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Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by greypencils: 9:18am On Jan 12, 2018
Guy, you must find a way to replace your beating heart with an ice-box. You dont find love. Let love find you. This is the 21st century man. FREE THIS GIRL...And quickly too. No Time for nonsense early in the year...
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Thegeneralqueen(f): 9:37am On Jan 12, 2018
naijaboiy:
Lol see me thinking only guys do this sort of things to girls.

Now, we have a full grown man crying that a girl he had sex with on the first date is ignoring him. In this 2018? Do you know how many guys are looking for a non-clingy girl like that? cheesy

I bet your sex game was below average. embarassedgrin

Lord what won’t I see on the Internet. gringrin

Naijaboiy nor make me vest for you ooo I nor you'll do more than what he's done cool
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by henrysolution(m): 9:47am On Jan 12, 2018
you met her only once and you already love her..............bros life is not telemundo

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Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by oshe11: 9:58am On Jan 12, 2018
Follygunners:


No be consensual ? Craze dey ur head. You could have said she no gbadun the guy for bed.
No need for the insult....

Its obvious U dnt knw hw girls think....

Like he opined, he sensed she was kinda reluctant.....

Bt dat aside, mayb she be olosho who needed cash after the SEX bt the dude was preaching LOVE, so she bounced cos she knows LOVE cnt buy her makeup for market and U cnt take LOVE to the bank to withdraw MONEY

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Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by vicben27(m): 10:01am On Jan 12, 2018
She was expecting an already made man! just try n forget about her Bro! you dont beg for love n afection thats a sign of weakness.
I once had a girl i was creazy about! got to know her on facebook we both exchanged contacts and got along very well, i travelled more than 8hrs just to meet her, because i saw us having a future together, only for her to tell me we couldnt meet up when i got there. i felt soo stupid , but i maned up n built a wall around my emotions. i was a corper then. fast forward 3years later shes all wanting me back, she saw how far i've gone n how better my life is! her school mate is now my fiancee and she wished she didnt act the way she did.
my advice work hearder be a better Man n no woman will look down on you.

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Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Callmemike(m): 10:04am On Jan 12, 2018
waywardpikin:
How can you think you still have a shot at this after what I just read? Bia nwoke, don't annoy me today.

You're not what the girl thought you'd be. Simple.

Chairman I have to be honest with you, your case is critical. The last thing you need right now is a woman. Come on, what are you gonna feed her with? Trip her with? Can you comfortably take her out to the cinema or to the the beach? Do you have an apartment of your own (we can excuse the car for now but you need to get you one of those)? Do you have a steady stream of income? Unless you find a girl that is willing to love you in your present condition, then OYO is your case.

I know as guys we don't like to hear this, but a man is not a man until he has figured out and set up his financial life properly. Especially in Obodo Nigeria.

You need to fix up your life bro. You don't need this emotional higi-haga right now. I know say one day you go make us proud, so focus on what is really important in your life's journey right now. The girl did nothing wrong. Neither did you.

I believe in you!

I am proud of you. Really.
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by RSVP: 10:06am On Jan 12, 2018
D chick is just a typical runs babe.

They could FVck you for money and sometimes for fun BUT they would never dAte a guy without with Zero $$$... As in proper boyfriend angry
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Unik3030: 10:18am On Jan 12, 2018
hyperflex:
I'm a very picky guy. I have gone 2 - 3yrs without relationship but I got girls I call if I have to have sex. I have shied away from banging lagos girls anyhow. Anyway that's not the bone of contention.

I lost my job some years back and for the next years after I was trying to get back into the work force but I only met closed doors and rejection. So I have not been able to make much money to get some things done for myself. I decided to stay with a cousin who's got an apartment. Don't even ask if I have a car lol. Sometime in 2016 I decided to start my own entertainment brand. It's been lethargic because of funds by I am not losing focus. I'm trying to get sponsors. I don't want to mention name of the brand so tomorrow when it blows up someone won't come and cast me with this post. Lol

People are always asking for my girlfriend and for me I believe in being responsible and being able to cater and make your woman shine. If you can't make her better than you met her just leave her. So I stayed away from dating as I also have a soft heart when I fall in love. Other times I am indifferent. I don't just fall for anyone like I said I'm picky but once I pick I know I am in trouble because I will be weak for her.

