taylor88:
Toto dey hungry this one



If it's a trend which everyone seems to be into


How does that make a self determined prospective husband to go astray


Just go fvck come back sleep abeg

Olutola88:
People like you can make mouth for Africa. When action time comes, there'll be problem

Nebes:


Don't ever make the mistake of telling your woman about your lust for another woman. You won't believe the amount of trouble you'll face. Let that thought die with you. Don't burden her with it.

Nebes:


Don't ever make the mistake of telling your woman about your lust for another woman. You won't believe the amount of trouble you'll face. Let that thought die with you. Don't burden her with it.

RegalD:

she should understand...Though i will have to overcome lust before i marry

Nebes:


Simply pray that lust does not overcome you. Be aware that temptation lurks around on all corners. We Christians ask our father to deliver us from every evil.
Carry your cross and do not burden your weaker partner with a load that you find very difficult to bear.

Olutola88:
I have always wished never to go close to Infidelity when I get married but I always doubt the reality of this dream.

The only reason that makes me doubt the accomplishment of this goal is because I'm a realist. I don't deceive myself and I like to mark out possibilities.

The kind of husbands we have these days even make matters worse. Almost all married men cheat; even some pastors and imams do.

Many single ladies now see it as a norm to date married men.

I gave up when I started seeing married men compete with single men for ladies.

It's so bad now that some wives tell their husbands to make sure they use protection when having it with other women. As in run.

Having one wife and staying faithful to her seems like something that'll be very sweet and fulfilling. How can one achieve this successfully?

I know I have to marry someone I love and respect but the truth is that many of these men that cheat also love and respect their wives.

I also know prayers help but I want to hear other ways apart from going the MFM way.


Thank you

Olutola88:
I have always wished never to go close to Infidelity when I get married but I always doubt the reality of this dream.

The only reason that makes me doubt the accomplishment of this goal is because I'm a realist. I don't deceive myself and I like to mark out possibilities.

The kind of husbands we have these days even make matters worse. Almost all married men cheat; even some pastors and imams do.

Many single ladies now see it as a norm to date married men.

I gave up when I started seeing married men compete with single men for ladies.

It's so bad now that some wives tell their husbands to make sure they use protection when having it with other women. As in run.

Having one wife and staying faithful to her seems like something that'll be very sweet and fulfilling. How can one achieve this successfully?

I know I have to marry someone I love and respect but the truth is that many of these men that cheat also love and respect their wives.

I also know prayers help but I want to hear other ways apart from going the MFM way.


Thank you

Nebes:


Simply pray that lust does not overcome you. Be aware that temptation lurks around on all corners. We Christians ask our father to deliver us from every evil.
Carry your cross and do not burden your weaker partner with a load that you find very difficult to bear.

Gerrard59:



OP, I can understand how you feel. Most about to wed lasses I've spoken to about the subject have come to live with it. With them saying "as long as he doesn't bring her home (forgetting STD/Is), they are OK with it". Albeit, cheating supports the economy (I wager that 50% of hotels will shut down ditto 25% of restaurants and bars should the men who cheat stop). Truth is, like you said, most people cheat these days. Which is why I laugh at the so-called pious and overly sanctimonious nature of them.

However, you can avoid cheating on your would-be wife by being disciplined, not necessarily religious or spiritual (I don't believe prayers can stop someone from cheating. What stops someone from cheating is that person who decides to stop cheating). An effective way is by practicing "The do unto others as you want them to do unto you principle". That's, if you don't (and certainly will not) like your wife to cheat on you, then, don't cheat on her. Simple. What you don't want others to do to you, don't do it to them. Why I say this is because of the wanton hypocrisy I see - offline and online - where most men criticise women for cheating but don't apply same criticism on men who cheat. Forgetting that what's good for the goose is also good for the gander.

Additionally, I've within months thought about threes0me - periodically - as a panacea to cheating. Honestly, I see having sex with ONE person for a lifetime as being humdrum. Another is: Much emphasis should be placed on adultery just as it's placed on fornication in churches. I've never heard of any sermon against adultery. It's always fornication day in, day out! The day I was amused was when a pastoress urged young men to marry early to avoid fornication. Talk about stopping one and starting another! Or the bachelor party I attended where I later discovered that the groom had sex with another lady other than his wife! And this was a day to the wedding

sainty2k3:

Advices like this make one feels less spiritual. Can we just drop this and work a practiceable way .
Personally i believe you should be open with your wife and go out with her often,let her know your ways and your friends. If your friends cheat you are proned to doing so toi