Raine80:
There is a bed , pillows a mattress on the bed, covers, a colour television a roof over their heads. He is wealthy in so many ways. Most people have to start from somewhere and this is his foundation.
So yes I would stay.

i can smell it... Its strong... Its a fresh lie

PeggySandas:
Only a shard-born with a gutter life posts shitty stuffs like this on-line! Your bus-conducting father did a stupid job in rasing sharny-breed cretin like yourself!


You Immerd shit-eating dimwit!

its like u own a ministry with swear words...

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As for d guy, he should use his brain and know dat he should paint dat wall

Raine80:
There is a bed , pillows a mattress on the bed, covers, a colour television a roof over their heads. He is wealthy in so many ways. Most people have to start from somewhere and this is his foundation.
So yes I would stay.

Some people can lie ehn...hehe

Smallville10:
its like u own a ministry with swear words...

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As for d guy, he should use his brain and know dat he should paint dat wall

Not all are blessed with a brain that functions!

Those walls tho. I know its cleaner than the walls on some hoes

Tajbol4splend:
God please add wealth to my handsomeness by blessing my little endeavors and yearnings.

LORD I KEY IN THIS PRAYER

The recession in town is affecting d youth (male ), y do u need a gf if u stay in such horrible environment, wat if he mistakenly impregnate d girl, wat type of children do u want to raise in such environment, y do we like sympathy? Y cant u work hard to b d man every woman want, instead of subjecting urself into a poverty loving man. If a lady post same trash as dis dt can a man marry er if she can cook, take care of d house n raise ur children. Its a man responsibilty to b financially ok b4 aving a relationship, cos love doesnt buy foodstuff @d market naida dose love pay bill but money does.Lastly, do u wish ur sisters or daughter dis kind of life u posted above

Ighoga898:
Everything that should be had in a room is in this room. Me that doesn't even have a mattress let alone TV nko.

Keep hustling bro, one day you will have all these in excess, I am a living testimony today

uknownforce:

Keep hustling bro, one day you will have all these in excess, I am a living testimony today

Ok

Tajbol4splend:


Except my own

Lol. Congrats then

Those walls are disgusting

What is wrong with it at least he has a home where they stay.i believe with time everything will get better joor.

rose54321:

This is what men, some Nigerian men have resulted to - sharing financial responsibilities.
It's shameful to say the least.
Do you see we ladies asking you to carry our pregnancy for 9 months.
This might sound harsh but any man that waits , expects, or counts on a lady chipping in financially is NOT a man.
What rubbish sef, while I understand that times are hard in Nigeria with the unemployment situation and all, some men have just become pussies.
I'm a strong advocate of women helping if able, but it shouldn't be mandatory, a real man shouldn't and mustn't count on that.
Hustle hard & try your​ best, if no results a good woman can assist, but don't plan on that assistance.

You're wrong. There are two approaches to relationships, calling men pussies because they subscribe to a view you oppose is very Nazi of you. There are men who believe women should be treated like slaves as the defenceless inferior baby-churning mules they perceive them to be, and there are men who view women as partners, co-captains, who play different yet equally important roles in a relationship. This is 2017 fam, these days girls are afforded the same opportunities as boys. Both sexes go to school, are allowed to engage in anything that can give them a competitive edge (including exploiting your sexuality to secure good grades in college and when applying for jobs, thus leaving male applicants in the lurch) etc. Tell me, what is the point of educating women, giving them jobs, allowing them to engage in businesses, teaching them trades, allowing them to exploit their talents and skills when ultimately they feel they should exist on the money provided by a man and only chip in during emergencies? Don't you think it'd make more sense if jobs were reserved for only men? If you have a job, you've deprived a man out there of a means to finance his wife's existence, the money spent on your education should've been used to educate a man so that he'd be able to secure a job, if you have a business you should hand it over to a man so that he can provide for his wife. You just go and sit down at home and pop out babies, remember to save some of the money oga gives you sha, in case there's an apocalypse or nuclear holocaust, seeing as those are the only circumstances when its permissible for women to contribute financially

Amen for me too.