I met this cute girl on twitter. She was so vibrant and happy. I mean a girl so cute with such high vibes. I felt strong about her immediately. Got her number, went on WhatsApp, chat and chat, WhatsApp videos. It was the best thing that happened to me at the time (September ending last year). She has her own hustle going. So she makes money for herself. As I got to know her I realised behind the big smiles and jovial nature is a girl who hides her fears and pains. You could hurt her and she'd act like it's nothing.

While I was toasting her (still toasting) she told me how her ex whos was very generous to her turned out to be a married man with kids and she only got to know when she went visiting him. I asked her what she did. She said she turned around and left. There n then I knew she internalised a lot.

In summary, we met only once. She came to where I stayed at my cousin's. We had this brief fling that day. After she left everything went south since then. The WhatsApp calls have reduced to nothing, she doesn't talk to me in what I think is a deliberate act to ignore me. She tells me she likes me, she comes up with excuses why our dating won't work. I keep nullifying it. I want to think it's a money thing. Her exes were made men with cars n all. I love her like my life depends on her. I feel I should let her be but my heart can't take it. I have taken advise from some places but I just wanna drop it here one time. I want her so bad. I don't think I could ever hurt her. I don't even wanna camp her or anything. I just want her to show me the girl I tripped for. I call her now she cuts me off with any excuse like she's eating and all that stuff girls do when they don't want a guy. I wanna forgot her but I think I still have a shot at this. I love her so much. Maybe I just need to find someone who cares but who?
bro I feel your pain and I can't blame you cos I have once been there b4 n i know the pain, I met this girl in nysc camp n she was all over me so I decided to give her a trial so after camp we were posted to extremes of d state(very far) but we managed to date for a month n i won't lie to u I fell in love for this lady only for her to call me one day that she's not feeling the relationship that she has to work on herself. my brother I did everything u did up there but with time I realise I was loosing my integrity n value so I had to let go. the only advice I will give u now is that u should give her space or better still let go cos u will lose everything u stand to represent if u keep running after her.please let her go because she's not seeing things d way u see them n i won't want u to sacrifice your integrity n self worth to someone who doesn't send u

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Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Worksunlimited: 10:22am On Jan 12, 2018
Firstorderwizard:


bro no vex, I need some clarification on ur seventh point.Is it improper to tell a gal u love her after sex?

It's not improper, it's best for you to just give it some more time before you let the "Love You" words out your mouth, after sex, to a naija babe..

Most importantly, you just have to be absolutely sure she is feeling you in that direction too.. Because if she is not, she would take her coochie coo some place else, to someone who doesn't fall in love easily's place.

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Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Nobody: 10:27am On Jan 12, 2018
And I dey here dey trip for u.....ohh Lawd. .. cry

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Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by ifeanyi317(m): 10:31am On Jan 12, 2018
GBAM!!
waywardpikin:
How can you think you still have a shot at this after what I just read? Bia nwoke, don't annoy me today.

You're not what the girl thought you'd be. Simple.

Chairman I have to be honest with you, your case is critical. The last thing you need right now is a woman. Come on, what are you gonna feed her with? Trip her with? Can you comfortably take her out to the cinema or to the the beach? Do you have an apartment of your own (we can excuse the car for now but you need to get you one of those)? Do you have a steady stream of income? Unless you find a girl that is willing to love you in your present condition, then OYO is your case.

I know as guys we don't like to hear this, but a man is not a man until he has figured out and set up his financial life properly. Especially in Obodo Nigeria.

You need to fix up your life bro. You don't need this emotional higi-haga right now. I know say one day you go make us proud, so focus on what is really important in your life's journey right now. The girl did nothing wrong. Neither did you.

I believe in you!

