Dont mind all these lazy relations that likes pokenosing into someone's business. God will be ur strength

that's how 18years ago I lost my father. I was barely 11 and was the eldest. that's how they shared every property except his two houses. the one in the village cause he was buried There and the one in the city cause we live in it.
Today:
of the two brothers, one is dead and the only living one is down with stroke and his children can't even look after him. same abandoned kids (we) check on him.

Take heart bro. I know how you feel. I also lost my mum. Those relative stuff is inevitable. ThankGod you are old enough to take decisions. All is need now is to be a man to your sis and mum because any act of childishness you exhibit from now will never be of benefit to them. Now a remedy to your relatives : You , sis and mum need each other like never before. Any decision you take must have the consent of both of them. In all, you guys must be united if not, your relatives will use one of you to manipulate and cause disunity among you guys. It just for a while though. Hard luck

Take heart my sister. My heart bleeds for your mum because I know exactly how it feels. As for the lazy people, the best thing is to ignore them and move on. Stand by your mum because this is the most difficult time for her. Accept my empathy. The Lord is your strength. Cheer up!!!

Family aint family this days

Kill them before they kill you

sorry for the loss dear. those relatives are just too lazy n wicked. wanting to reap where they didn't sow

supersystemsng:



I lost my dad, guess what, all of us relocated, changed contacts, no one has our contacts...

Running away from your relatives is the best option you think?

hmm, op, if u hear my own case u will forget ur own cos its like pry school cert to O'levels. My advise, forget what has happen but don't be ignorant, forgive them but put them at arms lenght. Now you advice ur sibblings to pursue hard, if life slaps ur right cheek, grab life and return with a headbutt... U and only u is responsible for ur success or failure. Finally, put ur matter into God's hand, those who trust Him are never put to shame, see u@d top

So sorry bro....I remember wen my dad died after the burial i was given only 3k to go back to benin from awka. From that day I vowed never to be poor

Zizicardo:
. My dad died on d 30th of march 2014, and since then, his brothers have bn pestering my life. Take heart bro, God be with you and your mom.

What part of the country are you from? This is because their attitude towards you could be as a result of your attitude as well.

YoungDaNaval:
Running away from your relatives is the best option you think?

Its many years mine haven't seen me...i tell them to bozz off...they know i'm a fighter....so to avoid war, they stay away from me, me from them... with many years gone by, that's how the game rolls..everyone has peace of mind...the day family crosses my path, they will know God raised a champion...

What the op didn't say or know is, by advising them to take the dad to an hospital, they deliberately took him to where he won't get the est treatment, so he would die they will accuse them, kick them out and take the properties, it's a game bro...i know the tenth step from the story the op described.....look out you will hear more from the op, its the property they are after....So staying away fast is the key...they killed the man they day they took over his health concerns

OP, you just have to be strong! All these problems you are facing you will tell as stories. I have a similar experience. My family lived in Lagos and we had never traveled to the village. My father was the only male child and was pestered by his sisters to return to the East. Of course he rejected but decided we visit the village in one particular Christmas. We visited my village and unfortunately, my father died. His sisters accused us of killing him and refused our going back to Lagos. We now stay in the east. It was a bitter experience but we're strong now.

Igbos are fond of doing that thing.. the wicked uncles & relatives.

All they are after is the dead man's properties and not welfare of the widow and kids he left behind.

Marry Igbo men at your own peril.

IFEANNYI:
I lost my dad on the 14th of August and ever since then my family relations have been trying to frustrate me, my mum and my sister, even to the extent of threatening my life.

How my Dad died.

My Dad had diabetes and fell sick when he travelled to the east, Anambra State. Fortunately he was with my mum when everything started, unfortunately my relations where also present. They debated on the best hospital to take him to, my mum suggested he returned back to Lagos where he had a specialist taking care of him, our family physician also advised the same but due to ignorance, my dads brothers and sisters took him to a maternity hospital, where he died few days later.

The first thing my relations did was to start spreading rumours that my mum, and we the children killed our dad. How? How?
A man we loved so much, although we had our little differences, just like every other family. But we loved him, I've never seen my sister cry so much until the day we lost him.
They took him to a maternity hospital and now turned back to point fingers?
But i'm not interested in accusing anybody.
I just want people to learn from my experience.

My Dad's elder brother has been the only one different in the whole issue.

May the Lord be your strength bro. I can relate to your experience. Console yourself with those around you, ie your mum and sisters and distance yourselves from those who have not been supportive. All the best bro!

Sorry.Use the strength your father instilled in you and stand up to your family. Dont let them succeed.RIP to your papa.

vibezz:
that's how 18years ago I lost my father. I was barely 11 and was the eldest. that's how they shared every property except his two houses. the one in the village cause he was buried There and the one in the city cause we live in it.
Today:
of the two brothers, one is dead and the only living one is down with stroke and his children can't even look after him. same abandoned kids (we) check on him.

Your dad try, him head strong..My own uncle died three months after my dad...my papa dey vex...

