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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 4:12pm On Apr 17, 2017
johnnyvid:
Op I read and read your story and I shake my head. See that's how life is. Try and get your passport and apply for the school you want. After that pray to God for more helper on your behalf. That's how life is. It is only God that will help not man. A lot of people are in your shoes but they didn't give up in their dreams. Move on in your hustle and succeed. It is very challenging but God will make a way when seems there's no way.

Get a passport? How?

Apply for the school and pay for the course how?

You have to show you have the funds for the school and also to take care of yourself as part of the application if you are coming from Africa. Without it there is no visa especially for Australia.

If Nigeria is not working there are countries she can go to like Ghana or other ECOWAS countries.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by otokx(m): 4:32pm On Apr 17, 2017
Nigerians and entitlement mentality.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 4:37pm On Apr 17, 2017
Op my advice to you is to be prayerful your help can come from anywhere try and get your international passport ready any document that is within your reach for now going to abroad is not easy at all especially now. Just be patient am sure you will go far, God will direct someone else to help you forget about relative besides that your uncle still have younger ones that are aspiring to travel abroad too... Stop dreaming and base on reality. Note: you must have sufficient fund in your account in order to get a visa. How much can you save

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Benekruku(m): 4:39pm On Apr 17, 2017
They simply dont want you to be like them.


Same lots discourage you about traveling and personally wont return to Nigeria.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 7:42pm On Apr 17, 2017
[quote author=igho003 post=55636786]bros which country she dey becus europe no gt moni


She's in Norway. Norway is among the top 10 richest countries in the world with just 5 million plus population and they recently out seat Denmark as the happiest country in the world. If you doubt me do your research

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 8:49pm On Apr 17, 2017
opeyemihendrix:
well...The main fact we never admit is that things aren't also easy for them over there
They have to work out their ass to get the little they sustain with





Yes, money does not grow on trees and the money we earn we use to pay for our homes, transport, bills, food, clothes and tax even before we ourselves can think about paying for extras for our own selves let alone people we never gave birth to.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by 4dor: 11:48pm On Apr 17, 2017
I wonder how you hope to succeed with this entitlement mentality. You have said a lot but you've refused to take responsibility for your actions, you can't travel you said it's your Uncle's fault. You finished with a third class you're blaming your lecturer. Tell us what exactly do you hold yourself responsible for? You have only one problem and it's your mentality.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by salford: 3:01am On Apr 18, 2017
[quote author=Justice96 post=55656233][/quote]Being in norway does not mean that person has lots of spare money to throw round. what if the person has mortgage, car finance, credit card bills and all other debt to pay? one should be grateful even if that persons is nice enough to send a little money home.
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 3:09am On Apr 18, 2017
Justice96:
Op my advice to you is to be prayerful your help can come from anywhere try and get your international passport ready any document that is within your reach for now going to abroad is not easy at all especially now. Just be patient am sure you will go far, God will direct someone else to help you forget about relative besides that your uncle still have younger ones that are aspiring to travel abroad too... Stop dreaming and base on reality. Note: you must have sufficient fund in your account in order to get a visa. How much can you save









Yes I do i pray about the situation I have an international passport already, The dream is real and the hustle is tight only ppl in Nigeria facing such situations can tell,I have a menial job am doing even with the little i get I still help my younger ones in sch just wondering with the high unemployment rate in Nigeria how do one achieve such dreams for people bashing at me..

well maybe because I knw were it pinches me ppl out of Nigeria wouldn't understand ppl comfortable and doing fine here won't also understand only the poor with dreams can understand how i feel.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 3:26am On Apr 18, 2017
otokx:
Nigerians and entitlement mentality.







Sorry dear I didn't say am entitled to his riches but we are humans and have feelings I can't imagine an uncle my Dad helped in a little way that's made it far even with lots he've acquired wouldn't wanna help even shows them off on media.

I feel pained and sad why he doesn't want to help any1 I can't imagine how it feels like..I have a goal of which there are no jobs here to work and save for that's why i still go back to look up him since such help isn't easy getting out here.
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 3:41am On Apr 18, 2017
Benekruku:
They simply dont want you to be like them.


