fernandoc:
what an elder sees sitting down.... you know the rest. Maybe your father has seen that with your input in his church it will grow to the likes of Rccg and Winners and you being his son will inherit it and have a secure future. The path with the least resistance is not always the surest path.

oprah007:
Hi everyone. Happy Sunday. I am a guy of 30 years of age who graduated with BA Degree last year. I couldn't go for youth service because of my age. So I decided to get myself an apartment and started hustling and hunting for job. I recently got a job which promise a great future even though the pay at the moment is not much. I also have a girlfriend who school in one of the federal polytechnics. My father is a Pastor, pastoring a small church in the same state I live.

Now the issue at hand is that my father wants me to leave my apartment and move back home (until probably when I am ripe for marriage I guess). He has been on this for quite sometime of which I told him I can't move back home with them at my age and moreover, its a rented apartment (My parents never build house).

Today, he dropped a bomb. He commanded me to pack all my things and move back home to come and help him with d church within 7 days else, he will see to it that I am sacked from my new work in one way or the other and also threaten to pray to God to make my girlfriend jilt me (coz she is one of d reasons why I don't want to move back home according to him).

I don't want to move back home at my age. I always pray against it as I see such act as pointing to a backward step in my life. I have managed to setup my apartment to taste and also aiming to marry my present girlfriend.

Do I yield to my father's "come back home" instruction or do I stand on my decision not to? PLEASE ADVISE.

oprah007:
Hi everyone. Happy Sunday. I am a guy of 30 years of age who graduated with BA Degree last year. I couldn't go for youth service because of my age. So I decided to get myself an apartment and started hustling and hunting for job. I recently got a job which promise a great future even though the pay at the moment is not much. I also have a girlfriend who school in one of the federal polytechnics. My father is a Pastor, pastoring a small church in the same state I live.

Now the issue at hand is that my father wants me to leave my apartment and move back home (until probably when I am ripe for marriage I guess). He has been on this for quite sometime of which I told him I can't move back home with them at my age and moreover, its a rented apartment (My parents never build house).

Today, he dropped a bomb. He commanded me to pack all my things and move back home to come and help him with d church within 7 days else, he will see to it that I am sacked from my new work in one way or the other and also threaten to pray to God to make my girlfriend jilt me (coz she is one of d reasons why I don't want to move back home according to him).

I don't want to move back home at my age. I always pray against it as I see such act as pointing to a backward step in my life. I have managed to setup my apartment to taste and also aiming to marry my present girlfriend.

Do I yield to my father's "come back home" instruction or do I stand on my decision not to? PLEASE ADVISE.

Ishilove:
What kind of father will pray for his son to be sacked? He stands on the altar every Sunday to pray for people but wants to curse his own son because the boy has chosen his own path in life.

Op, stand your ground and use prayer to counter prayer. God is not a confusionist and He will set things straight

Lalas247:
You are an adult and grown at 30 !
Please DO NOT MOVE BACK home


The only time that should even happen is if you are seriously struggling financially and have no way out ... you can go back home and restart .. at least you’ll have a roof over your head and food ..but if you are doing ok my dear struggle and hustle better..... they will respect u more at the end

Finstar:


Your mentality is very shallow I must say.. What do you mean by female NLer? That female NLer might be able to feed your entire village. That female NLer might be the one paying your parents their monthly paycheck. What beef have you got with females? It's time you shade off these lame archeic mindset and embrace revolution. Gender equality is here to stay and majority of females are doing better than most men in all spheres of life. Your gf and exs might be among the majority of females with fish brain doesn't mean every girl is. Mind what you post on a public forum such as this..

Thank You.

Ije004:
Listen to your father. Please move out on your 50th birthday.

oprah007:
Hi everyone. Happy Sunday. I am a guy of 30 years of age who graduated with BA Degree last year. I couldn't go for youth service because of my age. So I decided to get myself an apartment and started hustling and hunting for job. I recently got a job which promise a great future even though the pay at the moment is not much. I also have a girlfriend who school in one of the federal polytechnics. My father is a Pastor, pastoring a small church in the same state I live.

Now the issue at hand is that my father wants me to leave my apartment and move back home (until probably when I am ripe for marriage I guess). He has been on this for quite sometime of which I told him I can't move back home with them at my age and moreover, its a rented apartment (My parents never build house).

Today, he dropped a bomb. He commanded me to pack all my things and move back home to come and help him with d church within 7 days else, he will see to it that I am sacked from my new work in one way or the other and also threaten to pray to God to make my girlfriend jilt me (coz she is one of d reasons why I don't want to move back home according to him).

I don't want to move back home at my age. I always pray against it as I see such act as pointing to a backward step in my life. I have managed to setup my apartment to taste and also aiming to marry my present girlfriend.

Do I yield to my father's "come back home" instruction or do I stand on my decision not to? PLEASE ADVISE.

toyetade:
Are you actually serious ? or just a satire ?

oprah007:


She is in support of my Dad. Has always been. Its giving me headache but my spirit, body and soul does not move back home. I am only scared of my father's threats of cursing my relationship and working towards my sack.

oprah007:


She is in support of my Dad. Has always been. Its giving me headache but my spirit, body and soul does not move back home. I am only scared of my father's threats of cursing my relationship and working towards my sack.

