donstan18:
They are not just desperate to marry, they are ready to bear the name of any man at all cost, that's why a lady on her first date will start imagining and seeing herself being taken to the altar by you
And their desperation are caused by the followings
-Men are now wise, none of them will want to take home an aged evening newspaper lady with a sagging boobs, folded tummy and loosed pussay, as a result of the numerous sex she had on her early twenties 
-Their major goal and achievement in life is to get married, they don't go for any other goal, that's why you'll see ladies studying stupid courses like "Salt technology, Fish engineering and water science'", with the hope of getting married to a man after wasting their time in universities. 
-For the purpose of elevating themselves from abject poverty. Most of them are poor and can't fend for themselves, hence crying for a man to come rescue them
Society is not responsible for their desperation, they are responsible for it.
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prechbills1:
I want to talk about some of the reasons some single ladies do not want to waste time in getting married .
Our society has made it look like getting married as a lady is an achievement.
1. Tired of living with parents
It is not just a matured man who wants to leave his parents’ home and prefer to rent his own apartment, even if his father owns a mansion or an estate. A matured single lady also wants to leave her parents and live elsewhere
Ladies after finishing school, feel they can take care of themselves. They get tired of going on errands or doing house chores for their parents. They believe if a man shows interest in them, then, marrying the man is an escape route from living with their parents.
2. Loneliness/boredom/depression
Truly, having sufficient money, is highly important in living a life of ease, but sometimes, this is not so.
A working class lady, who lives alone in her own rented apartment, could start to feel something important is missing in her life after some time.
The natural feelings a woman gets when a man touches her or hugs her or caresses her, cannot be provided by her expensive water bed or her cozy bedroom.
It should not surprise anyone when some widows after mourning their deceased husbands for a few months, immediately marry another man.
3. Age is catching up fast/beauty is fading away
Nothing lasts forever. A lady who once told men she was not ready for marriage, while much younger, backtracks on this statement, when she knows, men are getting less fascinated at her. Since she knows she is getting old, she starts thinking of clinging on to a man, by becoming a well behaved lady or more religious by attending church services/mosque programmes frequently, in order to deceive men she is a good wife material. She becomes the first person to greet men and smile at them. This is something she never did, while she was still a sweet-16.
4. Societal pressure/what people are saying
No single lady can live comfortably among people who insult her, because she is not married. Even if she initially ignores such people, she may feel emotionally disturbed later on. As women are emotionally more under-pressurised than men, thus, the woman may even be forced to marry a man which is not really her choice.
The Nigerian society itself, sometimes view single ladies, who are mature and ripe for marriage as unserious elements.
5. Almost all friends are married
Women are interesting creatures. The issue of societal class is more pronounced among women than among men. A woman, who is still single, may be surprised to find out that, not all her former single friends, will continue to communicate with her as frequently, if many of them are married.
A working class lady does not want to have a jobless person as a friend. A woman, who has got kids, may find it difficult to befriend women who are still childless. Therefore, a single lady will also find a way of belonging to the married women class, which most of her friends belong, by trying hard to settle down with a man.
6. Pressure from parents
Mothers especially, do not feel comfortable, when their daughters are getting old and haven’t brought home any suitor. Parents could ask their girl-child, why has no man come to their house, telling them he wants to marry her.
As mothers get older, their thought is always on having their own grandchildren. They want to back their grandchildren and sing lullaby. They feel proud, when they are called ‘grandma.’
7. Lack of job/unemployment after years of graduating/financial security
The economic situation in the country sometimes pushes people to do what they are not prepared or ready to do.
A woman, who is jobless after five years of graduating, could think of marriage, as the best possible way out to save herself from her personal financial challenges.
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