Same lots discourage you about traveling and personally wont return to Nigeria.






It's well bro I pray God touches our heart as humans.
God knws humanly efforts I have done my best I heard about Germany studies about schs there accepting my grades I saved little i went and did German A1 course language after the A1German language course i did I was told i have to have a blocked acct of €8,000 I turned back cos no one was there to help deposit such still tried applying for Norway wen i heard money deposit didn't push again.

Which effort haven't i made,or is it Canada I applied last yr I got admission for Jan studies in a sch in one of the island.Same issue no help keep asking God how long seeing this dreams want to fade off cry.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by moonraker(m): 3:50am On Apr 18, 2017
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but YOU cant force your uncle to help you

if he doesnt want to. Its all on him. Does that make him selfish?? Nope

Maybe you should stop looking at the situation from one perspective. Which is yours..

Do you know how he survives?

Do you even have an idea of the kind of bills he has to pay on a monthly bases?

Young lady, Europe isnt Nigeria. get that into your head.

I am not exactly sure what he faces but let me give you an idea of what it entails to live in the Asian region.


Health insurance

City Insurance

Housing Insurance

Social Insurance

Tv license


Then we come down to personal expenses


Water, electricity, gas, Internet (Fiber and Mobile) , Mobile phone, Rent, Petrol for car

By the time your done with all that, what do you think is left?? Yah, exactly!

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by TWoods(m): 4:23am On Apr 18, 2017
helpyom:

It's well bro I pray God touches our heart as humans.
God knws humanly efforts I have done my best I heard about Germany studies about schs there accepting my grades I saved little i went and did German A1 course language after the A1German language course i did I was told i have to have a blocked acct of €8,000 I turned back cos no one was there to help deposit such still tried applying for Norway wen i heard money deposit didn't push again.

Which effort haven't i made,or is it Canada I applied last yr I got admission for Jan studies in a sch in one of the island.Same issue no help keep asking God how long seeing this dreams want to fade off cry.

You didn't seem to plan well. Studying hard and making excellent grades in school would have given you a leg up - at least you'd be able to find full scholarships abroad. You remind me of many of my college mates who laughed and partied while the rest of us holed up in the library all day... well as my father used to say - life is a choice... you either study when you should study and play when its all done, or play when its time to study and spend a lifetime regretting your decision.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by 19naia(m): 7:32am On Apr 18, 2017
People see the bigger salaries abroad in terms of Naira exchnage rate and the quality of life in prefered places abroad, and assume it all means money is surplus.
The truth is that even with a Masters degree in USA, Australia or London, you will only be assured to lived comfortable in a decent area if you find a favorable job.

That large looking salary(in terms of Naira exchange rate) is not paying Nigeria rent or Nigeria home purchase prices. It is not buying all of that high standard of living abroad at the cost of living in an average part of Nigeria.

In New york city, and Sydney Australia, you will be lucky to start off in a simple rental house costing 700k Naira a month. And not including electricity and other ammenities.

And if they have dreams of buying or building a house in Newyork city or Sydney Australia, they will only be near the price of a basic house in those cities when they have enough money to buy a very fine house in Banana Island Ikoyi Lagos.
On top of that, they must eat, they must pay medical coverage, they must buy clothes, transport, leisure time to stave off insanity, care for the family and also pay towards retirement years or invest in business or stocks for the future.

It all adds up. So when you think that they are making easily 2million Naira a month abroad, it is huge and they should be living like Naija politicians, but with 2million Naira a month in NewYork city or Sydney Australia, you will have a basic house to rent, a simple car, food, clothes and basics. If you have a Family to care for, you best hope your spouse works. Because a family supported on 2million Naira a month there is not going far during day to day, but they will at least eat and sleep well.

The ones who live in cheaper cities, like i do, we can live off of less than 1million Naira a month and have the same things and a family, but the jobs will not pay as much as newyork. The manager positions, high pay position are not as available as average pay.

So those who are living abroad, building house in Nigeria and helping family, they are fortunate beyond the average situation. The avaerage Oyibo Abroad is barely supporting their basic life in their own country much less than even thinking of sending money to support people in Nigeria. So to assume Nigerians will enter Abroad and automatically be able to pay for everybody back home and build a house in Nigeria as well as Abroad, it is not true except for a few.

