I have been suspecting you since 1722..you speak 9ja pidgin with guts and well. Are you sure you are not a....?lol

XhosaNostra:


LOL! Leave that alone bros Wetin we go do for that now?

We be paddies, let's not spoil that with other tins, yeah?

BluntTheApostle:


You are right. But pounding yams is/was not slavery na

Anyway, I wasn't referring to post colonial Nigeria. Though it was not explicitly stated, but it appeared that women pounded the yams (or pushed the tasks to their sons/daughters) all the time in Achebe's Things Fall Apart and Arrow of God.

Ultimately, I think who should pound has been reduced to a power of strength but we forget that pounding yams demands techniques as well. I wouldn't know who does more of the pounding except I collect data because we hardly eat pounded yams in my house. But for now, answers are bound to be individual, e. g., "in my house, men/women do the pounding..."

Well, we live in critical times now where people are largely misinformed about most stuff and have a warped imagery of the realities of where we are coming from and why things were how they were at the time. It's only saddening that some people are chronically "colo-mentalized" by everything White that they see anything and everything African as dark, demonic and subpar, hence the urge to tell that story with that theme and setting that hopes to derail if not erase the maladjusted mindset that Real African men (their tradition) have no business with romance; are brutish with large dongs which when applied can make any woman submit to their slfish whims; are insensitive to their women blah blah...You see it was not just about pounded yam? Lol.

revontuli:
Clueless foreigner question: Why do they have to pound yam by hand? Isn't there a machine for that?

machines are too advanced for us. We rather settle for mediocrity

bukatyne:


Can you give specific examples?

Example, I met this other guy at a convenience store not too far from my house. He was standing behind me in the queue, so as I moved away after paying for my stuff, he stepped at the back of my shoe & the strap broke. He was kind enough to offer me a lift home since I couldn't walk with one shoe. Anyway, on the way we started having a conversation. I knew he was Nigerian before he even told me, the accent gave it away. He asked if I have a boyfriend etc. And then he told me about another girl he is dating, but she moved away because of work. They're still in a relationship though. Mind you, it is clear that we're both in a relationship at this point, but then this guy asks for my number, telling me that he has a big "thing", he's sure I've heard about Nigerian men before blah blah blah.

See, for me, two things are a no-no. 1) A guy that has admitted he has a girlfriend, but still expects you to be in a relationship with him 2) A guy that knows you have a boyfriend, but is OK with being "the other guy". Nothing screams "whimp" or user more than someone like that, because I believe a guy with sense wouldn't wanna be an option.

Anyway, there's been a lot of similar experiences with different guys. They'll be telling you about how much money they will be spending on you, how big their côcks are & the fact that they don't seem to mind being a side squeeze. None of that is attractive TO ME.

XhosaNostra:

Yes?

hmm nah u be dis?

Stallion93:
machines are too advanced for us. We rather settle for mediocrity

Mediocrity?
Do you live inside ant holes or do you not have an idea that there are instant yam flours that can be prepared the same way you prepare Amala and other swallow foods instead of pounding -Product of Applied Science and Technology? That some people e.g Me prefer the traditional way of going by it for reasons of preference and choice?... C'mon man!

Pusyiter:
I have been suspecting you since 1722..you speak 9ja pidgin with guts and well. Are you sure you are not a....?lol

Lol, I've been on NL long enough to get a grasp on Pidgin. One of the things I'm still learning because I find it interesting.

XhosaNostra:



Example, I met this other guy at a convenience store not too far from my house. He was standing behind me in the queue, so as I moved away after paying for my stuff, he stepped at the back of my shoe & the strap broke. He was kind enough to offer me a lift home since I couldn't walk with one shoe. Anyway, on the way we started having a conversation. I knew he was Nigerian before he even told me, the accent gave it away. He asked if I have a boyfriend etc. And then he told me about another girl he is dating, but she moved away because of work. They're still in a relationship though. Mind you, it is clear that we're both in a relationship at this point, but then this guy asks for my number, telling me that he has a big "thing", he's sure I've heard about Nigerian men before blah blah blah.

See, for me, two things are a no-no. 1) A guy that has admitted he has a girlfriend, but still expects you to be in a relationship with him 2) A guy that knows you have a boyfriend, but is OK with being "the other guy". Nothing screams "whimp" or user more than someone like that, because I believe a guy with sense wouldn't wanna be an option.

Anyway, there's been a lot of similar experiences with different guys. They'll be telling you about how much money they will be spending on you, how big their côcks are & the fact that they don't seem to mind being a side squeeze. None of that is attractive TO ME.

Babes, there's one last freak button that MUST be turned on to have lived a full life and that is Fukcing a total Stranger. Try it and send your prayers cos I know you wouldn't wanna admit it less thanking me later

Opentokwowledge:
Babes, there's one last freak button that MUST be turned on to have lived a full life and that is Fukcing a total Stranger. Try it and send your prayers cos I know you wouldn't wanna admit it less thanking me later

Lol, no thanks. I cannot have meaningless sex. I need feelingssssss.

pcguru1:


I guess so, as much as he's helping I don't like the idea of one person working and the other person loafing around. I think its rude.

very... What's up

XhosaNostra:


Lol, no thanks. I cannot have meaningless sex. I need feelingssssss.

