I am a fresh graduate awaiting service. I met a guy last year and he asked to go see my people so we could start the marriage process. Since both my parents are late, I went to my mum's sister and she referred me to one of her sons who is a prophet and he said the guy is not my husband. My aunty's elder son is the one who sponsored me through school and his opinion is that I complete my service and get a job before talking about marriage. Again one of his(my big cousin that sponsored my education) in-laws has come up to say the said guy is not my husband that I should stop seeing him. It is pertinent to note that these people know nothing about the said guy, they've never met him or had a conversation with him, plus they have not given me any tangible reasons yet. Am at a cross road now, don't know what to do. Your advice will be well appreciated. thanks.

Follow your heart my dear to avoid future regrets. how did they know that he is not right for u?

You met a guy last year and he asked to see your people same year for marriage? just like that?



What's wrong with you people?

They've not met the guy, they know nothing about him, yet they know he isn't your husband, how?. I don't think this people want your happiness. Don't quit the relationship, tell your fiancé to give you some time to convince them, then talk to one who'll help you talk sense into them that the guy is who you want to be with.

He asked this year not last year

FvckShiT:
do what they fúçking say

Why should i??

Babes calm down...


Just pretend to do what everyone says while you do what you want. Since they've not met the guy and him them...just recycle him next year! Go for your service, possibly get a job, continue to court the guy( if he's worth it), then spring him on them next year. Just rearrange the story a bit for them then.

By God's grace, if he's indeed not your husband you might find that out soon enough. So no need to fight or terrorise your people into acceptance. They don't know the dude just as you hardly know him. Take your time...no go jump pas your boundary. Good luck.

I agree with sisi. Even if they know him. Just ask him to give you more time. Present him again after a year, perhaps by then you too must have known him better.

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ivylyn:
I am a fresh graduate awaiting service. I met a guy last year and he asked to go see my people so we could start the marriage process. Since both my parents are late, I went to my mum's sister and she referred me to one of her sons who is a prophet and he said the guy is not my husband. My aunty's elder son is the one who sponsored me through school and his opinion is that I complete my service and get a job before talking about marriage. Again one of his(my big cousin that sponsored my education) in-laws has come up to say the said guy is not my husband that I should stop seeing him. It is pertinent to note that these people know nothing about the said guy, they've never met him or had a conversation with him, plus they have not given me any tangible reasons yet. Am at a cross road now, don't know what to do. Your advice will be well appreciated. thanks.

Is this a scene on zeeworld or Telemundo?

You met a guy and sharp sharp,marriage don set?

I don't need to be a prophet to tell you that the marriage may be heading for the rocks

As for your prophetic relation,demand answers from him.

I wonder where the place of "Dating" is in your relationship... Better take your time my sister. I heard marriage is an institution where you learn on daily basis.

Overnight marriage. Marriage isn't as flamboyant as a wedding ceremony. It isn't a one-day event. Why are you in haste? Do you have a deformity that he alone has accepted to manage? Grow up, please.

Why are you so much in a hurry to marry somebody you met only yesterday? You have not been long in courtship with him and you have allowed desperation to set in to settle down. You better follow the @bold advice your uncle gave you and don't be in a hurry to settle down.

ivylyn:
I am a fresh graduate awaiting service. I met a guy last year and he asked to go see my people so we could start the marriage process. Since both my parents are late, I went to my mum's sister and she referred me to one of her sons who is a prophet and he said the guy is not my husband. My aunty's elder son is the one who sponsored me through school and his opinion is that I complete my service and get a job before talking about marriage. Again one of his(my big cousin that sponsored my education) in-laws has come up to say the said guy is not my husband that I should stop seeing him. It is pertinent to note that these people know nothing about the said guy, they've never met him or had a conversation with him, plus they have not given me any tangible reasons yet. Am at a cross road now, don't know what to do. Your advice will be well appreciated. thanks.

Acidosis:
You met a guy last year and he asked to see your people same year for marriage? just like that?



What's wrong with you people?

Lots of guys have exceeded the right time they were supposed to get married as a result of Long stay abroad or working for financial breakthrough hence would not have time for extensive courtship with their partner
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Why do you want to get married without a means of income? Irrespective of ur families view, I will never advise a woman to get hitched without her own source of income. it's very important especially when you barely know this man

ivylyn:






Why should i??

All I can advise you is this....


Look closely into his face for close to 5 minutes that should tell you if that is the kind of man you would like to spend the rest of your life with


if your heart is glad with it. .. that's your husband


Another way to handle the issue of your families are by skipping the protocols....pregnancy !!


pls before you quote me remember I'm entitled to my opinion

thanks
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To everyone that has commented, I say a very big thanks. Waiting a little while won't kill me or him. I've always had this opinion that life evolves every passing day, hence I've learnt not to compare myself with anybody. That fact that it worked for x doesn't guarantee it will work for y and vice versa . I rest my case in the hands of God. He has been faithful towards me till date, I trust him dangerously. I'm not desperate I just don't understand how people can wake up and draw conclusions about people they know virtually nothing about.

ivylyn:






Why should i??

Let him know their decision concerning the two of you.

If I were you I won't rush I to marriage with him.

Date each other for another year.

During that one year, make it an "operation know our families".

Let him visit your people often and you do the same with his family.

I promise you your family will change their tune, especially If he is a likeable fellow.

sisisioge:
Babes calm down...


Just pretend to do what everyone says while you do what you want. Since they've not met the guy and him them...just recycle him next year! Go for your service, possibly get a job, continue to court the guy( if he's worth it), then spring him on them next year. Just rearrange the story a bit for them then.

By God's grace, if he's indeed not your husband you might find that out soon enough. So no need to fight or terrorise your people into acceptance. They don't know the dude just as you hardly know him. Take your time...no go jump pas your boundary. Good luck.

Smart lady

How old are you??Let me know before i advise you miss!