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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Muzanga(f): 9:22pm On Sep 25, 2017
If you are igbo then the child belongs to your father
Since the guy didnt pay bride price. In igbo land he cant try it sef. No bride price no pikin.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by hokafor(m): 9:24pm On Sep 25, 2017
No bride price was paid, how can he claim the child? Is only you can help him claim the child if u want otherwise cut all communications with him . He is not legally married to u on what bases is he claiming the child. maybe as a sperm donor.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Michael2017: 9:28pm On Sep 25, 2017
Guess if u do approach the court as single parent ie the biological father despite being aware of the child did not take any steps to cater for the child in any way whatsoever (upkeep, hospital bills , school fees etc)
She may have a chance.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Misslynx(f): 9:32pm On Sep 25, 2017
There are some factors that have to be considered here. The court will weigh the financial status between both of you, both parties mental status and some other factors too. But above all the child's needs and consideration comes first and overrides that of both parties. Since she is still a small girl you have a upper hand as the mother. Though I can't give further advice until I know the real story and must hear from the other party too (That is the father of the child).
But all the same keep the hope alive...You stand a better chance because she is a female child who is still very little coupled with the complaints you've given about him which I hope is true.
The court will likely grant you custody over her.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by dyze: 9:32pm On Sep 25, 2017
Analog95:
Did you just say the guy impregnate her deliberately? I think your statement would have been better off "the girl got pregnant for him deliberately" how can a guy impregnate her deliberately, was it without her consent? Did he remove her brain and keep somewhere while stripping her Unclad? How come was it after she got pregnant that she knew of his flaws? Abeg make una shift one side with your one sided story jo. No make me pour out my anger on una abeg.

Lol, easy lion
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by barnaby04(m): 9:33pm On Sep 25, 2017
By law, when a child is six years of age, the father is legally permitted to claim custody of such a child.

The lady in question should have it at the back of her mind that she cannot deny the father access to his daughter for too long.
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Ndipe(m): 9:41pm On Sep 25, 2017
Shalomdee:
Hey guys, I really need your advice. A woman got pregnant for a schoolmate in Higher Institution, the guy actually impregnated her deliberately because he wanted her to be trapped with him. This guy is of a very dubious character and has duped a lot of people and done a lot of fraudulent things. When the lady found out all the wicked things he was into (along with getting involved in diabolic stuff), she decided to call it quitts after she was delivered of the child (female). The guy threatened her with all manner of threats but she refused to go back on her decision.

After a few years she eventually met a young man genuinely interested in her who wants to marry her, the lady is scared of commitement because she does not want a situation where she would get married and the ex would come back to demand for his child and make trouble. She does not want to give her ex custody of the child because of his dubious and wicked character.

Is there a law in the country that would support her as the mother of the child to have complete custody of the child since the child was born out of wedlock? Can her new husband formally adopt the child as his legally?

Please lawyers and people with such knowledge should comment. Mods, take this to front page as it is a very delicate situation.

"Actually impregnated her deliberately."

How can a man impregnate a woman deliberately?
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by hollowpot15684(m): 9:43pm On Sep 25, 2017
Ishilove:
Where are the family lawyers?

This is a lesson to women. Before you open your legs and allow that negro pour his seed into you, make sure he is someone that will not waste your destiny if you do get pregnant for him.

save your blame games and unneeded advise. don't confuse the lady more.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Krystalzkris(f): 9:45pm On Sep 25, 2017
Marry the father then divorce him straight for right to the child.




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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Funkybabee(f): 9:46pm On Sep 25, 2017
some women shaa
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Ishilove: 9:46pm On Sep 25, 2017
hollowpot15684:


save your blame games and unneeded advise. don't confuse the lady more.
'Unneeded'?

Oh I get it. You fall into the class of men who love to do skin to skin, but run far from the attendant ramifications. Na your type get baby mama upandan.
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by hollowpot15684(m): 9:48pm On Sep 25, 2017
Shalomdee:
Hey guys, I really need your advice. A woman got pregnant for a schoolmate in Higher Institution, the guy actually impregnated her deliberately because he wanted her to be trapped with him. This guy is of a very dubious character and has duped a lot of people and done a lot of fraudulent things. When the lady found out all the wicked things he was into (along with getting involved in diabolic stuff), she decided to call it quitts after she was delivered of the child (female). The guy threatened her with all manner of threats but she refused to go back on her decision.

After a few years she eventually met a young man genuinely interested in her who wants to marry her, the lady is scared of commitement because she does not want a situation where she would get married and the ex would come back to demand for his child and make trouble. She does not want to give her ex custody of the child because of his dubious and wicked character.

