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Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by Nobody: 11:16am On Dec 18, 2017
serverconnect:
My dear Africa has tradition. But I am not in support of paying too much (high) bride price.
Tradition? What purpose does it serve? What's its value? How does it benefit society? Anachronistic rubbish. All these archaic, useless "traditions" are the reasons why Africa is backward.

Western civilization is superior and more evolved---deal with it.

Even me can never pay that sh¡t to marry the woman I love.

Bride price ko, groom price ni.
Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by baysol: 11:16am On Dec 18, 2017
smulti:
White people don't engage in those poo...


they are joined in marriage registry and white wedding is optional
.

You put coconut for head you call am brain. Quo abi wetin them call you who the hell are you to tell us Africans how we will run our show? to the coconut guy think before you talk wetin white man do wey better for Africa and even the whole world. Starting from the latest backwards we are in the middle of impending nuclear war world wide because of who? White man and their so called uncivilised civilisation(trump epitomised this in all ramifications, even Clinton would have started the war by now). corruption was literarily taught to Africans from school and through the greedy lot of white men, they colonise Africa sharing it like a piece of cake among themselves without so much as consult with Africans themselves, they brought a form of commercial Christianity through Catholic, Baptist, Anglican, and other Pentecostals that pray on peoples tithes but tell congregants to demonise true Christians like the Jehovah's witnesses that do not tolerate indiscipline among members and do it as the Bible says. Introduced Democracy which has largely failed the people world wide only for few especially in Nigeria, to lord it over many quite contrary to the principles it preaches. Slave trade the evil of the century was perpetrated by white men. When white men is mentioned here, we are not talking of white race alone but the principles of secularity which behave like the proverbial ostrich that buries its head avoiding reality until Islamic state started business, a woman deliberately wears hijab that has no place in secular world, to graduation to challenge the status quo small small we are moving to a new violence scenario as ISIS and Boko haram are failing all representing Islam. but Islam want you to be the ostrich and say these are not moderate Muslims. White man will tell you they are the custodians of zoos, wildlife sanctuaries and yet through their activities albeit under their watch, animals kept dwindling and even going into extinction, Dodo comes to mind and many soon to follow. Africans hunts and use these animals for food clothing and other cultural practices with other traditional control systems to check over hunting and nothing was extinct until white man comes with greed and deception that stole and over exploit our resources in Africa. Today Africans are still blinded to go to Europe dying in the Mediterranean sea like flies leaving resources of Africa behind to lands of greedy money and second enslavement. Yet AU and African leaders exists while all these are happening.

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Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by Oludon20: 11:18am On Dec 18, 2017
I am Married to a Lady from Mbano and i was given two lists on that faithful day. We were busy chatting and laughing over some plates of Akpu/Village soup,Palm wine/Ugba and finally Rice and stew. I must confess it was fun. When the people realize you are not from the tribe,the list seems very tough but even at that if you can go there with a good SPOKESPERSON that understands their tradition and you have won the hearts of your In-laws the whole process is just a Walk-over like mine. I am not from that tribe and the entire process did not tear my pocket. I see my In-laws as the Best and my Wife the most Wonderful thing that ever happened to me.

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Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by thickminaj(f): 11:18am On Dec 18, 2017
Tydie0:

Hmmmm!! I can't agree with you more btw you have a nice username that complement your looks.
Whew!!!
Thanks
Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by safarigirl(f): 11:19am On Dec 18, 2017
obryneblaque:

Truth is bitter tongue
don't let money chase you from true love biko
it's like you could not afford bride price at some point in your life, and now you're taking it out on the enemy.

Don't worry bro, you'll find someone else. We cannot all get what we want, sometimes you have to find alternatives

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Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by Nobody: 11:19am On Dec 18, 2017
omaar12:
If He Is Not Comfortable With It, There Is A Lot Of White Ladies In Europe And America, He Should Go Back To His Continent And Get Married. African Men Are Not Complaining, Must Me Substitute All Our Culture And Norms Just To Please U Guy.
He Is Even Saying We Should Be Happy That He Is Even Getting Married To Our Ladies Wtf. These Kind Of Guys Are Those Kind That The In Laws Cannot Ask For Help When They Are In Dier Need Least He Calls Them A Scammer.
He wants to marry her for his own reasons---and her parents have no say in the matter. It's up to the woman to decide who she wants to spend the rest of her life with, and their permission isn't necessary, since she's an adult, and THEY DON'T OWN HER.

