Alphamale2017:
when I see nairalnaders giving relationship help and they be like , " sit her down" Lmaooooooooo . majority of the times, it doesn't work . if u like have the knowledge of Albert Einstein, most women only learn when their fingers get burnt. Abeg nobody should bring that "sit her down " cliche, if at all , it should be someone different. not the boyfriend . . them done start again with "sit her down" Lmaooooooooo

This "sit her down" cliche sef don tire me oooo

tosyne2much:
I laugh and shake my head when I see some guys who keep on tolerating a cheating lady hoping for a change

Anyway, different strokes for different folks sha

So you won't tolerate her if she cheats :/

sexybbstar:


So you won't tolerate her if she cheats :/

I didn't say I won't tolerate her nah.. If you truly love a lady, you won't give a damn even if she sleeps with another man

tosyne2much:
I didn't say I won't tolerate her nah.. If you truly love a lady, you won't give a damn even if she sleeps with another man

Dey decieve yourself

Hopefulman - one of the best usernames I've seen on NL...

Your girl is not a bad person.

Remember what she said, "I didn't know what came over me."

Something indeed did come over her, and it's attraction.

And feeling attraction for the other guy didn't make her like you less.

It's most likely not even about the sex - that was incidental. She probably just enjoyed the guy's company.

Emperors, kings and presidents have also had their women stray.

Sometimes I think this is just the Universe's way of telling us, "Be humble, you're just a guy".

Martin0:
And after year's she still feels pains na wa ooo

Ask d op o

got one sentence for u bro. let her go. if u mari her she go stil dey find small dick upandan

Nma27:
Ask d op o

Nna aaaa na wa ooo

Martin0:
hahaha ok ooo,but wait ooo,do u believ a lady will complain over big manhood,see lies ooo,I thought what is more important is the pleasure she get's and how satisfied she is...

Which lady will say she prefer's small dick over big sized,your husband to be for that matter hmmm na wa oooo

Yeah some ladies do complain about that especially slim ones.

Martin0:
ok ooo if your opinion is like this eh,lemm ask you if it was the guy that was acting like this will you still build that strong love btw him knowing that he constantly cheat's on you even before marriage??

While I will give him time but if he continue with his cheating then I can't stay again.I hate cheating alot.

If you've been faithful to her all through the 6 years of your relationship, you can call off the relationship, otherwise you have no moral justification to hang her.

If however you have also got tired of her ogbonno soup and have gone out to eat egusi several times in the past, then you also should understand that one gets tired eating the same soup everyday.

it is this type of lady that will make you waste money on DNA tests.

love is not the problem here but trust... let her bro. you can never trust her the same again. a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage

Thanks for the comments, they are really helping a great deal. I won't lie I am broken

Lemme add this, I refuse to believe the small D.ick big d.ick thing, there's more to this, and damn the lies from the very first weekend, she made me believe it was just that weekend until I found out after 7 months yesterday she continued with this nigga until February this year, and when I said I was faithful I meant it, she knows my history, my ex cult related life back in days, the ladies, she's even had issues with ladies marking her territory and keeping them off.

I have a soft spot for this woman, the normal me for drill this chick turn turn that very day but to what end? Wetin I wan gain?


This isn't just me settling for this babe, but it's the amount of betrayal, cos she washed me before this nigga, for even allowing him chat me up same day they went to bed and then continued afterwards, look at the level of falling hand and downgrade.


There's no excuse for cheating

Nma27:
D Lady was a virgin... I think newly disvirgined ladies need small or medium kini for them to adjust

I feel that girl doesn't have an excuse for cheating.

Dude takes care of you, you're sure your relationship is ending in marriage. You know all his family members, his mum calls you and you visit his dad, then you cheat with the excuse that his dick is too big for you?...the same big dick that deflowered you?, the same big dick that has been bleeping you for 6yrs?. Need I remind you that the pussy is elastic and her countless sex with her fiancé would have made her adjust to his size.

She just had the crave to explore other men.

rebirthforgoody:





While I will give him time but if he continue with his cheating then I can't stay again.I hate cheating alot.

abi?

rebirthforgoody:







Yeah some ladies do complain about that especially slim ones.

eh eh na wa ooo

Na wa o, see gobe

Benita27:
I feel that girl doesn't have an excuse for cheating.

Dude takes care of you, you're sure your relationship is ending in marriage. You know all his family members, his mum calls you and you visit his dad, then you cheat with the excuse that his dick is too big for you?...the same big dick that deflowered you?, the same big dick thapt has been bleeping you for 6yrs?.

Need I remind you that the pussy is elastic and her countless sex with her fiancé would have made her adjust to his size.

She just had the crave to explore other men.

Thanks dear , I couldn't have said it any better, need I remind you I was the sex freak in the relationship. my anger is not even the act, cos I sincerely forgave it, but continuing after that, turned his b.itch till February

tosyne2much:
This "sit her down" cliche sef don tire me oooo

lol I think say Na only me oh. the girl done already too dey used to this guy. that's part of the problem

Hopefulman ...I feel your pains bro . But my brother it's over .

