Let us break down the story:

Part 1: I fell in love with this wonderful girl. .and everything woz going on fine. .

Part 2: I discovered the girl was still going out with her ex (when she told me she already quited)

Part 3: she said she was trying to make up her mind on whether to stay with me or her ex

Part 4: she was stalling for about 2 months, and refused to talk abt anything relating to her ex

Part 5: i believe i have been patient enough, and decided to quit and move on with my life


Normally, i would have quited around part 2, but for some reasons, i have to be a bit careful, bcause
she is rather like a fiancee to me, but not yet made official. But my mind is made up.


Now, what is the best method of annoucing my retirement and be taken seriously? will a simple phone
call do it, or i should sit her down and tell her my final decision?

Double-dating is not my way, it is one serious girl = my life is rather too complicated to manage more than
one girl at a time.

sit her down and tell her it's over.

i would have pleaded you reconsider and forgive but her crime of double dating (cheating) is wrong and to think she has been stalling for two months

you are patient sef. i did not even do anything near the crime of your babe before my ex sat me down for similiar convo few days to christmas

thanks funky. .i think if a guy is too straightforward and honest atimes, it is seen as a form of weakness

MyHonour:

thanks funky. .i think if a guy is too straightforward and honest atimes, it is seen as a form of weakness

Nope. I do not agree with you. Being straightforward and honest is no sign of weakness oh.

Gabry : I say SMS her telling her this: Since you have no respect for my feelings, therefore you can go to hell and suck your ex's cock daily. WIsh you a happy life! AMEN
Gabry : WHO CARES
Gabry : I wouldnt!
Gabry : If she can go out with someone behind my back, she doesnt deserve my respect at all
Gabry : Seriously!
Gabry : U should just treat her like shit

funkybaby:

Nope. I do not agree with you. Being straightforward and honest is no sign of weakness oh.

This is the 4th time i will have to kick out a chic for double-dating. I think it is because i always
shower my girlffriends with love and everything, and treat them like angels - possibly makes
them too secure - or maybe i have just not met the right person.

But this one is different, she never quited with her ex, and lied to me that she was single.
And latter lied to the ex that i was just a friend. and words got around. .

I wanna respond to the topic now. Will respond to body later, If u started the date over phone, call it quits over phone. If you started the date live and direct, omo just break it up live and direct.
If She's meant for you, she'd come back knocking your door down. You can only open, i.e if you truly want her back.
Did i say I'll comment on the subject's body later? No long thing jooooh!

Sit her down pour out ur hrt 2 her & see hw it goes.

MyHonour:

This is the 4th time i will have to kick out a chic for double-dating. I think it is because i always
shower my girlffriends with love and everything, and treat them like angels - possibly makes
them too secure - or maybe i have just not met the right person.

But this one is different, she never quited with her ex, and lied to me that she was single.
And latter lied to the ex that i was just a friend. and words got around. .

4th time? sorry !
i do not think it has to do with you showering your girls with love. maybe you never set the rules from the onset.

my ex told me from the very begining that it has to be 'him and him only'. he made that very clear and i agreed.

besides, it depends on the type of relationship you have with your babes. If you are always in their faces and you communicate very often and spend almost every spare time together, where will she have the time, space and energy to double-date  

If nothing any sensible woman would love and respect you more when you show affections. It is really appealing when a man is bold enough to show and say how he feels.

With that said, considering the fact you at some point thought about marrying her; I'd say to really explain yourself meet up and tell her that you are done. This will give you and her closure.