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Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by naijaboiy: 10:36am On Jan 12, 2018
Thegeneralqueen:
Naijaboiy nor make me vest for you ooo I nor you'll do more than what he's done cool
Lool, why the hell should I be crying because a girl i like doesn’t like me too. when I’m not mad. grin
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Thegeneralqueen(f): 10:37am On Jan 12, 2018
If only I could get a man like op embarassed embarassed op look into my matter nah embarassed embarassed
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Thegeneralqueen(f): 10:40am On Jan 12, 2018
naijaboiy:

Lool, why the hell should I be crying because a girl i like doesn’t like me too. when I’m not mad. grin
You can't tell once you taste a juicy p*** lipsrsealed you'll sell your family house all in the name of love so chill don't be too hard on yourself I nor your type cool
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by naijaboiy: 10:50am On Jan 12, 2018
Thegeneralqueen:
You can tell once you taste a juicy p*** lipsrsealed you'll sell your family house all in the name of love so chill don't be too hard on yourself I nor your type cool
Lol...because she got the only juicy püssy in the world abi?

Abeg shift if you no get talk for mouth. grin
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Thegeneralqueen(f): 10:54am On Jan 12, 2018
naijaboiy:

Lol...because she got the only juicy püssy in the world abi?

Abeg shift if you no get talk for mouth. grin

I don catch am grin grin

Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by naijaboiy: 11:00am On Jan 12, 2018
Thegeneralqueen:
I don catch am grin grin
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Aventures(m): 11:00am On Jan 12, 2018
hyperflex:
I'm a very picky guy. I have gone 2 - 3yrs without relationship but I got girls I call if I have to have sex. I have shied away from banging lagos girls anyhow. Anyway that's not the bone of contention.

I lost my job some years back and for the next years after I was trying to get back into the work force but I only met closed doors and rejection. So I have not been able to make much money to get some things done for myself. I decided to stay with a cousin who's got an apartment. Don't even ask if I have a car lol. Sometime in 2016 I decided to start my own entertainment brand. It's been lethargic because of funds by I am not losing focus. I'm trying to get sponsors. I don't want to mention name of the brand so tomorrow when it blows up someone won't come and cast me with this post. Lol

People are always asking for my girlfriend and for me I believe in being responsible and being able to cater and make your woman shine. If you can't make her better than you met her just leave her. So I stayed away from dating as I also have a soft heart when I fall in love. Other times I am indifferent. I don't just fall for anyone like I said I'm picky but once I pick I know I am in trouble because I will be weak for her.

I met this cute girl on twitter. She was so vibrant and happy. I mean a girl so cute with such high vibes. I felt strong about her immediately. Got her number, went on WhatsApp, chat and chat, WhatsApp videos. It was the best thing that happened to me at the time (September ending last year). She has her own hustle going. So she makes money for herself. As I got to know her I realised behind the big smiles and jovial nature is a girl who hides her fears and pains. You could hurt her and she'd act like it's nothing.

While I was toasting her (still toasting) she told me how her ex whos was very generous to her turned out to be a married man with kids and she only got to know when she went visiting him. I asked her what she did. She said she turned around and left. There n then I knew she internalised a lot.

In summary, we met only once. She came to where I stayed at my cousin's. We had this brief fling that day. After she left everything went south since then. The WhatsApp calls have reduced to nothing, she doesn't talk to me in what I think is a deliberate act to ignore me. She tells me she likes me, she comes up with excuses why our dating won't work. I keep nullifying it. I want to think it's a money thing. Her exes were made men with cars n all. I love her like my life depends on her. I feel I should let her be but my heart can't take it. I have taken advise from some places but I just wanna drop it here one time. I want her so bad. I don't think I could ever hurt her. I don't even wanna camp her or anything. I just want her to show me the girl I tripped for. I call her now she cuts me off with any excuse like she's eating and all that stuff girls do when they don't want a guy. I wanna forgot her but I think I still have a shot at this. I love her so much. Maybe I just need to find someone who cares but who?
The lady Just needed your destiny and she has collected, so she has no biz with you again. She is hunting for another one. Such a lady is an agent of devil. Beware of Pre marital sex it ruins life.
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Thegeneralqueen(f): 11:01am On Jan 12, 2018
naijaboiy:
So someone can not play with you again embarassed
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by naijaboiy: 11:12am On Jan 12, 2018
Thegeneralqueen:
So someone can not play with you again embarassed
You mean troll? cheesy Cos I don’t even know who you are. grin
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Thegeneralqueen(f): 11:23am On Jan 12, 2018
naijaboiy:

You mean troll? cheesy Cos I don’t even know who you are. grin
ehmmm naija boy who doesn't know the general queen on nairaland I nor you more than you think you school in uniben cool
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by pinkyruledworld(m): 11:24am On Jan 12, 2018
I kinda went tru this same shii, its really heart breaking mehn, u love someone and everything is going on smoothly until she falls out for reasons u dont even know about, she just stopped talking, no chatting, not pickin my calls etc, I guess there are too much guys on her matter th0, u just gotta move on and picture out how u gon be a better person, a better person will come by soon. Trust me.
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by ceononi: 11:37am On Jan 12, 2018
hyperflex:
I'm a very picky guy. I have gone 2 - 3yrs without relationship but I got girls I call if I have to have sex. I have shied away from banging lagos girls anyhow. Anyway that's not the bone of contention.

I lost my job some years back and for the next years after I was trying to get back into the work force but I only met closed doors and rejection. So I have not been able to make much money to get some things done for myself. I decided to stay with a cousin who's got an apartment. Don't even ask if I have a car lol. Sometime in 2016 I decided to start my own entertainment brand. It's been lethargic because of funds by I am not losing focus. I'm trying to get sponsors. I don't want to mention name of the brand so tomorrow when it blows up someone won't come and cast me with this post. Lol

People are always asking for my girlfriend and for me I believe in being responsible and being able to cater and make your woman shine. If you can't make her better than you met her just leave her. So I stayed away from dating as I also have a soft heart when I fall in love. Other times I am indifferent. I don't just fall for anyone like I said I'm picky but once I pick I know I am in trouble because I will be weak for her.

I met this cute girl on twitter. She was so vibrant and happy. I mean a girl so cute with such high vibes. I felt strong about her immediately. Got her number, went on WhatsApp, chat and chat, WhatsApp videos. It was the best thing that happened to me at the time (September ending last year). She has her own hustle going. So she makes money for herself. As I got to know her I realised behind the big smiles and jovial nature is a girl who hides her fears and pains. You could hurt her and she'd act like it's nothing.

While I was toasting her (still toasting) she told me how her ex whos was very generous to her turned out to be a married man with kids and she only got to know when she went visiting him. I asked her what she did. She said she turned around and left. There n then I knew she internalised a lot.

In summary, we met only once. She came to where I stayed at my cousin's. We had this brief fling that day. After she left everything went south since then. The WhatsApp calls have reduced to nothing, she doesn't talk to me in what I think is a deliberate act to ignore me. She tells me she likes me, she comes up with excuses why our dating won't work. I keep nullifying it. I want to think it's a money thing. Her exes were made men with cars n all. I love her like my life depends on her. I feel I should let her be but my heart can't take it. I have taken advise from some places but I just wanna drop it here one time. I want her so bad. I don't think I could ever hurt her. I don't even wanna camp her or anything. I just want her to show me the girl I tripped for. I call her now she cuts me off with any excuse like she's eating and all that stuff girls do when they don't want a guy. I wanna forgot her but I think I still have a shot at this. I love her so much. Maybe I just need to find someone who cares but who?
Guy runnn for ya life, that babe has seen ur weakness as a lover, she tryna OWN you, she already used the sex as her bargaining chip and noticed you liked what she offered, now in turn she'll be making you go through series of low self esteem by rejecting you, and then she'll finally come around, thereby making you feel lucky to have her. Ladies who do these things do so to cover up their escapades, once you fall into her traps, you will never be able to complain or correct her about anything, for fear of her rejection she earlier subjected you to, in other words, you'll live all your life trying to satisfy her. On the other hand if enjoyed what she offered and want more, turn the table around, beef up your self esteem, have at the back of your mind that you might not have her eventually, and play your cards right.

