eleojo23:
It’s been a while since I created a topic on this forum…well, I just want to share this post with you guys today…it’s kinda lengthy but just be patient to read it. I promise it won’t take more than 7 minutes of your time

Many times we talk and talk about a lot of stuff that really doesn’t matter that much. We scrutinize and dramatize the insignificant until we’re blue in the face, and then we sit back and scratch our heads in bewilderment of how unfulfilling life feels.
But the older we grow, the quieter we become and the less pointless drama and chaos we engage in. Life humbles us gradually as we age. We realize how much nonsense we’ve wasted time on.

Truth be told, the afternoon always understands what the morning never even suspected.

Here are some things we tend to expend lots of mental and physical energy on when we’re younger, that we eventually realize matter a lot less than we originally thought…

1. The inevitable frustrations of an average day.
99% of what’s stressing you out today won’t matter a month from now. Sooner or later you will know this for certain. So just do your best to let go of the nonsense, stay positive, and move forward with your life.

2. The little failures you often feel self-conscious about.
When you set goals and take calculated risks in life, you eventually learn that there will be times when you succeed and there will be times when you fail, and both are equally important in the long run.

3. How “perfect” everything could be, or should be.
Understanding the difference between reasonable striving and perfectionism is critical to letting go of fantasies and picking up your life. Perfectionism not only causes you unnecessary stress and anxiety from the superficial need to always “get it right,” it actually prevents you from getting anything worthwhile done at all.

4. Having complete confidence before taking the first step.
Confidence is that inner inertia that propels us to bypass our empty fears and self-doubts. On the road of life, we come to realize that we rarely have confidence when we begin anew, but as we move forward and tap into our inner and outer resources, our confidence gradually builds. A common mistake many young people make is wanting to feel confident before they start something, whether it’s a new job, a new relationship, living in a new city, etc. But it doesn’t happen like that. You have to step out of your comfort zone, and risk your pride, to earn the reward of finding your confidence.

5. Being an online-only activist for good causes.
Online is fine, but sooner or later you realize that if you truly want to make a difference you have to walk the talk too. So don’t just rant online for a better world. Love your family. Be a good neighbor. Practice kindness. Build bridges. Embody what you preach.

6. The pressures of making a big difference all at once.
When we’re young it seems like faster is better, but in time we witness the power of ‘slow and steady’ at work. We come to learn that no act of love, kindness or generosity, no matter how small, is ever wasted. The fact that you can plant a seed and it becomes a flower, share a bit of knowledge and it becomes another’s, smile at someone and receive a smile in return, is proof that YOU can make a big difference in life and business, even if it can’t be done all at once.

7. The temptation of quick fixes.
The older your eyes grow, the more clearly they can see through the smoke and mirrors of every quick fix. Anything worth achieving takes dedicated daily effort. Period! Honestly, I used to believe that making wishes and saying prayers alone changed things, but now I know that wishes and prayers change us, and WE change things. All details aside, when it comes to making a substantial change in your life – building a business, earning a degree, fostering a new relationship, starting a family, becoming more mindful, or any other personal journey that takes time and commitment – one thing you have to ask yourself is, “Am I willing to spend a little time every day like many people won’t, so I can spend the better part of my life like many people can’t?” Think about that for a moment. We ultimately become what we repeatedly do. The acquisition of knowledge doesn’t mean you’re growing – growing happens when what you know changes how you live on a daily basis.

8. Having a calendar jam-packed with exciting, elaborate plans.
Don’t jam your life with plans. Leave space. Over time you will learn that many great things happen unplanned, and some big regrets happen by not reaching exactly what was planned. So keep your life ordered and your schedule under-booked. Create a foundation with a soft place to land, a wide margin of error, and room to think and breathe every step of the way.

9. Being in constant control of everything.
The older we get the more we realize how little we actually control. And there’s no good reason to hold yourself down with things you can’t control. Learn to trust the journey, even when you do not understand it. Oftentimes what you never wanted or expected turns out to be what you need.

