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Who Is To Blame? by Harddiskng(m): 8:37am On Dec 28, 2017
Some many names have been used to disguise this art in our universities; model, escort, masseuse etc. 99% of students in this category are girls.

According to the Cambridge dictionary; Prostitute = a person who has $£x with someone for money.

Plain and simple. Lets call a spade a spade. Before i start i have a bias, which i would state. I blame the Parents.

You all are welcome to share your views.
Re: Who Is To Blame? by Moboj: 8:44am On Dec 28, 2017
When you're ready you'll start sad
Re: Who Is To Blame? by sinaj(f): 8:47am On Dec 28, 2017
You dont blame anoda person for someone's action.
Re: Who Is To Blame? by Harddiskng(m): 8:50am On Dec 28, 2017
I would categorize these girls into two. (i would be using “girls” because most if not all are female, well to the best of my knowledge)

First category are those that are just plain greedy. They are into it for expensive clothes, shoes, bags, bragging rights, pride of life and the unnecessary.

They sometimes do make alot of money which they blow on frivolities and they are back looking for more customers.

Second category are those that just need to survive. They just want to eat. They want to be able to enter transport to go to class to avoid the scorching sun and avoid being worn-out, so they can pay attention.

If you are a parent, you need to pay attention here cause i would be deliberating on this category of girls. Honestly, i feel very sad for girls in this category.

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Re: Who Is To Blame? by Harddiskng(m): 8:53am On Dec 28, 2017
sinaj:
You dont blame anoda person for someone's action.

I understand sister, but they no born themselves.
Why i say this you would understand soon.

I just want as many parents as possible to be aware of their responsibility and act accordingly. Their lack of responsibility honestly creates a fire of anger in me. I must confess.

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Re: Who Is To Blame? by teekay213(m): 8:55am On Dec 28, 2017
Buhari is to be blamed.

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Re: Who Is To Blame? by crackhaus: 9:05am On Dec 28, 2017
Harddiskng:


I understand sister, but they no born themselves.
Why i say this you would understand soon.

I just want as many parents as possible to be aware of their responsibility and act accordingly. Their lack of responsibility honestly creates a fire of anger in me. I must confess.
At the end of the day and by the time we lay old and grey on our dying bed, the only person we can blame for all the wrong decisions we have made in life is ourselves.

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Re: Who Is To Blame? by Harddiskng(m): 9:07am On Dec 28, 2017
I live in ...... for those that have lived in my area; you would agree that girls are not in short supply. They are almost like a free gift of nature, i dear to say.

Oneday, I went to a supermarket to get some groceries. It was around 6pm. A girl catch my eyes, she was good looking. I could tell there was something unusual about her, though she could easily pass off as a regular neighborhood girl.

I would call her “Sophai”. For record purposes, Sophai belonged to the first category. A quick scan of the nylon bag containing what she just purchased proved my suspicion. Yes, she was an Olosho.

This is a young, vibrant girl in her early twenties. I quickly concluded my transaction to follow her up, I’m quite a sucker, when it comes to hearing people’s stories.

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Re: Who Is To Blame? by Harddiskng(m): 9:10am On Dec 28, 2017
crackhaus:

At the end of the day and by the time we lay old and grey on our dying bed, the only person we can blame for all the wrong decisions we have made in life is ourselves.

True, some would wish that they were never born. That they weren’t exposed to things that could be avoided.
Re: Who Is To Blame? by sinaj(f): 9:17am On Dec 28, 2017
Harddiskng:


I understand sister, but they no born themselves.
Why i say this you would understand soon.

I just want as many parents as possible to be aware of their responsibility and act accordingly. Their lack of responsibility honestly creates a fire of anger in me. I must confess.
They no born themselves but make decision themselves.

Btw wat kinda parental responsibilities are we talking about here?
Re: Who Is To Blame? by Harddiskng(m): 9:37am On Dec 28, 2017
Me: Hello smiley
Sophia: Wasup
Me: i like your hair
Sophia: *blushes* thank you

That was how the conversation kicked-off, we were walking in the same direction. As we were discussing, i was processing all the information. Sophia spoke good english. It was obvious, she was a university student. This she told me along the way, she was studying Mass Comm in Unical.

