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Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by Correspondence(m): 10:01am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Extend your reach ability. Make comments on Facebook. Snap good pictures. Be nice at offices and churches. Render assistance as much as you can to guys offline. I am sure someone will like you and like your child 1 Like |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by Nobody: 10:02am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Be proud to lie in your bed the way you made it.Your baby should be as sweet as the sex you had. |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by TundeHashim(m): 10:02am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Collins0609:I quite agree u with u though, you have a point! it's her fault from the outset..she will get who's her..I think patience is the key word |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by Nobody: 10:02am On Mar 25, 2017 |
chiomababy22:can I date you? |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by tosyne2much(m): 10:03am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Acidosis:Wooooow... Bros you're indeed a realist 1 Like |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by Nobody: 10:03am On Mar 25, 2017 |
TonyeBarcanista:You wanna make me feel bad now eh... nawa o. pls go back to politics section biko |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by obailala(m): 10:04am On Mar 25, 2017 |
chiomababy22:I would borrow and modify the words of Tyrion Lannister, "whatever you think is your weakness (existence of your child in this case), wear it like an armour wherever you go, and it will never be used to hurt you." In essence, never hide the existence of your child, the men would find out anyway, and would be very disappointed that you lied, and would not act like the child dont exist. So wherever you go, your child should be your first mention, a lot of Nigerian men aren't comfortable getting married to single mums; sometimes even when the men dont mind, their family becomes a stumbling block. A friend of mine just called this morning telling me his dad has bluntly refused him marrying a girl he loves all because she has a child. But then, there are a few men who wouldnt mind (minority), so in order to save yourself the heartbreak and heart ache, wear your child like an armour and you will more easily attract the right kind of men that don't mind. 1 Like
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Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by golddust6000(m): 10:04am On Mar 25, 2017 |
cyril700:na so my bro, women with kids are no no for me. Wisemen dont do that, i think about the future not the presence. |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:06am On Mar 25, 2017 |
mamatwiny:That one na yahoo yahoo o... lol... your girl no gree slack sha the guy will be like.... "I don enter one chance but I no get another choice" 2 Likes |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by Nobody: 10:06am On Mar 25, 2017 |
enshi:My dear the issue of do changing is just too flimsy and minute to be d reason behind you having problems in your relsp... Lolz you are funny, there's nofin to b ashamed of |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by ayindejimmy(m): 10:06am On Mar 25, 2017 |
chiomababy22: NEVER hide the truth cos when it comes back to hunt and taunt you, the outcome will be devastating. You have to start dating matured men. If you've kept your sanity and pride since your first child, I don't see another issues there. I've dated single ladies and I'm currently dating a lady with a child - it's not a disease. The first thing she told was that she has a son. But I've seen qualities in her before then. So it doesn't change anything. She's even more modest than te singles I've dated. It's a matter of how you've been able to pick yourself up and rebrand yourself. |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by Nobody: 10:07am On Mar 25, 2017 |
I'm a product of this, got similar story to yours.......Let's have a private chat or call......reach me on 08164626680 |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by nifemilizD: 10:07am On Mar 25, 2017 |
I agree with majority that have spoken earlier, no repetition, don't deny. don't hide |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by Nobody: 10:08am On Mar 25, 2017 |
golddust6000:Well, a girl can only hope. You led her on biko, I'm sure she didn't guess ur hotel and room number. lemme stop there. |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:08am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Nma27:You want deny me of my freedom abi? Your Momma must hear this |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by Guyman02: 10:09am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Nutase: Chilax babe, you can also use political experience to solve romantic issues. As per OP you may want to consider men who are single parents too, they would value your worth as an experienced mother rather than bachelors who see single mothers as a burden before marriage and have so many 'fresh' ladies seeking their attention. Just remain a good lady and your mr right will locate you soon and accept you and your child lovingly 1 Like |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by Nobody: 10:11am On Mar 25, 2017 |
