Agreed no one should come between mother/father and children, there should be a period of healing, she might still be going through that period. Lets allow her and with time she would budge but not before then.



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Ten06:
Why should a man that is too broke to feed himself worry about kids, And now that your family don't want to interfere why do you think that we too will want to interfere?

cos him poor make him no see him children abi? No condition is permanent

Handsomecutepie:


Another silly excuse

Miss, have you not seen married couple going through the same situation?

Marriage doesn't change a wicked, worthless, bad and unreasonable ladies...

More often than not, marriage even make such hoes to believed that they are holding their husband down

you can imagine! .. so if your sister's baby daddy abandons her and two kids for a whole year you'll pat him on the back abi?
it would've been different if he stayed with her even though she was providing for the family.

fav444:
Ur brother bleeped up the moment he agreed to live and raise children together with a woman on whose head he didn't put even a cup of wine. I don't know how he is going to win that case. But if only they can settle the issue amicably out of court, am sure he may be considered in some way.

Alternatively
He may involve religious leaders in his church or mosque if he attends any.

Other guys in the house, this is a BIG lesson for una o

under the constitution, it is known as common law union! the man is not losing anything, the woman is actually stupid and by the time she realises this, it just might be too late!

Archaa:
Misplaced priority


the first thing he should be fighting for is financial stability
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he no get shame self
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Just like his younger bro wey show NL with dis kind shameful crap of a post... 8yrs with a woman who's not his wife without marrying her... I'd be too ashamed to post that.

Vorigo:
With the kind of responses you're getting, I hope you've learnt never to bring personal issues to a social platform. Only a very lucky folks get advice... Infact, the direction of the thread is normally set by the first 5 or so post, many just follow suit.

Hard luck.. .....Let the situation solve itself

No i really needed him to see the response...all kinds of people with different views in here..

Kaslyni:
Just like his younger bro wey show NL with dis kind shameful crap of a post... 8yrs with a woman who's not his wife without marrying her... I'd be too ashamed to post that.

...your opinion..why they never got married is another tale of its own...and where did i mention that she was just a live in?? before you conclude.
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eezeribe:


Your family can't fight for him because you all are broke... That's the simple tru
th.. stop covering up.

laughter won kill me with this one

kushsy:
...your opinion..why they never got married is another tale of its own...and where did i mention that she was just a live in?? before you conclude.
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So your brother slept with a woman for 8 good years, two kids, yet still got a reason not to legally marry her?

And for the said number of years, he is still broke and jobless still?

Same number of years, the baby mama payed all the bills for your brother and his kids?


Your brother is simply a stu-pid and lazy man, and seriously need to spend some quality time in jail. That lady should make sure she keeps him far away from the kids, else he may influence the kids to be lazy and unproductive just like him.

Yes! Until he goes to court for custody, he has got no legal rights on the kids. He is simply a sperm donor and a worthless one at that.


Again, if that lady is my sister, I would have long put a bullet hole on one of your brother's legs.

Lol, OP you no get shame for your family member. 8 good years. However it was also her fault she put up with your brother that long. He deserves a chance to see his kids whether they are under one roof or not. So she's wrong there. She has to pay for the consequences of her actions as well, 8yrs or not. No one forced her to be a babymama to a yeye man. So that should not be a reason to keep his kids from him.

ekems2017:
Absolutely correct. The woman is wasting her time. When the children grows they will surely look for their dad. Let him relax, look for a job and fix himself she will bring them for him if he starts doing well financially.

I witness a scenario and vowed that I will never take care of my children without their father. I no fit sufer alone make him come chop later.

What you people fail to undestand is that looking for a MIA. Parent and re uniting with them is only a small part of the picture. What about the psychological aspect? The child growing without the love, guidiance and protection of one of its parent? That is why I get angry when parents act stupid and break up or abuse/insult each other even to the child.
Children need happy and balanced home to grow. If you are not ready for the unknown with your partner, do not have kids.

So a man has bullet proof against losing his job? He is not irresponsible, he is not lazy, he is only out of job, sick and now lonely. The intercourse that produced the children pleasured them both so its not as if the man just dumped kids into her. Since she is daft as to shielding him from his kids, he should be smart enough to get his act together and in the end the kids 'answering his name' will look for the owner of the name they answer... and then she may become lonely with no kids, and no one to answer her name.

frankiedudu:


I think you shouldn't talk like that because you don't know what the issues are. You are claiming to be father and your wife is doing what your suppose to do. I guess you should be grateful and not try to cause any prob. Bside they are answering ur name

Yes...oh no...you have a head, it is flat and so is your brain and that's why we call y'all Igbo[/size][size=8pt][/size][size=8pt]

nkwuocha:


So your brother slept with a woman for 8 good years, two kids, yet still got a reason not to legally marry her?

And for the said number of years, he is still broke and jobless still?

Same number of years, the baby mama payed all the bills for your brother and his kids?


Your brother is simply a stu-pid and lazy man, and seriously need to spend some quality time in jail. That lady should make sure she keeps him far away from the kids, else he may influence the kids to be lazy and unproductive just like him.

Yes! Until he goes to court for custody, he has got no legal rights on the kids. He is simply a sperm donor and a worthless one at that.


Again, if that lady is my sister, I would have long put a bullet hole on one of your brother's legs.

