Newboss:
That's where your problem is! Your motive is fundamentally wrong!

The "fruit" to you is 'marriage'. That's very wrong! Fix that, and you will be just fine.

seriously av never engaged in a fruitless relationship before. she is my third gf

biafraisdead:

I know am not perfect but in this case I know what am talking about, she is too hard-hearted. could u believe that she is not in talking terms for a year and half now with her best friend(also a good friend of mine) because of me? and funny enough it was this her best friend that introduced her to me cos I didn't know her before, I have tried to make peace between them but she said she would never make up with her friend, though the friend is married but she thought I had anything with the friend so to her the best was to create problem, it equally affected my relationship with her friend till date cos we use to be very good friends.

Guy if you've accessed yourself this much then I'll tell you to follow your instincts. A broken relationship is forever better than a broken marriage. You deserve to be treated nice and respected.

Balistic4:

Guy if you've accessed yourself this much then I'll tell you to follow your instincts. A broken relationship is forever better than a broken marriage. You deserve to be treated nice and respected.

You can tell from his comments, he's stressed, after much stress, comes the breaking...His PSI rating is making him believe its what we can cope with for a life time..

You have 'biafraisdead' as your moniker and you think things will work for you.

cc. dilliusionist.

Ogami, don't marry her oooo because she can never change. That was the mistake I made and I regretted it.

biafraisdead:

thank u, but I don't think that's really the problem cos not that she is too young not to know right from wrong, besides our age margin is just 4years.

OK
see try digging out her background.her parent lifestyle and her environment

PrimadonnaO:
Hmm. What I can say is that you shouldn't put up with a contentious woman. It's already obvious you're not finding the attitude funny. And I know also that forever is a long time to deal with nasty attitudes. I know also that it's not wise to go into marriage with the hope that some traits in your partner would change. It's safer to make your decision on the assumption that your partner would remain that way forever. Would you cope fine?

I also know that sometimes, people are different things with different persons. She may just be the sweetest girl with another man. Finally, I know too that a failed courtship is better than a failed marriage.

End this relationship already, before things get all the more complicated. The longer you stay, the more difficult and insensitive it would seem to walk way.

thank u so much I really appreciate.

Jupxter:



Look no further, does she have positive attributes you can look at to say you'll endure her weaknesses? If she positive sides and will add great value to your life, don't make a hasty decision.

But then, can you bear such a weakness for life if she doesn't change at all? Think about it carefully, is this what you can tolerate for a lifetime? You seem to be in an unhealthy relationship, cause its' more than the curse words. She witholds affection from you, and you give more, can you bear this weight for a lifetime? Think about it carefully. Is there something she has to give that you can get out there with additional benefits?

Think carefully bro, think !

in my opinion I think part of the problem with her is she is still a virgin (av confirmed that myself ) so she feels it's a big deal at her age.

Balistic4:

Guy if you've accessed yourself this much then I'll tell you to follow your instincts. A broken relationship is forever better than a broken marriage. You deserve to be treated nice and respected.

thank u

haryor14:
Ogami, don't marry her oooo because she can never change. That was the mistake I made and I regretted it.

thank u so much.

askibee:



OK
see try digging out her background.her parent lifestyle and her environment

ur very correct cos from what she has told me about her family, her father precisely has one 'I don't care' attitude towards them, there is no father-children relationship. she said the father buys his own stuffs(food and provisions ) and cooks separately.

Don't marry her, any lady that finds it difficult to say sorry will never make a good wife.

biafraisdead:

ur very correct cos from what she has told me about her family, her father precisely has one 'I don't care' attitude towards them, there is no father-children relationship. she said the father buys his own stuffs(food and provisions ) and cooks separately.

OK that's an head start.
now you need not blame her e everybody has wat we call environmental conditioning, it is as a result of the nature of things while growing up and the sub conscious mind registers this as its default.
now you need to learn how to help her in what we call a paradigm shift,its simply a shift in belief and thinking behavior. you need to study how a lady functions, their needs and wants,how their are program to function. try getting Myles Munroe teaching on relationship. all of it I think its an head start I wish we can talk more on this issue its a process that require time and sacrifice passion and diligent commitments.

Arguements and disagreements are an important part of any marriage. If you cannot argue constructively with someone, then that person is not for you. Your girl is bad mannered simple and short. Marriage is forever, and if ur fed up with her attitude after two years, imagine 20 years. Just end it. Cos if she loved u, she'd meet you halfway...

biafraisdead:

in my opinion I think part of the problem with her is she is still a virgin (av confirmed that myself ) so she feels it's a big deal at her age.

Its beyond this... Its way beyond this

askibee:


OK that's an head start.
now you need not blame her e everybody has wat we call environmental conditioning, it is as a result of the nature of things while growing up and the sub conscious mind registers this as its default.
now you need to learn how to help her in what we call a paradigm shift,its simply a shift in belief and thinking behavior. you need to study how a lady functions, their needs and wants,how their are program to function. try getting Myles Munroe teaching on relationship. all of it I think its an head start I wish we can talk more on this issue its a process that require time and sacrifice passion and diligent commitments.

thank u I would try.

Andracarles:
Arguements and disagreements are an important part of any marriage. If you cannot argue constructively with someone, then that person is not for you. Your girl is bad mannered simple and short. Marriage is forever, and if ur fed up with her attitude after two years, imagine 20 years. Just end it. Cos if she loved u, she'd meet you halfway...

yeah she is really bad mannered.

Some guys do fall in love with ladies that are mean to them.
What a pity.

And they Wil be ready to wife her, as soon as the opportunity presents itself.

Op make you mind and choose how u want your life after Wedding to be.

biafraisdead:

seriously av never engaged in a fruitless relationship before. she is my third gf

The fruit has always been marriage! That's where the error is.

Marriage should never be a goal!

Newboss:
The fruit has always been marriage! That's where the error is.

Marriage should never be a goal!

Why should anyone date then?

AryEmber:
Why should anyone date then?

Companionship!

Newboss:
Companionship!

And for how long will that last?

AryEmber:
And for how long will that last?

For as long as it does!

It's better than the fairy tale scam called marriage!

Newboss:
For as long as it does!

It's better than the fairy tale scam called marriage!

Oh! I get you now, you don't believe in marriage. Don't blame you but I think it's still the same way with Op's problem unless you mean he should not form any attachment with any lady at all