There was only one guest house along that road, my guess was, she was lodged there but i never asked i just kept the conversation interesting while we walked.

Finally, we came to the guest house. She motioned that she had to go. This was when i placed a bet on all my information.

Me: you won’t be busy right, can i follow you to your room.

*she paused, a broad smile brighten her face* she knew i knew.

Getting to the room to meet some her friends, they were all University girls.

Sophia: *turning to me* should they leave the room?
Me: No, its fine. I am not staying long.

That day it was almost like a scale fell from my eyes. I could see, i could see “girls”. I could identify their parole. Sometimes i could be with friends, i would say to them that normal looking girl is an Olosho.

One of them, might want to approach her and find out the truth just for fun. They always come back with that Surprise expression on their face... o boy how did you know.

Those girl come from various Universities, they lodge in hotels in a state different from where they reside/school.

These are girls, trading their destinies for cash. Hooking-up with as many men as possible in a day. Oneday they graduate and look for husbands. They would raise children with their deficient moral values.

Are we also going to blame the children explicitly for what they become due to what they have been taught. What they have known and believed is right from the cradle but which was utterly wrong.

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Re: Who Is To Blame? by Harddiskng(m): 9:39am On Dec 28, 2017
sinaj:
They no born themselves but make decision themselves.

Btw wat kinda parental responsibilities are we talking about here?

Now lets move over to category two, i would tell Felicia’s story.
Re: Who Is To Blame? by MsFaith: 9:50am On Dec 28, 2017
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Re: Who Is To Blame? by Harddiskng(m): 10:02am On Dec 28, 2017
I know University students are above the legal age of 18 however Parents should sometimes stop to ask themselves

“i think my daughter/son is in school, well thats what they told me but are they really in school ?”

Just because they are all grown-up does that exempt you from your parental responsibilities.
Re: Who Is To Blame? by tensazangetsu20(m): 10:08am On Dec 28, 2017
Most girls between the ages of 19 to 27 go on a sexual adventure called the "cock carousel". They hop around from penis to penis enjoying the ride until they reach the wall before looking for magas to tie down with marriage. It happens everywhere in the world. Some girls do it for money and some do it for free. Guys should just be careful when getting married, you don't want to spend your life building yourself and then coming down to settle with a slut who just got off the carousel.
Re: Who Is To Blame? by Harddiskng(m): 10:09am On Dec 28, 2017
Harddiskng:
I know University students are above the legal age of 18 however Parents should sometimes stop to ask themselves

“i think my daughter/son is in school, well thats what they told me but are they really in school ?”

Just because they are all grown-up does that exempt you from your parental responsibilities.

I have secondary school classmate, who collected over $10,000 to complete his school fees and blew it. His parents think he is in University in USA but he is in naija. Haven deferred his admission to source for funds to pay up.

Well that is a rich man’s problem you might say. We wont deliberate on that but it begs the question; “what is your role as a parent, now that he/she is all grown up ?”

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Re: Who Is To Blame? by Harddiskng(m): 10:10am On Dec 28, 2017
tensazangetsu20:
Most girls between the ages of 19 to 27 go on a sexual adventure called the "cock carousel". They hop around from penis to penis enjoying the ride until they reach the wall before looking for magas to tie down with marriage. It happens everywhere in the world. Some girls do it for money and some do it for free. Guys should just be careful when getting married, you don't want to spend your life building yourself and then coming down to settle with a slut who just got off the carousel.

The bolden, is currently my greatest fear.
Re: Who Is To Blame? by tensazangetsu20(m): 10:14am On Dec 28, 2017
Harddiskng:


The bolden, is currently my greatest fear.
It's everyones greatest fear that's why you must be extremely careful when choosing a partner. In fact if possible get a private detective to investigate her whole past. There are still some good girls though. It's mostly the dumb slay queens that ride the carousel.
Re: Who Is To Blame? by Harddiskng(m): 10:16am On Dec 28, 2017
Let call her “Felicia”. She is 22 yrs old, she is currently a 400L of FUNAAB. I got to know Felicia from ordering her cakes via Instagram. I gave her digits to friends, so they can also patronize her delicious cakes.

