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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by AgentGoat: 12:03pm On Mar 19, 2017
From what you type I can tell you that you are not impotent.




You are over scared.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by murmee: 12:05pm On Mar 19, 2017
Apart from kingsouthie, Ahijo1990, dammytosh and Ganjafama, it was as if the other commentators did not read paragraph 25 where the OP said he takes excess sugar and has a gluttonous eating habit.

If he had consulted a doctor, blood tests would have revealed the damages the excess sugar has done to his system. He might have diabetes, high cholesterol and early stage of high blood pressure, all of which affect (male) sexual functions in various degrees

As one commentator rightly said, it a shame that someone with a university degree ould not think of seeking medical advice and treatment in a situation as serious as this but would rather come to an online forum where the majority of posts come from people who barely know their left from their right hand.

Just last month, I told my 23 year old nephew who is fond of taking a lot sugary drinks (the so called minerals) that he should stop because it could affect his sexual performance in the future.

My candid advice to the OP is to run to a medical doctor without further delay!

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by AgentGoat: 12:06pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
I will go to the hospital tomorrow or Tuesday for test. I actually didn't go because I resolved within myself that my case was spiritual. I agree, I was very FOOLISH
dont just go to see any doctor.




You need urologist. And then work on your mind it's very important bro.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by awakeuche(m): 12:06pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
Thank you. Someone advise I take Ruzu bitters, will that be okay to flush out the sugar in my body or should I go with the local original agbo?
Ruzu bitters and agbo and any other will all serve the same purpose, drink them.... And remember that your case is not unique, its actually very common now, with the advent of accessible internet...
Don't use your imaginations to conjure up fantasies of women
Don't watch porn ever again, and don't follow the advice of that poster who asked you to.
Staying away from masturbating will not be difficult in the first few months, as the fear alone will keep you focused and consistent, but whatever you do, do not relapse, or it will be even worse.
Look at real women like you have never done before and crave whatever it is pervs do, cause its important you condition your brain to really appreciate a good ass and boobs... No joke bro.
Never touch your self more than necessary, so you don't get tempted.
Follow my older advice religiously.
Delete all bookmarked porn sites, delete all sexual videos and especially pictures, stay away from sites that advertise women in pornish light (Lol)..
It should not surprise you to know that 60% of men now suffer this, whether they agree or not....
Hence the promiscuity of our women....
Oga, Oga, the ball is in your court
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by berrystunn(m): 12:09pm On Mar 19, 2017
rita25:
Hahahahaha am sure u hvnt met that smoking HOT gyel like me!!!!! But I no be ashy and seriously engaged if not I for help u....but dnt bother even if u die like ojukwu ur manhood will live on according to dame jona


If I talk now...them go say insult you.
Waiting ojukwu name day do here now
Usu.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by veeberry(m): 12:11pm On Mar 19, 2017
Excessive masturbation cannot cause one to be impotent. It could be hereditary , if not then medical. Try to ask some question and visit a doctor asap.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Brownzola(m): 12:11pm On Mar 19, 2017
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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Kiish(m): 12:13pm On Mar 19, 2017
its psychological.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Marlbron: 12:14pm On Mar 19, 2017
Help forever

Your case can be solved. It is not hopeless. You have erection, but cannot sustain it.

A lot depends on your diet. What you say you eat might not be right for you. Do you exercise? Take long walks? Do you drink enough water? How often?

If I know all these details, I will suggest to you a tailor made diet. But first, do a swab to make sure there is no infection.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 12:15pm On Mar 19, 2017
uboma:



Don't forget to let us know how it goes after your visit to the Hospital.

Good health to you
Thank you sir
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by inthack: 12:15pm On Mar 19, 2017
My brother, I have promised to stop helping but I feel for your write up.... I know what you can use, it's herbs.... I am very serious and I know it will work, if you re in Lagos.... Contact me on 08160016242. With 2/3k your problem is solved..... You will take the herbs for 3days in the woman's house, after one week.... I can assure you, you will Bleep hell outta anyone that comes your way...
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by frankloloko: 12:17pm On Mar 19, 2017
Bro it happens to me . The brothel you went is a quack one . It do happen every nigga especially when you see olosho you don't like . Masturbatin is a thing of the head . It doesn't move your body . Guy nothing dey do you find love instead .
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Marlbron: 12:19pm On Mar 19, 2017
Masturbation is actually good for you. It helps you relieve tension and it develops your appetite for sex as well as helping your prostrate.