I know my family in Nigeria gets rare support but i know that when my grandmother in Nigeria was being sent money and phone from abroad, there were younger family members always there to pilfer her and another round of money and phone would always have to be sent. It was like that all the way to her death bed and still they pilfered despite her generosity to them. They took until she had nothing left but her death bed to lay on. Also the family house was swindled away. The one who took care of everyone was treated that way.
So when Grandma died, the idea of supporting cousins and nephews or nieces was a bad taste and even the desire to go back and visit was with sentiment similar to going to wander into a den of vultures.

Nigeria can be great and Nigerians can make Nigeria great with all their needs taken care of from home, but it is Nigeria that is the cause of Nigeria own problem and not the problem of people abroad. Who is sending them money abroad that they should be sending money to Nigeria?

Last time i was in Nigeria, i was spending half of my available monthly budget that i use to live a simple life in USA with no car expense. I was having an easy time in Nigeria because the exchange rate gave me a lot of Naira for less than $1000 for a month. People still wanted me to spend all my USA money there with them because they assumed i can go back to USA and pluck money off trees to start well again.

Some even asked for the shoes off my feet at the airport as i departed, like i can ride aeroplane to land in USA and pluck new shoes from trees. Some would collect money from me and then bring other family members to get money from me after. Next time i will give less to people so that when they bring their family to collect, i will give the balance of the less i had given before.
They all seemed to not understand that when i got back to USA, the $800 i had spent in one month there was nothing compared to basic expenses for me when i got back to USA.

I required reserves at home in USA to go back to paying rent, buying food, utilities and so on. And the ticket to fly there sef was more than $1000. How money go remain to just be dashing, dashing and dashing? And when police corner me to fire upon me for having no money for them, all those i dash before will have nothing to use to help me recover if i survive hand of police.

And all the random people just see my face on the street asking me money, it was too much. If i gave away all i had and roamed the streets with nothing, i am sure after a few weeks, most people would turn away from me and call me a madman and have nothing to offer me to console. I have been down that road before and learned well. People need to worry about what they can do for others and then their reward will come.
I gave most to those who helped me and were hospitable to me with their home and time. I will do the same next time and avoid all others as much as i can. Nigerians are some very hospitable people but they can chop and chop and chop and leave nothing to show for it and their hunger will still remain. Especially the politicians there.

I beg, go and complain to your politiciams for money. They are the ones who owe you and have robbed you of nation that can be as lucrative to you as Abroad is for your uncle.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by chidekings(m): 9:54am On Apr 18, 2017
Davash222:

Story!!

Story story my brother..
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 12:22pm On Apr 18, 2017
salford:
Being in norway does not mean that person has lots of spare money to throw round. what if the person has mortgage, car finance, credit card bills and all other debt to pay? one should be grateful even if that persons is nice enough to send a little money home.

We are grateful cuz it's not easy

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 2:20pm On Apr 18, 2017
helpyom:








Sorry dear I didn't say am entitled to his riches but we are humans and have feelings I can't imagine an uncle my Dad helped in a little way that's made it far even with lots he've acquired wouldn't wanna help even shows them off on media.

I feel pained and sad why he doesn't want to help any1 I can't imagine how it feels like..I have a goal of which there are no jobs here to work and save for that's why i still go back to look up him since such help isn't easy getting out here.

Face your front, leave him alone. Okay as he doesn't want to help you what will you do about it? Consult a babalawo or what? Instead of complaining, pray that God will bless you in your time.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Johnnyessence(m): 3:14pm On Apr 18, 2017
helpyom:







It's well bro I pray God touches our heart as humans.
God knws humanly efforts I have done my best I heard about Germany studies about schs there accepting my grades I saved little i went and did German A1 course language after the A1German language course i did I was told i have to have a blocked acct of €8,000 I turned back cos no one was there to help deposit such still tried applying for Norway wen i heard money deposit didn't push again.