Felicia’s dad is a Man of God. He has 5 children, of which Felicia is number 2.
Re: Who Is To Blame? by Richy4(m): 10:26am On Dec 28, 2017
I will blame the government

In a sane society, government help the youths who are intelligent and are willing to study by providing soft loans...studentgrand.. scholarship. Some of this loans are payable after the student must have graduated.. and it is deducted from his or her salaries... the student will not go Scot free until all the loan were paid..

I understand that parent should play a vital role in educating their children but sometimes they are helpless/ stupid.. due to low income /giving birth to unnecessary numerous children ..But then, that's when the government jumps in when they discovered potential from those kids....

I have been privileged to visit two African countries that were almost in the same category as Nigeria in terms of natural endowment ..South Africa, Botswana..

in these countries, there are no student prostitution... at least if there are, that's what the student wants to do.. not that circumstances compelled her into doing that... But Why is that? because there's a govt that was interested in their affairs..

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Re: Who Is To Blame? by Harddiskng(m): 10:28am On Dec 28, 2017
tensazangetsu20:

It's everyones greatest fear that's why you must be extremely careful when choosing a partner. In fact if possible get a private detective to investigate her whole past. There are still some good girls though. It's mostly the dumb slay queens that ride the carousel.

You are a very hardworking guy and have struggled to build a good life. I totally support getting a private detective.

I have a friend that once dated a girl in category two. Nice girl fit to be a wife. I considered her as a strong wife candidate till we became skeptical about something. Very little lies, very minute discrepancy in some of her stories; only to find out about her little once in long while activity.

She looked decent, but when that season came. She throws away morality for substance. It was so infrequent that you would never tell.

If he got married to her, she could have $£x with an Alhaji cause her family is currently expressing financial difficulty. After all she is helping her family right.

God help us.

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Re: Who Is To Blame? by tensazangetsu20(m): 10:31am On Dec 28, 2017
Harddiskng:


You are a very hardworking guy and have struggled to build a good life. I totally support getting a private detective.

I have a friend that once dated a girl in category two. Nice girl fit to be a wife. I considered her as a strong wife candidate till we became skeptical about something. Very little lies, very minute discrepancy in some of her stories; only to found out about her little once in long while activity.

She looked decent, but when that season came. She throw away morality for substance. It was so infrequent that you would never tell.

If he got married to her, she could have $£x with an Alhaji cause her family is currently expressing financial difficulty. After all she is helping her family right.

God help us.
It's either that or you go MGTOW and get a surrogate mother to have your children. Marriage is a very high risk low reward affair for men. You spend your whole life working hard only to settle with a slut who has given out her best years to different bad boys. Totally utterly disgusting.

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Re: Who Is To Blame? by Harddiskng(m): 10:31am On Dec 28, 2017
Richy4:




I have been privileged to visit two African countries that were almost in the same category as Nigeria in terms of natural endowment ..South Africa, Botswana..

in these countries, there are no student prostitution... at least if there are, that's what the student wants to do.. not that circumstances compelled her into doing that... But Why is that? because there's a govt that was interested in their affairs..

Exactly its better if she is a slut of her own accord and she enjoys it. Not out of circumstance, that is very disheartening.

You raised a very strong point.
Re: Who Is To Blame? by tensazangetsu20(m): 10:33am On Dec 28, 2017
Richy4:
I will blame the government

In a sane society, government help the youths who are intelligent and are willing to study by proving soft loan...studentgrand.. scholarship. Some of this loans are payable after the student must have graduated.. and it is deducted from his or her salaries... the student will not go Scot free until all the loan were paid..

I understand that parent should play a vital role in educating their children but sometimes they are helpless/ stupid.. due to low income /giving birth to unnecessary numerous children ..But then, that's when the government jumps in when they discovered potential from those kids....

