According to current research which indicates that one divorce occurs per an estimated 13 seconds here in the United States, ranking our nation sixth on a global divorce rate scale. These sobering statistics might discourage married or engaged couples who are striving to beat the odds, but it’s entirely possible to sustain a committed, fulfilled, and intimate union that doesn’t succumb to the agonizing reality of divorce.

Understanding the risk factors, then working together with your partner to counteract them, can help you divorce-proof your relationship and strengthen your connection. So which pitfalls contribute to an unsuccessful marriage? The data below offers more insight, so you can be proactive to ensure longevity and contentment with your spouse.

MARITAL GLOBAL STATISTICS

ABOUT TO WED
Average length of engagement - 14 months

December is the most popular month to get engage

Average weeding budget - $27,021

Average marrying age - 29 years (bride)
Average marrying age - 30 years (groom)

Average spent on a wedding dress - $1,121

September is the most popular month to get married

Average number of brides maids and grooms men - 4-5

Average number of guest present at weddings - 141


CHOOSING COLOUR FOR WEEDING

Blue - 30%

Purple - 25%

Green - 24%

It has been observed that purple is the fastest growing colour around the world which is also my favourite colour.

LUXURY AND CASUAL WEDDING

Average luxurious wedding cost - $85,000

Rise of casual wedding - 12% to 16% (in 3 years)

However, 15% of non- luxury weeding that are formal /black - tie events


When people marry, they are combining all aspects of their lives, both the present and the past, and this often includes debt. Couples need to have the tough discussions about how they will deal with their finances if they want to have a long-lasting, loving relationship.

Unfortunately, avoiding financial quarrels is easier said than done, especially when many couples begin their marriages by jointly taking on a huge amount of debt – the cost of their wedding. For couples to give themselves a fighting chance for a lifetime of happiness, if couples consider paring down their perception of the perfect wedding, and look for ways to cut undue costs out of their event.

Just be sure that you’re both in complete agreement about how to keep wedding costs under control; otherwise, your first big argument will probably be about the wedding itself.

AFTER THE WEDDING

Common causes of marital arguments

MONEY - 31%

HOUSEHOLD CHORES - 28%

SEX - 15%
The downside of married life is that arguments are bound to happen, and when they do, most will be about money. Studies have shown that money is the number-one cause of arguments. The above statistics proved it to be truth it is a global fact not a made up information. So sex is the least problem for married couples especially the newly couples.

Compromise creates a relative peace in marital homes

Establishment of financial goals - 60%

Creating and sticking to a debt - 12%

Boosting savings - 9%

Paying down credit card debt - 7%

To avoid money-based arguments newly married couples get ready to compromise on a variety of personal finance issues from day one. They can do this by establishing joint financial goals, creating and sticking to a household budget, planning a savings strategy and exploring how they can pay down credit card debt.

HEALTH AND HAPPINESS

Physical issues that reduce activities

Married Adults - 12.2%

Cohabiting with partners - 16.3%

Never married Adults - 19.4%

Divorce or separation Adults - 22.5%

Widowed Adults - 26%
From the statistics you see that the physical problem that reduce the activities of a married person is lost of a partner that contribute to high percentage of unhappy life thereby reduce physical activities that once enjoyed before the death of a partner. If you have a family member which partner is no more kindly render any social services or help to prolong their life to avoid health related issues.

WHAT TRIGGER SEVERE HEADACHES THAT IS RELATED TO MARRIAGE
Never married - 19.6%(women)

Never married - 9.7%(men)

Married - 20.2%(women)

Married - 9.3%(men)

Divorce or separated - 25%(women)

Living with a partner - 26.1%(women)

Living with a partner - 11.9%(men)
In summary unmarried women suffer severe headaches than men, same goes if they are married but living together as a partner creates severe headaches to women even more very low in men conversely a divorce or separated woman suffer severe headaches too.

Serious psychological distress{married Adults 18-44 years old }

Married Adults - 1.9%

Never married Adults - 2.5%

Cohabiting with partners - 3.6%

Divorce or separated - 6.0%

Widowed Adults - 9.5%

A widow suffer severe psychological distress the most closely follow by divorce or separated men or women. Also, you can see from the statistics that those who are not legally married often deal with bigger issues when compared to married individuals. So it is far better to take that relationship to the level of marriage than Cohabiting if you want to reduce unnecessary issues of mental malfunction, ill health and unhappiness in most cases.

Unhealthy habits of cigarette smoking among married adults{18-44 years of age}

Cohabiting with partner - 43.5%

Divorce or separated Adults - 40.2%

Married Adults - 21.9%
Just as expected cohabiting couples face intense challenges while living as an illegal married partner most issues are not treated well open communication also suffers and engaging in bad habits soar to the ceiling which often results to domestic violence that can lead to unforseen death. Cohabiting in most cases is regarded as a dysfunctional family that might not withstand the test of time the professed love gradually wane and die out unexpectedly.