It only means u haven't seen someone who truly loves you for you although in this our clime, alot of sentiments are thrown in the picture when issues like this arise.. Love is a commitment and not a feeling. They cannot say what the child will become tomorrow.. Never hide the truth from anyone you are in a relationship with and apply wisdom while letting it known, ensure you're into each other to an extent |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by Doctorsweet(m): 10:12am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Truth alwayz have one big problem, which is bitterness, but i alwayz preferred the bitter truth to cook and flourish lies that pleased some ears |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by Nobody: 10:12am On Mar 25, 2017 |
TonyeBarcanista: Good question.Some people would always want to eat their cake and still wish to have it. |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by ExInferis(m): 10:12am On Mar 25, 2017 |
chiomababy22: I'll take you and your baby in. Everyone is entitled to at least one fuckup in their lives. Those men leaving you, only god knows the kind of skeletons in their proverbial cupboard. Just hang in there....they weren't right for you anyway. No man is worth more than your own child. |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by blackedwin: 10:14am On Mar 25, 2017 |
well said! had a friend who had a son,men treated her with disdain broken relationships here and there cos of her child,but as soon as she won US visa lottery and left for the US men in Niaja started promising marriage like hell WORLDPEACE: |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by Nobody: 10:15am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Bigsteveg: It's like you want to give her the second one. |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by tosyne2much(m): 10:15am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Let's face reality here... Every man has a standard and it has nothing to do with maturity or immaturity.. I, as person will also take a dash the moment I realize a lady has an eight year old child. And I trust that most of the people saying "pikin no be disease" will never consider such a lady, and will antagonize their brothers getting married to such a lady.. To be very honest, stigmas are placed on single mothers in this part of the world and only a handful of single guys can man up to take such a responsibility. And to all those saying that all those men that have been walking out of her her don't love her, let me just leave you to wallow in your ignorance and sentiment LOVE is not enough to make someone your wife. Some things are taken into consideration as well, which can sometimes make you revoke your decisions I just wish you success in your quest tho 4 Likes |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by Doctorsweet(m): 10:17am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Truth alwayz have one big problem which is bitterness, but i preferred the bitter truth to cook and flourish lies that pleased some ears. |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by chronique(m): 10:17am On Mar 25, 2017 |
Dyt: The way you ladies reason and talk at times could be so irritating and annoying. You are referring to men who made their choices, as cheap and silly because they refused to go further with a woman who has a child for someone else; how intelligent does that sound? Must they be forced to accept her and the baby? Does the child not have a father? Not everyone is interested in getting caught up in a web they aren't comfortable with. Women being who they are (unpredictable) can wake up one day and start getting close to the ex and that would start creating issues for the new man. As much as I do not view single mothers as condemned, I also do not think anybody should be angry with a man who doesn't want such. The best set of people she should attempt dating, are people in her own kind of situation. Calling single men who refuse to go further with her, cheap and silly, is not just a selfish way of reasoning, but a very silly one. The child did not drop from the sky and there is a reason why the father of the child is not with the mother. Not everyone is interested in such details cos whatever happens between two people, only two of them would know. The woman might not speak the truth and not everybody has the strength for such... 8 Likes |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by Nobody: 10:17am On Mar 25, 2017 |
chiomababy22:Use ur baby as a determinant of who really is coming into your life to stay and give you the love and peace you crave for. Hiding her makes no sense. Don't mind ur age, ur status as single mother has made the difference. you are not alone. |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by Yogifuriosa: 10:19am On Mar 25, 2017 |
It's certain they would change after having enough of u...... u need someone dat'll love ur baby cos dats most imperative |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by adanny01(m): 10:19am On Mar 25, 2017 |
To guard yourself from emotional harrasment tell anyone you are about to date you have a child so you wont be dumped after you start a relationship. |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by maasoap(m): 10:19am On Mar 25, 2017 |
chiomababy22:You can't deny your child, it may come back to haunt your marriage in future. But may be, and may be you're dating the wrong type of men. Wrong type like men that have never had child(ren), never married, younger than you. Just my assumptions. Why not try divorced, widower or baby daddy? The serious type and God fearing one. |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by WORLDPEACE(m): 10:20am On Mar 25, 2017 |
blackedwin:That's just humans for you. She needs to have more options and being successful will give her that. |
Re: They Leave Me The Moment I Tell Them My Story. Should I Hide The Truth? by Nobody: 10:21am On Mar 25, 2017 |
dapsoneh:. . . . . i do my research before i comment bro, I DONT JUST COMMENT!!! The daughter is a girl!!! |
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