Following the ongoing rape saga, Nigerian author Elnathan John has come out to address the issue of sexual consent using this analogy, read below.

[b]"Seeing some disturbing tweets on my TL. Rape doesn't have to be violent. Rape can happen AFTER one has given consent for an act of intimacy & not another (for e.g.: I only want to cuddle. I don't want to have sex. Or, I don't want anal. Or, I just want to kiss. No penetration.)

Also, "what were you doing in X's bedroom" is a stupid, unhelpful reaction to "X raped me".
You can be raped by your lover, your spouse, your friend, your sibling, your relative.

How to know when the next step will be rape (just a few examples):
1. Someone has said any of the following:
-stop
-no
-not now
-I don't like it
-it hurts
-I want to leave

2. Someone is clearly refusing to participate in the activity
3. Someone pushes you away

Things that are totally IRRELEVANT in wondering if it is rape or not:
-They allowed be have sex with them before
-They allowed me to touch them just now
-They spent the night at my house
-They slept in the same bed as me
-They wore revealing clothing
-They didn't scream or fight

Imagine this conversation with a waiter:
Waiter: Glad you chose this restaurant, would you like our Tiramisu?
You: No I am happy with my meal thanks
W: I mean, you came to our restaurant. Why come if you don't want Tiramisu?
You: I am fine really.
W: Ok, just the tip of the spoon

You: *baffled as waiter pushes teaspoon with Tiramisu into your mouth*
W: See I told you you'd love our Tiramisu
You: You just forced me to eat your Tiramisu
W: Nah. You walked in here. If you hated it, why didn't you scream? Look at your belt, unfastened, shows you wanted more.

Afterward...
You: *speaks to a policeman about incident*
P: What were you doing when the waiter was pushing the teaspoon into your mouth
You: I was stunned.
P: And you just sat there? Didn't scream or anything?
You: Huh?
P: Why were you there even? Thought you had a kitchen.

You: I like the restaurant. I wanted to eat out.
P: So why are you complaining about the Tiramisu
You: I didn't go there for Tiramisu. I already had my meal. Waiter forced it on me.
P: So you ate their meal but now complain about the Tiramisu. Is it that it tasted bad?[/b]

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let me park here

See why I didn't like the conversation of asking what took her to his house?

To me, it was an irrelevant question. Asking those questions detracts from the real conversation. The fact that a lady spent the night in a guy's house isn't license for anyone to force themselves on her. Boyfriend or not.

My only concern was the 'head' part. Even though it seems she already started pushing him away then.

In any case, I'm happy he has sued. I pray this case gets to the courts. We need to put to bed what constitutes consent and when a lady will be said to have been forced. Sleeping in a guy's house or not.

zicoraads:
See why I didn't like the conversation of asking what took her to his house?

To me, it was an irrelevant question. Asking those questions detracts from the real conversation. The fact that a lady spent the night in a guy's house isn't license for anyone to force themselves on her. Boyfriend or not.

My only concern was the 'head' part. Even though it seems she already started pushing him away then.

In any case, I'm happy he has sued. I pray this case gets to the courts. We need to put to bed what constitutes consent and when a lady will be said to have been forced. Sleeping in a guy's house or not.

Right!

If it gets to court, the issue will shed more light on this rape issue.

But even in all these, we women still need to be careful and not just deliberately lead men on, sometimes it's very very hard to control one's self when it has gotten to a certain point.

Laveda:


Right!

If it gets to court, the issue with shed more light on this rape issue.

But even in all these, we women still need to be careful and not just deliberately lead men on, sometimes it's very very hard to control one's self when it has gotten to a certain point.

Difficult, but do-able. Even animals have self control. Not to talk about humans.

zicoraads:

Difficult, but do-able. Even animals have self control. Not to talk about humans.

Lol. I hope they change

See what lady wore to an event to disgrace husband..see husband reaction https://portalviewz..com.ng/2017/11/busty-olivia-buckland-suffers-epic.html?m=1

when a lady is being given head especially without consent, you will be stunned at that moment, your next thought will be to fight but u just wudnt be able to, that is how very sensitive the clitoris and vagina is, so yall shud stop blaming the lady,

There is nothing wrong sleeping over in a guy's place, so many of us have done it before and nothing happened, the issue is already in court so we'll all see what happens

Following the ongoing rape saga, Nigerian author Elnathan John has come out to address the issue of sexual consent using this analogy, read below.

Don't mind those ladies, they always want to play the victim card

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The issue, with regards the Unilag babe's, has been over flogged. E don tire me. I no read again. Whew!

This is nice to see, I love this,
Nice one Elnathan John, too much sense in this.
I love posts like this that shed more light on rape and what's consent and what's not.

Nice to see

"Just the tip of the spoon" though

ok

Jesus wept

Well done.
Unfortunately, some brutish uncivilized men won't agree with
you because they think it is their right to rape.

ok

Sensible analysis from a sound mind.
Rapist defenders will soon be here to vent their frustrations.

My advise to girls still remains "Your body is the temple of the holy spirit" but this unilag slayers have decided to make their puna the temple of the pr1ck with the highest riches

Say No to rape but to be honest this slay queens don't help matters,how can you sleep in my bed with bumshot,wearing my long sleeve n expect ntin to happen..Adekunle gold's I no be your brother o comes to mind


NO means NO

I will deliver ur message.

Story.... He gave her Head.

Translating that to the restaurant story.

The waiter put the Tiramisu (or whatever) near your nose and YOU WERE ENJOYING THE AROMA.

Laveda:


Right!

If it gets to court, the issue with shed more light on this rape issue.

But even in all these, we women still need to be careful and not just deliberately lead men on, sometimes it's very very hard to control one's self when it has gotten to a certain point.

Justice Okon Abang should handle this case

The law does not operate in vacuum and I think the law should be understanding. I find it so hard believing rape is surrounded by an ideal circumstances.

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So when a girl says "it hurts" during intercourse then she has withdrawn concent? see beta males oh.

The way them go bang una wife eh, chai