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Re: Ladies Please Stop Doing This, It's Not Nice At All. by xendra(f): 8:59pm On Apr 23, 2017
Tallesty1:
There is a wide gap between saying rude things about women and insulting a woman.
for a woman its thesame thing, OFFENSIVE.
Re: Ladies Please Stop Doing This, It's Not Nice At All. by kingofcasting(m): 11:14pm On Apr 23, 2017
Berlynn:
sinz how are you? oya check out my recent pics on my Dp

Re: Ladies Please Stop Doing This, It's Not Nice At All. by pasqal09: 6:07am On Apr 24, 2017
xendra:
park fr one corner. if what he said wasn't hurtful women would not have been reminding him abt d women in his life/family. so yea, I read it

Hope you knw he wasn't the one who said it?
Re: Ladies Please Stop Doing This, It's Not Nice At All. by tammie24: 6:55am On Apr 24, 2017
Tallesty1:
Lols.


But the people she wished that evil have done her nothing to deserve it. She should have said "May seven gay men surprise you with sex this week".
hahaha.... Exactly!
Re: Ladies Please Stop Doing This, It's Not Nice At All. by Nobody: 7:50am On Apr 24, 2017
Re: Ladies Please Stop Doing This, It's Not Nice At All. by lefulefu(m): 8:38am On Apr 24, 2017
naija ladies got no chill grin
Re: Ladies Please Stop Doing This, It's Not Nice At All. by Nobody: 8:44am On Apr 24, 2017
When I started reading your post, the point about women bashing women because they see each other as completion ( not entirely untrue ) I expected to see the second female poster attack the first one. Because that's usually the trend: A man says something hurtful about women, one woman pushes back, and another woman defends the man and talks about how his hurtful statements are true and all the woman's doing. But instead, what you have presented is one of the rare cases of solidarity. Both women pushed back.

Your grouse is with the fact that they have attacked the female relatives of the man in question. You think they should have wished him to be surprised by seven gay guys. In this guy's mind: rape isn't illegal, it's just surprise sex. Being surprised by seven gay guys would rank not as surprise sex but surprise illegal sex (because we vehemently outlaw consensual sex between two adults of the same gender, in this country, but some how find it questionable to disallow non-consensual sex between a dick and a pussy). It is women that are on the receiving end of this thing that he wants to trivialize as 'surprise sex' just because he is a man and wouldn't have to deal with it in the same way women do. So all these women did was remind him that if he didn't care about women folk in general, he should realize that there are women in his family.

In any case, if he considers rape to be merely surprise sex, then what those two women said shouldn't be seen as offensive (to him) at all. As for the women in question, their sentiment towards rape shows that they are women who stand for women and do not fit your category of those who sabotage each other.


Fair warning: people who do not have the capacity or the desire to understand, should do well to keep off this post. It's not for everybody.

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Re: Ladies Please Stop Doing This, It's Not Nice At All. by Tallesty1(m): 8:55am On Apr 24, 2017
RaggedyAnn:
When I started reading your post, the point about women bashing women because they see each other as completion ( not entirely untrue ) I expected to see the second female poster attack the first one. Because that's usually the trend: A man says something hurtful about women, one woman pushes back, and another woman defends the man and talks about how his hurtful statements are true and all the woman's doing. But instead, what you have presented is one of the rare cases of solidarity. Both women pushed back.

Your grouse is with the fact that they have attacked the female relatives of the man in question. You think they should have wished him to be surprised by seven gay guys. In this guy's mind: rape isn't illegal, it's just surprise sex. Being surprised by seven gay guys would rank not as surprise sex but surprise illegal sex (because we vehemently outlaw consensual sex between two adults of the same gender, in this country, but some how find it questionable to disallow non-consensual sex between a dick and a pussy). It is women that are on the receiving end of this thing that he wants to trivialize as 'surprise sex' just because he is a man and wouldn't have to deal with it in the same way women do. So all these women did was remind him that if he didn't care about women folk in general, he should realize that there are women in his family.

In any case, if he considers rape to be merely surprise sex, then what those two women said shouldn't be seen as offensive (to him) at all. As for the women in question, their sentiment towards rape shows that they are women who stand for women and do not fit your category of those who sabotage each other.


