I truly now understand what people mean when they say "love hurts"! Everyone's talking about valentine,and how they'd spend their time with their loved ones,while i'm getting a breakup.What hurts most is that i was faithful,i tried playing the games by the rules,didn't put sex as the most important part of the relationship,stuck to only her as my one and only.Guess heartache is my reward.I'm not trying to say i'm perfect or anything.It's just that it hurts like hell investing time,feelings and all in a relationship only to be told that u were living a lie all along.Is it wrong to call someone u love regularly (we are in different places ie different states),is it wrong to always want 2 help solve the problems of the one u love?I just don't know what else 2 do cos it seems doing things right isn't the best.My friends warned me,they told me to be dating someone here,but i just couldn't.I didn't want to play with anybody's emotions.I'm really very sad and depressed.

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It's like she's ur first love,

Don't worry u ll soon get used to it. SH-T happens

It pays to be faithful and it also pays not to be faithful

Guy, be a Man my friend and stop actin like a Woman,

@Luvgenius.She isn't and wasn't my first love,it's just that i was really into her.She had a way of putting smiles on my face whenever i was sad.

@poster, breaking up hurts take heart i know it is easier said than done. Maybe ur ex is not the one for you!

@Luvgenius.She isn't and wasn't my first love,it's just that i was really into her.She had a way of putting smiles on my face whenever i was sad.Loosing her now really hurts,but i guess it's for the best.I really have to give dating and relationships a break now cos perhaps i'm 2straightfoward and relationships only favour players,liars and cheats.

Sorry for your pain but breaking up hurts. It will suck for a while but you will get past it! It does pay to be faithful cos one day when you have the right girl it will all of been worth it.

Ojigho:

I truly now understand what people mean when they say "love hurts"! Everyone's talking about valentine,and how they'd spend their time with their loved ones,while i'm getting a breakup.What hurts most is that i was faithful,i tried playing the games by the rules,didn't put intimacy as the most important part of the relationship,stuck to only her as my one and only.Guess heartache is my reward.I'm not trying to say i'm perfect or anything.It's just that it hurts like hell investing time,feelings and all in a relationship only to be told that u were living a lie all along.Is it wrong to call someone u love regularly (we are in different places ie different states),is it wrong to always want 2 help solve the problems of the one u love?I just don't know what else 2 do cos it seems doing things right isn't the best.My friends warned me,they told me to be dating someone here,but i just couldn't.I didn't want to play with anybody's emotions.I'm really very sad and depressed.

U forgot to do the most important schitzo. . . . .INSURANCE!!!
Next time, insure your heart against periodic heartaches and heartbreaks.

Take it easy hun. she just wasnt for you. Better to have loved with all u have than to love half heartedly. You did everything right. Someday she'll realize what she lost.

sorry bro . . . never trust a woman with your heart 100%. Their big eyes can never stay in one spot.

^^^ . So you guys don't trust 100%? Looks as if I've been deceived.

stillwater:

^^^ . So you guys don't trust 100%? Looks as if I've been deceived.

lol trust a woman 100% ONLY when you are both securely married. Outside that there is always the chance she is weighing her options with other men while keeping you as insurance cover.

davidylan:

lol trust a woman 100% ONLY when you are both securely married. Outside that there is always the chance she is weighing her options with other men while keeping you as insurance cover.

Not always true. It's only if you were a bad boyfriend she would have second thoughts.

Poster. . .

I think you need an aspirin for your headache.

stillwater:

Not  always true. It's only if you were a bad boyfriend she would have second thoughts.

lol you ask the OP whether he was a "bad" boyfriend. He still got the boot . . . now if only . . . he had "insurance".

davidylan:

lol you ask the OP whether he was a "bad" boyfriend. He still got the boot . . . now if only . . . he had "insurance".

Well he might not have been giving her the kind of attention she craved. You men can be so distant at times.
So how do you get your heart insured?

stillwater:

Well he might not have been giving her the kind of attention she craved. You men can be so distant at times.
So how do you get your heart insured?

Extra-curricular activities.

~Sauron~:

Extra-curricular activities.

Like?

Best piece of advise is to distance yourself completely from her now.  Forgive her so she no longer has power over your emotions in order to manipulate you, but move on and don't look back.

stillwater:

Well he might not have been giving her the kind of attention she craved. You men can be so distant at times.
So how do you get your heart insured?

abeg dont come up with excuses for the girl. Even if the OP had given her all the attention in the world she would still have left him. Arent you the same women complaining about being smoothered with too much attention?   You double-mouthed creatures of our Lord.

You get insurance by making sure there is another chic waiting in the pipeline shld the one you're with disappoint you.  

stillwater:

^^^ . So you guys don't trust 100%? Looks as if I've been deceived.

Stilly pls dont tell me u trust MEN 100%?

stillwater:

Like?

Stringing a host of chics along.
It's imperative for a guy to have a plan B to plot Z.

stillwater:

Like?

like having reserves, like they say, dont put ur eggs in one basket, when one goes, u go 2 the next, simple

TOPE2000!:

Stilly pls dont tell me u trust MEN 100%?

I do, I do, I do.

davidylan:

abeg dont come up with excuses for the girl. Even if the OP had given her all the attention in the world she would still have left him. Arent you the same women complaining about being smoothered with too much attention?   You double-mouthed creatures of our Lord.

You get insurance by making sure there is another chic waiting in the pipeline shld the one you're with disappoint you.  

Haaaaa, David ti pa mi.

~Sauron~:

Stringing a host of chics along.
It's imperative for a guy to have a plan B to plot Z.

So I need to get a plan B, since no one trusts each other.

Uc.Lloyd:

like having reserves, like they say, dont put your eggs in one basket, when one goes, u go 2 the next, simple

So that is how it works?

davidylan:

You get insurance by making sure there is another chic waiting in the pipeline shld the one you're with disappoint you.

Gbam

TOPE2000!:

Gbam

Stop agreeing to what you dont really believe in. All these guys sef blowing hot and cold all the time.

stillwater:

I do, I do, I do.

Haaaaa, David ti pa mi.

So I need to get a plan B, since no one trusts each other.

So that is how it works?

You've had all your eggs in one basket?

spoilt:

Stop agreeing to what you dont really believe in. All these guys sef blowing hot and cold all the time. 

Who said i dont blv in it. You cant out your eggs in one baskets with the guys of nowadayz oooooo
having an insurance is not cheating na . . . , . Just someone u keep at arm-length and he MUST knw u have bf but u guys are just friend . . . .nothing romantic

@OP

You don't drive without a spare tire do you? I think the girl dumped you because you came across all loving and infatuated. Naija women don't like that, they prefer arrogant and obnoxious men so next time you have a Naija girlfriend, don't be too nice.  

davidylan:

You've had all your eggs in one basket?

Yes, yes, yes.

TOPE2000!:

Who said i dont blv in it. You cant out your eggs in one baskets with the guys of nowadayz oooooo
having an insurance is not cheating na . . . ,  . Just someone u keep at arm-length and he MUST knw u have bf but u guys are just friend . . . .nothing romantic

So that's what you women do abi?   That's why i pity all these "Westernised" guys who think its ok and "open-minded" to let your chic give her number to any "friend" she meets.

spoilt:

Stop agreeing to what you dont really believe in. All these guys sef blowing hot and cold all the time.  

The truth is this happens depending on the situation. If i'm sure i'm not going to marry her you bet i already have insurance cover for her shld she mess up.