eyinjuege:


Life has always been about choices.
If a woman chooses to breast feed, wonderful. She may also choose not to. The child will still live.
If she decides she and her partner can cope without a nanny, that's still great. If she can't cope without one, there are always options, provided she and her partner can afford it.
When a mother goes all the way out for her child, she should be appreciated, and never forget she had other choices or options.
All the royal household have always been raised by nannies, so nothing new there btw. Despite the fact they don't have serious jobs, except occasional ceremonial visits

A good mother has no choices or options, her child must pull her hair or climb her while she sleeps one way or the other.

MizAijay:


I do agree with you here. Child upbringing is a major task on it's own and a mother deserves all the help she can get. How a mother chooses to raise her child is up to her as long as the child is not harmed. If she chooses formula feeding and having nannies around to help out, it's okay as long the child is proper taken care of. But for people like me who can worry for Africa and beyond we would prefer to do without the nanny. It's all part of the joy of motherhood.

I quite understand you, and I would have gone with the flow of the thread till someone mentioned she doesnt have a choice.
We also should understand some women don't have the luxury of being there always for their children. Especially when they are married to men who cannot pull their weight. You can imagine a woman who's work entails she travels all around. If she resigns, they all starve as the husband may not have a good job. If he's a decent fellow, he will provide child care for his children. If he feels that's beneath him, the children are either pushed to their grandmas or a live in nanny takes full charge.
I'm sure a lot of women would give up their careers to stay home with their children, but that can only work if their partners bring home the much needed dough. Again some are single mothers for whatever reason.
Some women also suffer from post natal depression and it's extreme and can't even care for any child as it's unsafe. They even need care themselves.

crackhaus:

A good mother has no choices or options, her child must pull her hair or climb her while she sleeps one way or the other.

Your definition/perception of good is debatable....

It's not until a child is breast fed, or her hair is pulled or she is deprived of sleep before she can be called a good mother.

If a woman doesn't look after her wellness mentally, physically and even spiritually, how do you expect her to look after anyone else's?
It's not all women that can withstand the stress of singlehandedly raising a child and still workinģ full time. It doesn't make them bad, but rather human.
Don't even compare women to mothers of old who had help from right, left and centre. A child was raised by everyone in those days. There was always one relative living with them to cut mothers some slack. There were always neighbours you thought you could trust your children with, and reciprocate same. Not anymore. Times have changed, and you have to flow with the tide of reality or get drowned in it.

eyinjuege:


Your definition/perception of good is debatable....

It's not until a child is breast fed, or her hair is pulled or she is deprived of sleep before she can be called a good mother.

If a woman doesn't look after her wellness mentally, physically and even spiritually, how do you expect her to look after anyone else's?
It's not all women that can withstand the stress of singlehandedly raising a child and still workinģ full time. It doesn't make them bad, but rather human.
Don't even compare women to mothers of old who had help from right, left and centre. A child was raised by everyone in those days. There was always one relative living with them to cut mothers some slack. There were always neighbours you thought you could trust your children with, and reciprocate same. Not anymore. Times have changed, and you have to flow with the tide of reality or get drowned in it.

Okay then...although it's possible you're over-analyzing cartoon photos of a child playing with its mother.
Why wouldn't any mother want to tolerate that?

eyinjuege:


I quite understand you, and I would have gone with the flow of the thread till someone mentioned she doesnt have a choice.

You would have gone with the flow of the thread if you were in a better mood.

And she still doesn't have a choice, her child must play with her whether she likes it or not - doesn't matter if she's the Queen of England or if she works 23hrs every day.

Zeze06:


When you are pregnant, how you know it's a guy

You are sick all morning.
You have pimples and rashes all over your face
You look stressed out 247.
You can't eat, even when you eat you end up vomiting all the food.
You can't spend time inside the church on Sunday's you always go outside to do practically nothing, just to feel comfortable
You look tired and so unattractive

When you see these signs
Just know it's a small devil (guy) in there

all these symptoms u wrote here is not true. i had d opposite when i was pregnant with my son. its not same symptoms with both sexes

Don't mind me dear, too much of alcohol

realtalk19:


all these symptoms u wrote here is not true. i had d opposite when i was pregnant with my son. its not same symptoms with both sexes

enoqueen:


Where did you get these?

I don't think you have any other thing to do apart from nairalanding, sex and making baby...ask me how I know and I will tell you