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My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by patriciaogam: 5:19pm On Aug 22, 2017
I am so sad right now embarassed.
My father died a long time ago and it has been a living hell coping without his fatherly assistance (both financially and physically).
I struggled to see myself through school and I'm a graduate by his grace but currently unemployed.
My father died of sickness and although the ailment was strange as his body rejected all medications, we never had cause to suspect.
Fast forward to yesterday when I and my mom went to visit one of my father's brothers for a little cash to help myself, he flared up and started saying uncouth things.
He told my mom that my dad can't do anything to him as he was dead and that my father could have died long before getting married.
He is an army man, although my father's step brother. He says things without emotions and he is the most wicked being on earth.
I've been crying since yesterday. it hurts that my Papa did not die a natural death. Or I'm I overreacting embarassed
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by thorpido(m): 5:37pm On Aug 22, 2017
From your statement,I don't see anything he said that shows he had a hand in your father's death.
Maybe he said other things you didn't put here.

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Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by Pierocash(m): 5:49pm On Aug 22, 2017
My dear forget uncles, they are of no use. That is nt a peculiar case to u, 95% of uncles are wicked that is nt new, jst focus on ur life and hustle for ur self, thank God u are a graduate. stop begging money frm uncles

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Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by muzikpromoter: 5:51pm On Aug 22, 2017
only pray
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by Prognose: 5:53pm On Aug 22, 2017
I don't get. What did he say?

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Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by patriciaogam: 6:25pm On Aug 22, 2017
thorpido:
From your statement,I don't see anything he said that shows he had a hand in your father's death.
Maybe he said other things you didn't put here.
He has been behaving very weird and wicked since my father's death.
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by patriciaogam: 6:26pm On Aug 22, 2017
Pierocash:
My dear forget uncles, they are of no use. That is nt a peculiar case to u, 95% of uncles are wicked that is nt new, jst focus on ur life and hustle for ur self, thank God u are a graduate. stop begging money frm uncles
I wouldn't near his house if I had a job paying bills... He has never looked at our side ever since he came back from the army

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Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by patriciaogam: 6:26pm On Aug 22, 2017
Lalasticlala..
I need more views on this before I do something crazy embarassed
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by Danieldexii(m): 6:28pm On Aug 22, 2017
Asin?
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by Fadamant: 6:52pm On Aug 22, 2017
You would have gotten more views by now if you posted this on the Family Section. The mods could help you with that though.

To the matter. Your uncle didn't say he had a hand in your dad's death, going by the statement you credited to him. We can only deduce that he survived a life threatening illness or accident, etc, long before he got married.

The best you can do for yourself, now that you are a graduate is to take responsiblity for yourself and your mom. Forget about your uncle, job or no job. You can achieve a whole lot and create a very beautiful life for youself if you focus on you, take responsibility and work real hard, while making sure you have God on your side. Good luck

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Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by Nobody: 6:54pm On Aug 22, 2017
Don't react. Let ur God fight for you if true.

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Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by Nobody: 6:57pm On Aug 22, 2017
patriciaogam:
Lalasticlala..
I need more views on this before I do something crazy embarassed
Its best you calm down. All my life dem prayer people have attributed my dad's ill luck to his brother even after he passed. But only God knows the truth and he will definitely expose and disgrace evil people at d appointed time. The battle ain't yours my dear.
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by patriciaogam: 7:01pm On Aug 22, 2017
Fadamant:
You would have gotten more views by now if you posted this on the Family Section. The mods could help you with that though.

To the matter. Your uncle didn't say he had a hand in your dad's death, going by the statement you credited to him. We can only deduce that he survived a life threatening illness or accident, etc, long before he got married.

The best you can do for yourself, now that you are a graduate is to take responsiblity for yourself and your mom. Forget about your uncle, job or no job. You can achieve a whole lot and create a very beautiful life for youself if you focus on you, take responsibility and work real hard, while making sure you have God on your side. Good luck
this is really uplifting. To think that he even insulted my father's name without showing any feelings or emotions is what is really annoying me
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by patriciaogam: 7:04pm On Aug 22, 2017
Nma27:
Its best you calm down. All my life dem prayer people have attributed my dad's ill luck to his brother even after he passed. But only God knows the truth and he will definitely expose and disgrace evil people at d appointed time. The battle ain't yours my dear.
Amen!
Thanks big sis
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by babyfaceafrica: 8:44pm On Aug 22, 2017
Is that all?
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by Lewaluv(f): 8:46pm On Aug 22, 2017
Sounds like uncle is trying to hurt you with his words because he did not want to give u money.
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by patriciaogam: 8:49pm On Aug 22, 2017
babyfaceafrica:
Is that all?
that's all embarassed
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by WORDWORLD: 9:10pm On Aug 22, 2017
patriciaogam:
I am so sad right now embarassed.
My father died a long time ago and it has been a living hell coping without his fatherly assistance (both financially and physically).
I struggled to see myself through school and I'm a graduate by his grace but currently unemployed.
My father died of sickness and although the ailment was strange as his body rejected all medications, we never had cause to suspect.
Fast forward to yesterday when I and my mom went to visit one of my father's brothers for a little cash to help myself, he flared up and started saying uncouth things.
He told my mom that my dad can't do anything to him as he was dead and that my father could have died long before getting married.
He is an army man, although my father's step brother. He says things without emotions and he is the most wicked being on earth.
I've been crying since yesterday. it hurts that my Papa did not die a natural death. Or I'm I overreacting embarassed

