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Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by chuksjuve(m): 6:59pm On Jul 16, 2017
How do you handle someone drowning inside a pool or river?
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by jejemanito: 7:00pm On Jul 16, 2017
Vivipop:
@jejemanito
Educate him on the beauty of sex. Tell him that it is normal for him to want to do whatever he did(having porn videos) at that stage of his life(puberty). Also teach him that women aren't for pleasure and he should respect them. Take those away from him and advice him to focus more on things that really matters, like his school and the sorts. Make him understand that there is time for everything and he is still very young to have those.

#mytwocents.
Thanks

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Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by fuckpro: 7:00pm On Jul 16, 2017
jejemanito:
Experience. I was once a p*rn addict.

I need a psychologically smarter way to reconfigure his focus.
...i just read about an app in this forum to combat it,
U put it in his phone with a condition that if he goes to a porn site the app will report to u,there should be a heart to heart talk about what porn will do to his destiny however pleasurable he .may enjoy it now
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Edum13656: 7:00pm On Jul 16, 2017
even if u seize the smartphone he already have friends that has smartphones and he probably has tried mastu'bation. he is an early bloomer at curiosity stage. talk to him one-on-one instead of displaying a Holier-than-thou hostile attitude toward him. 99.9999% of men has access porn/mastu'bation sometime in their lives. to men it's like chop-and-clean- mouth .
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by bbbabes(f): 7:00pm On Jul 16, 2017
designmogul:
Check my signature

If person contact you now, you will say it's 100,000 to do card
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by bobestman(m): 7:01pm On Jul 16, 2017
The guy is nw an addict and it will be difficult for him to stop. You are the guardian so sit him down and give him a list of the consequences of porn and how it destroys ones life. Monitor him always. Threaten him that you will tell his parents if he doesn't stop it. Take him to church always. Give him assignments on Bible reading tell him to keep away from bad company. I hope that helps.
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by jejemanito: 7:03pm On Jul 16, 2017
StarPlayer:
I started watching porn at 14 and I didn't need any parent or uncle to descipline me before I outgrew it. He's become a teenager, give him time and he'll outgrow it like everyone else
What he doesn't outgrow it?

They are people like that and they are called "addicts"

I don't want to take that risk.

I want to help if I can
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by lelvin(m): 7:03pm On Jul 16, 2017
Restricting his access to electronic gadgets will not work. There are always ways. Tell him the side effects of addiction to pornography, and then let him make his decision. It's his life after all. Don't sugar coat it, as it is bro. Tell him the hard truth and let him choose. It's the best you can do for him now and trust that he will make the right decision. #1L

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Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by gretblue: 7:03pm On Jul 16, 2017
jejemanito:
I collected the phone - an android phone - and told him it is for less distraction purposes. But he needed a means to communicate with his parents so I gave him an old Techno java phone plagued with memory card issues

Guess what? He figured out a way to still use it to download UCbrowser first then a batch of P*rn

Na for there I weak.
I cant stop laughing here. Children of these days.
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by FeloniousFelon: 7:04pm On Jul 16, 2017
Take away both his phone and Internet privileges
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by emilyone(f): 7:06pm On Jul 16, 2017
jejemanito:
I collected the phone - an android phone - and told him it is for less distraction purposes. But he needed a means to communicate with his parents so I gave him an old Techno java phone plagued with memory card issues

Guess what? He figured out a way to still use it to download UCbrowser first then a batch of P*rn

Na for there I weak.
That guy na genus grin grin

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Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by adegeye38(m): 7:08pm On Jul 16, 2017
jejemanito:
My 14 year old cousin stays with me and I just found out he has an assembly line of X videos dot com clips hidden in his phone.

Going by the way I was raised will mean the melodrama of confrontation which will only lead to him - after deleting the current ones - finding out better ways to hide the next batch he will download.

I know because I've been there

So I need a smarter way mostly bordering on a "psychological" approach

Any suggestions please

Cc: onegai ifyalways

Preach to him, and input the fear of God in him, talk to him like you are talking to a friend, and leave him alone, if he is sensible he will change
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by naijaking1: 7:08pm On Jul 16, 2017
jejemanito:
My 14 year old cousin stays with me and I just found out he has an assembly line of X videos dot com clips hidden in his phone.

Going by the way I was raised will mean the melodrama of confrontation which will only lead to him - after deleting the current ones - finding out better ways to hide the next batch he will download.

I know because I've been there

So I need a smarter way mostly bordering on a "psychological" approach

Any suggestions please

Cc: onegai ifyalways

Encourage him or leave him alone. Masturbation is normal and probably good for people his age. Ever heard of excess testosterone?

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Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by fuckpro: 7:08pm On Jul 16, 2017
jejemanito:
Experience. I was once a p*rn addict.

I need a psychologically smarter way to reconfigure his focus.

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Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Martinez19(m): 7:10pm On Jul 16, 2017
OP, listen to me. Don't do "spare the rod and spoil the child", it will not work. Sit him down and tell him the truth that porn is a destructive habit, it's addiction ruins the intellect. Google the harmful effects of pornography on the memory and mind. It mirrors that of drug addiction. Tell me to consider his future that porn is not what it.

One love.
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by StarPlayer: 7:11pm On Jul 16, 2017
jejemanito:
What he doesn't outgrow it?

They are people like that and they are called "addicts"

I don't want to take that risk.

