But na you talk sey u dey mad na

Youdondeymad:
Behave

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Mynd44:

Another misconception. You think sex is some gift that women give guys and not something shared between two people who feel very strongly towards one another.

As for labels, if you worry about the labels society put you, you need to build yourself up

My post is agreeing with yours. I'm not the one with the misconception. I am telling you what a lot of guys think. That a woman loses value once they have been with her. Women don't think this way Btw.
And all these scenarios breed labels "ho", "slut", "cheerful-giver", leftover" etc

Not that I support. it.

SIRmanjar:
Pls he shuldnt try it o,you guys might continue from where you stopped behind his back..It has happened to so many people that married there junior brothers ex.They will continue especially if the guy is good in bed ad richer than him along the line.
Apart from that how person go marry woman wey im brother or frend don see,use her body finish..NEVER!

You are right, they might continue behind his back,its better to tell him now,but not directly, Tell your parents to call him and let's him understand the consequences, And if he insisted then he is on his own.but then try not to be too close to his family.

justmenoni:
But na you talk sey u dey mad na

Naaaaa! I didn't say so,"youdondeymad" is the correct....
Wetin do your old monicker,you dey exile abi(lol)


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This is serious. Dis is y it is not gud to date many men

The truth will reveal it's self one day.so tell your cousin/nephew now.if he decides to go on with her fine, but let the cat out.
If you dont, I swear you will pay the price in future

Mynd44:

This post is wrong and unfair. Except you are marrying your first BF/GF, you are also leftovers.

Being the ex of someone you know is not a sin

The only problem is that you know the person that she dated, any Guy marrying a non virgin too is eating someone's left over.

MENTORCH:


The only problem is that you know the person that she dated, any Guy or girl marrying a non virgin too is eating someone's left over.

Corrected

Mynd44:

This post is wrong and unfair. Except you are marrying your first BF/GF, you are also leftovers.

Being the ex of someone you know is not a sin

Some things don't necessarily have to be sin before they are unacceptable.
Marrying the ex of a sibling is all shades of wrong.

Everything mustn't be narrowed down to tolerance.

, but shey youdondeymad?

Youdondeymad:
Naaaaa! I didn't say so,"youdondeymad" is the correct....
Wetin do your old monicker,you dey exile abi(lol)


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jagugu88li:
No

I concur!


@ ur siggy, that makes me even feel extra special cos in all those numbers, there is just one of Me! Yes, Me!

justmenoni:
, but shey youdondeymad?

, LadyF take ya time



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HARDDON:


I concur!


@ ur siggy, that makes me even feel extra special cos in all those numbers, there is just one of Me! Yes, Me!

Good afternoon redmate.


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Youdondeymad:
Thank you all for your concerns,I really appreciate it.Though this not my old monicker,I can see many of my friends contributing.Please let's avoid unnecessary arguments and trolling,I registered this account few days ago just to remain anonymous.Thanks.



Smellymouth and smellingAnus still waiting for you guys.


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firstly, what's your motive in wanting to tell your cousin you once dated her? Was she a prostitute or you most likely want to discourage him from moving ahead with his plans for her which is what it looks like wether you accept it or not.... Listen, Listen, Listen attentively, please dont ever tell your cousin about your closed relationship with his wife to be, if he finds out in the future, simply tell him that you were after his joy and you weren't willing to gamble his happiness then for a relationship that didn't work out.... So let them be.... I will advise you attend the wedding but if you don't feel like, it's your choice to make but please no go put sand sand for another man garri

I'm not ladyf jor

Youdondeymad:
, LadyF take ya time




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justmenoni:
I'm not ladyf jor

*Yawns*
Ok noted

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Mynd44:

This post is wrong and unfair. Except you are marrying your first BF/GF, you are also leftovers.

Being the ex of someone you know is not a sin

I'm sure you'll be considered as "left over" by your next, and next girlfriend, right?

I wonder what manner of shallow minded comment is this.

SmellingAnus:
firstly, what's your motive in wanting to tell your cousin you once dated her? Was she a prostitute or you most likely want to discourage him from moving ahead with his plans for her which is what it looks like wether you accept it or not.... Listen, Listen, Listen attentively, please dont ever tell your cousin about your closed relationship with his wife to be, if he finds out in the future, simply tell him that you were after his joy and you weren't willing to gamble his happiness then for a relationship that didn't work out.... So let them be.... I will advise you attend the wedding but if you don't feel like, it's your choice to make but please no go put sand sand for another man garri

Boss man,I've been waiting for your comments since 12 AD(lol),thanks for your advice.Have a great day.