I have been privileged to visit two African countries that were almost in the same category as Nigeria in terms of natural endowment ..South Africa, Botswana..

in these countries, there are no student prostitution... at least if there are, that's what the student wants to do.. not that circumstances compelled her into doing that... But Why is that? because there's a govt that was interested in their affairs..
South African girls are sluts. Even with all the incentives from the government there are tons of baby mamas and high HIV rate infections.
Re: Who Is To Blame? by Harddiskng(m): 10:36am On Dec 28, 2017
tensazangetsu20:

South African girls are sluts. Even with all the incentives from the government there are tons of baby mamas and high HIV rate infections.

I honestly have nothing against Slut, its their choice and they enjoy it but victims of circumstance are a no-no.

Lets even know the role of everyone in this matter.
Re: Who Is To Blame? by tensazangetsu20(m): 10:38am On Dec 28, 2017
Harddiskng:


I honestly have nothing against Slut, its their choice and they enjoy it but victims of circumstance are a no-no.

Lets even know the role of everyone this matter.
I don't believe in being a victim of circumstance. So many people in life are dealt a bad hand but they don't take the easy way out. Guys who are victims of circumstance should all be armed robbers and cultists then.

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Re: Who Is To Blame? by Richy4(m): 10:40am On Dec 28, 2017
tensazangetsu20:

South African girls are sluts. Even with all the incentives from the government there are tons of baby mamas and high HIV rate infections.

There's a difference between prostitution and being a slut.

One was an exchange of service for money.. the other, money might not be involved.. what I believe the OP was saying was student prostitution in higher institutions.. it got nothing to do with being a slut. smiley

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Re: Who Is To Blame? by tensazangetsu20(m): 10:41am On Dec 28, 2017
Richy4:


There's a difference between prostitution and being a slut.

One was an exchange of service for money.. the other, money might not be involved.. what I believe the OP was saying was student prostitution in higher institutions.. it got nothing to do with being a slut. smiley
That's true. I mentioned earlier about the carousel which lots of women ride. Some ride the carousel for free(sluts) and some do it for money (prostitutes).

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Re: Who Is To Blame? by Meel: 10:47am On Dec 28, 2017
Having attended both public and private institutions in the country, I can authoritatively say that it all boils to greed.

Some might question me that I haven't experience poverty before, so I can't say the poor students that turn sluts is not there fault, but I will repeat it again , it all boils to greed.

In my 100Levl, I had a female friend that change my orientation about life. She comes from a family that can't afford (5000) to give to her in a month. A family that can't pay 65k in a year with opportunity to pay twice. A family that can't give sufficient foodstuffs to there ward when going to school. Knowing her background, this lady had to work and Save 200000 personally before seeking for admission into school.

She paid her school fees, rent, bought books by herself and little help from her parent. In other to sustain herself, she plaits hair, manicure , paint s ladies finger e.t.c in school. The day she made me stupid was the day we were told to buy manual in school, I called my parents boiling on phone , telling them to send me money, but this girl had to beg her friends to plait her, to get money for the manual. I respected her that day.



My point is there are many poor and striving people/students out there who would never trade there body for anything.

There are some students that I know, that collects up to 50000# as pocket money, and still involve in prostitution. There parent provide what they want for them, but they are purely greedy, covectous and insatiable.



Everyone should be responsible for his actions.

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Re: Who Is To Blame? by Harddiskng(m): 11:03am On Dec 28, 2017
Meel:


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My point is there are many poor and striving people/students out there who would never trade there body for anything.

There are some students that I know, that collects up to 50000# as pocket money, and still involve in prostitution. There parent provide what they want for them, but they are purely greedy, covectous and insatiable.

Everyone should be responsible for his actions.

Interesting, this is why we need as many perspective as possible.

Even the hard working ones, its not every day they get honest jobs to keep body and soul which wont be at the expense of their grades.

Four years is quite a long time, to hustle for. It is hard, no doubt about it. Trust me you might not know the whole story about how she survived.

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Re: Who Is To Blame? by Harddiskng(m): 11:07am On Dec 28, 2017
This brings us to Felicia’s story

@ RoyalRoy, r231, Mynd44, Seun

Please let this trend be visible, it is obvious that some parents don’t even know the needful talkless of doing it.

We all want a better society.
Re: Who Is To Blame? by earthsync(f): 11:30am On Dec 28, 2017
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