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|"How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by cheaphost: 6:32am On Apr 28, 2018
Actress Ibinabo Fiberesima took to her Instagram page to share her side of the story and also plead for forgiveness in the accident which she was involved in that claimed the life of a medical doctor 12 years ago.
In the very lengthy post, Ibinabo said she is not a killer and didn't drive under the influence of alcohol on the unfortunate day of the accident.
Ms Ibinabo also revealed she was depressed and had suicidal thoughts but is currently receiving treatments.
This post was prompted by the backlash she got after she revealed she is interested in running for political office. Read what she wrote below
My dearest friends and followers, I greet you this blessed Friday. Most of you may have heard about my sad story of accident that caused the life of a beautiful and amazing human, Dr. Suraj Giwa. For 12 years, I have remained silent; internally mourning, grieving and praying that time would heal his family and mine. Through those years of my silence, stories were manufactured in the mainstream and social media about the accident. There were so many stories. My character was assassinated. I did not tell my story. Nobody heard from me, until now. Please take few moments to read the next posts as I share my story of what really happened and seek forgiveness, peace for both families. I finally got the courage to tell my story to Azuka Jebose. It was a burden lifted off my soul. As you read, please continue to pray for the soul of Late Giwa, his family and my family. Thank you for your supports and prayers. God bless you. May the soul of Dr. Suraj Giwa continue to be at peace. Amen
DEAR NIGERIA, I AM SORRY.” “ Dear Azuka,
I greet you. Thank you for allowing me to respond to your recent post here about my political ambition and the fatal accident of 2006. I need to tell my story. I stayed silent for so long and watched as my life, character and person were being ruined in published reports, including social media. This is my story, told for the first time on social media platform.
My heart has never stopped aching. It will not. An accident took the life of someone. I am forever in mourning because of this. Two families’ lives have been changed forever with this unfortunate fatal accident. It was an accident. Dr. Suraj Giwa didn’t have to die. I wished I could bring him back. I am sorry for the pains caused. I have also been maligned and disparaged in the media: I am a monster. I am a killer and a murderer, I am a drunk... No. Azuka. I am none of these.
I am just another human being that was in a deadly accident and the accident caused the death of Dr. Suraj Giwa.
It’s been 12 years of heartache, pain and depression for me. My eyes are rivers of tears.
Some days I feel like killing myself. Life has no meaning to me.
I think about Dr. Giwa every day. I pray for his soul and I pray and seek forgiveness from his family for the pain and agony. I am very sorry.
It didn’t have to happen. I wished I knew it would happen that unfortunate day, I would not have travelled that road. I was not drunk that day.
Azuka, I was driving along Lekki road, returning home after picking up a friend’s daughter from a church Fellowship. Suddenly, a red car overtook the SUV in front of me. The SUV was travelling slowly, so I shifted to its front, too. The red vehicle was being driven by a young man and had his friends with him…I drove past the red car. I think that might have angered the young chap because he swiftly sped from behind, drove past me and made a sudden stop in my front.
I tried to avoid hitting those boys in the red car. I swerved and lost control in that moment, the impact dived my vehicle into inbound lane.. Dr. Giwa was inbound, thus he drove into my car and both cars collided. I collapsed and passed out.. Three days later, I WOKE UP IN A HOSPITAL bed to learn what had happened. I was weak, sore and in pains. I could not move my legs. I had been sedated for three days. Doctors said they had to sedate me to numb my pain. Meanwhile, the police had been informed that I was in that hospital. The Lagos State Police came to the hospital to take my statement of what happened. After I gave them my statement, I was arrested at the hospital and charged to court.
At my court appearance for hearing, the judge noticed how sick, weak, incoherent an disoriented I was: he also saw my injuries. He ordered that I should be sent back to the hospital for further treatment until I was well enough to stand trial. I could not walk then.
Later at the hospital, I woke up from coma and to reality. I was afraid and shocked. I could not believe I was involved in an accident that had taken a life. I was like: Wow!..Someone died in that accident. Oh my God!. I didn’t know the family. While I was in the hospital my family contacted the family of Late dr. Giwa who died in the accident. My family was there for the funeral and did everything during the mourning season. I was afraid. But I met them in court and tried to approach them. I understood the anger and pain I had caused them, so I accepted their anger toward me….his sister was really angry at me… I wanted to talk to her… it was hard for me to get close to her… I understood all these: the pain and distress they felt as a result of the accident. I felt their pain. I wanted to tell them how sorry and remorseful I was… It was an accident. I did not intend to wake up that morning, went out and had a fatal collision.