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Based on logistics... It depends!

quentin06:
Is not advisable to encourage ur cousin to date a gal uv used up and dumped, why should ur cousin eat ur vomit. u beta inform ur cousin or he will 4ever h8 u.

Vomit ke,na Wa for you o....i guess ur female friends an family members are someone else's vomit then, except they are all virgins.

The better option is to reach out to the girl, FB, whatsapp etc. Discuss the issue and ask her what she wants. If she prefers silence, work on the modalities for that and follow it thru.

Appearing on her wedding day only for her to discover you are related to her husband may cause her to react abnormally which in turn will raise questions.

Disappear from their lives after the wedding and be on guard in case the secret ever leaks. Your best defence is you were only involved in a platonic relationship.

Youdondeymad:
Boss man,I've been waiting for your comments since 12 AD(lol),thanks for your advice.Have a great day.


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hahahahah sorry I saw it late... Much thanks... Have a great day too...

diva90:
Based on logistics... It depends!

I'd like you to explain more on it if you don't mind.



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megareal:
The better option is to reach out to the girl, FB, whatsapp etc. Discuss the issue and ask her what she wants. If she prefers silence, work on the modalities for that and follow it thru.

Appearing on her wedding day only for her to discover you are related to her husband may cause her to react abnormally which in turn will raise questions.

Disappear from their lives after the wedding and be on guard in case the secret ever leaks. Your best defence is you were only involved in a platonic relationship.

Thanks but is the FB and whassap thingy not too risky?To be honest,I don't want to interfere in their lives,I want them to be happy.


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Youdondeymad:
Thanks but is the FB and whassap thingy not too risky?To be honest,I don't want to interfere in their lives,I want them to be happy.


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It is risky. Ur initial approach isn't to talk abt that but to establish contact. After that, find a way of communicating without evidence. I had thought to put that in at the first post but didn't want a longer epistle.

You will not interfere, you will be avoiding unforseen problems.

Or

Stylishly find out from you coz if he had introduced you to the girl via pix, if he says yes, then you already know she wants to keep it quiet. That automatically helps you play the game, if no, pls try to find a way to do the above. The aim is to avoid any problem that will curtail the marriage. What's done is done.

megareal:


It is risky. Ur initial approach isn't to talk abt that but to establish contact. After that, find a way of communicating without evidence. I had thought to put that in at the first post but didn't want a longer epistle.

You will not interfere, you will be avoiding unforseen problems.

Or

Stylishly find out from you coz if he had introduced you to the girl via pix, if he says yes, then you already know she wants to keep it quiet. That automatically helps you play the game, if no, pls try to find a way to do the above. The aim is to avoid any problem that will curtail the marriage. What's done is done.

Thanks for your contribution.



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Why did you guys breakup in the first place

Youdondeymad:
We've shared so many things together in the past,can't disclose more(I'm sorry).


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then save your brother and tell him the whole truth. if he then goes ahead, at least you did your part. shikena


but OP, na u don dey mad sha

TheLordIsGr8:


then save your brother and tell him the whole truth. if he then goes ahead, at least you did your part. shikena


but OP, na u don dey mad sha

Naaaa! Ayam not mad.Thanks for your contribution.


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oluwashedy:
Why did you guys breakup in the first place

It is a long story,can't even share it on the net(I'm sorry).But she is a good lady,we are both introverted(part of the reasons we separated).


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Friends, yes siblings no

Which kind of yeye comparison be this?

Bumbae1:
Nope
Trust me wont work out
Besides it's like taking someones left overs ....


For example :
Your friend is sitting next to you drinking garri (garri is the female his dating)
He spits inside this garri .. blow catar inside .. put pepper put salt in this same bowl of garri
now he drops the bowl of garri said his done
Will you eat out of that same bowl??

Now some random person can walk in ask
Na who get garri
His free to eat it .. has no knowledge whats gone into that garri
Though he may find out eventually ..

Do you get my point
It's the knowing

To the OP, don't tell mhen. She has found happiness, don't spoil it. Move on.