Kindly learn from this wonderful guy, James Altucher. THE ONLY TWO OPTIONS YOU HAVE IN LIFE. www.thoughtcatalog.com/james-altucher/2017/04/the-only-two-choices-you-have-in-life/ and come and thank me later. Life is really all about choice and only the wise make the right choice so dont act unwise for what you have written here really points to nothing. Pls be calm LIFE IS GOOD AS LONG AS YOU CHOOSE TO BE GRATEFUL FOR LIFE. Your dad is dead and there is nothing you can do about that. So just face your life and stop reading meaning into what people say about him. Pls take your time to read that link. Take good care of yourself.
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by Abiagirl777(f): 11:37pm On Aug 22, 2017
the only way you can take care of his b.s is to go make your own legit money and take care of your momma, you'd see him respect you guys.so long as he didn't seize your pa's property,he doesn't owe you guys shi. t...
stop whining and be a man!

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Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by Nobody: 4:21am On Aug 23, 2017
You and your mom should distance yourselves from this Uncle. He obviously doesn't mean well for y'all. I hope you find a job soon. Cheer up.
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by eyinjuege: 6:54am On Aug 23, 2017
patriciaogam:
this is really uplifting. To think that he even insulted my father's name without showing any feelings or emotions is what is really annoying me

Stop going to visit him, and definitely not for any assistance.
People don't easily help others like that, either because they don't really have the means to, or they just don't feel compelled to.
He's done what he did to drive you people away, and never to think of coming to him again for anything. I doubt he had a hand in your father's death.
There may have been no love lost between them while your dad was alive, so just remove the man from your life.

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Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by patriciaogam: 7:35am On Aug 23, 2017
Not0fThis:
You and your mom should distance yourselves from this Uncle. He obviously doesn't mean well for y'all. I hope you find a job soon. Cheer up.
I have decided that's what is best for me. thanks sir
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by patriciaogam: 7:35am On Aug 23, 2017
WORDWORLD:


Kindly learn from this wonderful guy, James Altucher. THE ONLY TWO OPTIONS YOU HAVE IN LIFE. www.thoughtcatalog.com/james-altucher/2017/04/the-only-two-choices-you-have-in-life/ and come and thank me later. Life is really all about choice and only the wise make the right choice so dont act unwise for what you have written here really points to nothing. Pls be calm LIFE IS GOOD AS LONG AS YOU CHOOSE TO BE GRATEFUL FOR LIFE. Your dad is dead and there is nothing you can do about that. So just face your life and stop reading meaning into what people say about him. Pls take your time to read that link. Take good care of yourself.
thanks for your response.. I've read everything and I appreciate your efforts
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by patriciaogam: 7:36am On Aug 23, 2017
eyinjuege:


Stop going to visit him, and definitely not for any assistance.
People don't easily help others like that, either because they don't really have the means to, or they just don't feel compelled to.
He's done what he did to drive you people away, and never to think of coming to him again for anything. I doubt he had a hand in your father's death.
There may have been no love lost between them while your dad was alive, so just remove the man from your life.
then why all this wicked behavior?
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by Richy4(m): 11:19am On Aug 23, 2017
I do not want to be the devil's advocate, but in my opinion and understanding, What u wrote about what your uncle said could be some misunderstanding..

He might have been referring to Career wise, because people have this notion that millitary personnel tends to die young because of the risk involved in their career..

Though he should not have said things like that about his brother..but u have to stop trying desperately as if u are looking for someone to blame.. also people tends to twist other people's comment in a heated argument.especially in a country that finds it easier to accuse someone for the cause of date instead of autopsy report

You are a graduate now, u got lots of potential..U are on your way to success.. in order to move on, u have to let go of some excess luggage.. so that u can travel freely in this journey called life.
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by ponti93(m): 6:29pm On Aug 23, 2017
My brother u need maturity in ur life... Maturity to know that thinking or trying to know if ur uncle killed ur dad, shuld nt be ur priority now... Even if you find out that someone killed ur dad... What u myt do will be stupid and unhelpful to you or your late dad... Your priority now should be to survive and rise above your status...

Time to be a man and not a kid crying because u feel u are entitled to getting help from your uncle.

For every sorry story, there are millions worse than it. People have made something out of situations worse than yours.
Re: My Uncle Unknowingly Said He Has A Hand In My Father's Death by estheremma(f): 8:17pm On Aug 23, 2017
My brother,i hv a wonderful big brother,when he came back from service n the were no jobs,he became a mason,as in worked wt brick layers,most times he choose to work in secured compounds where no one will recognise him,one day he worked for a pastor who was suprised he is a graduate,all those are stories now cus he is comfortable now.What am i saying,start taking care of ur mum by doing little jobs

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