Weeks later, I was arraigned. I attended all my court appearances. During the process I visited the family and attempted several times to make peace. I never ignored them. I am always sorry. I know the pain is tough, so I understood their anger but I kept begging. I am sorry.
I did not intend to wake up that morning, went out and had a fatal collision.
Weeks later, I was arraigned. I attended all my court appearances. During the process I visited the family and attempted several times to make peace. I never ignored them. I am always sorry. I know the pain is tough, so I understood their anger but I kept begging. I am sorry. I had gone to so many good people and friends to assist me in pleading for forgiveness from the family. One of such friends is late Iyalode of Lagos. She assisted me in begging the Giwa family: when I became well and able to walk, she took me to The former Imam of Lagos and the Present Oba of Lagos: these traditional and religious leaders begged on my behalf, pleading with the family for forgiveness and showed how sorry and remorseful I was that the accident happened. I never ran away from the scene of the accident.
I was unconscious.
How could an unconscious accident victim remove plate license and registration papers from the vehicle as reported in the media? Why would I do a thing like that? How could I have done a thing like that?
I became a monster in the eyes of everyone. So I thought suicide was the best option to end all these and find peace for my family and Dr. Giwa’s family. I lost myself.
I was no longer Ibinabo.
I didn’t know who I was.
I became a stranger to myself and my family, afraid of life and living, scarred by and scared of human beings.
I withdrew and became clinically depressed.
I could not take care of my children. I was dying.
Azuka, I was dying. Life had no meaning to me. I became a lonely zombie: a mother that could not care for her children, distressed, disturbed and severely depressed.
I was sent to Kirikiri female Prison. I wanted to die there. I accepted to end it.
But one preacher came to the prison and preached to us. It was like he was talking to me. During his sermon, I fainted… I was revived by prisoners that attended the service. When I woke up, I was soaked in water and the prisoners gathered around me… I asked what happened and they told me I had Passed out during the service.. That opened my eyes. I asked myself then: Ibinabo, do you really want to die?. I said no. I must turn my life to purpose driven, to rescue the weak and helped those that society had turned against.. I held onto God. I told Him it was up to Him. I didn’t want to see any lawyer again, I had no money. My family bailed me out after three months and three days…. I came out to pursue the appeal…
I was living my simple life…I engaged in works with youths in my village. I enjoy spending time in my town. They know me there. They love me there… I was on my way to a funeral when my lawyer called me.. Earlier the previous day, I called to inform him I would be out of town and hoped the appeal date would not be scheduled while I was out of town.
He said no. I told him I didn’t want the court to think I jumped bail… He called me on my way to the funeral, the next day and said the court date was actually that morning. I had to hurry back to court.
I lost the appeal. I was shocked.
My lawyer did not understand what was going on. That day, I was taken back to Kirikiri maximum security prison… that was 2016…
While at Kirikiri, I discovered I had a lump in my breast. I had to do surgery… when I was released, I went to the village so that I would not breakdown and collapse into depression again…
Yes I want to serve my people.. I want to be positive and impact people’s lives. And yes, Azuka, I remember that this sad situation is still here…
I do not know who else to talk to…
I do not know what else to do. I need help…
The family sued me for N200Million in a civil case…
Where will I get that money from?. So we have been negotiating to see where we can get to, so I can begin making payment by installment.
We have agreed to settle out of court… we are not there yet. It’s a process… Though I have appealed this case to the Supreme Court, what is important to me now is making peace with the family: that is more important because it will heal me… his family and I would have peace.
Azuka I am not a bad person. I do not know what else to do. People think I am a murderer. I am not. I am not. Azuka, free me….Free me… It was an unfortunate accident. I didn’t do it intentionally. That’s all I have been begging…
I have begged…I do not know what to do…I am truly sorry it happened…
I am not running for any political office. My people wanted me. A group of youths from my place asked me to run for office, I said no. They went and printed poster and placed it on social media. So I endorsed it.
