19, 2017|
helpforever:I feel your pains bro, Erectile dysfunction is growing faster in men of 20-50 years, and this is solely because
1. They started masturbating at a very young age and their brains have rewired itself to feel pleasure that way
2. They are not really attracted to real women except ones of pornstars and such, and their brain have forgotten reality or have wired itself to think all women should be like pornstars
3. Excessive intake of sugar without taking bitters
There are so many examples.....
The simplest solution is to
1. Stay away from sugary stuffs
2. Stop masturbating and time your periods of abstinence like an addict would do so you don't relapse, as this is a horrid addiction
3. Take a lot of herbal bitters as long as its bitter its OK
4. Make a clean break from anything sexual like pornography, women, sexual pictures whatever... For 1- 16months (yes! You heard right) and it can be longer
5. Allow your brain to rewire itself naturally, after you have religiously followed this regimen.
6. Do lots of exercises
7. Pray and keep focused and its going to change
8. You are not impotent, you just have damaged the sensual muscles in your penis from overtly rough stimulation.
9. Remember when you start this regimen, you may have no feeling down there for months, it may feel like nothing completely, just hang on and don't give up
10. A lesson to all young men (Vaseline crews) this is what awaits you when you finally get married and cannot satisfy your wife daily, na then you go know say to stand preek no be by muscle...... A word as they say is enough for whatever.....
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|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by ipain: 11:17am On Mar 19, 2017|
Don't negate the idea of getting married please. Artificial insemination I available to make babies. I know sex is important
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Insanity(m): 11:18am On Mar 19, 2017|
What I am telling you is from personal experience. You can send a PM to me if you don't understand me here as am typing with my phone.
1. Its not spiritual
2. You started masturbating at a young age when your brain is still sensitive to sexual feelings.
3. I was in your shoes around october 2015, exactly like yours, addicted to masturbation.
Even though I have sex frequently, I still masturbate cause of the addiction. When the problem started, no hard ons, I thought I have gone impotent. I was so scared and thought of suicide several times. I started researching online about this issue till I stumbled upon "yourbrainonporn.com".
I read several cases and comments from a global community of people going through the exact same problem I was going through, same with what you have now. I got to know the dangers of pornography, porn, blue film or whatever you call it. I went on cold turkey, I deleted all my porn videos, web bookmarks, it was so hard. I stopped porn and masturbation for 30 days as I read online, by February 2016, my problem continued. I panicked, and got so scared. Thats one of the darkest days of my life. Why is my own case different, every other peerson got cured in 30 days.
Well, I researched further and read more case files, I found so many other cases that exceeded 30 days, mostly people that started masturbation in their teenage age, 5-20years. Then I knew my own case will be same, some went for 1year and several months, no porn, no masturbation, and weeks of depression.
My own case was for a year. I stopped porn and masturbation entirely, and will never ever do that. I deleted my instagram app, tinder app, facebook, Twitter app on my phone. You will learn more about yourself during this period. Very bad days, believe me, I was alone in the midst of people, depressed and suicidal, but I knew it was just a matter of time. I always had girls around me, made friends with girls just for the fun not the sex, I slowly started integrating girls into my therapy. Yeah, I called it therapy, LOL.
We play and massage each other, have fun you know. I tried not to think if I had any erection. To cut long story short, I have morning wood now every morning like am 17 again.
Just type "your brain on porn" right now on your google search.
Begin your therapy today, be prepared, it might take more than 1 year or less than 4 months.
Reading the stories and comments will help with the depression and suicide thoughts. You will see and interact with people going through a lot more than you. Believe me, alot more more than you. Those Americans are crazy.
Believe it or not, this is the first time am shearing this experience with anyone, but I decided to spread the message anyway I can.
Please, when you get cured, spread the message too. PORN IS BAD. PORNOGRAPHY IS BAD. IT WHACKS YOUR BRAIN.
Smile, you're not alone.
Start your therapy and cold turkey today. Google "your brain on porn" NOW.
PM me so I can email you. If you ever feel suicidal, remember you're not alone.
HAVE A NICE SUNDAY.
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Donjazzy12(m): 11:19am On Mar 19, 2017|
helpforever:You are saving your money! When you need children, I will tell you what to do.
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 11:19am On Mar 19, 2017|
awakeuche:Thank you. Someone advise I take Ruzu bitters, will that be okay to flush out the sugar in my body or should I go with the local original agbo?
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 11:20am On Mar 19, 2017|
I understand your angle.
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 11:21am On Mar 19, 2017|
every one have a friend who is having a similar problem.... we no dey agree say na us , anyway masturbation no go kill guys...girls no dey masturbate ni ?
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by gbeseun(m): 11:23am On Mar 19, 2017|
Discuss ur issue with ur mother
Ur mama must find solution to ur problem
I foresee your issues are beyond spiritualis
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by franksam2009: 11:24am On Mar 19, 2017|
Op I was once in your shoes, masturbation really messes up someone's sex life, mine got to a point whereby I can only get 50% erection while watching porn, I had no sex feelings for women.