Did you miss the entire point of the response? well what do I expect from a bedbug?

Ishilove:

Did you read the OP at all? Where is 'wife' mentioned in the post?

ElSherriff:
Did you miss the entire point of the response? well what do I expect from a bedbug?

I don't know, you tell me, seeing as you are a full grown bedbug yourself.

Nothing good, just blood sucking, parasitic and with the scientific name Ishilove Sp

Ishilove:

I don't know, you tell me, seeing as you are a full grown bedbug yourself.

bebe2:


8yrs live in lover

Shortly after they met he lost job, and the woman did everything for almost 8yrs.

Then ur brother left, now he wants to see the kids, and she is refusing!?

Just reverse the story and imagine if the woman was ur sister. Then u will understand better.

thank you, some people are being overly sentimental, forgetting what the woman has gone through,how can a responsible man disappear for a whole year (which one would think he took the year off to get his acts back together) only to show up still broke and demanding to see his kids with only biscuits to offer them, mteeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew, he is nothing more than a parasitic sperm donor sucking on his babymama

ElSherriff:
Scary stuff Man! Anyways...the ties that bind us to kids are not physical, they are spiritual and strong and long lasting. That is why you see kids almost behaving like their parents irrespective of time, place or circumstances. I have almost the same accent with my dad and we didnt live together for ages.
My point is, he is lucky he has a wife who is working and capable of looking after his kids even in the unfortunate scenario of losing his job. He should channel his energies to maintaining good health, and finding a lasting solution to his finances. You cant fight your blood because you want relevance. We may think the kids are being shielded from their father when in truth, the bond is getting stronger because they will grow up and realize the circumstances surrounding their segregation from their parents.
As for women who think they can trample upon a man because he has fallen, their own payment will be severe, you will train the kids, they will end up loving and appreciating their father.
I believe in second chances, in turning points and victory in the end. Let your brother be comforted, let him seek distraction and maintain his flame of love for his kids. One day, he shall behold them and it will compensate for lost time.

such a sensible comment.. top nutch

nkwuocha:


So your brother slept with a woman for 8 good years, two kids, yet still got a reason not to legally marry her?

And for the said number of years, he is still broke and jobless still?

Same number of years, the baby mama payed all the bills for your brother and his kids?


Your brother is simply a stu-pid and lazy man, and seriously need to spend some quality time in jail. That lady should make sure she keeps him far away from the kids, else he may influence the kids to be lazy and unproductive just like him.

Yes! Until he goes to court for custody, he has got no legal rights on the kids. He is simply a sperm donor and a worthless one at that.


Again, if that lady is my sister, I would have long put a bullet hole on one of your brother's legs.

you are so bitter...and sorry to burst your bubbles..as am writing this..kids and dad are together

ElSherriff:
Nothing good, just blood sucking, parasitic and with the scientific name Ishilove Sp

There is no parasite with that biological name, dumb head. Go get an education and stop disgracing yourself on the internet.

Although it is quite sad that your parents wasted their money training you in school but you turned out to be such a big disappointment. I nonetheless refuse to bear the brunt of your single digit IQ.

You are henceforth ignored because your crass stupidity and unintelligence is beginning to make me feel dizzy.

Do have a very unpleasant day ahead.

nkwuocha:


So your brother slept with a woman for 8 good years, two kids, yet still got a reason not to legally marry her?

And for the said number of years, he is still broke and jobless still?

Same number of years, the baby mama payed all the bills for your brother and his kids?


Your brother is simply a stu-pid and lazy man, and seriously need to spend some quality time in jail. That lady should make sure she keeps him far away from the kids, else he may influence the kids to be lazy and unproductive just like him.

Yes! Until he goes to court for custody, he has got no legal rights on the kids. He is simply a sperm donor and a worthless one at that.


Again, if that lady is my sister, I would have long put a bullet hole on one of your brother's legs.

This is harsh...

hahahahahahahahahahahahah...Anyways, in your spare time do reminisce on how I have got a BSc, (Hons) a Masters Degree, a Ph.D, a NEBOSH International Diploma, another Master's in R&DM in view at 28! + membership of at least 8 international professional organizations which are verifiable should you be humble enough to ask. I will text you my full names to check on google to confirm who you dealing with, but before then, I have an IQ of 140 which is smarter than 95% of the population of the world (including you), graduated with a distinction and toped my class.

As for your petulance and hunger for the ephemeral, it compares only with masturbation on the corridors of grammatical obscurity.
We could start a mini contest. Drop your name here, lets verify who is educated and intelligent. Bloody nincompoop.

Ishilove:

There is no parasite with that biological name, dumb head. Go get an education and stop disgracing yourself on the internet.

Although it is quite sad that your parents wasted their money training you in school but you turned out to be such a big disappointment. I nonetheless refuse to bear the brunt of your single digit IQ.

You are henceforth ignored because your crass stupidity and unintelligence is beginning to make me feel dizzy.

Do have a very unpleasant day ahead.

In some culture the children belong to the woman, and the woman's family since the man didn't marry her.

kushsy:
...your opinion..why they never got married is another tale of its own...and where did i mention that she was just a live in?? before you conclude.
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Where did you mention she was just a live in? Read my post again and tell me where the above statement was made or even implied.

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