By the phone. . .or . . .in person, . .Same difference. . .She will get the message anyhow IF you use the right words and intonation, . .gbam _{i have tried both . . .and the were both very effective at relaying the message . . .}

face 2 face if u r brave enof

Since you said she is more like ur fiancee,do u think confronting her or telling her off on fone will help ur emotions?You have a kinda strong feelings for and am very sure u dont have the courage to tell her u want to quit.
Why not act like a real man and fashy her for the time being.Dont boither to call her or look around for her.No text also.Then see if she will run back to you or finally stick with her ex.If she comes back you can now sit her down and talk sense into her head that she either stays with you or get lost for life.
With this i think she will respect you.

bros i think you dont need an angel
to tell what to do.
can u cope wit a girl double dating?u said no.
then wat ar u waiting for 4.
call her on phone and tell her its over simple.4get
abt hunting emotions here.be a guy.

wether u call her on phone or u invite her
its the samething. wat will be will be.

@topic

Location: In the restaurant where it all started.
How? Tell him/ her your mind and leave at once.

I agree with Nikkykay's suggestions. If the girl doesn't come running back, the whole r/s can then a natural death. That's what I would do to an insensitive and indecisive partner like your gf. All the best

Best way is in person - no need to sit down sha, however, she doesn't deserve your respect anyways and may not appreciate you doing it in person so feel free to do it over the phone as well. . . In short, send her a one line txt message!

hbabe:

I agree with Nikkykay's suggestions. If the girl doesn't come running back, the whole r/s can then a natural death. That's what I would do to an insensitive and indecisive partner like your gf. All the best

Thanks ladie. A couple of good advices here surely.

Guy, i think u really dont look b4 u leap! haba this is the 4th time. My advice is investigate properly b4 u commit as a gal who readily be with whoever can make her comfortable dats y the gals always lie bout having r/ships thereby breaking ur heart

kokonets:

Guy, i think u really dont look b4 u leap! haba this is the 4th time. My advice is investigate properly b4 u commit as a gal who readily be with whoever can make her comfortable dats y the gals always lie bout having r/ships thereby breaking your heart

are you sure i dont look properly. what if someone changes in the middle of a relationship?
But i think you have made a point there sha - maybe i should have investigated the ex

just send her a text message saying u found sum1 else that is not attached to her ex

na2day?:

just send her a text message saying u found sum1 else that is not attached to her ex

Hmm. rather interesting.

Updates:
[About Her]
I tried setting up a meeting today, but she said she is travelling
tomorow morning, and i may not see her for maybe some weeks or a month.
(Unless i decide to visit her bcause traveling to visit her will mean i[b] will have to spend the nite
there[/b] - which is certainly not going to happen in this movie).

[At my end]
There was a girl i met abt 2 months ago. . .that i have been investigating. .

[How i discovered her ex]
At the begining of the relationship:
How wahala started was that she told me her mother knew her ex. Then i noticed she made
sure i never met her mother - she looks for all sort of silly excuses. That made me suspect
something must be up - but i decided to keep quiet and see what will happen.

At the begining of the relationship, i decided to add her on facebook as my girlfriend because
i suspected that if she is still involved with her ex, that she might find a way to refuse that
idea. But she said i should go ahead that she has no problem with that. So i added her,
some of NLers that have my facebook profile will have noticed that i have removed her as
my gf on facebook.
So latter, the real boyfriend now noticed that, and that was where the war started
. . .and then i learnt that her she never broke up with her ex (so she lied to me right from the
start of the relationship) * and with that alone * i will never trust her again, no matter what she
says.

dude, u are wasting time, shoot her!

na2day?:

dude, u are wasting time, shoot her! 

what part of her should I shoot?

Get another girlfriend invite them both to your house and let them fight it out.Lol

stop calling her and don't pick her call then she will know u don't want her any more.

MyHonour:

what part of her should I shoot?

head first

lol

She played you, no doubt about that.
No need worrying about any explanations or a formula to use to quit the relationship.
She left you a long time ago, you didn't see the writings on the walls.

Just move on with yourself. Pretty soon, you'd find someone who really adores you, and won't take you for granted.
All the best. Cheers!

thanks ruskee. i guess it is finally over. i must move on

the best way should be thru ur behavior, O pa ri.