Which effort haven't i made,or is it Canada I applied last yr I got admission for Jan studies in a sch in one of the island.Same issue no help keep asking God how long seeing this dreams want to fade off cry.
ohhhh my God sorry about that. Well try and pursue it again this year and post the latest development here on nairaland or any other platform. A lot of blessed people have been rendering help to the people that's in need ooo. Just try and make some effort about it. I still have faith on it. There's nothing God can't do. At least the people or person that will render help will see a lot of evidences in order for him to help you. Please my sister don't give up in your dream. Just make some push.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Johnnyessence(m): 3:32pm On Apr 18, 2017
londoner:


Get a passport? How?

Apply for the school and pay for the course how?

You have to show you have the funds for the school and also to take care of yourself as part of the application if you are coming from Africa. Without it there is no visa especially for Australia.

If Nigeria is not working there are countries she can go to like Ghana or other ECOWAS countries.
yes once you have your international passport you are good to go. Well I heard that to secure visa for australia is somehow expensive and hot for foreigners. Ecowas countries is pretty good too. But I only see few countries in the ecowas surviving the economy of their country.
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 4:24pm On Apr 18, 2017
No good job around with poor salary with majority of them available otherwise it would be nice if you call your uncle and tell him you have 500k or even 1 1m am sure he will be more than happy to assist you. The fact is that you have to come up with something, apart from Australia Canada and Germany there are other Europe countries that may cost you less besides Luxembourg, Slovakia have 98% visa acceptance rate. Now by the time you have pick your preferred country go to there official immigration website and see the list of documents required from you depending on your preferred visa student visa or tourist, working visa etc. You have to start from somewhere judging from your case you are likely to go for student visa hence if you are visiting your uncle's country try family visit or tourist visa for a start the most important thing is to get there first in respective of your visa your story will change by his grace. Am a student but am traveling to Europe soon as a tourist which is more easier am quite familiar with schengen visas av done a lot of research since i applied for visa . keep working hard my friend your current situation is not your destination

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by pendragon35(m): 5:00pm On Apr 18, 2017
19naia:
People see the bigger salaries abroad in terms of Naira exchnage rate and the quality of life in prefered places abroad, and assume it all means money is surplus.
The truth is that even with a Masters degree in USA, Australia or London, you will only be assured to lived comfortable in a decent area if you find a favorable job.

That large looking salary(in terms of Naira exchange rate) is not paying Nigeria rent or Nigeria home purchase prices. It is not buying all of that high standard of living abroad at the cost of living in an average part of Nigeria.

In New york city, and Sydney Australia, you will be lucky to start off in a simple rental house costing 700k Naira a month. And not including electricity and other ammenities.

And if they have dreams of buying or building a house in Newyork city or Sydney Australia, they will only be near the price of a basic house in those cities when they have enough money to buy a very fine house in Banana Island Ikoyi Lagos.
On top of that, they must eat, they must pay medical coverage, they must buy clothes, transport, leisure time to stave off insanity, care for the family and also pay towards retirement years or invest in business or stocks for the future.

It all adds up. So when you think that they are making easily 2million Naira a month abroad, it is huge and they should be living like Naija politicians, but with 2million Naira a month in NewYork city or Sydney Australia, you will have a basic house to rent, a simple car, food, clothes and basics. If you have a Family to care for, you best hope your spouse works. Because a family supported on 2million Naira a month there is not going far during day to day, but they will at least eat and sleep well.

The ones who live in cheaper cities, like i do, we can live off of less than 1million Naira a month and have the same things and a family, but the jobs will not pay as much as newyork. The manager positions, high pay position are not as available as average pay.

So those who are living abroad, building house in Nigeria and helping family, they are fortunate beyond the average situation. The avaerage Oyibo Abroad is barely supporting their basic life in their own country much less than even thinking of sending money to support people in Nigeria. So to assume Nigerians will enter Abroad and automatically be able to pay for everybody back home and build a house in Nigeria as well as Abroad, it is not true except for a few.

I know my family in Nigeria gets rare support but i know that when my grandmother in Nigeria was being sent money and phone from abroad, there were younger family members always there to pilfer her and another round of money and phone would always have to be sent. It was like that all the way to her death bed and still they pilfered despite her generosity to them. They took until she had nothing left but her death bed to lay on. Also the family house was swindled away. The one who took care of everyone was treated that way.
So when Grandma died, the idea of supporting cousins and nephews or nieces was a bad taste and even the desire to go back and visit was with sentiment similar to going to wander into a den of vultures.

