Hello all.... I had to post this to know if my thinking is rational or irrational

I'm dating this lady for almost two years now... We have been friends for over 5 yrs....before she accepted to date me she made it clear she's has no intention of having sex before marriage. ...because I really love her beyond all odds....i told her I ll walk tru it thinking marriage ll come quick although I'm in d class of people that never support no sex before marriage because I wanna be sure of sexual compatibility due to what ve heard and seen in close relations.... Note: she's everything I have prayed for except for her no sex thingy... We have grown to understand each other so well buh the no sex Ish keeps bringing up problem.....friends have adviced I have a side chick to settle that buh I'm not good at keeping two faces without been noticed....i suggested we engage in online sex she reject it as she doesn't want to engage in masturbation buh at some points it happened Tho I triggered it.. I was cool with that until she started rejecting it too..... She told me she never had sex buh didn't admit to been a virgin either....inside me I was like Wetin con remain atleast we are on a serious relationship path.....now d issue is I can't abstaining, tired if online sex as I have so many girls around me wanting to have sex with me so d temptation is so high... Now I'm getting addicted to porn which I hate so much so as not to give in and I get really pissed at her after cumming using porn... I love her and I don't want to break up. ...and I don't want to abstain... Is there any way out.... I ll be inviting her to read this post via d link


I didn't proof read oooo ...kinda busy... Manage d grammatical errors

The only way out bro is to pay her dowry....you can do the wedding celebration later.

She told you she never had sex but she didn't admit to be a virgin?

SCAM! Omo ale oniro

since you cant leave her or wait to marry her, she should leave you, a man that thinks like you and a girl that thinks like her are never compactable.

Skyfornia:
The only way out bro is to pay her dowry....you can do the wedding celebration later.

"Bestest" response...

@ OP, how old are you? Why are you not considering marriage?
And very soon sef, you will discover that love relationship will be much more than sex...

She's sure she has never had sex but she isn't sure of her virginity. Wooz, borruf you ain't serious.

Rape her seductively she will appreciate you later. Na joke o seriously i'm the same mess right now. I treatened her with a breakup since then she been acting all rejected feeling unloved.

What was she doing in the five years prior to agreeing to date you?

If she has never had sex and still will not call her leg a Virgin, then what is she? You either are or aren't. I fear she is not being totally truthful, question is why?

I'd tread carefully if I were you. Still I haven't provided any solutions so I'll endeavour to.

The positives you have listed:you are happy with her in all respect except the no sex thing. And it appears that you want to have a healthy sex life with your life partner so it is important to ensure sexual compatibility.

So why don't you have a chat with her, tell her you are prepared(if you are) to begin the informal marriage process. Meet her peeps, let her meet yours, you know.. That sort of thing.

Also make it clear that after doing this which should no doubt affirm your seriousness to commit, she needs to start giving it up even if she doesn't go all the way. And she needs to clarify what she means about her sexual status.

I commend your desire to be faithful but you have to communicate that you have needs which you expect a partner to satisfy. Be open that you are tempted to satisfy yourself elsewhere and that you do not want to bring deception into your relationship. Tell her if she doesn't help you, you will be left with no choice but to help yourself.

She wants abstinence 'till marriage. On the other hand, you can't cope. She's already made her decision and if you truly love her like you said, you'd respect that. But if you can't stay without sex then use the exit door.

Let me ask you a question. Since you're not ready for marriage, if during intercourse she gets pregnant, what would you do?.

I guess your religion doesnt support sex before marriage.i would not be far from the truth, if i say the moment both of u have sex with each other the strong feelings you have for her wil start growing weak.stop watching porn,chose the advice you wil give ears to, from your friends.and work on your sexual thirst.

Go buy Spanish fly

Buy 5alive
Buy 5ml syringe

Still the Spanish fly n mix it in the 5alive

Keep it in fridge to cool

Give her when she come


U will see the result yourself

No side effect


Don't quote me, he asked for advice

She is not a virgin and she have never have sex, am sure u do give her money, nd she also deprive u of ur conjugal right, nd u re addicted to porn, my brother its ur choice what can i say maybe the god are wise for creating this way

Skyfornia:
The only way out bro is to pay her dowry....you can do the wedding celebration later.

She doesn't want that too.... I talked about that b4

bodejohn:


"Bestest" response...

@ OP, how old are you? Why are you not considering marriage?
And very soon sef, you will discover that love relationship will be much more than sex...

Late twenties.... Had a big personal development project I just delve into and it normal for marriage to wait...my finances can't carter for both... As she want proper wedding

shaybebaby:
What was she doing in the five years prior to agreeing to date you?

If she has never had sex and still will not call her leg a Virgin, then what is she? You either are or aren't. I fear she is not being totally truthful, question is why?

