Toladipupo995:
hello guys, my MIL takes everything that comes her way spiritual and it's giving me headaches..... when i got married to my hubby, I used to call him by name( of which I found not too romantic though)..... immediately MIL heard, when she came visiting, she cautioned me and explained to me how unhealthy it was to call my husband by name, the reasons she gave was that, I am giving room to every Tom, dick and Harry to be rude to my husband, because everyone will now know his name. I didn't find the excuse to be genuine, but I gladly obliged.....
Fast forward to last week...... I now coined a better name for hubby( we call eachother "baby".....she brought fruits for me ( I am 20 weeks pregnant)...... but, the moment MIL heard me call hubby "baby" when they were discussing, she kept quiet and called my husband outside , told him all sorts of stories of how the name a person is being called have a lot of impact In his /her life, and that the more I call him "baby" the more he behaves like a baby.... According to hubby, she gave him reference (s) in the Bible.....
I don't know the main reason MIL poke noses in my marriage, because my husband has warned me not to call him baby whenever his mother is around. ... I am fed up.
CC: lalasticlala. ....pls move to front page, I need advice.

Acidosis:
First, the above reasons are not spiritually inclined.

Second, your MIL's reasons are 100% genuine.

Words and names are very powerful. Calling a responsible married man (a so called Head of the Family) "baby" can jeopardize his attempts in being a head. We don't have to always subscribe to everything we hear or read somewhere because it sounds romantic. There are several alternatives if you must use a romantic name. A baby is a baby, if you call a 50 year old man a baby, he will act in the same way he's called

That your MIL realizes this fact shows she's some intelligent woman. Don't throw away her advice because, like many women, you've been programmed to believe all MIL are wicked and always trying to destroy their son's homes.
She's been married for around 30 years, you're just starting, so she does knows about marriage more than you do. Listen to her!

What do you think makes Kings Kings? The crown?
Anybody can buy a crown in the market, a Carpenter can make you a throne with 10k, but if nobody calls you KING, then you're probably not.

Toladipupo995:
hello guys, my MIL takes everything that comes her way spiritual and it's giving me headaches..... when i got married to my hubby, I used to call him by name( of which I found not too romantic though)..... immediately MIL heard, when she came visiting, she cautioned me and explained to me how unhealthy it was to call my husband by name, the reasons she gave was that, I am giving room to every Tom, dick and Harry to be rude to my husband, because everyone will now know his name. I didn't find the excuse to be genuine, but I gladly obliged.....
Fast forward to last week...... I now coined a better name for hubby( we call eachother "baby".....she brought fruits for me ( I am 20 weeks pregnant)...... but, the moment MIL heard me call hubby "baby" when they were discussing, she kept quiet and called my husband outside , told him all sorts of stories of how the name a person is being called have a lot of impact In his /her life, and that the more I call him "baby" the more he behaves like a baby.... According to hubby, she gave him reference (s) in the Bible.....
I don't know the main reason MIL poke noses in my marriage, because my husband has warned me not to call him baby whenever his mother is around. ... I am fed up.
CC: lalasticlala. ....pls move to front page, I need advice.

Acidosis:
First, the above reasons are not spiritually inclined.

Second, your MIL's reasons are 100% genuine.

Words and names are very powerful. Calling a responsible married man (a so called Head of the Family) "baby" can jeopardize his attempts in being a head. We don't have to always subscribe to everything we hear or read somewhere because it sounds romantic. There are several alternatives if you must use a romantic name. A baby is a baby, if you call a 50 year old man a baby, he will act in the same way he's called

That your MIL realizes this fact shows she's some intelligent woman. Don't throw away her advice because, like many women, you've been programmed to believe all MIL are wicked and always trying to destroy their son's homes.
She's been married for around 30 years, you're just starting, so she does knows about marriage more than you do. Listen to her!

What do you think makes Kings Kings? The crown?
Anybody can buy a crown in the market, a Carpenter can make you a throne with 10k, but if nobody calls you KING, then you're probably not.

Safiaa:
im not a very superstitious person and I’m not into juju and all these things. However, I agree with you. There’s huge power in manifestation, power of the tongue and speaking things into existence. Like I truly belive in spiritual things like this. Off topic but I have a book where I just write down realistic things that I want in my life,i have like 70% of the things I want right now in my life. I manifest them daily with a candle. Every single thing I manifest ALWAYS comes to past. I also thank the spirits beforehand, just as you thank God for answering your prayers after praying. Everything, I’ve been doing this for two years. So yeah I agree with you about the baby thing, you have to manifest what you see your husband to be.

orbitalgis:


You guys are sad.

orbitalgis:



This is the dumbest stuff i have read.

ImaIma1:
She doesn't want people to know his name. Then why did she name him? Is it not his name?

Pay your MIL little attention. Call him baby, toddler..whatever you likes. If she complains, act like you didn't hear. If she complains to you directly, nod like you understand. As soon as you leave her, call him baby. She will get the point that she shouldn't meddle.

You need to take control of your home. It is your house not hers.

Richy4:
This is just one of those funny stories I like to read here on NL that reminds me so much about my roots... Please don't take it to heart... Just take it to be one of those comic relief..

Just wait when you give birth, you start calling him Papa John, Papa Sandra... so that there will be peace in Jerusalem..

Whenever she comes around, that's when you can scream it the more for her benefit

comtem2011:
Nawa for you o .

In-laws and their wahala. I remember when my MIL came for omugwo, whenever someone came to visit with gift, she will ask what is inside. I answered her like 2 occassions, and she didn't stop to know everything brought for the baby, na so I stopped answering her anytime she asked. That was the end to those questions.

elektra:


What is wrong with knowing what was brought for the baby?

Acidosis:


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ImaIma1:

Lol...thank you teacher Chike