As expected. RIGID. Anyways, how are you?

Opentokwowledge:
As expected. RIGID. Anyways, how are you?

Lol, so you want me to be loose & be used? I don't think so!

Just relaxing at home. It's a public holiday today. Happy Human's Rights Day to you

What's up with you?

XhosaNostra:


Smh. If I wanted a Nigerian boyfriend, why would I be looking for one online (one who's probably faraway), when there's thousands of them on the streets, outside? Isn't that limiting my chances?

I'm not here looking for a man, I'm here to have a conversation & learn.

Right? Not all of us foreign ladies are here to look for men. I date only North European men, I'm also here to learn and make some friends.

revontuli:


Right? Not all of us foreign ladies are here to look for men. I date only North European men, I'm also here to learn and make some friends.

True, babe. Where are you from?

We got to let them know!

XhosaNostra:


Lol, so you want me to be loose & be used? I don't think so!

Just relaxing at home. It's a public holiday today. Happy Human's Rights Day to you

What's up with you?

"Loose and Used" is in your head is all I'm gonna say.

At home, checked in Ill... I need rest

Happy human rights day to you too

Opentokwowledge:
"Loose and Used" is in your head is all I'm gonna say.

At home, checked in Ill... I need rest

Happy human rights day to you too

"In MY head", I think I'm satisfied with that

Enjoy your rest

XhosaNostra:


"In MY head", I think I'm satisfied with that

Enjoy your rest

Lol. Keep up the boundaries until one irresistible clean cut ginger ravages your territory and brings down your walls in a whip!... This is prophecy!!

Thanks

Opentokwowledge:
Lol. Keep up the boundaries until one irresistible clean cut ginger ravages your territory and brings down your walls in a whip!... This is prophecy!!

Thanks

Lol, I'm not saying I'm immune to charm. I'm human. But there's a way to go about it, in order not to rouse suspicion. I really don't like "immoral" people. I'm very self-righteous & I will jump on my high horse in a second, especially when there's no feeling there

bukatyne:

Really?

Yes, especially, biologically.

Opentokwowledge:
Mediocrity?
Do you live inside ant holes or do you not have an idea that there are instant yam flours that can be prepared the same way you prepare Amala and other swallow foods instead of pounding -Product of Applied Science and Technology? That some people e.g Me prefer the traditional way of going by it for reasons of preference and choice?... C'mon man!

Oga that is the Mediocrity na, Mediocrity inside the brain resistant to Innovations meant to minimize time and energy.

We own pidgin from where I come from. We speak it, eat it, live it, caress it and freely give it. There are slangs in pidgin that some 9jas don't even understand. I will teach you more if you care.lol

XhosaNostra:



Lol, I've been on NL long enough to get a grasp on Pidgin. One of the things I'm still learning because I find it interesting.

revontuli:
Clueless foreigner question: Why do they have to pound yam by hand? Isn't there a machine for that?

We even have yam flour which would give 'similar' results without the pounding. however, the manually pounded yams taste much better and has the right texture. therefore, many believe that it's always worth the stress in the end.
You should try pounded yam and Egusi soup in an African restaurant close to you

Pusyiter:
We own pidgin from where I come from. We speak it, eat it, live it, caress it and freely give it. There are slangs in pidgin that some 9jas don't even understand. I will teach you more if you care.lol

Warri?

You too sabi, really close. I no go dey write in good English but in pidgin with you so that we go fit dey flow. Hope you code?

XhosaNostra:


Warri?

Pusyiter:
You too sabi, really close. I no go dey write in good English but in pidgin with you so that we go fit dey flow. Hope you code?

Lol, just don't go too deep.

Pusyiter:
You too sabi, really close. I no go dey write in good English but in pidgin with you so that we go fit dey flow. Hope you code?

ovoko!..see my oga anybody wey talk say your water no go hot their own no go warm and anybody wey talk say ur banga no go ripe their coconut no go get water..

I'd be nice and slow! But you gotta learn pretty fast. ok?

XhosaNostra:


Lol, just don't go too deep.

Pusyiter:
I'd be nice and slow! But you gotta learn pretty fast. ok?

Lol, I see what you did there. Ok.

Their popsie. If dem leave you eh, you go laminate kpomo oooo. I sight you broz.

sirBLUNT:
ovoko!..see my oga anybody wey talk say your water no go hot their own no go warm and anybody wey talk say ur banga no go ripe their coconut no go get water..

Hmm..really? lol

XhosaNostra:


Lol, I see what you did there. Ok.

XhosaNostra:


True, babe. Where are you from?

We got to let them know!

American living in Finland
I've visited SA some 10 years ago, Cape Town was amazing.

XhosaNostra:



Lol, I've been on NL long enough to get a grasp on Pidgin. One of the things I'm still learning because I find it interesting.

Give me a few months even I'll write naija pidgin