Is there a law in the country that would support her as the mother of the child to have complete custody of the child since the child was born out of wedlock? Can her new husband formally adopt the child as his legally?

Please lawyers and people with such knowledge should comment. Mods, take this to front page as it is a very delicate situation.

adopting the child is a no option. The lady shouldn't be scared of the unnecessary, definitely the man will come for the child and there is no Nigerian police that has the power to arrest him for that.

she should discuss with a lawyer so they can advise her legally. that is the only way I feel this can be resolved.
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Donald7610: 9:53pm On Sep 25, 2017
The child completely belongs to the mother
Because no legal marriage recorded
But if he go to court, he might be lucky to get access to visit or share with custody of the child
The mother will be lucky if living in Lagos
Lagos State protects mother
Not baba lo ni omo
Especially with brib..
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by MrRitchie: 9:53pm On Sep 25, 2017
Mr George weah, is that why we are here? Give advance/solution if you av one not to comdemn what has already happened, na una type dey pursue small girls upanda, grow up abeg
alexistaiwo:
You should have gained complete custody by keeping your legs closed in the first place so you will change the paternity of the poor child if and when your current guy dump you same as the next guy after that.


Before the child turn 10 sef she will have changed clubs/father like 17 times.

Eyan ZLatan Ibrahmovic
awon ti Mario Balotelli




Awon omo Tika bodi undecided

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Blackbuddy: 9:55pm On Sep 25, 2017
Shalomdee:
Hey guys, I really need your advice. A woman got pregnant for a schoolmate in Higher Institution, the guy actually impregnated her deliberately because he wanted her to be trapped with him. This guy is of a very dubious character and has duped a lot of people and done a lot of fraudulent things. When the lady found out all the wicked things he was into (along with getting involved in diabolic stuff), she decided to call it quitts after she was delivered of the child (female). The guy threatened her with all manner of threats but she refused to go back on her decision.

After a few years she eventually met a young man genuinely interested in her who wants to marry her, the lady is scared of commitement because she does not want a situation where she would get married and the ex would come back to demand for his child and make trouble. She does not want to give her ex custody of the child because of his dubious and wicked character.

Is there a law in the country that would support her as the mother of the child to have complete custody of the child since the child was born out of wedlock? Can her new husband formally adopt the child as his legally?

Please lawyers and people with such knowledge should comment. Mods, take this to front page as it is a very delicate situation.

You will need to engage a family lawyer who will assist to gain sole custody of the child from the law court. It will involve both parents meeting in court in other to exercise right of fair hearing and the judge will rule accordingly based on evidence and testimony presented. All the best.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by hollowpot15684(m): 9:55pm On Sep 25, 2017
Ishilove:

'Unneeded'?

Oh I get it. You fall into the class of men who love to do skin to skin, but run far from the attendant ramifications. Na your type get baby mama upandan.


yes for sure, I have a baby mama up and down and believe me there is nothing to hide about it.
But pls how does it concern your father if I fall into such class?
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Donald7610: 9:56pm On Sep 25, 2017
Muzanga:
If you are igbo then the child belongs to your father
Since the guy didnt pay bride price. In igbo land he cant try it sef. No bride price no pikin.
Lol
Talk of Nigeria
Court doesn't recognize tribe

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Donald7610: 9:59pm On Sep 25, 2017
Ishilove:

'Unneeded'?

Oh I get it. You fall into the class of men who love to do skin to skin, but run far from the attendant ramifications. Na your type get baby mama upandan.

Lol

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Muzanga(f): 9:59pm On Sep 25, 2017
Donald7610:

Lol
Talk of Nigeria
Court doesn't recognize tribe
except so sha

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by deolumike(m): 10:02pm On Sep 25, 2017
We can offer legal assistance. Our email is on the profile page.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Bonjelomo: 10:06pm On Sep 25, 2017
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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by dom(m): 10:07pm On Sep 25, 2017
Hmmmmmmm
Ive handled many cases like this in the past decade or so.
Traditionally, in most customs, the child of an unmarried woman belongs to her father.
Nonetheless, in any matter relating to the guardianship and custody o children the interest and welfare of the child shall be the first and paramount consideration.
Go to Court. (Customary Court, or Family Division of the High Court) Prove that u can take better care of the child and that the respondent is irresponsible and wayward. The younger the child, the easier for you. Msg me if you have further problems. Good luck

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Adadioranma79(f): 10:13pm On Sep 25, 2017
Gbam! Same applies where i am from. Same time,
a mother can deny a baby daddy custody if she can convince the court that the father of the child is a no gooder and might influence the child negatively, especially a girl child. It does have its own challenge(s) tho, the child may eventually want to meet his biological father sometime in the future no matter how bad he seems, for clarity and closure. Marrying a great guy who ll love your daughter as his can also help strengthen your case in court. Finally, everything is possible with prayers. Wish Op luck tho
AdaNri1:
Let's wait for those that will come to pass judgement on the lady's character instead of answering poster's question.