The truth of the matter is that everyone cheats one way or the other in all kinds of relationships .

I know you both have invested a lot in your relationship but my guy you have to let go .

It's painful but man let her go .

I've been in this scenario before and once that trust is gone ...it's gone .

Marriage is something like a Ponzi scheme ...i but at the same time only those who can take advantage of it end up being well off .

Sometimes I ask myself why we keep forcing ourselves to enter this thing knowing fully well what is involved .


Just let go ... and stay away from her . Don't suffer from great Gatsby syndrome trying to chase someone that is not yours .

From all you have said I think the best thing for you to do is to let her be, She loves you quite alright but you guys have been in the relationship for too long and she is kind of bored. You are the first man to be with her and she just wanted to explore and see how it would be with another man. she did it, the first you caught her and she asked for forgiveness meanwhile you never knew she went back to this guy until yesterday. My question for you is this, What brought about the conversation that made her confess to you she opened up to you meaning she is sorry and has nothing to hide anymore, You wouldn't have found out if she never told you. Give her another chance and see how things turns out to be. You truly love this girl that is why you allowed this relationship to go on for 6 years, Don't end things with her because of what she did months ago. She only wanted to have a taste of another man since you've been the only one in her life. pull yourself together and let it go. you love her and she loves you too.

Alphamale2017:


lol I think say Na only me oh. the girl done already too dey used to this guy. that's part of the problem

And again, the thing don too tey

tosyne2much:
And again, the thing don too tey

exactly

Benita27:
I feel that girl doesn't have an excuse for cheating.

Dude takes care of you, you're sure your relationship is ending in marriage. You know all his family members, his mum calls you and you visit his dad, then you cheat with the excuse that his dick is too big for you?...the same big dick that deflowered you?, the same big dick that has been bleeping you for 6yrs?. Need I remind you that the pussy is elastic and her countless sex with her fiancé would have made her adjust to his size.

She just had the crave to explore other men.

You are right.

gentlewiz:
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Bro. you may have a point but guess what, most people that cheat rarely love the person they are cheating with... she was playing with mud now she have lost a diamond.
she confessed cause she loved him, unfortunately love is fleeting. only love doesn't hold a relationship. There's also trust.... Cheating and leading a guy on for 7 months, think about it na, would you be able to trust her enough to get married to her? remember, marriage was supposed to be this year ending.

she lied
that she was going to visit her sister just to moan on some guys bed.

now he will doubt her whenever she says she's traveling, he will doubt the paternity of his kids, he will always have it on the back of his mind.

She confessed once, then went back... again and again...

Telling lies alone is enough to make me doubt you and kill my feelings... telling lies + cheating, recipe for disaster.

I don't know what came over me hahahaha.

Augustap:
Bro the first mistake you made was forgiving her the first time. Cheating for the first time isn't a mistake at all. The first time she wanted to cheat, she thought abt it really well, weighed the pros and cons and finally decided that she was either too smart to be caught or you were a fool and wud forgive. SHE CHEATED BEFORE, SHE WILL CHEAT AGAIN AND WILL CONTINUE TO CHEAT. YOU BETTER LEAVE HER AND FIND YOUR SQUARE ROOT. ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER.

Cmon, you don't believe one could make a mistake? Maybe in the heat of the moment? They could have been drunk or high or something...


Though I don't condone cheating I feel everyone deserves a second chance and only once...

We're all human you know...

Op the courtship was just too long. 6years! Thats too long. Ordinary 1year and half, am bored already. If we aint taking it to marriage? Then sorry.
Break up and move on.

Its not the end of the world.

Peace.

TheRealestGuy:


Cmon, you don't believe one could make a mistake? Maybe in the heat of the moment? They could have been drunk or high or something...


Though I don't condone cheating I feel everyone deserves a second chance and only once...

We're all human you know...

what are you saying, she dressed up, took her bath, paid transport to spend the WEEK with him.

krissconnect:
Well, a critical analysis to your story entails you might be dating either a naive girl, a teenager or a girl below 21 years. My advice is this, sit her down and talk to her very closely. Inquire from her what she truly needs and what's bn driving her to the other guy. Never make it sound like youre judging her, make her open up to you.
Note this, never force someone to love you, if someone loves you and honestly wants to be with you, there's no need stressing that. If she continues with her promiscuous life, be strong and let her go. Life goes on bro.

I'm sorry to say this but sitting down and talking doesn't always work. At this stage she won't come to her senses until what she is doing now hits the rock and she can no longer continue.
The best the guy can do is break off from the relationship, weather the pains, pick up the pieces of his life and move on. No matter what happens life goes on

Hopefulman:




Thanks dear , I couldn't have said it any better, need I remind you I was the sex freak in the relationship. my anger is not even the act, cos I sincerely forgave it, but continuing after that, turned his b.itch till February

I guess you know what you want better.