If you could do this to your potential mother in- law, a stranger is a no no to you, not to talk of faceless people that need financial assistance on social media like nairaland. Why man? Now do the needful by assisting the family in any way you can whether you want to go ahead and marry the lady or not.

Your wickedness and pride is extraordinary.... She said she would pay back.. This is not even dash.... Na wa sha.....

Letzdothething:
same way she dated him for five years is the same way he dated her for five years.

Helloooo, where are the gender equality warriors when you need them

My friend, nobody ever loves a poor guy. Don't be fooled to settle for less to a poor girl for love, she most likely wouldn't love the guy if she had a better choice or if the guy was broke. The probability is high.

Make the best decision not for emotions but the best based on data, experience and assumption.

And when the lady finally becomes successful she suddenly wants someone in her league base on this thread below. You think the likes of Linda Ikeji didn’t get any boy friend support whilst struggling in the university, but now demands are very high.

https://www.nairaland.com/4339785/run-away-successful-lady-above/10#64981063

luminouz:

Will u please pay my school fees too?
Oponu!!!

Oga oo, the OP is stingy. 5 good years and he is here complaining.

.

I don't even understand men of these days.

Fool!! You want to marry, you cant even render help to your inlaw to be... Then who do you want to help in your life...? As she ever ask you before?. So you are even bold in saying your girl has not ask for your assistance before. And you will come out call yourself a man. You better go and learn work and have something to feed family when you grow.

histemple:
What is the point of posting this story/question here after responding to the woman?

I wish you did this before responding to the needy woman.

But then, I am also wondering why your fiancee didn't ask for this favour herself if she is truly in need.

The shameless Man is not asking whether to give her the money or not. He is seeking advice whether to dump the girl just because her mother requested a loan from him.

ireneony:
Your own don finish for life...
For nairaland guys to say you're stingy and u don't deserve your fiancee know that your village people are using your picture to dance every night.

Lol madam you have not lost one bit of your salvage comment.

You have been bleeping her daughter for 5 solid years, now time have come to pay your bedding double mind.

Bro your stinginess na 100%

deanxy:
My fiancee and I have been in a relationship for 5 years now. I met her since she was in secondary school. We both love each other and she is very nice, loving and supportive too.

We have talked and started planning on settling down and that should before the end of the year but I am beginning to have a second thought.

The problem is not my fiancee but her mom. The woman is very nice and welcoming but lately, she did something that I am not comfortable with. Last week she sent me a text asking for financial assistance. That her daughter (my fiancee) is yet to pay her house rent at school and that my fiancee younger brother is yet to pay his registration fee. And so she had asked me to loan her some amount before the end of the month when she will remit it. That she considered me a son and that's why she confided in me. I later sent her SMS that I don't have anything.

I was like why would she asked me for loan when her daughter never asked for one naira in our Five years of relationship? So my fear is, should I marry her daughter, wont she trouble me with further demands? Please is there anyway around this? Please what do I do?

Your mother in law asking for financial assistance, is no big deal..... She asked you to loan her and not dash her. Even if she requested you dashed her, it's not too much to ask for.......

Call her back and render the financial assistance, if you are able to....

Once you get married, it is expected (within reason), to assist your in laws....... They raised a beautiful daughter, that's the reason you are willing to associate yourself to their Family......

They did not raise her with stones and water.......


NB : 5 years is too long biko, put a ring on it (send invite, I love to chop party rice).....

deanxy:
My fiancee and I have been in a relationship for 5 years now. I met her since she was in secondary school. We both love each other and she is very nice, loving and supportive too.

We have talked and started planning on settling down and that should before the end of the year but I am beginning to have a second thought.

The problem is not my fiancee but her mom. The woman is very nice and welcoming but lately, she did something that I am not comfortable with. Last week she sent me a text asking for financial assistance. That her daughter (my fiancee) is yet to pay her house rent at school and that my fiancee younger brother is yet to pay his registration fee. And so she had asked me to loan her some amount before the end of the month when she will remit it. That she considered me a son and that's why she confided in me. I later sent her SMS that I don't have anything.

I was like why would she asked me for loan when her daughter never asked for one naira in our Five years of relationship? So my fear is, should I marry her daughter, wont she trouble me with further demands? Please is there anyway around this? Please what do I do?

StingyKoko you don't deserve that girl

kmcutez:
Let her go. You don't love her.

i don't understand

U mean love d gal or her mother?

deanxy:
My fiancee and I have been in a relationship for 5 years now. I met her since she was in secondary school. We both love each other and she is very nice, loving and supportive too.

We have talked and started planning on settling down and that should before the end of the year but I am beginning to have a second thought.

The problem is not my fiancee but her mom. The woman is very nice and welcoming but lately, she did something that I am not comfortable with. Last week she sent me a text asking for financial assistance. That her daughter (my fiancee) is yet to pay her house rent at school and that my fiancee younger brother is yet to pay his registration fee. And so she had asked me to loan her some amount before the end of the month when she will remit it. That she considered me a son and that's why she confided in me. I later sent her SMS that I don't have anything.