She's not their property.
Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by chloride6: 11:20am On Dec 18, 2017
thickminaj:
It's our tradition.... If it hurts him so much he can go back to wherever he came from.... angry



Dont you pay a price for what you buy?
Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by dont8(m): 11:21am On Dec 18, 2017
safarigirl:
the correction was made earlier. Thanks still
Yeah, didn't know someone has corrected it before I posted. You welcome BTW.
Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by thickminaj(f): 11:24am On Dec 18, 2017
chloride6:




Dont you pay a price for what you buy?
It's just a binding agreement that shows commitment and it's cheap... The main dowry is just 50 Naira in some states
Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by obryneblaque: 11:24am On Dec 18, 2017
safarigirl:
it's like you could not afford bride price at some point in your life, and now you're taking it out on the enemy.

Don't worry bro, you'll find someone else. We cannot all get what we want, sometimes you have to find alternatives
Am okay, so pls shut your mouth up. I can't pay huge money for one kind useless thing in the name of traditions? Did Adam pay God a huge amount of money to have Eve? Instead, his ribs. True love is more than those sily bride price

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Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by biacan(f): 11:24am On Dec 18, 2017
rayobaba:
which dignity
The one you left in your father's house......smh
Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by bughead: 11:25am On Dec 18, 2017
Why pay for something that will cause you trouble in the future undecided


If peradventure I'm marrying those baboons called naija women, I won't pay more than 1k as her bride price! If them don't agree let her father marry her! angry


This days that women are piece of shiit

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Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by sexy74(m): 11:29am On Dec 18, 2017
Quelle:
Twitter user, Stevie Que has taken to the platform to express his anger over 'Bride pride' claims Nigerians use every opportunity to scam.



He wrote;
Can somebody explain to me why the Africans have no class?? Why do they throw ones at people on their WEDDING they as if they are worthless strippers with no dignity ? Please explain"



He continued;;
"African parents sell their daughters as if they are prostitutes and call I️t a “bridal fee” or some other dumb shit just to get married... smh why am I paying the parents to marry their daughter? this is sick"
"Africans are known for scamming & finessing but this is just sick... can people be in love IN PEACE without you scamming for once.. I’m not paying nobody parents to marry their daughter.. they better be grateful somebody even wants to marry her"



http://www.lodgerill.com.ng/2017/12/not-paying-white-man-laments-over-bride.html?m=1




My brother no one force you to marry, if you dont have the money ask family and friends tO CONTRIBUTE.
Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by WINDSOW(m): 11:30am On Dec 18, 2017
Thank God some right thinking fellow like me is raising this issue.

Bride price n other items paid for a bride in Nigeria and other cultural practices should be looked into. The cost expended on purchasing these items are exorbitant nowadays when compared to the good old days when things were cheap and affordable.

U ll agree with me that these practices has hindered and discourage a vast number of responsible men from going into marriage.

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Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by chloride6: 11:30am On Dec 18, 2017
thickminaj:

It's just a binding agreement that shows commitment and it's cheap... The main dowry is just 50 Naira in some states

Did you read the article at all?
Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by safarigirl(f): 11:31am On Dec 18, 2017
obryneblaque:

Am okay, so pls shut your mouth up. I can't pay huge money for one kind useless thing in the name of traditions? Did Adam pay God a huge amount of money to have Eve? Instead, his ribs. True love is more than those sily bride price
a whole rib was removed from Adam...that was the price he had to pay. You cannot get a woman for free, even God did not give Eve to Adam for free, do you know the worth of a rib?

Stop being silly and asking about money when the first man was created.

Moses had to work 7 years to marry his wife, why didn't her father dash her to him for free? Do you know the money equivalent of seven years of service to a man?

You cannot claim to love somebody if you expect her people to just give her to you like that. Even the Bible recognizes dowry, if you don't want to pay it, stop whining about it.

You are not the only man in this world, find what you can afford and leave the people that know what they want

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Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by Nobody: 11:32am On Dec 18, 2017
undecided undecided The moment they give you the price... go and do marriage registry.