I want to help if I can
Imagine no mobile phones during my time and it didn't stop us. What makes you think you can stop him now in this internet era?

You can only sit him down and let him know you know he watches porn and even use yourself as an example and let him know you believe he can make the right choice and not allow porn to destroy his life, because if he allows himself become addicted, it will definitely destroy him. In that case, whenever he us tempted to watch, your words of advice will always ring in his subconscious.

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Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by banmee(m): 7:13pm On Jul 16, 2017
hanassholesolo:


Yeah, this looks like a fantastic plan. i'm sure nothing can go wrong.

That is the only thing you can do. Education. O.k sherlock, what's your plan?
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Nobody: 7:13pm On Jul 16, 2017
jejemanito:
Experience. I was once a p*rn addict.

I need a psychologically smarter way to reconfigure his focus.

Are you sure it doesn't run in the family bro?

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Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Nobody: 7:13pm On Jul 16, 2017
jejemanito:
My 14 year old cousin stays with me and I just found out he has an assembly line of X videos dot com clips hidden in his phone.

Going by the way I was raised will mean the melodrama of confrontation which will only lead to him - after deleting the current ones - finding out better ways to hide the next batch he will download.

I know because I've been there

So I need a smarter way mostly bordering on a "psychological" approach

Any suggestions please

Cc: onegai ifyalways

Oga... its the age of sexual curiosity, seizing his fone won't do anything...he has seen it...I cannot be unseen..
u are were once a pornn watcher....u know this is not something u just talk pple out off...right now it just a movie with raw sexual scnes to him...
If u are over 30years old I'm sure u probably started watching porn before mobile phones came into Nigeria...so seizing his phone won't just make him watch it on the go...pornn CD is just 150naira in the market...
If u are a christain..or muslim..expalin the spiritual and physical side of it to him....watching porn has no single advantage...it doesn't make u better than those that never watched it...it only makes u worse...then leave the rest for God...

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Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by emaxfash: 7:14pm On Jul 16, 2017
Lexusgs430:

Seize all his gadgets and buy him a Nokia 3510i.. Make him realise why you are taking such actions....
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by banmee(m): 7:14pm On Jul 16, 2017
adegeye38:


Preach to him, and input the fear of God in him, talk to him like you are talking to a friend, and leave him alone, if he is sensible he will change

God? That's worse. He's going to be sexually repressed and eventually turn into a religious nut job.

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Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by 1metre: 7:15pm On Jul 16, 2017
That is the side effects of modern technology. U only need to sit him down and talk to him. Seizing the phone is not the remedy remember he must hv friends who also watch such video. At 14 he is still young, I believe as he grow up he will realise himself. I remember those days in jss class when we use to read ikebe, we overcame those spirit as age unleash itself on us.
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Nobody: 7:16pm On Jul 16, 2017
naijaking1:


Encourage him or leave him alone. Masturbation is normal and probably good for people his age. Ever heard of excess testosterone?

What is excess testosterone??
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by GeneratioNext(m): 7:16pm On Jul 16, 2017
Don't be harsh on him or her especially as regards social exposure let dem know the do and don't
If u fail to teach them they learn it from another person....
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by NigerianScholar: 7:21pm On Jul 16, 2017
sexybbstar:
I think you should collect the gadgets with him, like phones, laptops, etc and monitors the kind of movies he watches.

Give a rule on the type of TV station, programme or channels he can tune to.

I hope this works.

Hahahahahahaha.

He has to overcome the addiction. Not avoid. The more he avoids. The more hell hunger for it
This is 2017. You cant stop someone from accessing the internet.

Hell use another persons phone to watch it. Get a cd or flash drive. Therll always be another way

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Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by yemistylz(f): 7:22pm On Jul 16, 2017
jejemanito:
Didn't you read? It no longer works
take his phone or any porn gadgets from him.
Tell him one he ll get loss of memory if he watches porn
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by muller101(m): 7:23pm On Jul 16, 2017
Buy more download more for him to watch. Baby papa @ young age loading........
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Nobody: 7:23pm On Jul 16, 2017
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Any suggestions please

Cc: onegai ifyalways[/quote]


Read my topic its short a straight away solution:
https://www.nairaland.com/3922933/conquer-porn-addiction-android-app
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Omoluabi16(m): 7:24pm On Jul 16, 2017
Kai. At 14?? Pornography destroys. it will destroy his mind and physically. Get him motivational books for adolescents that can get to him, speak to his parents. Take him for deliverance, let him become active either in church or a sports club.Get him a video game if you can. Pornography is the devil's industry.

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Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Exponental(m): 7:25pm On Jul 16, 2017
Tell him the bad side of sex. Try to convince him why sex shouldn't be a priority at his age. Let him see how being successful in life will attract females of different categories to him.... Sex and girls not a priority at his age.
Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by Nobody: 7:27pm On Jul 16, 2017
gbosaa:


Are you sure it doesn't run in the family bro?

Bad guy

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Re: How Should Parents Handle A Kid That Watches Pornography? by tripoli007(m): 7:28pm On Jul 16, 2017
Bros I had huge catche of porn at that age,had sex for the 1st time at that age too .. I have my 1st degree and just started my m.sc now ..Its all part of puberty because 90% of his discussion with his pairs now are sex and all .. Just try and act like a big bro that you are and educate him some more ... Make I go watch karla lane .Abeg grin grin

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