candlewax:
in due time give your wife's family house a facelift. best wishes

Augustap, ScotFree

FortifiedCity:
That in particular is not his direct responsibility.

candlewax:
if he could, then no big deal. they are family, also respect could be earned

Augustap

FortifiedCity:
Now you have put it rightly.
Earlier you made it sound as if he was obliged to do it

candlewax:
If he is capable it becomes an obligation.

Augustap

FortifiedCity:
If he is capable, that means the wife should be capable too.

So the onus is on the wife to give her maiden house a facelift and not the husband's.

It can never be an obligation to the man. He married the woman and not the woman's family.

candlewax:
By being capable i meant financial stability, now a husband being buoyant does not translate same for the wife

Augustap

FortifiedCity:
I know you mean Financial stability. If a man is financially stable in every sense of the word, it should rub off on his wife, even though they might not be on the same level.

candlewax:
A capable man provides for the wife and family, the wife looks up to him, that means the wife is dependent on the wealthy spouse. its impossible to handle a project like renovation, construction if one is dependent. brother, your argument is impotent.

Augustap

FortifiedCity:
Yes my argument is 'impotent' because all you see is a man who is wealthy yet his wife depends on him, instead of him to establish her to be able to attend to some issues independently. Don't be that kind of man.

And Stop being myopic. Women are also becoming financial powerhouses these days. Bye.

enemyofprogress:
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