richythePH:
hmmmm

would you mind posting a pic of her and take it down in a few seconds?

would like to see for myself and know if ur insecurity is baseless

RadicallyBlunt:
You never hear say dating a student is like fetching water in basket. That girl is not yours bro. Ignore the dating, you can't stop her from catching fun or doing runz in school, its d normal school life. Even married students are facing temptation talkless of 20yr old single girl.

When she finish sch and she still want you, u can flow along if youre still single. Afterall, some people are bound to use fairly used bugatti

Osetventure:
HEY GUYS!!!

This is my first account ever, and my first post on Nairaland as well.

I and my girlfriend have been dating for 3yrs now, she will be 20 by November, this yr, while I will be 26 by March this year.

After her secondary school 3 yrs ago, her parents enrolled her in one IT company, were she studied cyberspace space security system manipulations, and some programming languages: java, php, html , and so many others. She spent 2 yrs studying in that foreign IT institution.

The real gist now is that she recently gained an admission into UNN to study Pure mathematics. The school had their quarter semester of this session first semester last year(Nov to Dec before Christmas break).

My worries is as follows below:

* she is so beautiful, radiant, elegant, and brainy.
* her graduate-assistant lectures already know her and are constantly calling her on phone.
* some random guys do call her always.

From the above points I highlighted, one can easily understand that she is already a kinda centre of attraction. I was in her company during this Christmas, when one guy called her and from there conversation, I sensed it was a lecturer. After the call I asked her the identity of the caller, and she said her lecturer. I asked her why they call het always, and she told me that she is for me and will always be for me, that nobody gonna take her away from me.

Furthermore, she said the lecturers always ask her for her contact number, which she gives them in other not to appear disrespectful to them. I asked her about the other guys calling her, and she said the were coursemates on GST courses, that many of them are course reps.

She confided in me that they all want to date her but she always tell them that she has a guy in her life, but they always insist that they be her friends with no stringe attached. She concluded by telling me that most of the guys said that they were jealous of that her guy.

Despite her explanations, I'm still not convinced. Although, the conversations ain't romantic, and she puts the call on out side speaker so I could hear their conversations and not feel anything bad.

Please, she has traveled back to school now(at Nsukka). Should I continue with the relationship or call it a quit, for I'm too emotional in terms of love? Should I keep believing her words?

I don't want to develop HBP at this my young age because of a girl. I need apt and concise advice now.

Thank you all

richythePH:
hmmmm


would you mind posting a pic of her and take it down in a few seconds?


would like to see for myself and know if ur insecurity is baseless

Softorgasm:
Op don't feel insecure, she already assured you of her loyalty already..

I wonder how jay z will feel anytime Beyonce is going on a tour without him or how pique will feel anytime shakira is going on a tour without him..

Truth is that trust is the basics of every relationship..

But as a fellow guy to another, i will advice you to prepare your heart for the worst..

love her still, but prepare your heart for breakup and cheating, so that you won't be surprise when it finally happens..

fabby101:
My advise is for u to behave maturely, give her a reason to stick with u, be urself. Girls like guys that are matured, independent and confident.

If u break up, what will be the cause? Insecurity? Na!!

jonaifame22:
she will eventually leave you, the university system has a way of resetting the brain of it's female undergraduates

Osetventure:
I already made up my mind to ditch her before any heartbreak from her.

Olami90:
am surprised you consider quitting the relationship because of those points you mentioned. They are normal phase most ladies go through and the way she handles it will tell the kind of lady she is.
You confirmed it that the conversations she had weren't romantic, she even put them on speaker for you.

Guy, relax! She is trying her best to be loyal to you and you need to appreciate that.
Do not generalise by thinking all female undergraduates are same and lose the babe.


Don't be insecure as you can misbehave to her for scenes that will only be playing in your head and do not let her see the insecurity in you but try to give her reasons she will consider you being the best for her.

You should be prepared to see more of that even when she is done from school.

Give her chance but be open and prepare for whatever comes because life itself is full of uncertainties.

Be mature about it, don't allow fear ruin your relationship.

Also ensure you work smart and let your pocket be whispering.

mapist:


Regardless, it is still BASELESS. Sleepless night for a 20 year old while you are 26 and still not independent. I just tire for these things i read here.

Osetventure:
Bro. I'm independent. I pay my bills now without involving my parents, and they a proud of me for turning down job offers - immediately after my NYSC 3 years ago - in other to float my online business; because, I had a vision which I worked towards it, and now it is paying off.

I own 2 affiliate marketing sites, and few off-line business, so brother, I'm not dependent on anybody for survival.

mapist:


Excellent; make sure you face your endeavour and STRIVE to be good at it. When money is made through legit means, you will have rest of mind and a wonderful lady will come your way. You need not distract yourself with thoughts about a 20 year old who doesnt know her left from her right.

Lastly, may God bless us all.

Osetventure:
HEY GUYS!!!

This is my first account ever, and my first post on Nairaland as well.

I and my girlfriend have been dating for 3yrs now, she will be 20 by November, this yr, while I will be 26 by March this year.

After her secondary school 3 yrs ago, her parents enrolled her in one IT company, were she studied cyberspace space security system manipulations, and some programming languages: java, php, html , and so many others. She spent 2 yrs studying in that foreign IT institution.

The real gist now is that she recently gained an admission into UNN to study Pure mathematics. The school had their quarter semester of this session first semester last year(Nov to Dec before Christmas break).

My worries is as follows below:

* she is so beautiful, radiant, elegant, and brainy.
* her graduate-assistant lectures already know her and are constantly calling her on phone.
* some random guys do call her always.

From the above points I highlighted, one can easily understand that she is already a kinda centre of attraction. I was in her company during this Christmas, when one guy called her and from there conversation, I sensed it was a lecturer. After the call I asked her the identity of the caller, and she said her lecturer. I asked her why they call het always, and she told me that she is for me and will always be for me, that nobody gonna take her away from me.

Furthermore, she said the lecturers always ask her for her contact number, which she gives them in other not to appear disrespectful to them. I asked her about the other guys calling her, and she said the were coursemates on GST courses, that many of them are course reps.

She confided in me that they all want to date her but she always tell them that she has a guy in her life, but they always insist that they be her friends with no stringe attached. She concluded by telling me that most of the guys said that they were jealous of that her guy.

Despite her explanations, I'm still not convinced. Although, the conversations ain't romantic, and she puts the call on out side speaker so I could hear their conversations and not feel anything bad.

Please, she has traveled back to school now(at Nsukka). Should I continue with the relationship or call it a quit, for I'm too emotional in terms of love? Should I keep believing her words?

I don't want to develop HBP at this my young age because of a girl. I need apt and concise advice now.

Thank you all

Osetventure:
thank you bro. In fact, since she set her legs into that school, I haven't been myself. I always think that something is going on somewhere with her at the centre of that thing going on.

secondincommand:
take this advise if u want ,I have seen many .
this is a beautiful girl who is now getting attentions from other guys ,she will defiantly change that one is sure ,are there with her ?, no !.... don't but ur heart instead use your brain ,she'll one day give her heart to another who is close to her over there believe me if you want to.so be ready .Neva trust the words of a woman .

even of she is f**king another guy in her uni ,did u think sh will let you know ? and beside u said she is beautiful ,she will defiantly get attentions .that is a sure thing .people here are telling you to trust her.lol bro take my advise trust ur hustle instead .love her but not with all your heart bro.
this was advise given to me here on nairaland when I thought I was in love but I never listened not until the it finally happend
so my advise to u is to use your brain not ur heart .because universities are place for preying wolf.
and ur girl is there next target .