Eventually, I must live. I have to do things to my fulfillment, to what God wants me to do; to be able to help youths help people generally… Life in Okrika is not easy… I need to help the youths believe in themselves… they are aching.. In my region, simple things of life are a struggle to get. I need to change their mindset that there is alternative way to Life… I have become a seeker of peace for my people… Life hasn’t been a bed of roses… But I must deal with this issue. I seek forgiveness from the family and peace of mind. I need to find closure and peace.… I am not a killer… I care too much… I am a caring person. I put myself in the shoes of Giwa’s family and I can understand their pains. I am very sorry for the loss of life of Dr. Giwa. I am. I am not arrogant.
I never, ever said to his family that I would not offer public apology.
I was offered to do a public service announcement across country with regards to Driving While Impaired. I said if I did that, it then meant I accepted I was drunk when I drove my car. I wasn’t drunk. I would do anything but that. I wasn’t drunk… they assumed because I owned a night club in the past, so I must be an alcoholic.
This is exactly the truth. It’s not fair to admit that I was drunk.
The police did not arrest me for drunk driving.. The court never charged me with drunk driving.. There were reckless and dangerous driving charges.
Those were what I was charged by the court…. I was not charged with manslaughter.
My pains through the years include: Bouts of depression Attempted suicide I Had surgeries in my breast to remove lumps. I cannot do a lot. This unfortunate experience has affected my job prospects. I am unemployable I have stopped acting for a while. I just do charity works.. I am not flamboyant.. Dear Nigeria, I am sorry. I will forever regret what happened.
Giwa was a father, husband and son. He was the sole and soul provider of his family. I feel terrible he died during an accident which I was involved. I feel really bad. I am sorry. I need prayers. Please pray for me and the soul of Giwa and his family.
I know I have found God through this experience. But I still need help. I am receiving therapy for my depression and suicidal thoughts… I am able to share these with you.. I am healing… one moment at a time..I am not a killer. I am not a murderer. I am not an alcoholic. I did not drive while intoxicated. I was involved in an accident that resulted in death and for that I am very sorry. I have had periods of feeling miserable in the last 12years as a result of this accident. I need to find peace. I seek forgiveness. I am sorry... Thank you" ** As told to Azuka Jebose
View source: https://ovoko.com.ng/accidentally-killed-medical-doctor-nollywood-actress-speaks-12-years-later/
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|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by vivypretty(f): 7:06am On Apr 28, 2018
|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by Mynd44: 7:10am On Apr 28, 2018
Awww……touching but……the reason we have a justice system is that every angle is observed.
The beauty of the justice system is also that technical officials, witnesses and everyone are called to hear their bit before a judgement is given and here are the facts in her case
"The speed that skipped and flipped a jeep over the road demarcation will be considered ‘Reckless and Endangerment‘ because the VIO dept checked the jeep brakes, the engine and all the mechanical and electrical of the jeep but the result shows nothing wrong with the jeep and confirm that the accident as due to ‘OVER SPEEDING‘ in which the result was on record"
Does She take the courts for jokers? How will a car jump over a road divider and you claim you were not over-speeding?
"After the accident, Ibinabo left the scene of the accident without checking for any survivors, she took the license plate and registration out of the car and fled from the scene, that was considered “HIT AND RUN”. The people at the scene of the accident recognized her as Ibinabo Febresima, and stated she was drunk.”Driving Under Influence” of whatever she had "
Muliple witnesses confirm that she left the scene by herself and removed the car plates. They named her and testified to this
"The State Department of Transportation has to use the VIN number to locate the Owner of the jeep, in which the owner was Daniel Wilson. That was my very first time of hearing the name of Ibinabo Febresima. The Doctor died at the scene of the accident because the jeep was on top of the Honda accord driven by him and they couldn’t save him on time because of the seat belt and the weight of the jeep, the brother and the other family friend in that car had survived. Did she know the state of mind and the emotional instability of the people involved in that accident up till now, Ibinabo has never been in a Comma. "
Her jeep was so high in the air, it jumped over a read divider and landed on another car. The last time I saw this was "fast and the furious"
She wants to argue that she has been depressed, thibk of the family, the patient, what the country lost.
"After all the evidences against her, with the result of the VIO by the State department of Transportation, The DPP office took over and charged her to court and she hired Festus Keyamo in which after reviewing the case he withdrew by saying he cannot represent her because it’s a bad case.