I'd tread carefully if I were you. Still I haven't provided any solutions so I'll endeavour to.

The positives you have listed:you are happy with her in all respect except the no sex thing. And it appears that you want to have a healthy sex life with your life partner so it is important to ensure sexual compatibility.

So why don't you have a chat with her, tell her you are prepared(if you are) to begin the informal marriage process. Meet her peeps, let her meet yours, you know.. That sort of thing.

Also make it clear that after doing this which should no doubt affirm your seriousness to commit, she needs to start giving it up even if she doesn't go all the way. And she needs to clarify what she means about her sexual status.

I commend your desire to be faithful but you have to communicate that you have needs which you expect a partner to satisfy. Be open that you are tempted to satisfy yourself elsewhere and that you do not want to bring deception into your relationship. Tell her if she doesn't help you, you will be left with no choice but to help yourself.

She was in school.... Had a relation in like 2 outta d five years....

Was prepared to meet her people buh funny enough she said she's not ready to expose d whole thing to her family yet.... Giving tribal Ish as an excuse as Yoruba tribe is known for heart breaking in her family

Invited her to Lagos in a guise to make my family get to know her buh she been procrastinating

Blackhawk01:
She's sure she has never had sex but she isn't sure of her virginity. Wooz, borruf you ain't serious.

This meme just scatter my head..lmao

Benita27:

Let me ask you a question. Since you're not ready for marriage, if during intercourse she gets pregnant, what would you do?.

I ll do d marriage immediately.... As it won't happen with a mistake

in the absence of sex,what will i be doing in a relationship??

mykel25:


She was in school.... Had a relation in like 2 outta d five years....

Was prepared to meet her people buh funny enough she said she's not ready to expose d whole thing to her family yet.... Giving tribal Ish as an excuse as Yoruba tribe is known for heart breaking in her family

Invited her to Lagos in a guise to make my family get to know her buh she been procrastinating

Then I'm afraid you need to tell her to holla when she is ready to be straight with you. Sounds like you are more invested in this than she is.

When someone wants to be with you, they do what it takes to make it so.

mikejj:
I guess your religion doesnt support sex before marriage.i would not be far from the truth, if i say the moment both of u have sex with each other the strong feelings you have for her wil start growing weak.stop watching porn,chose the advice you wil give ears to, from your friends.and work on your sexual thirst.

Wrong assertions.... I love more when sex is involved reason y I can't just have sex with a random girl just to not pester her......as for quenching my sexual thirst....i can't as I ve never been a fan of no sex before marriage....

Homeboiy:
Go buy Spanish fly

Buy 5alive
Buy 5ml syringe

Still the Spanish fly n mix it in the 5alive

Keep it in fridge to cool

Give her when she come


U will see the result yourself

No side effect


Don't quote me, he asked for advice

I know this long ago buh I don't wanna steal it from her.... I love mutual consent

shaybebaby:

Then I'm afraid you need to tell her to holla when she is ready to be straight with you. Sounds like you are more invested in this than she is.

When someone wants to be with you, they do what it takes to make it so.

Been thinking of this... Considering many instances that happened that I can't start typing.... That's y I had to post Here... Don't want to waste my time.... As I have limited time to study who I wanna marry... Marriage to me is at most 2019

mykel25:


She doesn't want that too.... I talked about that b4

If she doesn't want to have sex with you before marriage and still don't want you to pay her dowry then there is every probability you are dating yourself.. She might not be into you. Just wasting time with you and waiting for the 'right' one for her.

Skyfornia:


If she doesn't want to have sex with you before marriage and still don't want you to pay her dowry then there is every probability you are dating yourself.. She might not be into you. Just wasting time with you and waiting for the 'right' one for her.

Like she hasn't made up her mind d way I did? Hmm

mykel25:


Like she hasn't made up her mind d way I did? Hmm

I suggest you start paying less attention to her and channel your sexual desire and other things to something gainful.

mykel25:

All you need is common sense. She can not give you what you desire so what is the point. Remba if this girl dies today you will love another girl maybe even more. Don't ever allow a girl dictate the terms of your relationship. Only children allows that.

mykel25:


Late twenties.... Had a big personal development project I just delve into and it normal for marriage to wait...my finances can't carter for both... As she want proper wedding

She is wise...you don't need a fortune to marry these days...

If you love her like you say you do...then put a ring on it...

mykel25:


I ll do d marriage immediately.... As it won't happen with a mistake

You'd immediately marry her if that happens but you can't make up your mind to marry her now but you're frustrated she's abstaining from sex. Need I remind you that none of you owe each other anything 'till you're a couple. Respect her decision and stop forcing her to do things she ordinarily won't.