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Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by naijaboiy: 12:20pm On Jan 12, 2018
Thegeneralqueen:
ehmmm naija boy who doesn't know the general queen on nairaland I nor you more than you think you school in uniben cool
Congratulations!
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by nefertitiram: 12:33pm On Jan 12, 2018
hyperflex:
First off, she declines any help from for whatever reason. This was last year. She was broke I offered to send her something she declined. One offer she accepted was that I get her a second phone to run her biz. The phone is still wimme. Ignores my mssgs.
To man I have to see she has at least 50% interest at least. It's not even up to 50. Anyways thanks. A man knows what he must do.

Help is not romance.
Woo her. Old fashioned style
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Firstorderwizard(m): 12:51pm On Jan 12, 2018
Worksunlimited:


It's not improper, it's best for you to just give it some more time before you let the "Love You" words out your mouth, after sex, to a naija babe..

Most importantly, you just have to be absolutely sure she is feeling you in that direction too.. Because if she is not, she would take her coochie coo some place else, to someone who doesn't fall in love easily's place.

thanks for this eye opener, I appreciate
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by yungpowers(m): 12:54pm On Jan 12, 2018
hyperflex:
Thank you. Really prec8
Dwain chuqu
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by yungpowers(m): 12:56pm On Jan 12, 2018
hyperflex:
Thank you. Really prec8
Dwain chuqu the adviser. Is the guy too blind a bat to read the handwriting on the wall? people channelling their energies to the wrong direction.

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Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by BentSpoon(m): 6:46pm On Jan 12, 2018
hyperflex:
I understand your angle Bro. Thing is after then we've had long WhatsApp chats still. Then she went to her friends place and it got worse. We still chatted this January when I quizzed her about her changing. I feel like she's got guys on her case which is what is distracting. While u guys think it was because of her coming to see me. She opined that maybe it was** cuz of the sex we had**-. Honestly I feel it could be just an excuse to cover for another excuse. But I appreciate it tho. Thanks G


grin

op u shot urself at the leg u should have lasted for 3hours
we all know u shot as u aimed

I keep saying broke guys dont have right to fear after effect of manpowers
go mourn in peace ����
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by keetel(f): 7:33pm On Jan 12, 2018
RadicallyBlunt:
Both of you need sense rebranding and awakening from slumber.



Yeye dey smell!
. Lmao why so mean? But I liked how you straightened out the problem from both sides.
Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Nobody: 7:47pm On Jan 12, 2018
hyperflex:
Lol I figured that could be but I already told her that.
My theory is that she has guys who r wanting same from her. I categorically asked her if she's dating anyone or fucking anyone n her answers were NO. Not like I expected she'd say Yes to that tho. So much for finding a woman who loves u while your a nobody. I love her I no go lie. Mans no go dey like this pass this year. Anyways thanx for being straight.
I know how hurt you must be feeling but the truth is that love is not enough. She probably loves you but she has evaluated the kind of future she'll likely have with you and has decided she wants more, and there's nothing wrong with that. No girl wants to end up with a man that may not live up to her expectations.
You have a bright future, but she might be assessing you based on your current condition, I.e she may have noticed traits/characteristics in you that don't align with her vision of a perfect man. For example you may not have entertained her or generally shown her as nice a time as she expected due to your financial constraints and she's wondering if that's how dates with you are going to be. Or from your utterances she may feel you don't have similar drives/visions.
My advise to you is don't force it. You'd hate yourself if you never become what she wants, she may not ridicule you, but you'd feel like a failure. You deserve someone who can see past your current situation, has faith in you and is ready to meet you halfway in terms of your outlook on life. Love doesn't build a marriage, compromise does....except you're lucky to meet somebody that fits perfectly into your fantasy of a perfect person physically, psychologically and status/class wise

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