Even lawyers stayed away from her case cos they knew it was hopeless
She said and l quote “I CAN’T DO THAT, BECAUSE IS GOING TO DAMAGE MY CAREER” what an ego, she cannot apologize publicly, I feel like kicking her ass. She’s worried about her stupid career, What happened to the career of the Doctor, who happened to be a ‘MEDICAL DIRECTOR AND THE HEAD OF THE DEPARTMENT OF PHYSICAL REHABILITATION MEDICINE AT GENERAL HOSPITAL LAGOS.
This part is just lovely. Very lovely
Taken from an interview with Dr. Giwa's sister. https://www.bellanaija.com/2016/03/read-late-dr-suraj-giwas-sisters-open-letter-on-ibinabo-fiberesimas-sentence/
All in all, instead of appealing for public sympathy, allow the supreme court give judgement and we can finally close this.
But Ibinabo should know that contesting for public office in light of this is terrible for optics. Surely her handlers cant be that insensitive to put her up to this and her endorsing it even before the supreme court gives judgement is just a show of insensitivity
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|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by martineverest(m): 7:13am On Apr 28, 2018
u killed him 'accidentally' and ran away
|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by Yankiss(m): 7:13am On Apr 28, 2018
Overspeeding kills. She shall have learnt her lesson. But that cannot bring back the dead.
|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by Nobody: 7:14am On Apr 28, 2018
The only thing i was able to read in this long epistle is, "I'm sorry this, i am sorry that".
abeg 12years is a very very long time. you could have done this since, instead of openning old wounds like you just did. Any ways, we only have now sha.. so we should not forget to always make it right.. whenever we can
|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by madridguy(m): 7:14am On Apr 28, 2018
Accidentally or recklessly?
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|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by iamdino1: 7:14am On Apr 28, 2018
And you think I will read that stupid story
|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by moscobabs(m): 7:15am On Apr 28, 2018
She no well
|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by Chivasex: 7:16am On Apr 28, 2018
What she denied over the years.
Rubbish and I think she should be jailed for life
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|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by Tychamps(m): 7:17am On Apr 28, 2018
Somebody arrest that woman
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|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by nairalanduseles: 7:18am On Apr 28, 2018
anybody wey read the whole epistle is f..king jobless
|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by Ayoswit(f): 7:19am On Apr 28, 2018
All for her political interest
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|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by Howmon: 7:19am On Apr 28, 2018
Such an idiat
|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by Ussy4real(m): 7:19am On Apr 28, 2018
While wait till election time.. Go ask God for forgiveness
|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by LagosismyHome(f): 7:20am On Apr 28, 2018
Sadly Ibinabo is trying to rewrite history because she wants to contest election .
She forgets there are witnesses and court records..and has lost two court of appeal .
in due time someone will respond back to this write up with evidence .
|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by ruggedboy01: 7:20am On Apr 28, 2018
whats this one blabbing
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|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by greatman247(m): 7:21am On Apr 28, 2018
|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by Nobody: 7:23am On Apr 28, 2018
exaft same thoughts.. this no be readable material
|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by phemocheee(m): 7:26am On Apr 28, 2018
Running for a political office at this time is very insensitive of her except she wants to do this so as to have enough government money to settle the victim's family if she loses at the Supreme court level.
She's lucky to be a celebrity, if not, she will be cooling her ass off at Kirikiri prison now. Nonsense
|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by OlowoB(m): 7:26am On Apr 28, 2018
You made sense until you said “contesting for public office is terrible” you must be joking right? 12 years.... so she should not move on with her life cos the case is still in court? Let the courts decide but she cannot continually put her life on hold. While waiting for the decision of the court (we all know how long that can take) let her move on with her life and do whatever she wants.
It’s painful to the Giwa family but life goes on.... this is the truth.
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|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by BenzEne1(m): 7:29am On Apr 28, 2018
Reckless driving comes with a price. She is lucky she wasnt lynched.
On the lighter side tho, Ibinbo, Askia and Ayo Adesanya were all brilliant in that classic nollywood remake of Set It Off. Save for a few, nollywood now treats us to poor girl marries prince or poor boy marries princess.
|Re: "How I Accidentally Killed A Doctor" - Ibinabo Fiberesima 12 Years After by akilo1: 7:30am On Apr 28, 2018
who don eat this morning to get energy take read this shit?
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