bedspread:
LORD I KEY IN THIS PRAYER

lol

Everybody if forming good girl

They don dey tire small-small,

continue WE ARE WATCHING

CreamyMoltenLar:
You're wrong. There are two approaches to relationships, calling men pussies because they subscribe to a view you oppose is very Nazi of you. There are men who believe women should be treated like slaves as the defenceless inferior baby-churning mules they perceive them to be, and there are men who view women as partners, co-captains, who play different yet equally important roles in a relationship. This is 2017 fam, these days girls are afforded the same opportunities as boys. Both sexes go to school, are allowed to engage in anything that can give them a competitive edge (including exploiting your sexuality to secure good grades in college and when applying for jobs, thus leaving male applicants in the lurch) etc. Tell me, what is the point of educating women, giving them jobs, allowing them to engage in businesses, teaching them trades, allowing them to exploit their talents and skills when ultimately they feel they should exist on the money provided by a man and only chip in during emergencies? Don't you think it'd make more sense if jobs were reserved for only men? If you have a job, you've deprived a man out there of a means to finance his wife's existence, the money spent on your education should've been used to educate a man so that he'd be able to secure a job, if you have a business you should hand it over to a man so that he can provide for his wife. You just go and sit down at home and pop out babies, remember to save some of the money oga gives you sha, in case there's an apocalypse or nuclear holocaust, seeing as those are the only circumstances when its permissible for women to contribute financially

You miss the point of my epistle entirely.
Whether we like it or not, there's a societal role allotted​ to the man and woman. Yes civilisation has extended the women's role with her ability now to get educated and get a job, but it would be highly unrealistic to say we have equal opportunities.

Everywhere in the world, the man still has an edge with securing jobs (real jobs, I don't mean low - middle level secretaries or other junior positions), the ratio of men - women who hold managerial​ positions is still so wide.
So in plain English most employers still prefer men to women mostly because they feel a woman(referring to family women) has a split focus between the family and the job.

A high percentage of career women you see at the top are usually not family women, either single mothers, divorcees, or single. The logic is simple, you cannot serve 2 god's equally, either you focus on your home and the job suffers or vice versa, one has the give.

That said, you made a very derogatory statement about " women exploiting their sexuality to get favours", this is shameful to say the least. I don't subscribe to either sex exploring anything other than their talent to secure favours​.

Let's paint the traditional scenarios, the man works the woman remains at home to watch and take care of the kids. They both have DEFINED roles, none MORE SUPERIOR.

Time are changing indeed, and majorly due to the inability of men to secure desired jobs on time, or the ambition of the modern day women, we find both couples working. Usually the domestic roles which before was akined to the lady is also split.
I have absolutely no problem with this.

If you reread my epistle I was criticizing men that already budgets​ on the assumption that the women will cater for this and that. I believe EVERYMAN'S goal should be to fend COMPLETELY for his family. If the women is able to assist that's a bonus. But for a man to confidently allot financial responsibilities to the lady to me is shameful.

Anyways that's my opinion which I believe I'm entitled to.
It's simply logic, you want a very submissive wife, yet you want to split the financial role. It doesn't work my dear.

One of the main reason why women were submissive in the times of "Things fall apart" is because the man was the head - financial and otherwise of the family.
Recall that then women also followed to the farm but specialised​ in cassava and other less labour intensive crops. The men still did the lion share - yam and other crops that required intensive digging and ploughing.

My single point is that, there's nothing wrong with the modern day women assisting her husband, but the man too should realise that the respect and submissiveness will now be reciprocal.

A lady cannot bear half of the finances and not make half of the decisions. Your alpha male role reduces when the finances are shared, both parents become equal in all decision making process. Simple.

rose54321:
You miss the point of my epistle entirely.
Whether we like it or not, there's a societal role allotted​ to the man and woman. Yes civilisation has extended the women's role with her ability now to get educated and get a job, but it would be highly unrealistic to say we have equal opportunities.
Everywhere in the world, the man still has an edge with securing jobs (real jobs, I don't mean low - middle level secretaries or other junior positions), the ratio of men - women who hold managerial​ positions is still so wide.
So in plain English most employers still prefer men to women mostly because they feel a woman(referring to family women) has a split focus between the family and the job.

A high percentage of career women you see at the top are usually not family women, either single mothers, divorcees, or single. The logic is simple, you cannot serve 2 god's equally, either you focus on your home and the job suffers or vice versa, one has the give.
That said, you made a very derogatory statement about " women exploiting their sexuality to get favours", this is shameful to say the least. I don't subscribe to either sex exploring anything other than their talent to secure favours​.
Let's paint the traditional scenarios, the man works the woman remains at home to watch and take care of the kids. They both have DEFINED roles, none MORE SUPERIOR.
Time are changing indeed, and majorly due to the inability of men to secure desired jobs on time, or the ambition of the modern day women, we find both couples working. Usually the domestic roles which before was akined to the lady is also split.
I have absolutely no problem with this.
If you reread my epistle I was criticizing men that already budgets​ on the assumption that the women will cater for this and that. I believe EVERYMAN'S goal should be to fend COMPLETELY for his family. If the women is able to assist that's a bonus. But for a man to confidently allot financial responsibilities to the lady to me is shameful.
Anyways that's my opinion which I believe I'm entitled to.
It's simply logic, you want a very submissive wife, yet you want to split the financial role. It doesn't work my dear.
One of the main reason why women were submissive in the times of "Things fall apart" is because the man was the head - financial and otherwise of the family.
Recall that then women also followed to the farm but specialised​ in cassava and other less labour intensive crops. The men still did the lion share - yam and other crops that required intensive digging and ploughing.
My single point is that, there's nothing wrong with the modern day women assisting her husband, but the man too should realise that the respect and submissiveness will now be reciprocal.
A lady cannot bear half of the finances and not make half of the decisions. Your alpha male role reduces when the finances are shared, both parents become equal in all decision making process. Simple.

