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Nigerian Marriages by English1(f): 12:18pm On Mar 09, 2007 |
I'm a bit confused about Nigerian marriages - how many types are there? Are they all seen as equally committed/legally binding? Is a traditional marriage a legal marriage? Can you get divorced from a traditional marriage? |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by agnesoseka: 3:59pm On Mar 17, 2007 |
depends on wat u want i tink, |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by cuteass1(f): 6:48pm On Mar 22, 2007 |
Well the truth is that some people do only the traditional marriage, and consider themselves married. Some end at that while some do the white wedding afterwards. It all depends on belief and religion in my opinion, each is as important as the other But before the traditional marriage, there is something called the bride-price ceremony where the family of the girl mentions a price which the guy's family has to pay on the head of the girl. these days it could just be N1, the amount of money no longer matters, its just a formality During the traditional marriage, the groom's family comes with kegs of palm-wine, which is used during the ceremony Now the reason why I'm, going into details is that you asked about divorce , so when the guy or lady decides they don't want to continue with the marriage, to break it traditionally, the girl's family has to return the bride-price and kegs of palm wine they received from the family-in-law with that done, the marriage is traditionally annulled |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by LoverBwoy(m): 9:59pm On Mar 23, 2007 |
wow you are already thinking about divorceĀ with all the weird stuff you read in here about nigeria,nigerian men and relationship, how do you cope@english |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by bunmii(f): 6:39pm On Mar 24, 2007 |
did u get a marriage license? if you did then you need divorce from any kind of wedding |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by whiteNkem(f): 8:38pm On Mar 24, 2007 |
Another question somehow connected: I know that traditional wedding takes place at the girl's house and the girl's father will bless the couple (at least at the Igbo weddings I know it's like that), but what if the girl isn't Nigerian and doesn't live there, but the couple still wants to do it? I mean, is it not a big deal if they switch all that to the groom's house? Then what about the traditional dance of the women (bride, mother, sisters etc) if none of them (maybe except the bride) knows that? Is it such a big deal or it could be overcome without much fuss? |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by Glamourgal(f): 2:00pm On Mar 25, 2007 |
@ white'nkem: it depends on the family. i wouldn't think of it as a big deal if it couldn't be done @ the girl's house. they can hold it anywhere it's not the girl's fault she isn't nigerian, soi should think they either forget about the traditional wedding, or hold it @ the guy's place. u don't have to dance. if u must dance, then, do ur best. |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by mamaput(f): 6:16pm On Mar 25, 2007 |
You do not even have to be there. Many people that cannot travel out just send money home and let the family do if for them . In absence of the bride and groom |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by whiteNkem(f): 7:42pm On Mar 25, 2007 |
mamaput:No no no, I'd love to do that first of all and second, I know it'd mean a lot for my husband! |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by mamaput(f): 8:37am On Mar 26, 2007 |
This goes for people mostly that are illegal abroad and cannot Travel out. Or for some that are not yet ready to travel home for one reason or the other. Like if a baby is on the way and they want to be married b4 the baby comes. |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by English1(f): 4:32pm On Mar 29, 2007 |
lol no I'm not thinking of marriage or divorce. I've just found the different types of marriages confusing and I wondered if they all have equal legal status. So for example, if you have a traditional marriage and want to end it, do you have to get a legal divorce etc. Did I understand some of these posts right? that you can get a traditional marriage without even being there??!!! How can this be legal? |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by SweetT1: 4:59pm On Mar 29, 2007 |
@whitenkem You are not even married yet and you are talking about divorce? That's western world for ya, she is already thinking " If that negro don't worth a s#it, i'm kicking his @$$ to the curb". |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by ehie007(m): 5:02pm On Mar 29, 2007 |
In this country called Seychelles if u date a girl for more than two tears u are automatically married to her by their law. Wishe they practice that over here. |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by whiteNkem(f): 8:37pm On Mar 29, 2007 |
Sweet T: Abeg, it was English1 who asked about divorce, not me oooo! So read more carefully!!! |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by mamaput(f): 9:56pm On Mar 29, 2007 |
Traditional marrage in Nigeria is as legal as any other form of marrage in Nigeria, But only in Nigeria. It is not recognized in Europe for example. I cannot say for any other country. To get divorced is also according to what demands are made by the Families involved(i think)depending on the reasons but normally the bride prise is returned. (if the man is to blame i think) |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by flyKUDE(m): 10:14pm On Mar 29, 2007 |