What I did was stay away from masturbation as much as I could(sold my android and got a no internet fone).
Second was I got a church type g.f (the no sex till marriage type) so she won't pressure me for sex, all I did was kisses and pre-intimacy, in 4 months I started having a strong urge for sex.
Thirdly stay away from sugary things.
Fourth never feel nervous when you are about to have sex, don't think about your limp D, rather think about her pretty lips, her kisses, her nice legs.
If this keys doesn't work....
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by prinzeepule(m): 11:24am On Mar 19, 2017|
helpforever:Best of luck bro
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Ramaa(m): 11:26am On Mar 19, 2017|
I think your problems is out of musterbation....
I have been musterbating for 20 years now....and my erection is still 100%....and more......
One thing I don't know whether is bad or good...when you musterbate for long time....during a normal sex...it will take you longest time to cum.....
Last time i had sex....I spent 50 minutes to finish first round......
Your problem is only physiological.....
Take care of your healthy.....
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by SirMichael1: 11:26am On Mar 19, 2017|
As regarding this topic, where's the sense in your comment??
Proffer a solution and if you don't have one, get the fùck out with your imaginary banging body or better yet, shut the fúck up bitçh! Slut!
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nathan2016: 11:26am On Mar 19, 2017|
2. STOP MASTURBATING
3. TRY FUCKING A GIRL OF YOUR TYPE
MAYBE YOU HAVE BEEN GOING FOR WRONG TYPES
And stop being so nervous
everyone have sex these dAYS
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Mambox: 11:26am On Mar 19, 2017|
Exactly. A simple routine:
- Don't overfeed
- stop pornography
- Engage in sweaty aerobics daily jog in your hood preferably and gradually temper your muscles by I creasing g your aerobic tasks.
- Take varieties of fruits and vegetables daily
- Take water after waking up and take minimum of 2.5litres daily
- Do whatever relaxes you more comedies, movies, visiting friends, got watch soccer, try the zoo,a new restaurant, a book, visit your family... Anything
- Check back when you start finding early morning erections too distracting
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by teemy(m): 11:27am On Mar 19, 2017|
... certify you ok. also let any potential wife be in the know early in your relationship just in case it lingers or reoccurs. all the best dear
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 11:28am On Mar 19, 2017|
How can I get in contact with this person??
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by kolaaderin: 11:29am On Mar 19, 2017|
Dont let anyone push you into taking all such of alcohol and drugs before having an erection, it a thing of mind and your problem is ANXIETY nothing more believe me. Read my first comment on your topic. Get a stable girl friend not Pay per minute Olosho, u will never be confident with them.
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by EternalTruth: 11:30am On Mar 19, 2017|
@ helpforever it's not only you..
I share same fate with you..
I disvirgined myself through masturbation during my sophomore in school.. that was around 2007. I was 16 by then and I was so addicted to it and wasn't really in propinquity with girls...
I'm 26 now and also a graduate but the crescendo of my troubles started when I involved myself in a committed relationship with my girlfriend..
she visited me umpteen times and whenever we tried to make love my dicck refuses to erect..
we've tried on several occasions but I still don't get erecti0n..
she's on the verge of breaking up with me cos she feels I'm not attracted to her but the truth is I'm suffering the aftermaths of pornography and masturbation..
the only thing I did to ease her fears was to take a Vegas sidenafil drugs which propelled erecti0n and we had sex (she didn't know I used drugs).
she's even visiting today and I'll still make sure the drugs are handy to avoid shame.
right now I'm worried..
visited a doctor.. he also diagnosed sugar stuff cos I consume sugar a lot and also depression and many other factors.
it's nothing spiritual bro except God just intervenes..
it's the consequences of masturbation, porn, nervousnes and excessive sugar..
you're not alone
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 11:30am On Mar 19, 2017|
Lol, i actually went to see a doctor when i had near similar issues. They make jest of you. ones in Ikeja, Gbagada General hospital etc.
One was even telling me at 24, why am i having sex. that sex is not for me. I should wait till i'm old enough
Last rubbish is that, they would give you a Drug like Viagra or Cialis. Abeg na who Viagra dom epp ?
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 11:31am On Mar 19, 2017|
Na so, e dey sweet for mouth to talk !
|Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by anitank(f): 11:32am On Mar 19, 2017|
No you're not impotent. Your mind has been conditioned to think so due to your first experience. You've not even had a real girlfriend or fallen in love before so how would you know you can't have a full erection and last long with it? I think it's more of a psychological than a medical issue and nothing close to spiritual. You've just been too scared
However to rule out any medical condition, try and see a medical doctor as soon as you can. Personally I believe this is something changing your diet and taking a few supplements would handle.
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