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Depression is real and it kills, there have been so many stories here and there, but Nigerians seem to take it less seriously because according to them "disease no dey kill African man".

I have suffered the worst kind of depression ever and today, I am out and out forever, years ago I would cuddle myself in a corner for hours just thinking about life, wondering what could have happened if I have never been alive.

There are so many others.

In February, a disturbing video of an Edo man quarreling with neighbours who saved him from his burning house surfaced on social media. Eyewitnesses said the man, for unknown reasons, chased his family out of his house, locked himself in and set the building on fire. Neighbours rushed to the scene as the building went up in flames; they smashed a door in, and pulled the suicidal father out.

A close-up of the clip shows that the neighbours bounded the man’s hands and legs and taunted him. One unidentified man smacked the victim on the head, while others rained insults on him. And the victim, who clearly did not understand why they would rescue him only to subject him to debasing treatment, lashed out at them.

“Na you give me life? Na you give me life? Why you wan save my life,” he asked them.

Here is the video


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X2A6KE4tfNk

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You mean sexual depression?

What da hell is this thread doing in romance section?

BiafranBushBoy:
You mean sexual depression?

What da hell is this thread doing in romance section?

It's a very painful experience..

Personally, there have been several times I had suicidal thoughts due to unemployment and the inability to foot my basic needs. I come online and see my juniors posting baby dedication pictures, wedding pictures, vacation pictures, pictures from their offices in multinational organisations, top banks Et Al... then I look at myself as jobless and as broke as I am. After series of unsuccessful interviews, age is no longer on my side for any good job. No concrete experience... what will become of me? Forever struggling? No! Why shouldn't I just end all these by jumping off from this 3Rd floor ?

Oh.. less I forget, no reasonable girl was willing to accept my advances... they all keep saying one thing "John you're a great guy and I know you'll make a fine husband ...but"

What other reasons do u have to live?

It takes grace to overcome depression really. I'm not doing so much better yet but definitely not as before, and when I look back, I bless God's name for saving me.

For the records, that Ibudun Pino Olaniyi guy with all his terrible comments is an ignorant ediot...n I only pray depression doesn't hit him or his

honjohnbright:
For the records, that Ibudun Pino Olaniyi guy with all his terrible comments is an ignorant ediot...n I only pray depression doesn't hit him or his

Na afonja na weytn u expect from the clown b4

honjohnbright:
It's a very painful experience..

Personally, there have been several times I had suicidal thoughts due to unemployment and the inability to foot my basic needs. I come online and see my juniors posting baby dedication pictures, wedding pictures, vacation pictures, pictures from their offices in multinational organisations, top banks Et Al... then I look at myself as jobless and as broke as I am. After series of unsuccessful interviews, age is no longer on my side for any good job. No concrete experience... what will become of me? Forever struggling? No! Why shouldn't I just end all these by jumping off from this 3Rd floor ?

Oh.. less I forget, no reasonable girl was willing to accept my advances... they all keep saying one thing "John you're a great guy and I know you'll make a fine husband ...but"

What other reasons do u have to live?

It takes grace to overcome depression really. I'm not doing so much better yet but definitely not as before, and when I look back, I bless God's name for saving me.

It is well dear.
Situations change.

honjohnbright:
It's a very painful experience..

Personally, there have been several times I had suicidal thoughts due to unemployment and the inability to foot my basic needs. I come online and see my juniors posting baby dedication pictures, wedding pictures, vacation pictures, pictures from their offices in multinational organisations, top banks Et Al... then I look at myself as jobless and as broke as I am. After series of unsuccessful interviews, age is no longer on my side for any good job. No concrete experience... what will become of me? Forever struggling? No! Why shouldn't I just end all these by jumping off from this 3Rd floor ?

Oh.. less I forget, no reasonable girl was willing to accept my advances... they all keep saying one thing "John you're a great guy and I know you'll make a fine husband ...but"

What other reasons do u have to live?

It takes grace to overcome depression really. I'm not doing so much better yet but definitely not as before, and when I look back, I bless God's name for saving me.

Underachievement is a big turn on for depression. It makes you feel lesser than you actually are, but there is something else too. You don't have to wait for someone, or some company to build your world for you, to give you that killer job that will propel you to the places of your dreams. You can get there yourself, you can make it yourself, you can build your own world without working for anyone.

