Sex is a sensitive issue that was never discussed most Nigerian home. Growing up in a Nigerian home, we were never allowed to talk about sex. Our parent will build a barricade around them whenever we ask them about issues like genitals, sex, conceptions, childbirth. They avoid such discussion. It is either they scold us or shout at us for uttering anything concerning sex. It was like a sacred word no one is allowed to say.
In other for us not to make the same mistake as our parents. These are ways on how to teach your children about sex and everything that it entails.
Firstly, talking about sex, sexuality and relationship in an open and honest way plays a big role in the life of a young child. It is important as a parents to be prepared to answer any question asked by your child about sex.
SEX TALK
It is never too early to talk about sex with your child. Talking about sex and sexuality with your child makes them to feel comfortable to talk to you about anything and it makes conversation easier.
DON’T COMPLICATE THE EXPLANATION
Keep your language simple and honest. Explain things at a level that you child will understand. Using the correct words for body parts helps your child learn about his/her body. So use these words from the start – penis – breast – testes – vagina – vulva. Not words like kokoro, totoyo, your thing.
GET BOTH PARENT INVOLVED
When both parents talk about sex and sexuality, it makes the children to feel more comfortable. When both parents are involved, they show the children that it’s ok to talk about sex and sexuality. They trust their parents more about sex matters. They trust their parents more and they communicate more with both parents
IT NOT A BAD THING NOT TO ALWAYS HAVE AN ANSWER
You don’t need to be an expert on sex talk, you just have to be the kind of parent that your child can ask about anything. Don’t shy away from the questions it’s ok to say “ I don’t know”. If you don’t know what to say, you can reply by saying. “Sweetheart, am glad you asked but I don’t really know how to answer you but I will get back to you.” And you make sure you get back to him/her.
EQUIP YOURSELF
Prepare yourself, you might feel embarrassed talking about sexuality with your child. Using words like penis or Vagina might make you feel uncomfortable. It’s alright, try using words you are comfortable with.
Note: it’s important for children to know the difference between touching that is ok and touching that’snot ok. Make sure your female child knows that she can say “NO” to any touching that she doesn’t want and to tell a trusted adult about confusing touch.
If we do not teach our children about sex and sexuality, the society will find a way to teach them in a bad way. Children are constantly exposed to media messages about sexuality which are mostly negatives. After all we all have internet, satellite TV, mobile phone, television.
Precautions:
Take some practical internet safety precautions like moderation on your google account, youtube, satellite tv etc.
Read more:
https://9jalife.com.ng/teach-child-sex-education/