I deduce you're from a very traditional family, which is what has shaped your mentality. I grew up in a 'modern' family. Both my mum and dad had jobs and rose to the apex of their respective careers. Sure my dad had more money, but the difference wasn't exactly earth shattering. They both contributed to the welfare of the family. It wasn't so much one party demanding for financial assistance from the other, it was a harmonious understanding. For instance my dad would buy bags of rice, beans and garri and my mum would buy daily household provisions like milk, sugar, juice etc. I don't want to take too much space, so let me just make a few points-
1. In a healthy relationship, respect should not be one sided, regardless of who has more money. You deserve respect from your man, you have the right to have an opinion.
2. There should be understanding, relegating house chores to the woman is crap. I understand that some tasks suit a particular sex more, like women find it easier to cook and clean, while men might be more comfortable fixing electrical issues, operating generators and other machinery etc. That doesn't mean if my wife is delayed at work I can't enter the kitchen and prepare dinner, and if they take the light while I'm rolling eba, I'll expect her to go outside, pour fuel in the gen, check the engine oil and start it.
3. I have a job. I'm not going to deliberately search out a jobless girl, instead I'm going to lookout for someone that can complement me financially. I'm not counting on her salary to feed, I'm counting on her being able to function and contribute to the welfare of the house. Imagine someone from my background ending up with a woman that'll come and ask me for money to buy indomie.
4. I grew up in the city, so of course I can't tell you what's obtainable in the village. Growing up I saw girls around me enjoying the privileges I enjoyed, and more often than not they actually enjoyed better privileges, from the cute girls in class who were always pampered by teachers/lecturers (I can't count the No of times girls who couldn't spell their names properly got better grades than me) to the girls that received more pocket money than guys (I almost started world war 3 when I discovered one of my sisters was receiving 3 times what I got).
5. I agree that society does expect the man to be financially 'in charge'. I'm not from a vastly wealthy background, but to be honest, at my age, not many graduates (male or female) earn as much as I do, so probability is I'll likely end up with someone who earns way less (assuming the average entry level salary for a graduate is still 60k-70k. Many ladies dream of getting jobs after school, while some want to be housewives. There's nothing wrong with either choice, just as there's nothing wrong in a guy deciding to marry a lady that wants to work. Sure some ladies spend all their income on designer clothes, hair and makeup, free world. I want an educated lady with some form of occupation who desires to contribute towards the welfare of her family. Does this really make me any less of a man?

Freeman50:
Ladies..just be sincere here

No pretence......

This is lovely

CreamyMoltenLar:
I deduce you're from a very traditional family, which is what has shaped your mentality. I grew up in a 'modern' family. Both my mum and dad had jobs and rose to the apex of their respective careers. Sure my dad had more money, but the difference wasn't exactly earth shattering. They both contributed to the welfare of the family. It wasn't so much one party demanding for financial assistance from the other, it was a harmonious understanding. For instance my dad would buy bags of rice, beans and garri and my mum would buy daily household provisions like milk, sugar, juice etc. I don't want to take too much space, so let me just make a few points-
1. In a healthy relationship, respect should not be one sided, regardless of who has more money. You deserve respect from your man, you have the right to have an opinion.
2. There should be understanding, relegating house chores to the woman is crap. I understand that some tasks suit a particular sex more, like women find it easier to cook and clean, while men might be more comfortable fixing electrical issues, operating generators and other machinery etc. That doesn't mean if my wife is delayed at work I can't enter the kitchen and prepare dinner, and if they take the light while I'm rolling eba, I'll expect her to go outside, pour fuel in the gen, check the engine oil and start it.
3. I have a job. I'm not going to deliberately search out a jobless girl, instead I'm going to lookout for someone that can complement me financially. I'm not counting on her salary to feed, I'm counting on her being able to function and contribute to the welfare of the house. Imagine someone from my background ending up with a woman that'll come and ask me for money to buy indomie.
4. I grew up in the city, so of course I can't tell you what's obtainable in the village. Growing up I saw girls around me enjoying the privileges I enjoyed, and more often than not they actually enjoyed better privileges, from the cute girls in class who were always pampered by teachers/lecturers (I can't count the No of times girls who couldn't spell their names properly got better grades than me) to the girls that received more pocket money than guys (I almost started world war 3 when I discovered one of my sisters was receiving 3 times what I got).
5. I agree that society does expect the man to be financially 'in charge'. I'm not from a vastly wealthy background, but to be honest, at my age, not many graduates (male or female) earn as much as I do, so probability is I'll likely end up with someone who earns way less (assuming the average entry level salary for a graduate is still 60k-70k. Many ladies dream of getting jobs after school, while some want to be housewives. There's nothing wrong with either choice, just as there's nothing wrong in a guy deciding to marry a lady that wants to work. Sure some ladies spend all their income on designer clothes, hair and makeup, free world. I want an educated lady with some form of occupation who desires to contribute towards the welfare of her family. Does this really make me any less of a man?