All you need to do is simply be positive, be positive throughout, even if you see people enjoying their lives, be positive, always remind yourself that those people once had a time when they struggled, when they cried and worked hard through the night, now today their hard work has paid off and the only reason why it paid off is because they were positive throughout and they never gave up.

Time may not be on your side, but if you yourself, your mind is on your side then you can scale through. There are lots of opportunities out there and all you need to do is expand your limits, don't limit yourself to anything because the Nigerian economy provides you an advantage whereby mechanical engineers can work as bankers. So never limit yourself but expand your limits.

Depression makes you give up on things and you stop solving problems and start complaining about them which will never make them go away. Once you start becoming positive, you will send a message to your brain that you are not a quitter, that you are ready to take those unseen opportunities by force (because they are really there) and in time you will get there. What separated University Student Mark Zuckerberg in 2003 from the Billionaire Entrepreneur Mark Zuckerberg in 2017 is simply positivity, time and hardwork.

If you need anything I will always be there to help you through it.

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise

Depression is misunderstood. You could be rich and have everything going for you and you could still suffer from depression.

Depression is when your brain won't create the required level of serotonin. You may require medication if you can't do it on your own.

It's a catch 22 because in order for the brain to create serotonin, you need to stimulate yourself and socialise but with depression comes anxiety which stops you from socialising and stimulating serotonin.

You are caught in this cycle and if you can break this cycle by pushing yourself past anxiety, and getting out and about, exercising, and eating well then the brain will be able to create the serotonin and end the depression.

Dimples129:
Depression is misunderstood. You could be rich and have everything going for you and you could still suffer from depression.

Depression is when your brain won't create the required level of serotonin. You may require medication if you can't do it on your own.

It's a catch 22 because in order for the brain to create serotonin, you need to stimulate yourself and socialise but with depression comes anxiety which stops you from socialising and stimulating serotonin.

You are caught in this cycle and if you can break this cycle by pushing yourself past anxiety, and getting out and about, exercising, and eating well then the brain will be able to create the serotonin and end the depression.

Ta lo bi weyrey lejo

Dimples129:
Depression is misunderstood. You could be rich and have everything going for you and you could still suffer from depression.

Depression is when your brain won't create the required level of serotonin. You may require medication if you can't do it on your own.

It's a catch 22 because in order for the brain to create serotonin, you need to stimulate yourself and socialise but with depression comes anxiety which stops you from socialising and stimulating serotonin.

You are caught in this cycle and if you can break this cycle by pushing yourself past anxiety, and getting out and about, exercising, and eating well then the brain will be able to create the serotonin and end the depression.

Which is why it is recommended for those who are depressed to eat well, socialize (with family and friends) and get enough rest. But my dear depression might not all be connected to serotonin, it is a more complex mental condition.s You could produce enough serotonin after having sex and still be depressed. But still you have stated a fact.

Although you can't actually end the depression by encouraging your brain to create the more serotonin. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter which is believed to influence depression since it influences your mood and social behavior, appetite and digestion, sleep, memory and sexual desire and function. Low levels of serotonin simply amplify depression making smaller problems with simple solutions seem bigger. It is recommended that you eat well, exercise and sleep to increase your levels of serotonin to help with depression but that wouldn't end depression, because it is more of a psychosocial and psychological problem. (meaning it is more of what we see, what we think and what we believe that will end depression).

I suffered depression while growing up, it ws hell, dere alot 2 write but I shall try 2 make it short, all dese happened tru out my teenage years
Growing up wt mum: anytime she sends me on errands and I return later dan wen I suppose 2, as soon as I step into d compound, she rushes at me, grabs my clothes, tear dem all and start beating me accusing of visiting one guy or d oda(eva since she told me dat if I go close to a guy and talk to hm, dat I wl b pregnant, it put so much fear in me, so her accusation ws far from truth). Dis happened severally, I hated her, dat ws her own way of training me bt it ws hell. Evry month, she ensures dat I show her my menstrual pad jst 2 b sure am nt pregnant, I lived like a stranger in my father's house, d only time I mix wt my frnds is in skul, I must nt go out or hv a visitor ahome, sometimes I doubted if she ws truly my mum.