I was like why would she asked me for loan when her daughter never asked for one naira in our Five years of relationship? So my fear is, should I marry her daughter, wont she trouble me with further demands? Please is there anyway around this? Please what do I do?

just because the woman ask u for financial help of which u couldn't afford cos u are poor and broken nigga, u wanna quit the relationship with her daughter

Either the woman kill u cos u couldn't afford help

Just in one word u are stupid

thorpido:
It's not enough to call off the relationship.I think you should ask your fiancee if she currently has financial challenges and in what ways you can help.
You can give the money but be cautious.

Bros, your comment is the best....Every other one is just horrid, appealing to emotion and bias.

Lexusgs430:


Your mother in law asking for financial assistance, is no big deal..... She asked you to loan her and not dash her. Even if she requested you dashed her, it's not too much to ask for.......

Call her back and render the financial assistance, if you are able to....

Once you get married, it is expected (within reason), to assist your in laws....... They raised a beautiful daughter, that's the reason you are willing to associate yourself to their Family......

They did not raise her with stones and water.......


NB : 5 years is too long biko, put a ring on it (send invite, I love to chop party rice).....

We are the ones pushing our young men to crime.

I think we should all stop blaming the government. What da f$$k do you guys mean by in law to be, doesn’t he have his own family problems and on what ground should he bare the full financial responsibility of a girl friend, and later if she picks another guy to settle down with you guys will be the first to say let her marry who she wants forgetting you once refer to her family as “IN LAW TO BE”

My guy you are just stingy. I think you'd be doing your fiancee a big favor by letting her go. I think she even knows how stingy you are that's why she didn't have the guts to ask you for the rent herself. I dey shame for you, no matter how successful you are, you are a broke ass if the person you love cannot enjoy it freely

insigne:
Juve is currently teaching Tottenham a lesson of their lives

for where? Spur na balling team jor. Juve just loss after their 2 lucky goals

millionboi2:
i don't understand

U mean love d gal or her mother?

Abeg no make me laugh. This post vex me too much. Lol

sekem:


Let that event happen fess na

You know one thing I hate about people?

People always trying to take advantage of any situation

That's usually how all these nonsense entitlement mentality begins

Wait fess make the guy become your son in law before you start taxing him

This is the first time !Did you read that ? Some people have dignity.

Bro it's the first time in 5 years either your fiancee or her family have requested financial assistance and you're already discouraged
Give the woman what she wants if you can afford to, she deserves your generosity and respect for bringing up such a decent girl.

olaboy1:


And when the lady finally becomes successful she suddenly wants someone in her league base on this thread below. You think the likes of Linda Ikeji didn’t get any boy friend support whilst struggling in the university, but now demands are very high.

https://www.nairaland.com/4339785/run-away-successful-lady-above/10#64981063

that's true.

In life everyone is playing games.

Where I eat lunch at work there's this daughter of the cook, she's an illiterate but quite pretty. those bank security guys around do have fun with her gisting as per same lever na.

Any time me and my guys come around to eat she just shuns them and focus on us shinning teeth like bingo. most times when I notice I shun her too.

Imagine what would be going through the mind of those guys.

That is simply because they are poor nothing spectacular.

No fall scam for this love thing bro. Marry for "love" but secure your financial future.

Enough is enough

UjuJoan2:
I hate stingy men with a passion, God Forbid!

Shame no even catch you to say no? I just feel so sorry for the girl and her family.

If they were wiser they would flee now that it's still very early.

Tuaaaah!

Is it your money?

They're not even married yet

Maychang:
May God save us from Stingy boyfriends

He's her boyfriend not her father!!!

He is not obligated to give money to his mother-in-law...

The main reason why corruption has refused to stop in Nigeria is because of pressure from relatives and in-laws

I have never seen someone stupid as the OP, wonder if he ever go through the four all of the university or the wall go through him

Very useless

Maychang:
May God save us from Stingy boyfriends

May God save men from stingy girlfriends

For 5 years, she never asked you for money. What could have made her to do so now, not minding the shame and ridicule attached. May we wnot see any problem that is beyond us. If you can assist in your little way, pls do. If not, no p. But saying you will dump the lady for this frivolous reason is not the best, except you have other reason to do so.

kmcutez:


Abeg no make me laugh. This post vex me too much. Lol

seriously,u mean 4turnin d mother down, he doesn't love d gal?

Donald3d:
Even if she needed help , why didnt she use style to ask through her daughter ?

Nice one.
Oversense shall not kill u

Just passing with my wheelbarrow

deanxy:
My fiancee and I have been in a relationship for 5 years now. I met her since she was in secondary school. We both love each other and she is very nice, loving and supportive too.

We have talked and started planning on settling down and that should before the end of the year but I am beginning to have a second thought.

The problem is not my fiancee but her mom. The woman is very nice and welcoming but lately, she did something that I am not comfortable with. Last week she sent me a text asking for financial assistance. That her daughter (my fiancee) is yet to pay her house rent at school and that my fiancee younger brother is yet to pay his registration fee. And so she had asked me to loan her some amount before the end of the month when she will remit it. That she considered me a son and that's why she confided in me. I later sent her SMS that I don't have anything.

I was like why would she asked me for loan when her daughter never asked for one naira in our Five years of relationship? So my fear is, should I marry her daughter, wont she trouble me with further demands? Please is there anyway around this? Please what do I do?

I think you're so silly.
So if the girl never asked, it a crime if the mom ask?