Fair warning: people who do not have the capacity or the desire to understand, should do well to keep off this post. It's not for everybody.

Sister me.


I used that rape example because it's the most recent. There are many other cases that I have witnessed on here that really disgust me, for instance, if a guy says to a lady "you're a fool" the lady will fire back "your mother is a fool" maka why?

The issue is between the two of them not the old lady who is seriously minding her business else where?

Please how do you define solidarity? If I slap you here now, will you go and slap my mom to show solidarity?

I don't see how wishing a little girl gets raped because her father supports rape as a way to show solidarity.

Joining the attacked to attack the attacker is my understanding of showing solidarity not extending the attack to innocent people elsewhere.

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Re: Ladies Please Stop Doing This, It's Not Nice At All. by Nobody: 9:08am On Apr 24, 2017
Tallesty1:
Sister me.


I used that rape example because it's the most recent. There are many other cases that I have witnessed on here that really disgust me, for instance, if a guy says to a lady "you're a fool" the lady will fire back "your mother is a fool" maka why?

The issue is between the two of them not the old lady who is seriously minding her business else where?

Please how do you define solidarity? If I slap you here now, will you go and slap my mom to show solidarity?

I don't see how wishing a little girl gets raped because her father supports rape as a way to show solidarity.

Joining the attacked to attack the attacker is my understanding of showing solidarity not extending the attack to innocent people elsewhere.


First of all, I know you were using the rape incidence as an example. Which is why I said that your claim, of women attacking each other, may not be entirely untrue. But in this instance, I don't see it. You're also right when you say solidarity is when one joins the attacked to attack the attacker, which is why I said: in this instance, both women pushed back. The comment by the man, accepted or not, was an attack on women. And commendably, those women chose to stay on the same side to push back. That's the show of solidarity I was referring to. The weapon they used is another matter, and I tried to explain why that was their weapon of choice - why they chose those words.

But let's not make this a women issue. It's part of our culture to attack innocent family members. Even guys do it. You insult them and they say: Ubanka! Your Father! And what did the father do? Absolutely nothing.

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Re: Ladies Please Stop Doing This, It's Not Nice At All. by Nobody: 12:25pm On Apr 24, 2017
grin Nigerian men take things too seriously, honestly. So what if they curse your mama. Who told you it will come to pass?? Mscheww it's not that serious.
Re: Ladies Please Stop Doing This, It's Not Nice At All. by BiafranBushBoy: 1:25pm On Apr 24, 2017
Berlynn:
sinz how are you? oya check out my recent pics on my Dp

Oya SInz.. go and do what you do best!!

wink
Re: Ladies Please Stop Doing This, It's Not Nice At All. by babyfaceafrica: 1:36pm On Apr 24, 2017
Fresca:
grin Nigerian men take things too seriously, honestly. So what if they curse your mama. Who told you it will come to pass?? Mscheww it's not that serious.
you people trivilize a lot of things......a well-brought up individual should not malign a persons family to get back at them...it reeks of emotional nativity.in Africa ,Family is sacred. Anybody I repeat who takes a shot at my family is not worth been my friend
Re: Ladies Please Stop Doing This, It's Not Nice At All. by babyfaceafrica: 1:39pm On Apr 24, 2017
I guess what the OP is saying us that stop abusing family members of someone that assaults you verbally, if you want to retaliate, get back at the person directly. I don't even know why people cannot ignore insults here,everything must be returned in ten fold.People should realize that what pains an individual more is been ignored
Re: Ladies Please Stop Doing This, It's Not Nice At All. by monifash(m): 1:52pm On Apr 24, 2017
xendra:
park fr one corner. if what he said wasn't hurtful women would not have been reminding him abt d women in his life/family. so yea, I read it
Id advice you read thru again...."rape is a surprise sex".....a threatless sentence directed at no one....nd contextually isnt that what rape is?....my own opinion tho grin
Re: Ladies Please Stop Doing This, It's Not Nice At All. by Nobody: 2:40pm On Apr 24, 2017
BiafranBushBoy:

Oya SInz.. go and do what you do best!!
wink
who send u? undecided
Re: Ladies Please Stop Doing This, It's Not Nice At All. by BiafranBushBoy: 2:42pm On Apr 24, 2017
Berlynn:
who send u? undecided

lol

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