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Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by emeka2847: 11:32am On Dec 18, 2017
You never waka. That na why

Adebowhales:
This one na afin, between I've never seen a hausa albino.
Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by fxjohn2: 11:38am On Dec 18, 2017
This cannot be true. Who is that blogger that did this nonsense to this couple?
Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by Ashley86400: 11:38am On Dec 18, 2017
oshe111:
DUDE IS BROKE


"They Better Be Grateful Someone Even Wants To marry Her"


This is what U get when UR PHONE HAS A SCREEN LOCK BUT UR LEGS ARE ALWAYS WIDER THAN RIVER NILE.....

U BECOME WORTHLESS, THESE DAYS SOME GIRLS EVEN INITIATES SEX AND FORCE YOU WHEN U REJECT THEM.....

U THINK U ARE ĎOING ME BUT U ARE DOING YOURSELF.....

PS: PREEK DONT EXPAND, BUT TOTO DOES

1- Is there any law that says only men should intitiate sex? What is wrong with a girl initiating sex if she feels like it, after all logic explains that two people don't have to be Hot at "exactly the same time to want to have sex". Someone has to start it.

2- If you no get sense, borrow. .Diccks don't expand vaaginas ,childbirth does.And it can easily be tightened back with kegels exercise. Stop saying rubbish.If you feel vaginnas are loose, then your dicck is probably too thin. Cause if you were packing a lot of meat, vaginna size wouldn't be an issue for you.

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Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by Kennedymac(m): 11:41am On Dec 18, 2017
bamirotola:
I know Nigerians , especially Edo nd IBO's , they excalated d bride price cos he's white... He must have been told abt paying but got more than what he bargained ... Dear IBO parents , don't use your daughter to extort your in-law, that's why their ladies keeps running to Yoruba guys despite tagging dem Yoruba demon, cos we don't care abt d price ...lool nd IBO guys running after Yoruba ladies...

Statistics shows that by 2020, there will be more single IBO ladies than other tribe , you can google..
Tag me with stupid comment at your own Peril oo
ekwensu kpo gi oku

ikpu onye ara

Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by obryneblaque: 11:46am On Dec 18, 2017
safarigirl:
a whole rib was removed from Adam...that was the price he had to pay. You cannot get a woman for free, even God did not give Eve to Adam for free, do you know the worth of a rib?

Stop being silly and asking about money when the first man was created.

Moses had to work 7 years to marry his wife, why didn't her father dash her to him for free? Do you know the money equivalent of seven years of service to a man?

You cannot claim to love somebody if you expect her people to just give her to you like that. Even the Bible recognizes dowry, if you don't want to pay it, stop whining about it.

You are not the only man in this world, find what you can afford and leave the people that know what they want
They pay with their labour. Moreover, those woman are of good dignity and they valuable. So they worth something paying for, unlike some holes wey come repent to be a sister

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Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by Nobody: 11:47am On Dec 18, 2017
safarigirl:
a whole rib was removed from Adam...that was the price he had to pay. You cannot get a woman for free, even God did not give Eve to Adam for free, do you know the worth of a rib?

Stop being silly and asking about money when the first man was created.

Moses had to work 7 years to marry his wife, why didn't her father dash her to him for free? Do you know the money equivalent of seven years of service to a man?

You cannot claim to love somebody if you expect her people to just give her to you like that. Even the Bible recognizes dowry, if you don't want to pay it, stop whining about it.

You are not the only man in this world, find what you can afford and leave the people that know what they want
But, what manner of senselessness, retardation, and stupidity is this? You cannot get a woman for free? A woman is a product with a price tag? What bullshit. But you're supposed to get a man for free? How about paying groom price? Such cretinism. I thought people are supposed to be PRICELESS.

You cannot claim to love somebody if you expect her people to give her to you like that? "Give her to you"? Like she's their property? Now, this is a new level of dumb.

This is so absurd.

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Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by mickeymimi: 11:54am On Dec 18, 2017
If you are getting married to someone ... You have to or must respect that person s culture no matter what ....otherwise you dont marry ...the dating period gives you the chance to make up your mind ..

The moment you start insulting her culture ... then you are bound to insult the lady one day...you dont go to peoples house to ask for something and disrespect or give them condition ......if you love ur bride you will do it....

