FILEBE:



Personally, to me, their shouldn't be any reason why we are doing boyfriend and girlfriend and it won't lead to marriage. What is the essence of the relationship if it won't lead to marriage? You guys just have to define your relationship, if na for friends of benefits relationship o abi na the do-me-i-do-you relationship.

Lastly, O. P, can you say or give this advice to your daughter?
Make you no vex o. Guy to guy talk over some bottles of malt and isi ewu.

abdulkayus:


And how do u knw the right relationship right from onset?
And guys are very cunning, manipulate a gal into relationship, have sex with her and then dump her, then move to the next victims. I have seen these and is still happening. A gal will truly love a guy bt all wat d guy is after is d sex and after getting it or getting enough of it, he will dump her. Guys are nt also helping matters.
And mind u it is d number of relationship a gal enter that turn her into a borehole.A gal can be in just one relationship, one body count , but will still be a bore hole cos of constant sex. What will u say abt that?

Fabulocity:
Dear Nigerian guys
There is more to life than sex. Stop this obsession about violating the next hole with your rotten pricks and watch your true potentials manifest, watch sucess, money and breakthrough follow you. Trust me on this one.
Sincerely,
A truly concerned female.

Silentscreamer:
Hmmm... Seems nigerian guys lives depend on sex. See ranting.

FILEBE:


baba. Me and you na man. Make we no lie give ourselves. Let it not be that i dey try do eye service or gather attention from the ladies but the truth has to be spoken bro.
KONJI NA BASTARD!
I won't deny the war we fight with this Konji every now and then as a guy. These girls sef no help matter them dey always trigger the Konji. Make i leave that talk for another day.
You see ehn, wetin u write up there na just to justify your request for sex from ur g.
Frnd. Sex should be mutual. If she wants to give you, collect it and don't make it like it is your birthright. If you want to make it your birthright, bros, marry her.
Sex is sacred. Na before before talk be that (it still is). Now, e no sacred anything for our eyes again. Which style our papa Don do wey we never do pass am before 25? We are just making a big deal out of sex
I rather, we focus on self improvement, money and family. If a girl sees this in you. Forgerrit! Ut have her legs (although some girls are stupid and born to open for any stupid reasons or deceit) As, a guy man, u just gaz work hard, make am and marry ur babe. If una marry... If you like, make una dey do the thing every night and morning. E no affect ny body and e good for una.
I know ladies have their faults or bad habits o but we should use bad to fight bad, e no make sense.
Personally, to me, their shouldn't be any reason why we are doing boyfriend and girlfriend and it won't lead to marriage. What is the essence of the relationship if it won't lead to marriage? You guys just have to define your relationship, if na for friends of benefits relationship o abi na the do-me-i-do-you relationship.

Lastly, O. P, can you say or give this advice to your daughter?
Make you no vex o. Guy to guy talk over some bottles of malt and isi ewu.

thesuave10:


Speaking for myself bros I will encourage my daughter to be sexually compatible with whoever she wants to be with before they get married. So don't throw that lame ass daughter line

pocohantas:


Is this real?
Coming from a man? Wow!



Don't get emotional...you said your mother and grand mothers did it. Na you talk am. I understand your stand now, it's a family thing.

christm386:

pls this topic is not 4 u, u re too ugly for God's sake, even if I been wan sex ur face go kill the urge within milliseconds, I am sure ur boyfriend(which I doubt that u have of course who will be that stupid to date u) will be the one begging for no sex until break up, keep ur smelling pussy to urself, ugly afonja

FILEBE:


Thank God you said before they get married . . That means they are fiance and finance and not your 200 level University daughter. Tell her that and see if she won't be nicknamed the "hole"

Ifedith:

E be like say you no get parents, anyway I'll forgive if you don't buy if you do then I'll still pretend that you are just trying to make story long.

Ifedith:

I guess you're very young, but if you're not tgen lemme remind you that our parents didn't do romantic relationship, what they did was point and kill. That's how they were able to remain virgins, the ones that engaged in romantic relationships did not marry as virgins, you can quote me anywhere.

pocohantas:


Your parents did same?
As in, your famous mothers that all married as VIRGINS?


So, you mean...your mom and grandmom slept with some men before marriage? I am just hearing this for the first time

abdulkayus:



Babe, u are right and kudos to you. Many guys here justifying sex in a relationship can't give that same advice to their sisters or daughters. They will be so over protective of them nt knowing karma is a bi.tch.
A relationship is a period to know eachother not a period for sex.