Baba you schooled dat gurl wella and same thing I have been trying to point to ladies around me and some of my ex's........most 9ja ladies get dis mentality of "the man's money is for the whole family while her money is for her". I run from such ladies faster than a cheetah

bedspread:
LORD I KEY IN THIS PRAYER

You Got it

Tajbol4splend:


You Got it

Amen

how many girls can afford house like this

fabiano09:

the wall is dirty but the mind is clean.

Nobody talked about mind here. The question was can you stay in your bf house like this and I pointed what I disliked about the house.

nigeriapolitics:
The recession in town is affecting d youth (male ), y do u need a gf if u stay in such horrible environment, wat if he mistakenly impregnate d girl, wat type of children do u want to raise in such environment, y do we like sympathy? Y cant u work hard to b d man every woman want, instead of subjecting urself into a poverty loving man. If a lady post same trash as dis dt can a man marry er if she can cook, take care of d house n raise ur children. Its a man responsibilty to b financially ok b4 aving a relationship, cos love doesnt buy foodstuff @d market naida dose love pay bill but money does.Lastly, do u wish ur sisters or daughter dis kind of life u posted above

May God continue to bless your thoughts.

Stephanie22:
Nobody talked about mind here. The question was can you stay in your bf house like this and I pointed what I disliked about the house.

my mistake,sorry.

PeggySandas:
Only a shard-born with a gutter life posts shitty stuffs like this on-line! Your bus-conducting father did a stupid job in rasing sharny-breed cretin like yourself!


You Immerd shit-eating dimwit!

mmm new to nairaland ........thanks for showing us ur big grammar .........have u finished?

the only thing i want to ask is 'what position is the boy in? where the Bleep are his legs?

Freeman50:
Ladies..just be sincere here

No pretence......

PeggySandas:
Only a shard-born with a gutter life posts shitty stuffs like this on-line! Your bus-conducting father did a stupid job in rasing sharny-breed cretin like yourself!


You Immerd shit-eating dimwit!

you are very silly , the poster has done nothing to offend you, all you had to do was comment about the picture, instead you go on showing your Ill manners by insulting him and even bringing his family into this, for all you know, the poster might be richer than your ten lives worth, do the right thing and apologise.

[quote author=Freeman50 post=56659702]Ladies..just be sincere here

No pretence......

Dats the way I started wit my man many yrs back in ijora-badia in lagos, but today will live in four bedrooms apartment full of a/c in ajah.

rose54321:


This is what men, some Nigerian men have resulted to - sharing financial responsibilities.
It's shameful to say the least.
Do you see we ladies asking you to carry our pregnancy for 9 months.
This might sound harsh but any man that waits , expects, or counts on a lady chipping in financially is NOT a man.
What rubbish sef, while I understand that times are hard in Nigeria with the unemployment situation and all, some men have just become pussies.

I'm a strong advocate of women helping if able, but it shouldn't be mandatory, a real man shouldn't and mustn't count on that.
Hustle hard & try your​ best, if no results a good woman can assist, but don't plan on that assistance.

This is 2017, don't deceive yourself that a woman doesn't have the responsibility of financially providing for her home.
The amount a couple contributes depends on their earning power. If you earn more as a woman, you should contribute more if you both decide to live above the means of either of you. I believe you should contribute to the rent, feeding and other things needed.
I also don't believe in women being solely responsible for house chores cooking and child care. It should be by both parents. Men should also be heavily involved in this.
Both man and woman have hands, legs and brains. Each has a responsibility to provide for his/her feeding, transportation, accommodation and especially taking care of his/her children. If as a mother, you don't provide money for your children's needs, then you have failed especially if your partner is struggling and you're sitting at home.
I quite understand with couples where a partner has a very good job, and the other has to be a stay at home parent if its more expedient to do so and this benefits the family more ( e.g costs/ access to child minders).
But if you're working and not a stay at home mum, its expected you contribute your own quota to the running of your home.