One of my favorite hobbies is resolving common myths
and uncovering their underlying truth. The truth of
everything in our universe is based on nature and its laws
which surround us and sustain us in life. When I uncover a
truth it grounds me reminding me we are part of a big
system of Nature with specific natural rules which
determine everything.
Neither Good or Bad So for example, a rainy day is not
really bad since it provides moisture to balance the
earth’s
eco systems. A sunny day is not really good either
because it causes all kinds of things like drought, food
shortages and sunburns. In nature such events are neither
bad or good.
They are simply nature balancing its systems to ensure its
survival and evolution.
The Milk Myth How about the myth of milk…the myth
cow’s milk is good for you and children. It is full of
nutrients. Right? The truth is cow’s milk is the most
common food allergy children develop.
The Motivation Myth Now how about the myth of
motivation…the myth you can motivate others. The truth is
biologically and psychologically each person is always
internally self-motivated. To think others can motivate you
is to assume you don’t have a choice of where you focus
your attention. This is preposterous!
Just ask any police officer if their gun motivates people to
obey them or the law. This is why the most dangerous call
they can get at a police station is a domestic dispute.
When families are focused internally on their feelings they
often ignore the external world entirely and so are very
unpredictable and so very dangerous.
You can certainly encourage others to self motivate, but
you have no real control over them. If you want to check
this out ask any parent if they can control their child and
listen carefully to their response. You can certainly
encourage people to do specific things if you appeal to
their value system. But controlling others is an illusion.
This is a critical awareness when dealing with “difficult
people.”
A Father of Modern Psychology I remember Dr. William
Glasser, considered the last surviving “Father of Modern
Psychology,” a world renowned psychiatrist, author and
speaker, stating influencing others is more difficult than
brain surgery. Glasser said with brain surgery you have a
cooperative and passive patient. When influencing another
person, he added, you may or not have a cooperative
participant. This makes it a much more challenging task.
The Happiness Myth
And, how about the myth of happiness. There is a popular
myth you seek happiness, pleasure without pain, as your
ultimate goal in life.
The truth is you seek a state of both physiological (body)
and psychological (mind) balance, harmony, or oneness
with your surroundings.
In biology the term is called “homeostasis.” For example,
when you go to your physician with some ailment, your
pain tells you one of your body’s organs or systems is off
balance.
Your doctor will prescribe some action to restore a
physiological balance to your body… to restore
homeostasis.
In the same way, when I work with a client, they perceive
pain, so some part of their thinking is off balance. I
prescribe some action (focused accelerated learning) to
restore a psychological balance to their mind to restore
equilibrium


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