pawshjai:
are u sure u came here for advice..or u jes want to show ur stupidity...cus its obvious u hv madeup ur foolish mind on wah u wana do.....i tink u shud b left to do wah u fil lik...person no dey geh two mama....shes ur moda so do wah u wana do...dnt insult people wu hv takn dre tym to type trying to advice u..

Oritzy:
My brother if my mom was a witch I will still celebrate her, Mother's are the best beings on earth for your Info.
You dislike her because you don't know what it feels to be a parent most a especially a mother.
Mark my words when you start producing your own you would appreciate her everyday.
That woman you hates so much secretly prays for you everyday.
She secretly hopes she becomes the mother of a rich son
You owe her everything
Be nice to your mom man.
Love and respect her.
Go to church with her.
Pray with her

Ezkid:
With the gibberish u wrote up there, u mean im insulting people but u calling me stupid isn't an insult? Let's hear what u have to offer bitch! else, do me a favour and vanish!!

Oritzy:
My brother if my mom was a witch I will still celebrate her, Mother's are the best beings on earth for your Info.
You dislike her because you don't know what it feels to be a parent most a especially a mother.
Mark my words when you start producing your own you would appreciate her everyday.
That woman you hates so much secretly prays for you everyday.
She secretly hopes she becomes the mother of a rich son
You owe her everything
Be nice to your mom man.
Love and respect her.
Go to church with her.
Pray with her

Ezkid:
Well as an African I believe it's disrespectful and rude to diss or called out my mom for her unhealthy attitudes but I think its high time I make it public so people who has witnessed or experience such can give to me a valuable advice.

My mom was once a successful hair dresser and she was the breadwinner of our family until she became born again, she abruptly stopped plating hair for her customers based on what she tagged "unbiblical" She basically affirmed that she'll never touch attachments and synthetic hair again in her life and ever since then things hasn't been going smoothly again.

My Dad now has got a Rick Ross fatlike woman as a second wife and I think the whole situations has taken its toll on my mom's mental health, she's literally cut herself off from the outside world and everything always mean something extra terrestrial to her.

My Mom would see a gecko on the wall and believe it was sent from hell to drag her to the underground, We always packed from one apartment to the other thanks to her intolerance toward other people. Omg! She'll always find faults with her co tenants, everybody is either a witch or a spy from the underworld.

There's one thing she did that convinced me she's struggling from mental instability, we packed out from one house to a flat like apartment, do u believe my mom went back there and packed the huge rocks we used to make fire? She tagged them as her property which can never be left behind, she'll play with u today only to become unresponsive when u greet her tomorrow, she stopped her work almost 20 years ago and ever since then has become a liability on my dad and a burden on us the children, it disgusts me to feed her with my hard earned money when she's hale and healthy, she's the reason my dad was unable to send me to the university because the burden is too much on him.

What I find ridiculous about her is her mindset, her mind was wired to believe we owed her a living when in reality it's the opposite, when my dad is unable to send money she'll become so tensed and angry, its so annoying how she find it difficult to realize she is the PROBLEM of the family.

Pls I need good advice on what kind of help we the children can seek on her behalf cos its obvious she needs help. Thanks all.

OneCorner:

no mind ur mama... she no get sense

odigbosky:




i feel it is schizophrenia. Similar thing happened to my mun and we failed to follow same path instead we followed the ojuju thing which they said once worked but that shit didn't work again. But the bottom line is when something bad happens to them and they don't share it....pple like them sink into depression which can be so hazardous. This thing has ruined my family completely

kense88:
If you know the negative effect bad/irresponsible parents can have on the society, you won't be typing this. You don't bear children you have no plans for. All those boko haram, Fulani herdsmen, kidnappers, armed robbers are mostly as a result of bad parenting. Irresponsible parents should never be celebrated.

Earthbound:
The disdain you feel towards your mother is unnatural. The church your mom became born again into is the root of all your problems

Royal155:
I swear, this is the best advice I have seen here. Not all these lazy girls here supporting the mother's action. Like the op said, you can NEVER know or understand what he is passing through until you find yourself in that situation at a tender age.

More matured men with reliable source of income are even finding it hard catering for the family, talk more of a 20 year old son.

victorian:








Has it ever occurred to you and everyone at home, that she's tired of working?
She simply need a break and she has finally hang her boots on working all day for the upkeep of the family.
She simply want to rest at her old age. So let her be.
Go and hustle. You are still. Young and vibrant.
And lastly don't compare your family with others, or else u will always find faults in your mum.
Everyone in the home, should Appreciate her, love her, respect her and see how she will change from been troublesome to calm and soft mother.
She is simply tired!

kestolove95:
ova 20yrs of marriage ur dad still keep ur mum in rented apartment? nd he has money to marry another liability instead thinking towards an asset? ur dad is the problem, beta leave that woman alone and u guys own her alot..mothers ar never wrong even when we think dey ar..