FitnessDoctor:


Which is why it is recommended for those who are depressed to eat well, socialize (with family and friends) and get enough rest. But my dear depression might not all be connected to serotonin, it is a more complex mental condition.s You could produce enough serotonin after having sex and still be depressed. But still you have stated a fact.

Although you can't actually end the depression by encouraging your brain to create the more serotonin. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter which is believed to influence depression since it influences your mood and social behavior, appetite and digestion, sleep, memory and sexual desire and function. Low levels of serotonin simply amplify depression making smaller problems with simple solutions seem bigger. It is recommended that you eat well, exercise and sleep to increase your levels of serotonin to help with depression but that wouldn't end depression, because it is more of a psychosocial and psychological problem. (meaning it is more of what we see, what we think and what we believe that will end depression).

Fair point

Growing wt our second son:big bro invited me to live wt hm, I ws happy dat atleast, I cn change environment and mix with pple, I neva new I ws going in2 hell part 2. I finally went to hm, and dere it started again, bro wl snd 2 get something 4 hm, after I hv left, he wl quietly follow me behind 2 see if a guy wl stop or talk me, u no guys na, dey must surely try to show up,even u form deaf and dumb, dey keep preaching and following u abt. Wen I finally gets home, bro wl list hw many guys Dat talked to me on d road and den serious beatings begin to fall, I remember fainting during one of his beating, I had 2 cul dad, he wsnt happy abt it, he had to come take me home.

Life sucks. Just haven't had the courage to do it yet. But each day i keep getting more motivated to do it.

Yeah, I battled depression for 4months. It is really bad.
Well, I got someone to talk to about the thoughts inside of my head and certain comments here on NL family section did help me out of it.

I was depressed, tired of life; I was just sad and I didn't even know why.

Growing up wt first son:d same story bt straight to d point, he came home after work one nite and discovered dat I didn't eat d food his wife cooked b4 dey both left 4 work. He sed I shud tell hm who took me out dat made me nt eat ahome, he pulled his belt and I ran outside, I sat outside for abt 2hrs and after much thinking, d only tin Dat came in2 my head ws 2 open our well and jump inside, Wat ws I living for? Mum or siblings? I went towards d well and ws trying to lift d cover, I totally forgot dat nobody goes to the d well at night,(it ws12midnight), luckily, landlord ws still outside, he heard d nose and demanded 2 no who ws dere, he flashed torchlight at me, came close and ws asking Wat I ws doing dere, I couldn't alter a word, only tears. It ws hell growing up, i cn now see d advantages bt d fear and inability to mix or talk to pple has refused to let go.

The first time I contemplated suicide, I was less than ten years old. I remember thinking that I would rather end it than live with the persistent melancholy. My life has always been a miserable rainy day no matter what went on. I've always been filled with an overwhelming sense of meaninglessness. For as long as I can remember. The frustrating thing is that, the feeling would settle on me like a heavy blanket of glum with no significant triggers. Sometimes, a trigger could be as small as someone not flushing the toilet or Nepa taking light. I would ask myself: is there anything at all on this earth worth holding on or out for, and the answer would always be 'no'. I couldn't find any justification for getting up everyday to live life.

I've gotten by, by escaping my life through novels, movies, music and writing. I get so invested that the make-believe matters more to me than reality itself. And in real life, I would let everything slide very close to the edge before attending to issues. I think the reason that I eventually work extra hard under the pressure, to ensure I do what's required, is because I instinctively choose fight over flight when it comes down to it. But even after realizing this, I cannot bring myself to care enough to stay the course. I cannot live without the possibility of escape. I find it too suffocating. For me, a death potion on my nightstand is like opening a window to let the air in.

The first time I actually attempted suicide I was fifteen. I didn't know enough about what would constitute a lethal dose of Valium, so I only ended up enjoying a long nap and none was ever the wiser. The next time I was twenty three. I did it with Valium again, after conscientiously stockpiling the pills over several months. But I ended up in a hospital with a tube down my throat, and a judgmental doctor speculating that I had tried to off myself over some boy. It was humiliating! I didn't mind that my parents did not want to talk about it afterwards. They decided to tread on eggshells around me.

