Pressing Issue. I have a very close friend who is a female. We were so so close that she visits me everyday in my hostel befor goin home. some weeks bk, she told me she had feelings for me and that in order for her nt to do anytin funny wen we ar alone, we should reduce d time we see. We both agreed that it wasn't right n possible for us to hav a relationship cos she is engaged already and has a son for d guy and secondly, I Dnt think I am ready for a relationship with her. I was advised to sit her down and let her know it was an obsession she was havin n not love. That I did. But guess what, since dt period I told her that we hav been havin problems here and there - little things that wouldn't lead to sumtin big now leads to Sth big. Excuses ar nw poppin up wspecially frm her dt I am avoidin her and that made her say sum things dt normally I don't think she would, goin by our closeness. Now she and I no longer call or even talk to each other though normally I didn't use to call, she does. I figure out I should just let her be, that is give her space but I want to be sure that's d right move seein that I hav askd her befor wat d problem is and she was sayin dt I was ignorin her which ofcourse is nt true cos she couldn't giv any tangible occurence dt made her draw her conclusion..... I just want to give her some visible space. I woudnt want d frieendship ended BUT IF THAT'S D BEST THING, WHY NOT ? I can't kill myself. I need guiding responses.

You did the right thing by letting her know you can't be in a relationship with her b/c she's engaged to someone else. Don't do anything or tell her anything further than what you've already told her b/c you would be instigating things then. As long as she's engaged to the guy, you have no business starting a romantic relationship with her b/c that means she has already made her choice. She should sort herself out if she's confused. If you were the other guy you wouldn't be pleased knowing your fiancee's seeing someone else.

She should drop the engagement with the other guy and date you if she likes you so much. Getting pregnant with someone doesn't mean he has to be your life partner. Are you ready to raise her child?

You should ask yourself how you feel about her. My advice to you is for you to tell what you want. If you want a relationship, fine, if you don't, fine. Just let her know your stand. Albeit, if she's still act the same way, then leave her be. It's obvious you guys can't be platonic friends.

I've always believed a man and a woman can't be platonic friends without their emotions getting the best of them.

WiredLeggings:
You did the right thing by letting her know you can't be in a relationship with her b/c she's engaged to someone else. Don't do anything or tell her anything further than what you've already told her b/c you would be instigating things then. As long as she's engaged to the guy, you have no business starting a romantic relationship with her b/c that means she has already made her choice. She should sort herself out if she's confused. If you were the other guy you wouldn't be pleased knowing your fiancee's seeing someone else.

not intending to have a relationship but lik I said, she's behaving funny now. Making me consider outright spacing from her though considerin our friendship also. Thanks

Seun:
She should drop the engagement with the other guy and date you if she likes you so much. Getting pregnant with someone doesn't mean he has to be your life partner. Are you ready to raise her child?

got my eyes somewhere else already. Just concerned about our friendship.. It may just hit d rock

AHCB:
You should ask yourself how you feel about her. My advice to you is for you to tell what you want. If you want a relationship, fine, if you don't, fine. Just let her know your stand. Albeit, if she's still act the same way, then leave her be. It's obvious you guys can't be platonic friends.

I've always believed a man and a woman can't be platonic friends without their emotions getting the best of them.

thanks so great

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Evablizin:

I was looking for the reason why you created the thread and i did not see it..
>>>>> She was engaged and you gave her space..
>>>>>She has feelings for you and you made a decision not to break her relationship by staying away

what kind of guidance do you want from people again?

Richy4:
I was looking for the reason why you created the thread and i did not see it..
>>>>> She was engaged and you gave her space..
>>>>>She has feelings for you and you made a decision not to break her relationship by staying away

what kind of guidance do you want from people again?

Ok, tnx for response.

Successdude:
got my eyes somewhere else already. Just concerned about our friendship.. It may just hit d rock

It will hit the rocks. You can't eat your cake and have it.

Seun:
It will hit the rocks. You can't eat your cake and have it.

Seun you know how to give relationship advise very well. But we have not seen your girlfriend's picture or your pre-wedding pics. When are you going to shut down NL with your pre-wedding pics? Time is going o. Choose one out of all your girlfriends already.

Nikita1:
OP, better to let the friendship go. It's complicated already. I know it's kind of sad when you lose a good friend but in this case, she's engaged with a child. Let her Goan rebuild her relationship with the father of her son. She will thank you later for that.


Seun, cake ko, Flour ni

ok thanks for response.....

baby124:

Seun you know how to give relationship advise very well. But we have not seen your girlfriend's picture or your pre-wedding pics. When are you going to shut down NL with your pre-wedding pics? Time is going o. Choose one out of all your girlfriends already.

lol...Oga Seun right now;