FILEBE:


Thank God you said before they get married . . That means they are fiance and finance and not your 200 level University daughter. Tell her that and see if she won't be nicknamed the "hole"

Before they get married includes while they are dating. This reasoning is disappointing Oya take .let me pray for you

safarigirl:
your idea of romance revolving around the activity of sex goes to show how immature you are.

Let me tell you a secret most of you people with the mentality of kids seems not to realize when starting such topics. You CAN be in a romantic relationship WITHOUT having sex.

You do not need romance to have sex, you can fu-ck any i-diot and you won't even know said eediot's name. That is sex, romance is connecting on a deeper, more intimate level than sex.

Sex is not the end all, be all of relationships. The sooner most Nigerian men AND women of today understand this, the better the marriages of this century will be.

I guess the relationships of old where men and women only had sex after marriage had no romance according to you?

Stellie:
hmm u finally talked wel buh wel somtyms we can neva tel wat a guys plan is. Some guys cn pretend for africa . Al dy want is just sex . Dy wud pretend buh wen dy get it, den its over....so wel, a gal shud giv sex to her boyfrnd wen she feels its ryt.. Its nt MANDATORY... To al dos guys mentionin money, wel spend money on a gal wen u feel its ryt , its nt MANDATORY

pocohantas:


Your parents did same?
As in, your famous mothers that all married as VIRGINS?


So, you mean...your mom and grandmom slept with some men before marriage? I am just hearing this for the first time

Silentscreamer:
Hmmm... Seems nigerian guys lives depend on sex. See ranting.

Stellie:
hmmm oga . U r d one to get d msg.. Listen a relationship is a period of tym wen u get to know ur partner bfor marriage , not where u get to fuccck ur partner...sex is by choice not compulsory so a gal can b in a relationship witout havin sex, its nt by force. Its up to d guy if he can cope or not....Now wen ur daughter tels u she has a boyfrnd . Tel her : babygal go fucck dat guy's dickk til it shrinks .. Kip tellin her dat til she gets married okay ..... Bye

Silentscreamer:
R u among the broke guys? Then ur priority shuld be about working hard to make money and not sex. Misplaced priority.

Silentscreamer:
Hmmm... Seems nigerian guys lives depend on sex. See ranting.

thesuave10:


Nairalanders should stop throwing fallacies up and down. Should I tell you the amount of relationships that failed because of lack of sex? If a relationship fails with sex there's more to it than blaming it on sex. You don't seem to know what sexual compatibility is that's why i spoke of enlightenment. Sex strengthens relationships if you don't know, know it now. Sex increases intimacy. Now sex can be harmful no doubt but it strengthens relationships. What of the millions of relationship that have failed without sex. Bros I repeat stop making fallacious arguments. Self control? So because I want to have sex with my fiance/gf before marriage there is no self control? Baba reason na . That is not self control. Self control is about knowing when and how much sex and not because you can stay in a relationship without sex. Infact that is madness

thesuave10:


So in your mind you have reasoned

FILEBE:


Oga mi sir! Han han! what is it with you and this sexual compatibility thing sef? is it only sex that fails a marriage? Sex failing a marriage is a small problem that can be fixed compared to other marriage problems that can't be fixed. Their is more to relationship than sex. Self control is having the urge and also having the power to say no. I can't say i am innocent. I am working on it. Okay? lol. It just not right that i think it is my right to have sex with a girl just because we are doing bf and gf. If she asks for it. Baba, i wont say No o. if i ask and she gives me. I will be glad. If she doesn't,then i rebuke the devil . If she becomes my wife. Ehn ehn! i can make it my food. if we are not sexually compartible, we will solve our problems ourselves. There is more to marriage. It is an institution. Sexual compatibility is the least of marital problems

pocohantas:


You will be someone's parent...I look forward to you passing your teachings on this thread to your daughters and sons too





Point and kill indeed...and the times the women went to visit the men in their homes before marriage. The times they spent for the mother-in-laws to access them, wasn't enough time to scatter the poosie?

Make una sha dey use protection. Too much diseases around.

Silentscreamer:
R u among the broke guys? Then ur priority shuld be about working hard to make money and not sex. Misplaced priority.

2funkyy:
I am sure op created this thread to read women's opinion,truth is we all want what we want, we always have a choice,its not by force, a girl can date who she wants, whether a broke guy,rich guy, sexually active, and platonic guy, guys too can date broke girl, rich girl, sexually active and platonic girl, my point is the choice is yours no one has a right to request for sex or money except you are married.