kense88:
If you know the negative effect bad/irresponsible parents can have on the society, you won't be typing this. You don't bear children you have no plans for. All those boko haram, Fulani herdsmen, kidnappers, armed robbers are mostly as a result of bad parenting. Irresponsible parents should never be celebrated.

pawshjai:
why x dis op nd sum lazy peple here telllin me..i cudnt go to sch bcus of my mum...ranting nd makin noise abt how dey arent successful bcus of sum... i tink u are d lazy one here...do u knw dre are orphans today wu saw demselve tru sch nd all...dey wish dey hv a mum or dad to cum feed frm dre pocket nao....liv ur mum alone.. she has her life .liv urs...u are a fool to mk urself useless bcus ur mum wasnt dre for u...ur children ll blame u for ur misfortune.. if u nt careful..ur kid too myt bring ur p here oneday..bcareful

kense88:
We are talking about the fact that the woman failed to contribute anything for the children upkeep which is part of her responsibility and your here talking like an idiot you are. She can press charges against the husband and demand that they go there separate ways but that doesn't absolve her of her part of responsibility as a co parent. You don't have strength to work, but you have strength to have unprotected sex.
Now before you start writing nonsense like a dickhead you are. Read through op's post again and you will see were he stated that the father was doing it alone.

deloon:
I was trying to sympathize with you until you said it disgusts you to feed your mum with your hard earned money when she is hale and hearty.
You are pathetic.

Ezkid:
Its not really like I feel disdain towards her but she the architect of her problem and the PROBLEM is affecting the whole family but she failed to realize she herself is the PROBLEM!

Oritzy:
Does anything the OP wrote about his mother a negative influence to him?? Let's focus n this topic bro. First it's Outrightly disrespectful to bring your mom to public. And I repeat again. even if she's a witch I will celebrate her.

Ezkid:
Its not really like I feel disdain towards her but she the architect of her problem and the PROBLEM is affecting the whole family but she failed to realize she herself is the PROBLEM!

Ezkid:
You're just as ridiculous as your name sounds! your example of orphans is illogical and doesn't correlate with what's happening here, if orphans are making money, I guess they'll be spending it to develop themselves.
YOU seem oblivious to facts, im making little cash now but if things go on like this both of us would eventually become the victim. I think I'll break it for u to understand....

1) My parents are supposed to develop me by sending me to school and cater for my needs

2) After my education and when I starts working, its expected to take good care of them.....

3) Now my parents has failed in their primary responsibility, many children of my age still depends on their parents for living but now im not dependent

4) Now im on my own and surely I must take care of myself by myself so I won't become a nuisance on the street

5) I've not got to the position where its expected to be giving back cos I still have many life obstacles im yet to cross like education which is the most paramount

6) I took to the streets to hustle so I can fill the void left by my parents failure in their primary responsibility


7) The little im earning now is my only hope I have to develop myself if I want anything called a bright future

8 . Now Im carrying my parent responsibility instead of developing myself first and you think that is my priority?

9) If the situation does not change now, we'll both become the victim I.e I won't be able to help myself, I won't be able to help her when the time she need help the most comes, that's when she's old.


I think I've been logical enough for u to reason the situation on ground here.

GraGra247:
The hype, love and respect for mothers and fathers is very excellent and healthy but make no mistake there are parents that are very bad examples.

Unfortunately the Society makes it a taboo for individuals to complain about the bad influence of their parents.

This is totally wrong and its the kind of thing that leads to for instance a father carnally abusing the daughter and the daughter keeping mute out of fear that society will accuse her of disrespect and contempt for her dad.

You're doing the right thing by coming foward with things you consider your mom is doing wrong so ignore anybody that will accuse you of disrespect and contempt.

Just try to deal with the problem of your mom but be sure to include a high level of COURTESY AND RESPECT for her every inch of the way else you'll ruin it.

If she stopped making hair, there are so many other businesses she can do. You can help her open a store, a restaurant or food item business if you can afford.

Getting her busy will give her less time to bother the tenants and neighbors and other nasty things you complained about. Bros you get sense. 1 cold bottle of hero for you

EOD.

Ezkid:
A fool at 40

pawshjai:
smhfu....m nt a kid lik u..wu ll start exchangin foul word wif u...frm d tinx i hv seen u type here.....hnnmm..i reserve my comments...using des languages..lolz..nt me nd u dis morning...no cum gimme badluck...carry ur mata go...ur mum ur problem...ur family ur ish..nt mine.. xo byeeeeee . muah....hv a nyc day...nd i wish u luck doin wateva u do

Madukaele:


you just talked about my mum. I stopped sending her money.

Ezkid:
She's 51 now and she stopped the work over 15 years ago and she's tired ever since? We tried setting up other cake business but she always squandered the money, give her 100k today and she won't be able to account for it the following week. We've left her to become what she wants to be.