Of course, all my relationships are bound to suffer for this. I would switch off my phone over the whole weekend (I cannot afford to stay incommunicado during the work days if I don't want to be sacked) because, on especially bad days, I'm instantly worn out when a call comes in. I just feel like screaming: leave me the Bleep alone! Sometimes I let it ring and prepare my excuses for when I eventually call back. But I'm always good natured when I get round to interacting with people and I'm forgiven for flaking out on them. Underlying this disorder is a self-absorbedness - a narcissistic element. I know I cannot commit to anyone. Having a child, for me, would be just as suffocating as having no diazepam on stand by. I think it would be irresponsible of me to ever go down that road because a responsibility like that would root me in place. And I'm a tumbleweed.

At first I thought I just had a really shitty temperament, but I have read a lot looking for answers. And I have come to terms with the fact that I'm clinically depressed. I know most doctors believe it cannot be treated or managed without antidepressants, but I do not want to be hooked on drugs. My thinking is that the doses would constantly need to be tweaked to maintain a certain level of 'happiness' and if I ever go off them I would be in an even deeper trough than I am in now. Psychotherapy is a worthy alternative.

But with this awareness, I have met people that have similar conditions and it has helped to know I'm not alone and can actually talk about it. Knowing helps me appreciate the triumph of making it through a day. And I've learned that escaping can be a valid coping mechanism. But not into a world of fiction. Doing stuff for other people also gives me a break from myself.

I have been suffering from Major depressive disorder for a very long time now.

CuddleBear:
Life sucks.
Just haven't had the courage to do it yet.
But each day i keep getting more motivated to do it.

please don't do anything bad to yourself when the is life there is hope remain blessed.

supaNOVAE:
please don't do anything bad to yourself when the is life there is hope remain blessed.

So they say.

CuddleBear:

So they say.

Regardless there is always hope.

Everyone, I repeat; Everyone has one time in their life experienced depression, both the rich and poor. Even most people and celebrities you see on social media pretending to be happy are suffering from severe depression. All those stunts they put up are make believe. Sweden is a rich and developed country by international standards, but the rate of suicide there should tell you something is wrong.

However, Depression has levels. Some people are strong enough to hold it while others are not. The experiences I read here has made mine seem like a child's play, people are really passing through alot, reason you shouldn't judge people unless you know the reasons for their actions. Most comments people make on here can also lead one to depression, there are some group of fools who parade this section calling girls ugly, this could hurt their self esteem and lead to eventual depression.

One sinister experience I wouldn't forget among others was when someone I regard more than a friend, (cos we grew up together) whom I was living with gave me an ultimatum to pack out for him before a week runs out. He didn't give me any tangible reason, but I suspect it was because of his female friends that would be visiting... where would I go to? Man's inhumanity to his fellow man!. At that moment, suicidal thoughts filled my minds, people that had me on Facebook and other social media platforms could tell from the kind of posts and pictures I paste. I really thank God for those who stood with me, the whole thing has made me stronger.

Depression is very bad, when someone makes a post about committing suicide, it doesn't really mean they intend doing it, they just need words of encouragement to get life going, but some fools on social media who hasn't experienced shii doesn't know what it entails, so they make jokes outta it.

I've been countering them and won't relent on it, I'm actually conducting a precise research on depression which I believe would impact on alot of people.

Let's join hands to save humanity, thanks fitnessdoctor for bringing this up. We most times fail to talk about things that really do matter.

cc: Homeboiy and Lalas247 when you see this I want to send you a workout plan for evaluation, if you are interested, I need your honest views, Please.

FitnessDoctor:
cc: Homeboiy and Lalas247 when you see this I want to send you a workout plan for evaluation, if you are interested, I need your honest views, Please.

OK oya send am nah

Even as I de type now iam depressed cos iam broke and it gives me sleepless nights

Na yam I de kitchen de fry make I take am drink custard


Well send wetin u wan send

Please here in Imo we have a commissioner for happiness so any time we are depressed all we need do is to stand in queue and wait for our turn to hammer the kpekus.

Homeboiy:



OK oya send am nah

Just sent you a pm

FitnessDoctor:


Just sent you a pm

Ok I will reply u

I can totally relate to the topic here coz I am in that position presently, the feeling of loneliness & helplessness overwhelms me daily, no friend to talk to as I am not really great at turning my emotions into words, no family to pour my heart out to, I find it hard to trust someone as I have been betrayed severally, I just feel cold towards life in the hope that things will turn for better but I don't know how long I can hold on for things to turn around for good