traditional weddings in Nigeria seem to be more legally binding than any else.at least as nigerians see it.that is why the igbos for instance,and yorubas too,almost always do the traditionals before the white weddings. |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by ThiefOfHearts(f): 10:25pm On Mar 29, 2007 |
if you do traditional alone you are just fooling yourself My aunt's best friend got "trraditionally married" to a guy, figured well we're "married" now, so they slept together, she was "blessed" with a pregnancy and now the dude has gone and more than likley has gone off to officially marry someone else. any marriage that's not recognized everywhere else you go is garbage. |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by afrikangal(f): 10:54am On Mar 30, 2007 |
All marriages r really neccessary and all important no probs ma people. sign of madness no lele |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by ezinwa(m): 12:40pm On Mar 30, 2007 |
there is traditional marriage infact it's now call customary marriage anyway this is more regarded than white wedding though there is a certificate when it's white wedding. so long as u r within the shore of naija the certificate is just a paper unless u want to be like andrew!!! |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by ThiefOfHearts(f): 5:05pm On Mar 30, 2007 |
who's andrew |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by needeeg(m): 8:19pm On Mar 30, 2007 |
ThiefOfHearts:That's really bad O, well this traditional issue depends on sha! |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by mamaput(f): 9:12pm On Mar 30, 2007 |
Church weddings are not recognized in Germany. Infact you cannot get a church wedding without the court wedding or at least an appointment for the court wedding |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by whiteNkem(f): 9:41am On Mar 31, 2007 |
mamaput:Same thing in Romania. |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by Nobody: 7:36am On Apr 04, 2007 |
in iboland in naija, if u like, u can go to supreme court or vatican city to wed; its assumed u are not married untill u come to do customary or traditional marriage at home. u guys may not be there personally, your concent is the major thing that matters. |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by lioness(f): 9:14am On Apr 04, 2007 |
MUST WE MARRY? whats this whole holla ballo abt marriage sef? |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by Ndipe(m): 9:52am On Apr 04, 2007 |
Nuzo, away with that tradition of not recognizing you if you do not perform the ritual in the traditional manner. How can the leaders of the land, reject one's marital status because it was not conducted in the traditional manner? The Church's ruling overrules their decision, because it was performed in God's House, not in a land, that would pay obeisance to ancestral spirits, thus putting the couple in bondage. |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by osegwu(m): 2:52pm On Apr 07, 2007 |
The most important is the Traditional and the Court wedding. It is only the court certificate that you actually with your Legal documents. |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by laudate: 7:10pm On Apr 10, 2007 |
Well these days, people do the traditional weddings a few days before the church wedding or court wedding, mostly in the South-West. Some folks might even have the church wedding on a week day (e.g. Thursday), in order to make it a low-key affair. But the traditional wedding which would have been done prior to this, may have been a large affair. It gives people from both sides of the family, the opportunity to make all the formal introductions. |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by nalijah07(f): 8:03pm On Apr 21, 2008 |
How does a woman legally change her name if she was married traditionally? Does she not have to provide legal documents in order to change her name? How does that work? |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by Nobody: 7:33am On Apr 22, 2008 |
These women sef. if u women had a chance u'd turn traditional marriage into some paper signing event. the word u need to take note of is TRADITIONAL. no signatories, no court of law blah blah blah etc. just tradition. palm wine, kola nut, traditional dance, blessing and prayers by both parents or representative of any of the parents. |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by almondjoy(f): 9:23pm On Apr 22, 2008 |
@Topic, Nigerian marriages have all kinds of marriage set ups based on religion and culture. Monogmous, polygamous, common law, traditional, registry or "white" churchy weddings. You can get divorced from a "Traditional" marriage. When a lady returns the bride price or dowry to the family of the man. . . the divorce from a traditional marriage is final. Sometimes people just split without any formalities. When you a man and a woman have been separated for many years. . .no need to ask about divorce. . .it is so implied! Anything goes with Nigerian marriages! |
Re: Nigerian Marriages by TCUBE(m): 9:49pm On Apr 22, 2008 |
uNigerians have redefined marriage, so no comment |
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