Edonojie007:

Bloody Feminist! See Your Life. Gender Equality. U Think God Created A Man And A Woman The Same. And Before You Reply Rubbish, God Said " It Is Not Good For The Man To Be Alone,lets Make Him An Help Mate" Help Mate. Assistant.

oprah007:
Hi everyone. Happy Sunday. I am a guy of 30 years of age who graduated with BA Degree last year. I couldn't go for youth service because of my age. So I decided to get myself an apartment and started hustling and hunting for job. I recently got a job which promise a great future even though the pay at the moment is not much. I also have a girlfriend who school in one of the federal polytechnics. My father is a Pastor, pastoring a small church in the same state I live.

Now the issue at hand is that my father wants me to leave my apartment and move back home (until probably when I am ripe for marriage I guess). He has been on this for quite sometime of which I told him I can't move back home with them at my age and moreover, its a rented apartment (My parents never build house).

Today, he dropped a bomb. He commanded me to pack all my things and move back home to come and help him with d church within 7 days else, he will see to it that I am sacked from my new work in one way or the other and also threaten to pray to God to make my girlfriend jilt me (coz she is one of d reasons why I don't want to move back home according to him).

I don't want to move back home at my age. I always pray against it as I see such act as pointing to a backward step in my life. I have managed to setup my apartment to taste and also aiming to marry my present girlfriend.

Do I yield to my father's "come back home" instruction or do I stand on my decision not to? PLEASE ADVISE.

fernandoc:
what an elder sees sitting down.... you know the rest. Maybe your father has seen that with your input in his church it will grow to the likes of Rccg and Winners and you being his son will inherit it and have a secure future. The path with the least resistance is not always the surest path.

efighter:
Your father threatened to see that you are sacked and pray your girlfriend jilt you? I respect elders, so I will say nothing.

RALPHOW:
My first question is what type of church? Spiritual, Pentecostal or Orthodox.
2. Are you sleeping with your girlfriend in the house?

oprah007:
Hi everyone. Happy Sunday. I am a guy of 30 years of age who graduated with BA Degree last year. I couldn't go for youth service because of my age. So I decided to get myself an apartment and started hustling and hunting for job. I recently got a job which promise a great future even though the pay at the moment is not much. I also have a girlfriend who school in one of the federal polytechnics. My father is a Pastor, pastoring a small church in the same state I live.

Now the issue at hand is that my father wants me to leave my apartment and move back home (until probably when I am ripe for marriage I guess). He has been on this for quite sometime of which I told him I can't move back home with them at my age and moreover, its a rented apartment (My parents never build house).

Today, he dropped a bomb. He commanded me to pack all my things and move back home to come and help him with d church within 7 days else, he will see to it that I am sacked from my new work in one way or the other and also threaten to pray to God to make my girlfriend jilt me (coz she is one of d reasons why I don't want to move back home according to him).

I don't want to move back home at my age. I always pray against it as I see such act as pointing to a backward step in my life. I have managed to setup my apartment to taste and also aiming to marry my present girlfriend.

Do I yield to my father's "come back home" instruction or do I stand on my decision not to? PLEASE ADVISE.

oprah007:


Baffles me a lot and makes me wanna cry. What on earth can a son do to his father to warrant such moves.

quintybabe:

This remind me of my dad and I, my own worst pass yours. We use to fight about everything from my hair style to my choice of clothe, make up and Jewry. I have been called names such as Bastard, prostitute, just name it. I have been threatened with curse much more than i can count. My dad usual sings it to my hearing that his spirit isnt happy with me whenever he sees me and will even tell me God isnt happy with me either. There was a time I dread my hair and my dad told me to loose it and I told him I can't, all hell was let loose, everybody at home beg me to listen and just do what he wants but i stood my ground and carry that harhair for 3 month, i was expecting the worst But nothing happened. after service year I told my dad I wanted to visit a guy, there's nothing he didn't say, imagine after serving in northern Nigeria for a whole year, I can't even go out but now they are all praying I get married in my mid thirty. When I got tired of their drama, I moved out of the house at 32. See you will bethe to suffer the consequences of their actions cause it is your life.i Advice you to stand your ground, they will quote scriptures about obeying ur parent and blabla but they won't mention where bible admonish them to not provock their children to anger. Your case is even better you are a man, you better learn to make decisions for yourself else they will control you like a puppet. I forgot to mention that my dad is a pastor too!

femijck:
@op...

If u remember sometimes back I post a topic about cutting d cord with my father....and I stood my ground and made it clear to him that at my age I can make decisons for myself.

He got so mad at me, alot of people gave me advice here.....but trust me since then ,he has stop all sort of domineering behaviour....he now encourage and guide me rather than making decisions for me.

Moving back home at your age to help Ur father without a particular means of income for urself is a BIG step towards failure and depression...and being a rented apartment makes it worst.

It's a pity your education is a bit slow but it's better than never and could this be d reason he still sees u as a kid.....Now listen, no parent would pray for their children downfall except d real evil ones....I considered whatever your dad said a threat. Take your stand...Most succesful hustlers u see today av also been in a similar scenario before....one of the hardest decision for African parent is to let their kids free and move out of the house....it has never been a easy step for anyone...but fight it with wisdom.

Involve any elderly person to talk to him or any of his siblings that u have a relationship with. Stand Ur ground and don't return to that house for any reason if u don't want to be a failure or die of depression ( d moment u start depending on them for food at 30, u know only God can intervene in Ur case)....once u move in, moving out won't be easy anymore.

If it requires u to be unreachable for a while do it...once they can't reach u, and they know it's for that reason of moving in ....trust me Ur mum will start withdrawing from Ur father's wish and start advising him against it. By that u have broken their unity on that topic.... During this period, send them any small thing u can afford to show u care and before u know it, d next time u reach Ur mum d story will be changing gradually....your mum will win his heart for u.