Nigeria can be great and Nigerians can make Nigeria great with all their needs taken care of from home, but it is Nigeria that is the cause of Nigeria own problem and not the problem of people abroad. Who is sending them money abroad that they should be sending money to Nigeria?

Last time i was in Nigeria, i was spending half of my available monthly budget that i use to live a simple life in USA with no car expense. I was having an easy time in Nigeria because the exchange rate gave me a lot of Naira for less than $1000 for a month. People still wanted me to spend all my USA money there with them because they assumed i can go back to USA and pluck money off trees to start well again.

Some even asked for the shoes off my feet at the airport as i departed, like i can ride aeroplane to land in USA and pluck new shoes from trees. Some would collect money from me and then bring other family members to get money from me after. Next time i will give less to people so that when they bring their family to collect, i will give the balance of the less i had given before.
They all seemed to not understand that when i got back to USA, the $800 i had spent in one month there was nothing compared to basic expenses for me when i got back to USA.

I required reserves at home in USA to go back to paying rent, buying food, utilities and so on. And the ticket to fly there sef was more than $1000. How money go remain to just be dashing, dashing and dashing? And when police corner me to fire upon me for having no money for them, all those i dash before will have nothing to use to help me recover if i survive hand of police.

And all the random people just see my face on the street asking me money, it was too much. If i gave away all i had and roamed the streets with nothing, i am sure after a few weeks, most people would turn away from me and call me a madman and have nothing to offer me to console. I have been down that road before and learned well. People need to worry about what they can do for others and then their reward will come.
I gave most to those who helped me and were hospitable to me with their home and time. I will do the same next time and avoid all others as much as i can. Nigerians are some very hospitable people but they can chop and chop and chop and leave nothing to show for it and their hunger will still remain. Especially the politicians there.

I beg, go and complain to your politiciams for money. They are the ones who owe you and have robbed you of nation that can be as lucrative to you as Abroad is for your uncle.
You nailed it bro.I used to tink that way till my friend told me wat he was passing tru in Germany,I jst had a regression of thought.
Bt pls is any scholarship that can fund almost all necessary needs to travel abroad.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by fergieboy: 5:05pm On Apr 18, 2017
Hahahah see this one.. What of me where my own father is in Canada for so many years and doing very fine.. Abandoned us here and married a white women .. Did I die? No

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Johnnyessence(m): 6:21pm On Apr 18, 2017
Justice96:

No good job around with poor salary with majority of them available otherwise it would be nice if you call your uncle and tell him you have 500k or even 1 1m am sure he will be more than happy to assist you. The fact is that you have to come up with something, apart from Australia Canada and Germany there are other Europe countries that may cost you less besides Luxembourg, Slovakia have 98% visa acceptance rate. Now by the time you have pick your preferred country go to there official immigration website and see the list of documents required from you depending on your preferred visa student visa or tourist, working visa etc. You have to start from somewhere judging from your case you are likely to go for student visa hence if you are visiting your uncle's country try family visit or tourist visa for a start the most important thing is to get there first in respective of your visa your story will change by his grace. Am a student but am traveling to Europe soon as a tourist which is more easier am quite familiar with schengen visas av done a lot of research since i applied for visa . keep working hard my friend your current situation is not your destination
amen. All is well. One should not give up in their dreams. I will check out on luxembourg and other european countries you are talking about.
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Johnnyessence(m): 6:24pm On Apr 18, 2017
fergieboy:
Hahahah see this one.. What of me where my own father is in Canada for so many years and doing very fine.. Abandoned us here and married a white women .. Did I die? No
your faith dey strong oooo. All is well.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Saintsquare(m): 8:46pm On Apr 18, 2017
When all those yeye uncle wan carry girlfriend and her family enter money go dey that time,op sha take am easy...
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Lexusgs430: 9:46pm On Apr 18, 2017
helpyom:
My mums brother is in Australia for 11yrs a masters holder in an NGO doing well no family member he's helping am a university graduate graduated 2yrs ago and served being doing a menial job as hospital pharmacy assistant i have always wanted to travel to countries like Cananda,Australia,usa,germany but i seem not oppoturned its been my desire to go and study pathology for graduate diploma and Physician Assistant/ immunology & vaccines for masters being that i was frustrated by my Hod then in sch to sleep with him before i could graduate this led ,me graduating with a 3rd class.