If the girl is igbo from Anambra state then she has no problem. It is her father's child because the man (impregnator) did not pay bride price. He just a sperm donor. In my clan we say "ejiro nwa eme ogo" you don't give up a child as favour.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Shalomdee(f): 10:15pm On Sep 25, 2017
dom:
Hmmmmmmm
Ive handled many cases like this in the past decade or so.
Traditionally, in most customs, the child of an unmarried woman belongs to her father.
Nonetheless, in any matter relating to the guardianship and custody o children the interest and welfare of the child shall be the first and paramount consideration.
Go to Court. (Customary Court, or Family Division of the High Court) Prove that u can take better care of the child and that the respondent is irresponsible and wayward. The younger the child, the easier for you. Msg me if you have further problems. Good luck

Thanks, I will probably need to send you a message to be clarified
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Shalomdee(f): 10:17pm On Sep 25, 2017
Thanks for all your comments so far but the reason why the girl in question is scared is because the ex is really dangerous and she does not want the daughter growing up in his custody
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by PrecisionFx(m): 10:18pm On Sep 25, 2017
Shalomdee:
Hey guys, I really need your advice. A woman got pregnant for a schoolmate in Higher Institution, the guy actually impregnated her deliberately because he wanted her to be trapped with him. This guy is of a very dubious character and has duped a lot of people and done a lot of fraudulent things. When the lady found out all the wicked things he was into (along with getting involved in diabolic stuff), she decided to call it quitts after she was delivered of the child (female). The guy threatened her with all manner of threats but she refused to go back on her decision.

After a few years she eventually met a young man genuinely interested in her who wants to marry her, the lady is scared of commitement because she does not want a situation where she would get married and the ex would come back to demand for his child and make trouble. She does not want to give her ex custody of the child because of his dubious and wicked character.

Is there a law in the country that would support her as the mother of the child to have complete custody of the child since the child was born out of wedlock? Can her new husband formally adopt the child as his legally?

Please lawyers and people with such knowledge should comment. Mods, take this to front page as it is a very delicate situation.



In my tradition, u have no business with any child born out of wedlock. The father of the girl claims the child.

It's a Non-issue.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by epistleNow(m): 10:19pm On Sep 25, 2017
This below is for all the Holier-than-thou people who daily SIN in a different kind of way that's isn't visible to all.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by uboma(m): 10:24pm On Sep 25, 2017
Ishilove:
Where are the family lawyers?

This is a lesson to women. Before you open your legs and allow that negro pour his seed into you, make sure he is someone who will not waste your destiny if you do get pregnant for him.



Your comment is offensive.

Why use the word, 'Negro'?

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by alexistaiwo: 10:32pm On Sep 25, 2017
MrRitchie:
Mr George weah, is that why we are here? Give advance/solution if you av one not to comdemn what has already happened, na una type dey pursue small girls upanda, grow up abeg
So after reading my comment, you are too dimwitted to deduce the advice in it.


How did some people manage to pass primary school sef?
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Malayy(m): 10:36pm On Sep 25, 2017
Better that child to the father..
If I wad the guy, I won't rest till I get my child.. Nonsense and adoption

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Klimaths: 10:38pm On Sep 25, 2017
AdaNri1:
Let's wait for those that will come to pass judgement on the lady's character instead of answering poster's question.

If the girl is igbo from Anambra state then she has no problem. It is her father's child because the man (impregnator) did not pay bride price. He just a sperm donor. In my clan we say "ejiro nwa eme ogo" you don't give up a child as favour.
where ever you came from I don't care. I impregnated a woman and I did not deny the pregnancy and took all financial responsibility , you will now tell me that because I have not paid price on your head , my child will bear your father's name. Not while am alive . is either we all die , you , me and your father . so that my child can live to bear my name. What nonsense my blood is my blood oooo . I will kill any mother fucker that try nonsense. Please I mean no disrespect , it is just a hypothetical case under study. Please don't take it personal

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Vutseck(m): 10:53pm On Sep 25, 2017
Muzanga:
If you are igbo then the child belongs to your father
Since the guy didnt pay bride price. In igbo land he cant try it sef. No bride price no pikin.

Lol... bride price or no bride price


blood is thicker than water


all the man needs is to see to the welfare of the child


when she is of age she will definitely look for her biological father
.

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