Dyt:

Don't stop oo Even when married

Realhommie:
How exactly do you mean?

ashjay001:



Cele tan e!

U're on a long tin! Take his advice to heart n shine ur eyes! Or else, u'll just wake up one morning n wonder, what d heck happened!

Dyt:

How exactly what you think I mean

Dyt:


You sound like you go to the market yourself

richyblink1:


If you like shake your teeth join.

How do you justify intentionally adding up to 100% to the original cost of an item? I bet you would be foaming if you find out your child has been inflating the cost of expense you have been handling personally.

Look at how eloquent you have been all over the thread justifying the margin of the addition.

skypeme:


She isn't cheating on me and my marriage will not break IJN

Dyt:


Why you mad Oga?

Be following your woman to every place if she demands money from you
All cos you don't want her add money

I do it
And I will say it over and over

Is it not you men?
We will ask for 100, you give 50 when we need 100
So it's better we ask of 300
So if you give 200
We will have extra

zaynie:



Sometimes people just do these things.
Don't forget we have only heard his version of the story not hers.


I know of a couple that any small thing the man would say "at least I put money for food down before I leave in the mornings ". The wife will just have this quiet smile. When she put the baby at less than a year in a creche and went to search for work, the husband yari and that was when the bubble burst that it was #200 he put on the table every morning for a breastfeeding mom to eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Back then we used to wonder why she loved noodles so much.

"he said" he gives her 30k monthly. Every month? He has never missed it?
If she comes from a poor family (which might be the case considering he is paying her school fees) and is the eldest, that money can't be enough to cater for their needs. These little monies that come by can be handy.
I'm not justifying what she did.


And the hospital can never look at her like that. Do you know how many women they cover up?
Someone planned fake school receipt for her husband because after school fees he doesn't pay another dime in the school. The extra money was what she used to pay for some extra curricular activities for the kids, buy uniforms and books.

nnamdibig:





I just pity your husband.

Dyt:


Why you mad Oga?

Be following your woman to every place if she demands money from you
All cos you don't want her add money

I do it
And I will say it over and over

Is it not you men?
We will ask for 100, you give 50 when we need 100
So it's better we ask of 300
So if you give 200
We will have extra

richyblink1:


Personally I have never given my better half less than she has ever asked for. Reason being that I can stake my life that she has never and would never add a kobo to what she actually needed because she know I will gladly go extra mile to see her have the best. Often, when I add extra to her request, she will call my attention that I gave her over the amount she needed. I will simply ask her to hold it incase she sees something nice to add to her list.

I really do not have issues withwife's that doubles their request just because their hubby is stingy. My concern is my betterhalf being a role model to my kids, not couching them to be money doublers in the future.

skypeme:


She isn't cheating on me and my marriage will not break IJN

sasko:


In a nutshell. ...

From dating till marriage


Your union was founded on materialism and deception which must be sustained

.
the moment you renege from your initial agreement which is the basics and foundation of your marriage...hehehehe


as a student she has got flexible times to spend with highest bidders
.

zaynie:



Chill.
She's in school right?
How far is it from home? She needs transport fare daily. With the recent hike, the least amount is most likely 600 naira daily. Multiply by 20 working days----- 12000. If it's higher than that we are looking at almost 20k
How long does she stay in school? If she stays till like 4pm, she needs to eat something even if she had breakfast at home. 200*20 -----4000
She will buy toiletries o..... Always pad is now 300 naira, God bless her if she has heavy flow. Soap and body lotion nko? Do you know ordinary weaving is now 500 naira. Retouching is up to 1k , relaxer is 3k. Prices of body spray is now doubled. And she has to look good for her husband Na..... Abi.
How many siblings does she have? Money for Jamb form, money for Nepa, money for food, papas drugs, mama's market is depleted and needs a little infuse of funds, house rent remain 10k make e complete, dem send junior comot from school because e never complete his school fees,
(all this is in my head, abeg)


If he didn't want so many responsibilities he shouldn't have married a student.
Asking a married-mother-student to get a job or start a business is putting undue pressure on the young woman.




