Harrisee:
Anyway, after reconsideration, I would say that you try to rehabilitate your wife since you knew she was like that before getting married. You guys should deal with your problems. Bring her to Jesus Christ and keep praying for her. Perhaps she might change. Maybe God has put you in her life to help her.
#much peace

Thanks bro. I'm praying hard on this. May God see us through this. Thanks again.



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pocohantas:

No. In my boyfriend's house, while I pray he doesn't dump me...

FortuneTeller:
SmartMugu

Thinking about your children almost made me cry. I hope they are not in Detroit, because you are standing by to see them suffer. Imagine your son missing his father and wondering when he will see him again. By now, you should know how hard it is for young black boys to stay out of trouble in this system of America. Do you want your son to become a victim of the streets due to peer pressure? Living in ATL you see all the homosexual men. I'm sure if you ask, many of them will tell you they were raised by single moms. Who else will the son pattern if only the mother is there? What about your daughter? She will be looking at your wife dating different men and learning bad behavior. She may feel a sense of abandonment and start looking for that in men when she becomes older. Are any of these people giving you advice married? Are they your age mates? You have reached what many never have: a great job, a wife, and kids. You have it all and you want to throw it away. The enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy. You're letting the enemy have victory over you life. I thought you were smart, but I see you are really a mugu for the devil.

SmartMugu:

Yeah, they are in Detroit right now. I lived in Detroit for about 6 years before moving to Atlanta. I left there during the 2008 economic recession in the US, and after my neighbor knocked on my door and pointed his shotgun at me unawares and held me hostage with two others. After his sentencing was when I moved to Georgia. I was considering Texas and Florida, but I first got a job here in Georgia.

I don't want my kids to grow up in Detroit. Many of my Nigerian friends there already left for somewhere else, many of my American friends ended up getting shot and killed, they're gone, some locked up in prisons.

My ex before my wife ended up getting strangled to death by her new boyfriend after we broke up. The dude also strangled her 10 year old son while he was asleep after he already killed my ex. I didn't know anything about it until I started seeing 'RIP' on her page on Facebook page.

So, her new dude just strangled her and her son to death? Her name is Courtney Durr, you'll find a lot of news online about her. The dude that killed her got arrested and he's in prison again now, but Courtney was who I was dating before I met my wife.
Matter of fact, here's a link on what happend to her http://www.clickondetroit.com/news/sentencing-next-for-man-who-killed-southgate-mother-her-young-son

I don't want my kids to be exposed to that type of stuff, that's why I think custody battles is better off if she's hell bent on keeping the kids in Detroit. I don't want them there.

FortuneTeller:



Regardless of what any lawyer tells you, you won't win that custody battle to bring them back to Georgia. The reason is that your ex and the kids are now residents of Michigan, based on how long they have been there. I'm not saying a good lawyer can't make a case for it, but it would be very difficult. You can't say Detroit isn't safe, because other kids live there. You would have to specifically prove that your wife is not in a safe place and the imminent danger surrounding your children. Even then, she may only be required to move them to a safe environment, which does not necessarily have to be in Georgia. If you are really set on divorce, the best way to handle things is to let her come back to you and wait until her residency is re-established in Georgia. That is the only way you can possibly prevent her from relocating. If you don't do something, I really fear what may become of your children there. Please try marriage counseling. Also, even if you and your wife are not religious people, I strongly recommend attending a small solid church. The impact of having a personal relationship with a pastor and church members, can truly determine whether a marriage succeeds or fails.

kennybelle:
Men dnt get used, they get sucked financially, and dumped. They shld also move on. It happens to both sexes

Lalas247:

Trump ugly sha but look at his wifey she fine
Lol moral of the lesson no matter how ugly u may look someone go still love u die

FortuneTeller:


Don't let these devils run you away from your wife and kids. They don't have half of the things you have and are trying to give you advice. You know your situation better than anyone else, but don't be a fool and lose your family over some people who likely haven't worked in years and live in a self contained room. Many of them are teens and in their 20's. They have never lived the life you have and likely never will. It's good that you have protected yourself, but also think of your children. Your wife wants to come home. Please let her come and stop this foolishness. You never know. I could be in the house with your wife right now, eating Oreos, trying to appeal on her behalf.

FortuneTeller:
SmartMugu

Thinking about your children almost made me cry. I hope they are not in Detroit, because you are standing by to see them suffer. Imagine your son missing his father and wondering when he will see him again. By now, you should know how hard it is for young black boys to stay out of trouble in this system of America. Do you want your son to become a victim of the streets due to peer pressure? Living in ATL you see all the homosexual men. I'm sure if you ask, many of them will tell you they were raised by single moms. Who else will the son pattern if only the mother is there? What about your daughter? She will be looking at your wife dating different men and learning bad behavior. She may feel a sense of abandonment and start looking for that in men when she becomes older. Are any of these people giving you advice married? Are they your age mates? You have reached what many never have: a great job, a wife, and kids. You have it all and you want to throw it away. The enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy. You're letting the enemy have victory over you life. I thought you were smart, but I see you are really a mugu for the devil.

myking95:


It is you that is a mugu for Lucifer. So the wife cheated, took his kids away and wickedly used reduced HER OWN CHILDREN to be mere negotiation tools in her selfish game to extort money from him ..and u see nothing wrong in that. You have just opened my eyes to your true nature. Even paradise wasn't suitable for your types...u had to drag poor Adam to your shit hole. Hell is real though

myking95:


Donald trump is handsome, he is just old. Did u see how trump looked at 45?

SmartMugu:


Whom were you referring to in your comment? SmartMugu or @FortuneTeller?

I have no idea how the Lucifer dude u talked about came into what we were discussing. Ain't never never met that Lucifer dude my whole life, why are you linking him to my story?

Sorry bro, I think what you're reading is different from what I have read. Understandable. But nobody talked about Lucifer until you came around. Me no send Lucifer men, I don't even know where the dude lives. I don't know him, he doesn't know me either, period, not sure why you brought him up.

Everyone was just chipping in on my story, no one is to be blamed here. Your comment is appreciated though.
One love always.

SmartMugu:



I have no idea how the Lucifer dude u talked about came into what we were discussing. Ain't never never met that Lucifer dude my whole life, why are you linking him to my story?

Sorry bro, I think what you're reading is different from what I have read. Understandable. But nobody talked about Lucifer until you came around. Me no send Lucifer men, I don't even know where the dude lives. I don't know him, he doesn't know me either, period, not sure why you brought him up.

Everyone was just chipping in on my story, no one is to be blamed here. Your comment is appreciated though.
One love always.

myking95:


It was fortuneteller. It was impulsive, on second thought, I deleted the comment as its no use expressing such emotion online. But just checking out for you bro. If your conscience is clear, don't let any woman blackmail you into your destruction. Ignore the likes of fortuneteller. You deserve happiness, most women have an inner spirit that is just meant to destroy good men. Let her carry her bitterness elsewhere, if your children are smart as they will ultimately be held responsible for their choices, they will cease to be a bargaining chip and understand what is going on. The western system is bleeped. Be smart, be safe.

pocohantas:

pocohantas:
There was a thread advising ladies not to claim they were used and dumped. https://www.nairaland.com/3909291/ladies-stop-saying-used-dumped

The OP gave just one scenario and I was surprised that all our resident intelligent men couldn't figure out the other side of the coin...but that's normal. The men advised such women to count their losses and move on, with emphasis being on how they both enjoyed the sex. Why they feel it's all about the sex is story for another day.



Please, no semantics, no insults, no claiming not to understand...just straightforward answers like you all gave on the other thread. I want to learn