i have vision for studies seriously need help nobody to even help me to travel out to achieve this dreams even if it takes me working my ass off for 1/2yrs to send my self to sch there i dont mind,worst is here in Nigeria no work even someone determined to hustle this hard and make the money can't even see any talk of saving i have tried little saving up to 40k just wondering how long its going to take me achieve this dream i intend achieving all these before 30yrs am 26yrs meawhile i got admision at age 19yrs due to all my encounters with my pervert sch lecturer made me graudate at 24.

i cry each night seeing this dreams fade away i have dreams but i can't i don't know where help comes from i wake every night praying and crying to God sometimes i would think no hope on my side.

Because the perception people have is very different from true reality ..........
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 10:37pm On Apr 18, 2017
Johnnyessence:
yes once you have your international passport you are good to go. Well I heard that to secure visa for australia is somehow expensive and hot for foreigners. Ecowas countries is pretty good too. But I only see few countries in the ecowas surviving the economy of their country.

And how will you get an international passport?

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 10:41pm On Apr 18, 2017
fergieboy:
Hahahah see this one.. What of me where my own father is in Canada for so many years and doing very fine.. Abandoned us here and married a white women .. Did I die? No

Wow. So he doesn't keep contact?
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 10:44pm On Apr 18, 2017
helpyom:







It's well bro I pray God touches our heart as humans.
God knws humanly efforts I have done my best I heard about Germany studies about schs there accepting my grades I saved little i went and did German A1 course language after the A1German language course i did I was told i have to have a blocked acct of €8,000 I turned back cos no one was there to help deposit such still tried applying for Norway wen i heard money deposit didn't push again.

Which effort haven't i made,or is it Canada I applied last yr I got admission for Jan studies in a sch in one of the island.Same issue no help keep asking God how long seeing this dreams want to fade off cry.

So you could get a hold on 8,000 Euro and you could not instead think of using that amount to set up a viable business in Africa? A certificate is not a job in itself and is a cost before it ever is a pathway to a well paying job or career. How long do you think you will work before you even save 8000 Euros outside of your cost of living?

Maybe God is trying to tell you something. Maybe your 'blessing' is right there in Nigeria so your attempts to run from it are blocked each time.

Have you thought about the possibility?

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by tobiasbeecher: 12:22am On Apr 19, 2017
moonraker:
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but YOU cant force your uncle to help you

if he doesnt want to. Its all on him. Does that make him selfish?? Nope

Maybe you should stop looking at the situation from one perspective. Which is yours..

Do you know how he survives?

Do you even have an idea of the kind of bills he has to pay on a monthly bases?

Young lady, Europe isnt Nigeria. get that into your head.

I am not exactly sure what he faces but let me give you an idea of what it entails to live in the Asian region.


Health insurance

City Insurance

Housing Insurance

Social Insurance

Tv license


Then we come down to personal expenses


Water, electricity, gas, Internet (Fiber and Mobile) , Mobile phone, Rent, Petrol for car

By the time your done with all that, what do you think is left?? Yah, exactly!
Then if you're being overwhelmed by all these bills, I wonder what you're still doing over there? Why can't you bring your azz back to Nigeria?
For christ sake, the girl said the uncle is doing well and was helped somehow by her father, so why can't she be disappointed with such uncle when she knows he has the capacity to help out? You mustn't be a millionaire or make all the money abroad before you can help.

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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by tobiasbeecher: 12:35am On Apr 19, 2017
19naia:
People see the bigger salaries abroad in terms of Naira exchnage rate and the quality of life in prefered places abroad, and assume it all means money is surplus.
The truth is that even with a Masters degree in USA, Australia or London, you will only be assured to lived comfortable in a decent area if you find a favorable job.