Only illiterates say masturbation is bad. Don't listen to them. Most are hypocrites. Don't feel guilty for nasturbating. Nowhere in scripture is it mentioned as a sin. The bad thing is excessive masturbation may cause you to loose interest in a woman, because you are assured you can jerk off without stress smiley

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Cutehector(m): 12:19pm On Mar 19, 2017
Medunah:

Haha, yes oo...I need prayers
ok u have to come to my ministry.. cool
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Rahoof2(m): 12:19pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
it's not from birth. I have been having etection almost ten times a day before the initial trial.

Bro, try and see a doctor very fast. I perfectly believe u are not an impotent but having serious STDs (probably acute gonorrhea) and partly psychological.
Beside, why haven't u seen a doctor since all these years? That is so st*pid of u with all ur education.
There is nothing special in ur case and u don't have to be shy about it, it's common. In fact a very good agbo atosi(local herb for STDs) can do the job and In just 1 month I will be very ok.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 12:19pm On Mar 19, 2017
CHARLOE:

Your problem is; u think ur problem is spiritual. Won't blame u tho cos I came to that point when I was having same issue n let me repeat it here; Your problem is NOT spiritual! You've not seen d doc, not done any test, not stopped taking sugar, yet u believe ur problem is spiritual. No p, continue .
I already offered u my advise in d other thread which u obviously don't take serious.
I've bin in ur shoes many years ago n I finally overcame it (after some fraudster chop my money wella. Today I enjoy regular sex with my wife with 2 kids Maybe after dem chop ur money u go learn
I will take your advise sir. Thanks for the help
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by shinebabe(f): 12:21pm On Mar 19, 2017
awakeuche:
Ruzu bitters and agbo and any other will all serve the same purpose, drink them.... And remember that your case is not unique, its actually very common now, with the advent of accessible internet...
Don't use your imaginations to conjure up fantasies of women
Don't watch porn ever again, and don't follow the advice of that poster who asked you to.
Staying away from masturbating will not be difficult in the first few months, as the fear alone will keep you focused and consistent, but whatever you do, do not relapse, or it will be even worse.
Look at real women like you have never done before and crave whatever it is pervs do, cause its important you condition your brain to really appreciate a good ass and boobs... No joke bro.
Never touch your self more than necessary, so you don't get tempted.
Follow my older advice religiously.
Delete all bookmarked porn sites, delete all sexual videos and especially pictures, stay away from sites that advertise women in pornish light (Lol)..
It should not surprise you to know that 60% of men now suffer this, whether they agree or not....
Hence the promiscuity of our women....
Oga, Oga, the ball is in your court

It is agbo that is nafdac and American FDA (American version of nafdac) approved. It has dosage, is I also in capsules and actually has been proven to work. This differentiates it from your normal agbo. There were and are toxicologists pharmacists and doctors working with this products. Its not just agbo my bro.

@helpforever look for the product and buy. I can help find you one if you're in lagos
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by gnykelly(m): 12:22pm On Mar 19, 2017
HateU2:
spiritual spiritual undecided Una no dey tire undecided Bro, go medical please
you should offer him a nice Mouth Action before concluding.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Kunstay98: 12:23pm On Mar 19, 2017
Bro, you are not an impotent cos you love to have sex but you don't have errection at the time you want to. There is what we call TESHO!!!!! This is used to protect women from having sex but am sure there is also IDAKOLE too which protect men from having sex..... It is the work of wicked people. So check for where you can have a local internet research, or spiritual research.... Go to either Ijebu or Ekiti and diagnose what to be done locally. I am sure you can have a clue in Ekiti.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Yskullo: 12:23pm On Mar 19, 2017
o a friend on Facebook asked me to write about this topic. She wants to know what men want. Hmmm, it is a bit tricky, but maybe I can attempt to answer this. What do men want? We are all different. As much as most girls say all men are the same, I choose the differ. We all are different, that’s why a generic question like “what do men want?” is something I cannot answer correctly, I can only speculate and say “We want what we want”.

As individuals, we have different tastes, likes and dislikes. Some men are strictly interested in the outer beauty of a woman, others are interested typically in the internal beauty (attitude, temperament, behaviours) of a woman. But mainly I can only speak for myself. What do I want? I woman a beautiful woman, who’s a bit tall, and has a nice body shape, and has a great attitude, a doctor, who’s a Christian, big voluptuous ass, awesome firm boobs, maybe a half-cast, oh no I want her black, a real Nubian queen, maybe if she’s a makeup artist or a chef I won’t mind, I want woman who’s a lady on the street and a freak in bed, yeah I want her 7 years younger than I am, or maybe 3 years younger might be nice too, but damn older girls are awesome, they have a different level of maturity that I relate with seamlessly. I want her with long black hair, and hazel green eyes. Anambra chic no go bad, cos me sef na Anambra boy. Oh! but I love Akwa Ibom girls, I hear they can feed you well in the dinning room and in the other room. Bayelsa chics, the few I know have big round booties, I love big round booties. But you know I want her... read more http://www.confessionsofaplayboy.com/what-do-men-want/
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Xbee007(m): 12:23pm On Mar 19, 2017
Brownville007:


Pls can you pm me. I passed through same stuff and felt suicidal most times . I brought my case here and to be candid with u, it is all psychological . pm me on chigozieodo007@gmail.com . Let's talk
helpforever:
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No answer am o.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Ujunkem(f): 12:23pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

Your problem is not spiritual. I think it's a medical + psychological problem. Not every man gets an erection immediately upon seeing a Unclad or attractive lady. Some are sexually attracted to people only after a strong emotional bond has been formed. From your write up, you've not even courted a lady properly all your encounter are with prostitutes.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Lexusgs430: 12:24pm On Mar 19, 2017
IamLucy:
Rightt.

Our people fail to realise that vaseline, is very good for dry skin and to lubricate our hair. Once vaseline is used to constantly massage the 3rd leg over long periods of time and years, the 3rd leg would eventually give up part of its basic function ......
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by DjSwaga(m): 12:27pm On Mar 19, 2017
LMAOOOOOO SPERM IS WHITE BLOOD CELL



OYA KUKU KILL ME NA

EternalBeing:
Tackle it medically first, and spiritually. Go for medicals and if they said it not a medical problem, the earlier you go to MFM Church for Deliverance to fire that arrow of impotence back to the sender the better for you.
Excesive mastubation caused this permanent damage. Sex is addictive and it has been scientifically proven that excesive sex make people duller and less productive. devil knows this and use this to waste so meny glorious Destinies. There are 2 bloods in Man; the red blood cell erythrocytes carries life-oxygen, the white blood cell lymphocytes carries your protection and defence (spiritually too). Spam is cells; white blood cell. The more you waste it unnecessarily, the more defenceless you (and your Glory) become to microbes and even spiritual scavengers.
I've not seen any one that genuinely totally submitted to GOD and regret it later, unless those self-deceiving Christians.
Like myself, most of my genuine Christian mates are doing fine now.
Unless you are married, abstainance makes you spitually Strong and invincible.
To run away from sin is not a favour to GOD but a sure protection for your Glory and Destiny.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 12:31pm On Mar 19, 2017
From all indications it shows your own is pschological grin due to ur 1st encounter,your first encounter matters grin you should have started with a normal girl in the hood or school,the 1st ashawo damaged you psychologically,dont worry you aint gat no probs trust me just stay away from masturbation and sex for three months grin that would fix it
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Evanyi: 12:31pm On Mar 19, 2017
the solution to your challenge is simple.
a, delete all porn and quit any form of watching it.
b, stop masturbation
c, don't ever think in ur life again of going to brotel. if u do u get worse than now, hate it or like it.
d, when u quit porn and masturbation, try get a girl friend, wait after 2 month before trying to sex her. gudluck
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by bravesoul247(m): 12:35pm On Mar 19, 2017
rita25:
Hahahahaha am sure u hvnt met that smoking HOT gyel like me!!!!! But I no be ashy and seriously engaged if not I for help u....but dnt bother even if u die like ojukwu ur manhood will live on according to dame jona
mumu... a guy is talking about a serious issue and you're here opening that your smelling mouth to say shit.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by fpeter(f): 12:36pm On Mar 19, 2017
helinues:
this one gidi gan oo

I remember broda Lajide back then. he was also impotent

You're a wicket somebori
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Weselion(m): 12:37pm On Mar 19, 2017
yaqq:
the way u calculates ur erection per percentage leaves me Rotfl

Guy... You high die grin
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 12:38pm On Mar 19, 2017
INVESTORBNAIRA:
From all indications it shows your own is pschological grin due to ur 1st encounter,your first encounter matters grin you should have started with a normal girl in the hood or school,the 1st ashawo damaged you psychologically,dont worry you aint gat no probs trust me just stay away from masturbation and sex for three months grin that would fix it
Thanks sir.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 12:39pm On Mar 19, 2017
First time am commenting in colour cos this story touch me sad
To have the chance of doing/ be willing to do something and realizing that you cannot do it

helpforever how about going to the hospital for a medical checkup?
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Endtimesmith(m): 12:39pm On Mar 19, 2017
OP...Points of correction,Boys are called Lads,while girls na Virgin,Understood?

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