10. Winning arguments.
Not much is worth fighting about for long. And if you can avoid it, don’t fight at all. It really doesn’t matter that much. Don’t define your intelligence or self-worth by the number of arguments you have won, but by the number of times you have silently told yourself, “This nonsense is just not worth it!”

11. Blaming others.
Have you ever met a happy person who regularly evades responsibility, blames and points fingers and makes excuses for their unsatisfying life? Me neither. Happy people accept responsibility for how their lives unfold. They believe their own happiness is a byproduct of their own thinking, beliefs, attitudes, character and behavior. And although it takes time to fully grasp this, it’s a lesson worth learning.

12. Winning everyone’s approval.
It’s the strength of your conviction that determines your level of personal success in the long run, not the number of people who agree with every little thing you do. Ultimately, you will know that you’ve made the right decisions and followed the proper path when there is genuine peace in your heart.

13. The selfish and disparaging things others say and do.
If you take everything personally, you will inevitably be offended for the rest of your life. And that just isn’t worth it! At some point it becomes crystal clear that the way people treat you is their problem, and how you react is yours. Start taking full advantage of the amazing freedom that comes to you when you detach from other people’s antics.

14 Judging others for their shortcomings.
We all have days when we’re not our best. And the older we grow, the more we realize how important it is to give others the break we hope the world will give us on our own bad days. Truly, you never know what someone has been through in their life, or what they’re going through today. Just be kind, generous and respectful… and then be on your way.

15. Fancy and expensive physical possessions.
Later in life, your personal wish list for ‘big ticket’ physical possessions tends to get smaller and smaller, because the things you really want and need are the little things that can’t be bought.

I hope you found the post useful.

Shared from: www.marcandangel.com/2017/01/29/20-things-that-will-matter-a-lot-less-to-you-in-20-years/

Thank you bro!

This was for me , as I approach my.mid life I find myself thinking in these patterns , slowing down , having less energy for confrontation and just wanting to understand things better .

You know one of those moments when you hear something and it's like you already knew it but the words and thoughts just needed to be placed in perspective by something you hear or something you read? This was one of those moments for me bro.

Thank you

true points.

eleojo23:


Lalasticlala, Mynd44 please move this topic to the front page. Thanks

The post appealed to me in so many wonderful ways you can't imagine. I wish I could like it a million times. Thanks a lot for sharing.

eleojo23:
I hope the post was helpful...

yes, the post o ta'lenu. It's nice. Meanwhile, did you study a FUNAAB?

MrsNwaAmaikpe:


please add the sending of Buhari back to Duara..........Buhari is as useless as the P in psychology

trying so hard to be nwamaikpe..oh i forgot you are his MRS

Eleojo23, thanks for this. Insightful write-up.

I guess we shouldn’t blame the old cargos in govt then, your analogies reflect in how they do things as well as our society. If we want young vibrant and fast moving economy, we ought to find young ppl fit for those purposes.

Thanks for this insightful post.

I love this, thanks.

*Blaming others* matters a lot for the prince of Daura...he did it in 1983, he did it 2018....he will do it again....he needs some accolades in Blame Games..

Nice one.

eleojo23:
It’s been a while since I created a topic on this forum…well, I just want to share this post with you guys today…it’s kinda lengthy but just be patient to read it. I promise it won’t take more than 7 minutes of your time



I hope you found the post useful.

Shared from: www.marcandangel.com/2017/01/29/20-things-that-will-matter-a-lot-less-to-you-in-20-years/

Yes I did. Thanks for the post.
Hope you don't mind my copying pieces 9f it and sharing?

dsaintJ4Real:

Yes I did. Thanks for the post. Hope you don't mind my copying pieces 9f it and sharing?

You can share but include the source at the end of the article

God will bless you for lifting my spirit. I am an HSE engineer in the diaspora. I am facing alot thats is almost tearing me apart mentally.. This article did the magic!