CHALLENGES IN MARRIAGE AROUND THE WORLD

DIVORCE IS MOST COMMON DURING THE EARLY YEARS
An estimated 80% of couples are headed in the direction of divorce within their first four to five years of marriage. This startling, however common, trajectory is often because of decreased passion and excitement in the relationship.

As more financial, professional, and familial demands jockey for attention, maintaining that “spark” you experienced while dating can diminish in record time. Avoid this pattern during those first critical years of marriage by prioritizing emotional connection and physical chemistry on a regular basis.

MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES OFTEN COMPLICATE MARRIAGE
According to Science in Healthy Aging and Healthcare , if one or both partners struggle with depression, substance abuse or certain phobias, the risk of divorce often increases exponentially. This does not mean all marriages with a track-record of mental illness are destined for a courtroom settlement, but it’s worth noting the heightened challenges you may encounter if either spouse is suffering. Consider professional therapy to restabilize the marriage, communicate about the issue and learn to support each other’s needs.

EDUCATION LEVELS CAN IMPACT YOUR RISK OF DIVORCE
Academics can play into the success of a marriage. Based on divorce research , if you’ve earned a Bachelor’s degree, you have a better likelihood of a long-lasting marriage and spouses who both have a Bachelor’s degree are 10 percent less prone to divorce than spouses without a college education.

When each partner has the same academic leverage, there’s an increased sense of equality and efficacy in the relationship. Not to mention, you both are equipped to contribute more income toward the household expenses, which can safeguard your marriage from financial stressors.

HAVING CHILDREN IS NOT ALWAYS A MARRIAGE SOLUTION
Among the most pervasive misconceptions is that a struggling marriage can restore itself once kids enter the equation. Approximately 50% of children in North America will experience parental divorce before age 18.

While the mantra of “staying together for the kids’ sake” often does prompt spouses to work through relationship issues, the assumption that child-rearing is a proven antidote for marital tensions can lead to more discontent in the future, undermining not just your partnership, but the whole family.

YOUR PARENTS’ MARITAL STATUS HAS A MAJOR INFLUENCE
If divorce is present within either spouse’s family of origin, their own chances of marriage instability, or even separation, will often double . This occurs because the individual was raised absorbing a message that commitment and unification are not sustainable over the long-term which gives them a defeatist attitude when problems arise.

While this cross-generational pattern of divorce can strain your marriage, it’s not doomed to failure. Break the cycle with trust, communication, and resilience when your instinct is to quit.

SEXUAL INITIATION CAN BECOME A DIVORCE CATALYST
Engaging in intercourse with multiple partners before marriage or becoming sexually active under age 18 can escalate the risk of divorce within your first 10 years of marriage, according to the University of Iowa.

This research suggests that promiscuous behavior as a young person is detrimental to the vitality of a marriage, but it’s often unrealistic that both partners will enter the union without a sexual past. So remember that prior experiences don’t need to dictate the health and frequency of intercourse in a marriage context.

The problems arise when past promiscuity causes trust issues in a marriage. Someone’s sexual past doesn’t necessarily foreshadow his or her future, but that may not stop the other person’s insecurity or lack of trust. “Make a decision to love by trying to let go of the past,” the Spruce recommends. “Stop obsessing about the situation which broke the trust between you and your spouse.”

If trust issues persist, seek professional help. You need to work through these issues, or insecurity will perpetuate the issue and lead to paranoid, clingy behavior. In these situations, it’s important to be as honest and open with one another as possible. If it means letting the other person check your cell phone or email, that may just be what you need to do to build trust. This may make you uncomfortable, but it’s a necessary step if you want to make your relationship last.

Your relationship is worth protecting and fighting for, even in the midst of a culture which normalizes separation, divorce and broken family units. Knowing the statistics and how to avoid their repercussions could mean the difference between a successful marriage that grows stronger through the years, versus an unstable marriage that doesn’t stand the test of time. Just keep in mind: the odds exist, but they are beatable.
Just keep in mind: the odds exist, but they are beatable.

Source Link :http://www.feadexx.com/2018/01/statistics-on-divorce-separation-and.html?m=1

The Right ups is quite good. But I disagree with these.


Common causes of marital arguments

MONEY - 31%

HOUSEHOLD CHORES - 28%

SEX - 15%


I think Household chores ought to be third.

Daniel2289:
The Right ups is quite good. But I disagree with these.


Common causes of marital arguments

MONEY - 31%

HOUSEHOLD CHORES - 28%

SEX - 15%


I think Household chores ought to be third.

It is surprising yes but it is true as subtle as it is it trigger more quarrel than sex because it is a daily activities or routine when compared to sex in family circle.

Thanks for your thought.