lefulefu:
You are both Muslims so why would ur parents have any issue accepting him?...na wao. Had he been a Christian then i would understand if ur parents Said no. So naija guys dey try oo. Travelling all the way to Somalia to get a wife.very soon we will afghan women coming to nairaland for advice on their naija boyfriends. Naija guys i hail una.

#Dead

Rubber1999:

Thank you all for your help

Can your parents speak English?

Is the guy presentable?

Are you submissive?

lefulefu:
You are both Muslims so why would ur parents have any issue accepting him?...na wao. Had he been a Christian then i would understand if ur parents Said no. So naija guys dey try oo. Travelling all the way to Somalia to get a wife.very soon we will see afghan women coming to nairaland for advice on their naija boyfriends. Naija guys i hail una.

this kinda hustle is nothing related to any damn green card so what da hell do we describe it as?

Rubber1999:
We are both in the UK lol!

My parents are quite bright I suppose but they grew up in Somalia when there weren’t any foreigners (apart from Italians and Arabs) so I don’t know.

oh u both live in the uk?
then it ought not to be a problem in you two getting married .u said he 's a muslim so i am guessing he must be Hausa.Hausas and Somalis almost share a similar culture.if he"s hausa i doubt if ur parents would object.just airing my opinion though.

Martin0:


this kinda hustle is nothing related to any damn green card so what da hell do we describe it as?

this no be hustle.its a story of two lovers with different culture finding it a little challenging to live with each other.both of dem dey uk na.

I don’t know about Nigerian culture but for Somalis it’s hard to marry out. My dad makes jokes about it I think he might stop us from being together and I respect my dad so

Rubber1999:
Hi everybody,

My name is Aisha and I’m Somali but my bf of eight months is from Nigeria. He keeps asking me to let him talk to my family and stuff but I’m terrified. I think I love him but.. I don’t know how I should convince my parents. I met his family many times and I feel very guilty about all this. We are both Muslims btw! Does anybody have any experience of a Somali Nigerian marriage?

Thanks in advance!

Not sure if I’ll be much help as I’ve never seen a Nigerian/Somalian union personally but I’ve been to a Nigerian (my side of family) and a Rwandan wedding here in Lagos. It was a pleasant experience. The Rwandan side did one of their traditional dances when walking into the reception and a lot of the family that travelled in from Rwanda were dressed in their traditional attire, it was a nice cultural learning experience.
I think it just depends on how accepting your side of the family are of different cultures.

Rubber1999:
I don’t know about Nigerian culture but for Somalis it’s hard to marry out. My dad makes jokes about it I think he might stop us from being together and I respect my dad so

if you pretty like Dimples129 i am sure this your nigerian boyfriend will take u and run away with u if ur parents oppose ur union together. The ball lies in his court.

Rubber1999:
Hi everybody,

My name is Aisha and I’m Somali but my bf of eight months is from Nigeria. He keeps asking me to let him talk to my family and stuff but I’m terrified. I think I love him but.. I don’t know how I should convince my parents. I met his family many times and I feel very guilty about all this. We are both Muslims btw! Does anybody have any experience of a Somali Nigerian marriage?

Thanks in advance!

yes the one i had and see is between Bokoharam commander and Isis daughter from somalie

lefulefu:

this no be hustle.its a story of two lovers with different culture finding it a little challenging to live with each other.both of dem dey uk na.

yeah, am aware.

wish them luck!

Rubber1999:
I don’t know about Nigerian culture but for Somalis it’s hard to marry out. My dad makes jokes about it I think he might stop us from being together and I respect my dad so

Stop downplaying the reality of that " joke" by your dad. You know very well how he and most of your society feel about foreigners when it comes to issues like this . Somalians generally aren't open to marrying " fellow " africans, infact it's not just Somalians, horners in general. Not all but a good majority of them have the ,them and us attitude , which I totally understand because I come from a similar society, so don't think I'm taking a jab at you .

You need to make up your mind , are you willing and ready to live in isolation because of this guy?. Your family might not disown you but you and your future children will definitely feel the cold breeze forever when you visit a Somalian community . On the other hand, your happiness should come first , if you feel the guy is what you want/need and you are tough enough to survive without the affections of your family or you can survive if the relationship fails, why not take the risk? You only have one life to live.

It’s been sorted alxamdulilah thank you all

Rubber1999:

It’s been sorted alxamdulilah thank you all

Sorted Did you break up with him?

Lol no, I told my mum and she said she’s going to help me tell my dad. Inshallah it’ll all be fine!

Rubber1999:
Lol no, I told my mum and she said she’s going to help me tell my dad. Inshallah it’ll all be fine!

Wish you all the best

Rubber1999:
Would it be weird if I asked him to pretend to be Somali Bantu?

Ur parents doesn't want u to marry outside somalia ?
I will advise u take it up with ur parents, if they say no then, take it up with ur guy .....

As a Muslim girl, u need ur parent blessing in ur marriage ... so convince them or .......m