That large looking salary(in terms of Naira exchange rate) is not paying Nigeria rent or Nigeria home purchase prices. It is not buying all of that high standard of living abroad at the cost of living in an average part of Nigeria.

In New york city, and Sydney Australia, you will be lucky to start off in a simple rental house costing 700k Naira a month. And not including electricity and other ammenities.

And if they have dreams of buying or building a house in Newyork city or Sydney Australia, they will only be near the price of a basic house in those cities when they have enough money to buy a very fine house in Banana Island Ikoyi Lagos.
On top of that, they must eat, they must pay medical coverage, they must buy clothes, transport, leisure time to stave off insanity, care for the family and also pay towards retirement years or invest in business or stocks for the future.

It all adds up. So when you think that they are making easily 2million Naira a month abroad, it is huge and they should be living like Naija politicians, but with 2million Naira a month in NewYork city or Sydney Australia, you will have a basic house to rent, a simple car, food, clothes and basics. If you have a Family to care for, you best hope your spouse works. Because a family supported on 2million Naira a month there is not going far during day to day, but they will at least eat and sleep well.

The ones who live in cheaper cities, like i do, we can live off of less than 1million Naira a month and have the same things and a family, but the jobs will not pay as much as newyork. The manager positions, high pay position are not as available as average pay.

So those who are living abroad, building house in Nigeria and helping family, they are fortunate beyond the average situation. The avaerage Oyibo Abroad is barely supporting their basic life in their own country much less than even thinking of sending money to support people in Nigeria. So to assume Nigerians will enter Abroad and automatically be able to pay for everybody back home and build a house in Nigeria as well as Abroad, it is not true except for a few.

I know my family in Nigeria gets rare support but i know that when my grandmother in Nigeria was being sent money and phone from abroad, there were younger family members always there to pilfer her and another round of money and phone would always have to be sent. It was like that all the way to her death bed and still they pilfered despite her generosity to them. They took until she had nothing left but her death bed to lay on. Also the family house was swindled away. The one who took care of everyone was treated that way.
So when Grandma died, the idea of supporting cousins and nephews or nieces was a bad taste and even the desire to go back and visit was with sentiment similar to going to wander into a den of vultures.

Nigeria can be great and Nigerians can make Nigeria great with all their needs taken care of from home, but it is Nigeria that is the cause of Nigeria own problem and not the problem of people abroad. Who is sending them money abroad that they should be sending money to Nigeria?

Last time i was in Nigeria, i was spending half of my available monthly budget that i use to live a simple life in USA with no car expense. I was having an easy time in Nigeria because the exchange rate gave me a lot of Naira for less than $1000 for a month. People still wanted me to spend all my USA money there with them because they assumed i can go back to USA and pluck money off trees to start well again.

Some even asked for the shoes off my feet at the airport as i departed, like i can ride aeroplane to land in USA and pluck new shoes from trees. Some would collect money from me and then bring other family members to get money from me after. Next time i will give less to people so that when they bring their family to collect, i will give the balance of the less i had given before.
They all seemed to not understand that when i got back to USA, the $800 i had spent in one month there was nothing compared to basic expenses for me when i got back to USA.

I required reserves at home in USA to go back to paying rent, buying food, utilities and so on. And the ticket to fly there sef was more than $1000. How money go remain to just be dashing, dashing and dashing? And when police corner me to fire upon me for having no money for them, all those i dash before will have nothing to use to help me recover if i survive hand of police.

And all the random people just see my face on the street asking me money, it was too much. If i gave away all i had and roamed the streets with nothing, i am sure after a few weeks, most people would turn away from me and call me a madman and have nothing to offer me to console. I have been down that road before and learned well. People need to worry about what they can do for others and then their reward will come.
I gave most to those who helped me and were hospitable to me with their home and time. I will do the same next time and avoid all others as much as i can. Nigerians are some very hospitable people but they can chop and chop and chop and leave nothing to show for it and their hunger will still remain. Especially the politicians there.

I beg, go and complain to your politiciams for money. They are the ones who owe you and have robbed you of nation that can be as lucrative to you as Abroad is for your uncle.
So all these rants are just for you to tell her to go and ask politicians for money? Abeg swerve, we know your type

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