IFEANNYI:
I lost my dad on the 14th of August and ever since then my family relations have been trying to frustrate me, my mum and my sister, even to the extent of threatening my life.

How my Dad died.

My Dad had diabetes and fell sick when he travelled to the east, Anambra State. Fortunately he was with my mum when everything started, unfortunately my relations where also present. They debated on the best hospital to take him to, my mum suggested he returned back to Lagos where he had a specialist taking care of him, our family physician also advised the same but due to ignorance, my dads brothers and sisters took him to a maternity hospital, where he died few days later.

The first thing my relations did was to start spreading rumours that my mum, and we the children killed our dad. How? How?
A man we loved so much, although we had our little differences, just like every other family. But we loved him, I've never seen my sister cry so much until the day we lost him.
They took him to a maternity hospital and now turned back to point fingers?
But i'm not interested in accusing anybody.
I just want people to learn from my experience.

My Dad's elder brother has been the only one different in the whole issue.

baby God's got u......no peace for the wicked Ur.......Baba yungjohn if this is u I'm loyal#suwa

@ OP... if u re worried about the lies u better brace up cous I see them hitting u guyz hard soon.
During the burial nd after, u will understand the above..

Be careful especially you nd ur mum..

soberdrunk:
Hope say ur papa write will and you get mind because all this English you are blowing will not save you from those wolves(your wicked relatives) when he reach time to share properties. Your daddy is dead and that is a fact that cannot be changed, it is time to wake up and secure his legacy and not time to be emotional and be reasoning one uncle........

Wetin concern Igbo man family with will..
They will accuse his wife and share the properties for themselves alone.
It's like part of their tradition and has been like that for decades.

Civility is not just their way there.. They are ready to kill whoever gets in their way, the kids inclusive

Oga better be a man now. Show them hell.

supersystemsng:


Its many years mine haven't seen me...i tell them to bozz off...they know i'm a fighter....so to avoid war, they stay away from me, me from them... with many years gone by, that's how the game rolls..everyone has peace of mine...the day family crosses my path, they will know God raised a champion...

What the op didn't say or know is, by advising them to take the dad to an hospital, they deliberately took him to where he won't get the est treatment, so he would di,e they will accuse them, kick them out and take the properties, it's a game bro...i know the tenth step from the story the op described.....look out you will hear more from the op, its the property they are after....So staying away fast is the key...they killed the man they day they took over his health concerns

Staying away? what if the man has properties at home like land, house etc, you will leave it for them and run away?

well what do you know.. when your dad is the only child

Alariwo2:


Wetin concern Igbo man family with will..
They will accuse his wife and share the properties for themselves alone.
It's like part of their tradition and has been like that for decades.

Civility is not just their way there.. They are ready to kill whoever gets in their way, the kids inclusive

U better wake up from ur Nollywood fantasies nd start using ur brains...

YoungDaNaval:
Staying away? what if the man has properties at home like land, house etc, you will leave it for them and run away?

They are young.. They need their life intact first... The first thing is they need a base the family doesn't know and plan on further moves...it depends on family...I kissed the lands of my father to hell...Same as my brother and sisters...properties kor..it depends on the value eahc family places on them...I won't say further, but life is priceless and they are coming with a war..with what i read the Op posted, they don't have the strength for the battle, the withdrawal is to go gather strength for what will come later on...But if he has properties, it will be pretty difficult, best advice is for them to get a lawyer who would advise on steps to take...if they fight legally, they will need to get ready for spiritual battle, so is it a battle they can fight?

I had the same experience when I Lost my dad last year.... Here is what I want you to do, HOLD FAST WITH PRAYERS, SUPPORT YOUR MOM AND SIBILINGS WITH ENCOURAGING WORDS, BE CAREFUL TO AVOID ARGUMENTS WITH PEOPLE NOT ON YOUR SIDE, BE CALM AND RATIONAL AT ALL TIMES..... GOD IS ON YOUR SIDE.

amuokuko:


U better wake up from ur Nollywood fantasies nd start using ur brains...

you're hiding in Ajegunle in Lagos and typing trash..

Ya'll need to ask your parents why they flee the East to foreign lands. It's cos of Evil amongst your kinsmen.

Even your gods there are wicked.. Amadioha, Okike alabama and the likes

Does this still happen? These were things I saw in our movies, as a kid.

They should explain how you killed him. They should carry out autopsy. If they claimed it involved the spiritual, you all should consult your family spiritual "adviser", if you have one.

This is unfair. At this age.

I guess they're never liked your mom or the reality that your late dad left them behind in the east to make a leaving for himself.

This is ridiculous.

But in things like these, I'll advise you give the what they want. When they're sharing the fruits they never labored for, their dissatisfaction would expose their shenanigans.

Tejiri41:

What part of the country are you from? This is because their attitude towards you could be as a result of your attitude as well.

Lol. You don't even know me, and you want to judge my attitude. Well I'm from South-west

My condolences.