FY1 > Many countries practise bride pricing due to religion or culture and you cannot change it . They have been doing it from centuries .. It is in the bible ..
Exo 6 “If a man entices a virgin who isn’t pledged to be married, and lies with her, he shall surely pay a dowry for her to be his wife. 17 If her father utterly refuses to give her to him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.

The Jewish ..Africans ...Islamic ... central Asia.. China ..papau new guinea.....Afghanistan . pay bride price. Some part of Russia Dowry is mandatory .
Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by Nobody: 11:57am On Dec 18, 2017
Hmmm , na wa
Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by apalemighty01(m): 11:57am On Dec 18, 2017
smulti:


the bride to be says Orderwise
.

The bride to be can't say otherwise. Its customary. and if he loves her, he wouldnt be saying all this trash. If Nigerians can pay bride price. with this kind hard economy. God punish the man

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Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by safarigirl(f): 11:59am On Dec 18, 2017
Maezara:
But, what manner of senselessness, retardation, and stupidity is this? You cannot get a woman for free? A woman is a product with a price tag? What bullshit. But you're supposed to get a man for free? How about paying groom price? Such cretinism. I thought people are supposed to be PRICELESS.

You cannot claim to love somebody if you expect her people to give her to you like that? "Give her to you"? Like she's their property? Now, this is a new level of dumb.

This is so absurd.
you cannot even refute any of the claims. The bible accepts dowry, most traditions require dowry, you can ask anywhere in the world.

You are either dumb, delusional or both if you actually believe the jargons you wrote...a daughter is a property and an investment jist like a son is.

In India, women pay dowry to the groom's family, so, if you want someone to pay for you, go to India.

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Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by oshe111(m): 12:02pm On Dec 18, 2017
Ashley86400:


1- Is there any law that says only men should intitiate sex? What is wrong with a girl initiating sex if she feels like it, after all logic explains that two people don't have to be Hot at "exactly the same time to want to have sex". Someone has to start it.

2- If you no get sense, borrow. .Diccks don't expand vaaginas ,childbirth does.And it can easily be tightened back with kegels exercise. Stop saying rubbish.If you feel vaginnas are loose, then your dicck is probably too thin. Cause if you were packing a lot of meat, vaginna size wouldn't be an issue for you.

Ok.....
Run along!
Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by ehbellsho(m): 12:02pm On Dec 18, 2017
Nothing is free even in Freetown so Stop complaining n do d needful. And if u can't stay away

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Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by shevon: 12:03pm On Dec 18, 2017
To start with, it is a Nigerian (and for the most part, African) culture but I don't really like the generalisation. I know, of a truth, that in some culture, the amount paid are usually returned, at least my pops in-law did. While some group of people demand an arm and a leg, others ask for inconsequential amounts because they consider it as symbolic than actual sale of their child.
More so, it also depends on whoever you are marrying; I hear people complain about Imo state (fyi, I'm from Ebonyi) but my brother married a lady from Imo state and he didn't pay a dime because the lady insisted she was not for sale and her mother backed her up. At the end of it all, when some of the "elders" insisted, the lady's mother told them she has collected it and that put paid to the issue.
Besides that, some Asian countries too ask for dowry, either to marry their sons or daughters, so why is theirs not considered scam? Most everything we do in Africa be painted bad?
If you say we be scam, ba damua, leave us go find love for where dem no dey scam. Leave people whey dey collect to dey collect and leave people whey no dey collect to be. Na their way of life and you need not insult anybody cos of am.

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Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by safarigirl(f): 12:03pm On Dec 18, 2017
obryneblaque:

They pay with their labour. Moreover, those woman are of good dignity and they valuable. So they worth something paying for, unlike some holes wey come repent to be a sister
if you have been following prostitutes that are worthless, that is your business.

It is the person that wants to marry that knows the worth of the woman he's marrying, and once again, people are marrying these women, so they are worth something. I don't know how you can brand milliond of women hos when you don't even know them.

Are the females in your family hos? Why would you refer to people's daughters as hos? You are a very disrespectful being and I hope you end up with the kind of woman you deserve.

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Re: Bride Price: Man Slams African Parents, Says "I'm Not Paying" by bamirotola: 12:04pm On Dec 18, 2017
Kennedymac:
ekwensu kpo gi oku

ikpu onye ara

Wtz D's one saying. . na everybody for u house b onyiara...

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