ameh99:
Here you are double dating and you seriously expect the guys you date not to cheat on you?....

savvy12:

so I should sleep with him because I'm 27?

goodnessme02:



my guy, you're a murderer ooo

Rebuke:
Well, avoiding pre-marital sex is a vry nice thing to do but one confusing thing here is yhu having two fiancees.

What if each of this guy yhu call yhur fiance is also having two fiancees?

I think yhu shld work on yhur self by learning how to be faithful to a man before yhu consider going into a serious relationship or else, yhu will be so used and dumped.



What is the. It is you...

cruchenutii:


But that is permanent residency & not Citizen as it seems. You must not leave Canada between that speculated 3 years right? And I'm not entirely sure you have all the rights that a Citizen has.

Please tell me if i'm wrong

Rebuke:
Well, avoiding pre-marital sex is a vry nice thing to do but one confusing thing here is yhu having two fiancees.

What if each of this guy yhu call yhur fiance is also having two fiancees?

I think yhu shld work on yhur self by learning how to be faithful to a man before yhu consider going into a serious relationship or else, yhu will be so used and dumped.



What is yhu . It is you...

savvy12:

so I should sleep with him because I'm 27?

dannio:


No you can travel go and come back a lot of our people have travelled to and fro while working towards settling.The Canadian Citizenship thing is like this before :you have to be physically present in Canada for 4 out of 6years before applying for citizenship but now it is 3 years of the last 5 years before applying for citizenship.

Ginaz:


Abeg shift one corner. cos someone is abroad means they can't be dated? What is so big about the abroad that you tagged her a gold digger ? Is abroad heaven? Your way of reasoning is very low if I may say. People find love across continents it doesn't mean it is done for money.

Jeeez, such a mentality you have!

savvy12:
Pls guys,I need your advice.
No insults please.

I have two men in my life right now.

The first one is a medical doctor at nauth in nnewi. According to him, he is 37 years old(10 yes older than me) but I still don't believe him cos he looks much older than his assumed age. He looks 40ish. And he is sort of secretive. He doesn't like talking about himself.we started dating last year before I lost my dad.

Things have been going well but the problem is that he has been pestering me for sex. But I'm not ready to have sex with him cos I'm not attracted to him. I went to his apartment as usual last week Sunday and he tried to initiate sex but I refused and told him I wasn't ready for it. He got angry and drove me to the park where I entered bus to my house. Since then he hasn't called or spoken to me.

I'm worried right now. I feel like he will leave me after he succeeds in having sex with me. That's why I refused him sex.

pls note,I'm not a goldigger cos I'm not the type that demand money from guys.He gets angry whenever he offers me money and I refuse.

I am also dating a second guy who is abroad. He lives in Canada. I got his number through his sister who is a friend of mine. We have been chatting for 3months now and he seems like a nice guy. He said he will come back to Nigeria after applying for his citizenship card next year.

I'm confused right now.I don't know whether to forget about the doctor and focus on the abroad guy or should I beg the doc and allow him have sex with me.
I have not had any relationship for a maximum of 2years cos the guys I meet always want from me even I try not to demand anything from them.
pls I need advice.

savvy12:

Nope,he isn't married. I'm sure about that

kambili999:
I used the word 'most' not 'all'. it's you who is generalizing not me

citadels:
My sister forget the idiotic doctor. He is a cheat and don't be surprise he has a wife and children outside Nigeria but wants intimacy gadget here in Nigeria . pls forget him.

Alcatraz005:
I read the whole comments on this thread and i laughed hard. The Op's situation is not surprising as it just a confirmation of female hypergamy in making relationship choices. Ladies are naturally selfish and are not capable of giving love like men. Even the Bible urges women to "Submit" to their men. You begin to wonder why the Bible didnt tell them to "love" their husbands- it is because women will always go for the strongest and most capable men to mate with. The following facts are my observations on the OP's issue thus:

1} The Op will gladly fvck the Canada Fiancee if he comes back because all she can think of is her own welfare as a citizen of Canada.

2} The OP didnt agree to fvck the Doctor because she has thought long and hard that it would not pay her to settle down with a Nigerian Doctor in the long run, hence her chances of fvcking him have drastically reduced in her own heart.

3} The OP is at the same time weary of not completely losing out with the Doctor in the likely event that the Canada adventure proves abortive {this is after being fvcked by the canada guy of course}

4} The OP's residual hopes of still being with the Doctor is solely predicated on the Doctor's is financial stability.

5} The Doctor has an inalienable right to demand for sex from the OP after one year of their relationship and is justified in his rage/displeasure with the OP.

On the whole, the OP's story reflects the thinking pattern of the feminine gender in general and how they rationalise their mating/relationship choices. This particular story is further exacerbated by the fact that the concerned female {OP} is a Nigerian who faces extreme poverty in a 3rd World country like Nigeria and has to factor in the economic benefits that accrue from any relationship she enters into.

We are all Nigerians and we know how bad things are so we should kindly excuse the OP's confusion at this point.

Selah.

ykrowland2012:

if that is to keep the relationship, so do it

BlueScholar:


you forgot to state the glaring TRUTH in her post, which is "true desire can't not be negotiated " she's not attracted to the Doc, he's just an option incase Canada didn't work out. and that's the only reason he's seen as the bad guy. if Canada guy will land today she won't wait another day to give him the puna.
if you're not attracted to the doctor free him perhaps someone new will show, it's unfair to keep him as plan B

savvy12:

The truth is that I haven't met the abroad guy yet.
Though we have been chatting on whatsapp and he sent me his pics.
He promised to come back next year by easter.
it seems I will consider other options.i dont i will hope on him.I don't really know what will happen tomorrow.
The problem is that the guys that always approach me are not the ones I'm attracted to.
Thanks for d advice.

Gentle034:

Then go for the one you are attracted to!!!!

Etuagievin:
. Are u by this statement urging him to sleep with the doc?

Etuagievin:
. Are u by this statement urging him to sleep with the doc?

savvy12:
Pls guys,I need your advice.
No insults please.

I have two men in my life right now.

The first one is a medical doctor at nauth in nnewi. According to him, he is 37 years old(10 yes older than me) but I still don't believe him cos he looks much older than his assumed age. He looks 40ish. And he is sort of secretive. He doesn't like talking about himself.we started dating last year before I lost my dad.

Things have been going well but the problem is that he has been pestering me for sex. But I'm not ready to have sex with him cos I'm not attracted to him. I went to his apartment as usual last week Sunday and he tried to initiate sex but I refused and told him I wasn't ready for it. He got angry and drove me to the park where I entered bus to my house. Since then he hasn't called or spoken to me.

I'm worried right now. I feel like he will leave me after he succeeds in having sex with me. That's why I refused him sex.

pls note,I'm not a goldigger cos I'm not the type that demand money from guys.He gets angry whenever he offers me money and I refuse.

I am also dating a second guy who is abroad. He lives in Canada. I got his number through his sister who is a friend of mine. We have been chatting for 3months now and he seems like a nice guy. He said he will come back to Nigeria after applying for his citizenship card next year.

I'm confused right now.I don't know whether to forget about the doctor and focus on the abroad guy or should I beg the doc and allow him have sex with me.
I have not had any relationship for a maximum of 2years cos the guys I meet always want from me even I try not to demand anything from them.
pls I need advice.