good day fellow nairalanders, break ups are pretty bad business nobody wants to be involved in,...
but I've really been bothered with the best way to deal with an ex...
can both parties still be friends or just themselves out on each other.

I'd like to know your different opinions

mods do the needful

To answer this, I'd say it's in two ways
* If you have an ex who is very emotional, stay away from him/her for a while and cut every form of communication I.e social media et al. This may sound harsh but you are helping the other party and yourself.
*If the break up is/was on a mutual ground, of course you can still keep the relationship BUT try (as the guy) not to entertain past emotional talks.
* In your conversation, never chat and speak as if you are still dating.
....I stand to be constructively corrected, this is what I did and still doing with my ex.

Depending on what led to the breakup of the relationship, if it ended due to abuse, infidelity, dishonesty or trust issues being a friend its not possible. On the contrary, if the relationship ended peacefully or the chemistry wasn't just there anymore, I can keep him as a friend