Certain Truths Homosexuals should know and understand
about Homophobes.
Lately, i have tumbled across a variety of letters and articles
written by homosexuals and addressed to homophobes,
some of them have even been published here on TMIN.
Most of these letters are tinged with bitterness, indignation
and hate which is quite understandable, considering the
socio-political environs most of these gays flourish in, but
some of these letters are - quite frankly- highly subjective
and generalizing, it is n news that homosexuals are a
minority in this part of the world and it is also no news that
they run amok on social media platforms but live relatively
obscure and jaded lives in reality, it is however unflattering
that they think homophobes are really what they make them
out to be, so in a bid to correct some unpopular and
unsavoury impressions, i coined a list off the impressions
homosexuals have of homophobes which are at the very
least, bogus and i will try as much as possible to "clear the
air" so to speak, on the increasingly misunderstood sexual
majority in Our country.
1. "Homophobia" is not an insult or a degenerating term, i
do not understand why gays assume the use of the word in
itself is scathing and corrective and may make a lot of
straight people reconsider their stance, its just like a racist
expecting a black man to be apologetic simply because he
was called "Black" or a black man expecting a racist to
recoil at the term "Racist".
"Homophobia" as a term is the fear or hate for homosexuals
and that in no way qualifies as a derogatory term, we have
Xenophobia, Claustrophobia, Hydrophobia, Necrophobia, etc
and a host of others, a hate or fear of something or
someone is simply a term, an adjective used in describing a
person or an emotion, it is not an insult, besides, it is quite
Incongruous that homosexuals think that everybody would
accept them with the way they go about spewing the words
"Homophobic" "Homophobe" "Homophobia" when they
chance upon a disconcerted fellow who is confused as to
the sanity behind the practise of homosexuality.
2. Yes, it is quite possible to hate the act of homosexuality
but love the homosexual as a person. Infact, this is the
prevailing dilemma surrounding most homophobes today,
they are stuck between loving a gay's talent, personality,
character and carriage and hating the fact that he is gay -
and please, before you come on here to say that is
unrealistic, a lot of parents/people detest their child's/
sibling's sexual orientation but does that stop them from
being that dotting, loving parents? a capital NO. Will Smith,
Lawrence Fishburne, Jenna Jameson, Billy Ray Cyrus, etc
are just a few of the celebrities who have "queer" children
and have time to time again reinstated how they are
uncomfortable with their children's way of life but still would
give them their unwavering support should they ever decide
to come open. So, before you are quick to accuse a person
of being a bigot, be sure what he is really bigoted about.
3. Being a homosexual does not/can not/ will not make you
smarter and being a homophobe or a straight person does
not in any proven way reduce your intelligence.
A dumb person is a dumb person, a smart person is a smart
person.
How do i explain this? Most homosexuals are quick to label
any homophobe as "Dumb" simply because they do not
accept their orientation and try not to disguise their disgust,
as unreasonable and stupid as this line of reasoning is,it is
quite the opposite, the thought that a human can reduce
another human's IQ or gauge his intelligence by his views on
sexuality is bereft of wisdom and quite idiotic, if i must
remind you, the current president of the United States and
one of America's richest men is an homophobe but you are
smarter, yes, i know! yet you are here with me patronizing
Airtel's free facebook. Qatar, Dubai,UAE and many other
middle east nations are unapologetically homophobic, infact
they have laws restricting the freedom of gays and
sometimes, the penalties are stiff, yet these are cities and
countries advancing far into the future in terms of
innovations and technology, maybe, dumbness is the new
cool.i dont know.
Homosexuals attack the grammar and syntactic proficiency
of any write up by a homophobe and i begin to wonder, does
being an homosexual automatically entitle you to an extra
pair of hyper-active brains or are these people just being
plain importunate?
4. Homophobia will never go away.
Yes! the earlier you gays understand this, the better. Laws
may be enacted to protect the freedom and rights of gays
but the hatred would still pervade, seething,more poisonous
than ever, besides how many laws ever held water in this
lopsided country. Even in first world countries, homophobia
has proven to be indissoluble, everyday we hear and see
instances of people verbally attacked for airing their
homophobic views, even in countries like the USA, Imagine
how long it would take Nigeria to even consider passing a
law in favour of gays.
5. Consider the fact that you are in a mentally repressed
country and society, when you grasp hold of that fact, you
may find yourself becoming less and less bitter.
How do you feel coming on social media and slandering
opposition with the ineradicable tendency of a freedom
fighter but in your neighbourhood, you are scared to open
your mouth and defend or proclaim your sexuality? do you
feel fulfilled or you feel like a lie?
Such cowardice is ineffable, majority of Nigerians dotting
the streets arent even on facebook, so your rantings may
actually be falling on deaf ears. This is a country that
passed a law against homosexuality and you people think it
is a battle to be won on facebook?? Ever wonder why most
straights and homophobes hardly ever engage your lots in
debates anymore? its simple, they have discovered most of
you are pussilanimous sissies, scared stiff of an actual real
life word tussle, you spew so much complexities and
compound bitterness making it inimical for objective
reasoning to take place, some of you even call names and
yet when you are seen in real life, you are either timid, self
absorbed, shy, effeminate, sullen, quiet, repressed,
depressed secluded or all of them jammed into one pathetic
revolting mix of a human.
My point? WORK the TALK
Facebook can only take you so far and in a country like ours
"Far" may not even be far enough.
6. Some Homosexuals wish Homophobes would ignore
them and mind their business.
Ok, let me be candid with you...
It is IMPOSSIBLE for a homophobe to see 2 men or 2
women kissing and "mind his business"
It is IMPOSSIBLE for a homophobe to witness a wedding
between two same sex couples and say nothing about it.
It is IMPOSSIBLE for a homophobe to see an effeminate
man and just look away.
It is IMPOSSIBLE for a homophobe to see a man who cross
dresses or a woman who cross dresses and try to act
normal, in some cases, they make their displeasure very
evident.
In otherwords, homophobes are attuned to the natural order
of things or how they have be brought up and conditioned by
prevailing societal norms, it would be silly, inconsiderate and
highly imbrogious for you to demand they “mind their
business” when they see a man putting on a G-string.
The problem with homosexuals is their highly unrealistic
presumptions and sense of entitlement.
And you claim to have sense.
7. Homophobes are not closet homosexuals living in denial.
Who came up with that misleading assertion anyway? Is
that a ruse to explain the distaste of homophobes towards
homosexuals? Or a sort of consolation for straight
homophobes you cannot seduce?
I won’t waste much Ink enunciating on such ludicrous
stance but I will ask one question though.
Since we all hate pedophiles, does that mean we are all
closet pedophiles living in denial?

Who is ready 2 read dis long epistle self. Whether u believe it or yes, homosexuals are insane.

Homosexuals are mostly trapped in their world, often ignoring the fact that they are a deviation from the norm and thereby subject to scrutiny.