Skypeme, my honest advice is for you and your wife to sit and analyse how much is needed to run the house. You give her enough money to buy the foodstuffs and you face the baby's needs. Then you put her on a trial for 2 months, she needs to know she is on trial o.
You see women have a way of finding where to buy things the cheapest not minding trekking to the end of the world for it.
That way she makes her honest extras.
The money that was never enough to cater for one month for us in my home now does for 2 months ever since I started going to Mile12.
All in a bid to get extras in my pocket

Realhommie:
How perfect was/is his response? He's free to declare whatever but that doesn't negate the fact that he's having some issues in his marriage right now which he wants to genuinely resolve, i mean that's why he put it out here to seek opinions..

kimbra:


Would you let N11,200 cost you your marriage?

It's not the amount, it's the aCt!
Once trust is broken, it's very difficult to sail smoothly, even though the sailors manage to keep the ship moving

skypeme:
I think I made a mistake getting married to someone who is still schooling, I should have married a working class lady

skypeme:
Dear reasonable people on Nairaland, please I need your advise

My wife whom I love so much and also loves me too is entitled to 17.2% of my monthly income, my salary is 175kpm and she take 17.2% of this amount, yet she feels very uncomfortable with it

I pay the bills, buy food stuff every month and take care of our little baby girl

My baby girl does not take any local food, she takes only fresogold, tea and pap, the cost of fresogold is very high and she can consume 4tins in a month

My wife isn't not working yet she is still schooling and I pay all her fees,

I've never complaint of my duty as the head of the family yet she still feels unsatisfied with the 17.2% I give to her

Her primary duty in the house is to take care of our baby and prepare my dinner every week days and both break fast and dinner during the weekend

Recently I told her to take our baby to the hospital for treatment, our total bill was 11,500 naira but my wife suprisinly told me that the hospital bill is 22,700 naira which I immediately wired to her account

So I called the hospital to make inquiries about the exorbitant bill then I got to know that my wife inflated the hospital bill to 22,700 naira

I confronted her and she spoke to me very rudly I was not happy about this, I kept quite and didn't say anything about it again

I am thinking I should penalize her for her rude behaviour and the dishonesty she has melted on me

Will it be advisable not to pay her her monthly salary for two months ?

Will this correct her brain to default and what would possibly be the implication of doing this ?

She has not apologised and she has not seen anything wrong so far in what she has done

skypeme:


But the money she added is just too much 22,700 - 11,500 = 11,200 naira

skypeme:


30,100 / 175,000 x 100% = 17.2%
I add 2.5% increment to my wifes salary every Dec

Dyt:


Why you mad Oga?

Be following your woman to every place if she demands money from you
All cos you don't want her add money

I do it
And I will say it over and over

Is it not you men?
We will ask for 100, you give 50 when we need 100
So it's better we ask of 300
So if you give 200
We will have extra

papaput2:
Nigeria men and slavery in the name of marriage look at what you got yourself into

At first you married a student , greedy self center girl lady or woman because I don't really know her age

I wonder how much you pay your folks who fought so hard to make sure you became who you are today ? I guess nothing

Instead of paying that 17% to her open up acount for your kid with it

I know the truth is always bitter this your so call marriage is base on mutual benefit not love

You will thank me later when she graduate, how many of your siblings are you actually sponsorin in school non I guess

Lol

papaput2:
Nigeria

I know the truth is always bitter this your so call marriage is base on mutual benefit not love

You will thank me later when she graduate, how many of your siblings are you actually sponsorin in school non I guess

Lol

skypeme:
I think I made a mistake getting married to someone who is still schooling, I should have married a working class lady

kaziblake:
You are allowing this stupid nairalanders put stupid thought in your head,i pity you.

LeView1:
Omg! Please lord may I never be treated like a child in my marriage

Women! Let's get our self respect back!