johnson232:

@bold u don't need to resort to insult bro....
U sound as if u are infallible...We all make mistakes & this is a mistake anyone can make probably as a result of over familiarity in the house. Such a mistake does not necessary bespeaks disrespect, but oneness & a well united home...

But from the way u talk i will advise u to give your siblings some respect, u should ask yourself why the op husband acted the way he did...Spirit of Oneness bro...

iyaayi:
My live in brother in law of whom we are agemates barged into my room unannounced this morning. I was totally naked & had to dive under the bed from the shame & shock.

He stood there apologising that he didn't know i was in the room (we had met outside by the clothes line a short while ago).
The most painful part is that my husband who was lying in d bed in the room didn't find it necessary to utter a word.
When I confronted him, he said that shebi his brother had said 'sorry'
I really don't know what to do. I feel let down by hubby's reaction & also ashamed about the whole incident.
pls good folks, what do I do to redress the situation. thank you

MrsPhysics:

Bros it's an accident. Nothing can rewind the hands of time.
Stop feeling a potential hatred in an already peaceful relationship and family. The husband should be angry yet he understood it. Let the wife try to understand it.

I read a joke and women were asked if they will bath outside unclad for N100m, and all of them said yes. The brother worth more.
Let Love Lead

Caustics:
what do you want him to do? kill his brother? What is done is done. No need making a mountain out of a mole hill. Escalating it will only make you feel more ashamed. By the way how old are you? cuz after a certain age people seeing you naked shouldnt bother you this much.

emusmithy:
What are you defending? So what's the way forward....?

Boboye4slim:


abeg wetin you want make the husband do ehn, beat the brother cuz of that?? if no be say your mind too dirty ehn, mistakes happens no big deal!! she talk say the brother in law na her agemate, I.e he's matured, has a girlfriend of his, the situation na awkward situation for him too. he prolly wish it never happened. So I advice you to get over it and stop acting like a 16 yr old . he saw your unclothedness, let him apologise and you get over it

Caustics:
what do you want him to do? kill his brother? What is done is done. No need making a mountain out of a mole hill. Escalating it will only make you feel more ashamed. By the way how old are you? cuz after a certain age people seeing you naked shouldnt bother you this much.

Delphi:
Young lady @iyaayi, you don't need to worry cos 'nothing spoil'. I can bet or vouch that you brother-IL did not see anything. I know, to you, he saw you unclad but for me, due to the momentariness/swiftness of the action he wouldn't comprehend what he saw. That is the situation of things. He stood there for some time because he was stupefied. Let me give you two examples; if you've gone to the mortuary, you see dead bodies in their unclad state but true to fact your brain wouldn't comprehend/amuse at their unclad state due to the queerness of the mortuary situation. Secondly, someone involved in an accident may suddenly run amok and people will hold him in place. At that point in time, the victim doesn't know/comprehend what he does. @iyaayi, these illustrations are to let you know that you BIL didn't enjoy your unclad state. Also, he stood there for awhile apologizing because he lost control of any other voluntary action to execute rather did what (apologies) his brain thought best at that time. Your hubby who was there understood the situation at it's best and hence he dished out the best judgmental action. So, cool your temper madam, you're still intact.

Caustics:
kikikikikikiki hehehehehe hohohohoho

iyaayi:
My live in brother in law of whom we are agemates barged into my room unannounced this morning. I was totally naked & had to dive under the bed from the shame & shock.

He stood there apologising that he didn't know i was in the room (we had met outside by the clothes line a short while ago).
The most painful part is that my husband who was lying in d bed in the room didn't find it necessary to utter a word.
When I confronted him, he said that shebi his brother had said 'sorry'
I really don't know what to do. I feel let down by hubby's reaction & also ashamed about the whole incident.
pls good folks, what do I do to redress the situation. thank you

PaperLace:
I would have thought secondary schools are on mid term break, going by some juvenile comments here.

OP, you reserve the right to feel the way you feel. I will feel the same way. It's worrying that he comes into your matrimonial room without knocking, you didn't set the boundaries before now. He even stood there apologising, apologising while staring at your unclothedness and your husband didn't react? Nawa!!

It should hurt that your husband dismissed it like that. He isn't expected to kill his brother, but I expected him to show more seriousness. They both don't have any much respect for you.

Call the brother and warn him sternly never to enter your room, with/without knocking. He shouldn't even come close to your room. Try to forget about it, I can imagine how you feel _it's normal, but you'll be fine.

Sparkies:


Ask your mum if her unclothedness is a minor thing. Come back with your reply. By the way, I never said she shouldn't let go, I said she should warn him sternly never to try such.










After all the apologies, if women learns how to let go of minor things the word will be a better place.

Megaideas:


THIS IS THE MOST FOOLISH STATEMENT I HAVE EVER HEARD.

kitogram:
You're taking all this too serious. Adam and Eve were naked at some time. We came into this world unclad and we'll leave the same way. The guy didn't know your exact location at that time. He saw you outside and assumed you were probably still there. Now only a few moments later he had come to the room with that preconcieved notion in mind to likely meet his brother or no one else in the room at all. In his reaction you find the truth as he was clearly shocked by what he saw. Give the young man a break. He's probably beating himself up over the whole thing. People please keep it simple.

StarPlayer:
You my brother has a warped reasoning for not even trusting your own blood brother with your wife..smh

PaperLace:


If you guys think it's okay for the BIL to stand for however long it took him to apologise, while she scampered for cover, in her own matrimonial room _ I don't think it's okay!

I don't care how long they have been living before she came in, she is his wife and that's all I care about. If the husband has apologised and made her feel relaxed, I am sure she won't be here. The way he dismissed it is her grouse, not all these nonsense I am reading here of her wanting him to pursue the brother.

richyblink1:


Kindly read well or get a recommended glass. I am male for your information, and married as well. My younger brother dare not enter my room without knocking, not to talk of standing after seeing my wife naked. Except he wants to explain his real intentions towards my wife

Davash222:

Can't she lock the door knowing she's UNCLAD

ademoladeji:


And if he did enter your room without knocking nko? Will you kill him?

johnson232:

@bold u don't need to resort to insult bro....
U sound as if u are infallible...We all make mistakes & this is a mistake anyone can make probably as a result of over familiarity in the house. Such a mistake does not necessary bespeaks disrespect, but oneness & a well united home...

But from the way u talk i will advise u to give your siblings some respect, u should ask yourself why the op husband acted the way he did...Spirit of Oneness bro...

Megaideas:


THIS IS THE MOST FOOLISH STATEMENT I HAVE EVER HEARD.