what is it like getting married to a delta guy (ika north east LGA) as a yoruba lady. Reply needed please. Thanks

Are u marrying the tribe or you are marrying the man? And marrying into his family?

I feel u should be more concerned the kind of man u are about to marry. And what works in his family?.

As long as u are respectful and easy going, u shouldn't have a problem and remember adultery is forbidden in delta state. I think that's the only problem in marrying a delta man.. If the woman is promiscuous or adulterous, then she will see another kind of life on earth, due to the traditions and customs surrounding the land and families.
That's all.
Enjoy your marriage.

alexialin:
Are u marrying the tribe or you are marrying the man? And marrying into his family?

I feel u should be more concerned the kind of man u are about to marry. And what works in his family?.

As long as u are respectful and easy going, u shouldn't have a problem and remember adultery is forbidden in delta state. I think that's the only problem in marrying a delta man.. If the woman is promiscuous or adulterous, then she will see another kind of life on earth, due to the traditions and customs surrounding the land and families.
That's all.
Enjoy your marriage.

Thanks for your reply. I just want to know if there are some culture shock. This is marriage and not mere dating. No backing out after marriage remember.

SlimHan:
Thanks for your reply. I just want to know if there are some culture shock. This is marriage and not mere dating. No backing out after marriage remember.

The only shock u will may receive is from adultery. That's all.
If you are faithful, u should have nothing to worry about.
And be very sure, u truly love him and u are ready to be married and stay married Marriage is not easy, it's continous work which definitely yields good fruits. What both of u invest in it, that's what will be harvested. If you both are also team players? perfect!
So don't worry everything will work accordingly more as a praying and hardworking wife too. Delta men love their wives to be hardworking.
So that's about it

Best of luck!

alexialin:



The only shock u will may receive is from adultery. That's all.
If you are faithful, u should have nothing to worry about.
And be very sure, u truly love him and u are ready to be married and stay married Marriage is not easy, it's continous work which definitely yields good fruits. What both of u invest in it, that's what will be harvested. If you both are also team players? perfect!
So don't worry everything will work accordingly more as a praying and hardworking wife too. Delta men love their wives to be hardworking.
So that's about it

Best of luck!

.thanks Adultery is out of it anyways. Are there basic things they restrict their daughter inlaws from doing aside adultery? are you also from delta? i need more input...

SlimHan:
.thanks Adultery is out of it anyways. Are there basic things they restrict their daughter inlaws from doing aside adultery? are you also from delta? i need more input...

Nothing else.
Don't be paranoid..
Be positive and don't look for problems where they are not.

Or what do u expect to hear?
We kill and eat people for breakfast lol

U sef


Am done with this topic.
U can keep looking for problems.. U are OYO

alexialin:



Nothing else.
Don't be paranoid..
Be positive and don't look for problems where they are not.

Or what do u expect to hear?
We kill and eat people for breakfast lol

U sef


Am done with this topic.
U can keep looking for problems.. U are OYO

Please one last qtn.
The law against adultery that you mentioned, is it just for the wife or both husband ans wife are forbidden ?

Why don't you ask your husband-to-be?

alexialin:



Nothing else.
Don't be paranoid..
Be positive and don't look for problems where they are not.

Or what do u expect to hear?
We kill and eat people for breakfast lol

U sef


Am done with this topic.
U can keep looking for problems.. U are OYO

.lol i still have so many questions. Thanks for your input

Guitarlife:
Please one last qtn.
The law against adultery that you mentioned, is it just for the wife or both husband ans wife are forbidden ?

unfortunately it's just for the wife.
And that's the tradition.

The husband can choose to have as much concubines or wives if he wishes and his family won't kick against it. That's why I said op should be concerned about the personality of whom she's marrying. Is he monogamous by choice? Or polygamous in nature?

alexialin:





unfortunately it's just for the wife.
And that's the tradition.

The husband can choose to have as much concubines or wives if he wishes and his family won't kick against it. That's why I said op should be concerned about the personality of whom she's marrying. Is he monogamous by choice? Or polygamous in nature?

Yeah my Ex told me about this law...nd I think it's unfair

mhizesther:




Yeah my Ex told me about this law...nd I think it's unfair

It's highly unfair.. It should be placed on the groom as well.
But as it is?
Sighs that's the tradition and culture.
No two ways about it.

My dear the tribe is almost inconsequential, the question am I marrying a good man from a good family. I am Yoruba and married to a Delta man.

As regards that law it's unfair but hey i am sure you don't have plans of cheating right, so you should be fine.

Deseo:
Why don't you ask your husband-to-be?

I was going to say the same thing.

oh!, my daddy is Ika North East, so am I, and my mum is yoruba like you. hmmmmm, from my mummy's experience , I would only advice you to pray hard about it.

MsFaith:
oh!, my daddy is Ika North East, so am I, and my mum is yoruba like you. hmmmmm, from my mummy's experience , I would only advice you to pray hard about it.

Lol

but why should she pray very hard about it?

alexialin:




Lol

but why should she pray very hard about it?

well, that's the normal thing to do. And my mother complains and says she can never allow any of her girls marry from our side

MsFaith:

well, that's the normal thing to do. And my mother complains and says she can never allow any of her girls marry from our side

well it's good to pray before getting and even in marriage. The prayers do not stop.To avoid stories that touch.
It's well .

alexialin:




well it's good to pray before getting and even in marriage. The prayers do not stop.To avoid stories that touch.
It's well .

Abi.

MsFaith:

Abi.

Yea.